Question: How can we help friends during a descent?

Answer: There is no need to specifically identify someone who is in a descent. Instead, within a group, you always should maintain high spirits, an elevated mood, the importance of the goal, and shared commitments to remain in connection and mutual guarantee. We still lack mutual responsibility.

If all this is in the group, then we will be able immediately to turn these descents into ascents and achieve revelation. The only thing we lack is a stronger connection. People do not feel their commitment to each other. Everyone still thinks that he acts on his own, and he just has colleagues at work, as in a factory: He came, worked, got paid according to his work, and went home.

We transfer our attitude toward usual external work to spiritual work. We do not yet realize that spiritual work is only in connection, in contracting oneself in order to turn into one whole, in mutual guarantee, and become one man with one heart, and only then can we get paid! Indeed, the reward is to create a place where the Creator could be revealed. By that, we will please Him and reach adhesion with Him according to His will.

We do not pay enough attention to this point of unity and do not realize that this is where all the work is realized and rewarded. We still lack this feeling because it is necessary to feel this, not to remember the words, so that the heart would pull me there all the time and wish to be there.
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 9/13/13, Shamati #33

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Question: With us in the World Kli, the entire group is united with its own uniqueness. On what internal and external level must the group be in order to go out to disseminate with the right intention and action? For if the group is not prepared and not connected enough, then it’s liable to cause harm to the action. As it is said, “It is preferable to sit and do nothing.” How is it possible to examine the amount of readiness of the group to go out to the wider public?

Answer: If the group is connected, then you will feel that you can do everything. The Creator doesn’t put any difficult problems before you. None whatsoever!

If I am connected with the group into a single whole body, then together, I and the group are filled with the upper force and in this case the Creator is found within us. And then I can be sure that I am conveying the higher power to the 99% of humanity and there is no problem with them. They will really begin to “unfold” in front of me; they will smile at me in response. I will not see anything else besides smiles. I assure you! They will listen to you very willingly.

The Light does everything. It builds, realizes, and molds. And you only need to open a passage for it through you. Nothing more than this is needed!

Therefore, all the claims that you don’t understand, don’t know enough, and are not organized enough, all these are nonsense! It’s up to you to make yourselves into a “pipe,” so that the Upper Light will pass through you to all the rest. And then you will immediately feel a good relationship and good will from their side.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/25/13, Question and Answers with Dr. Laitman

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Question: For spirituality, the men are responsible for connection and I can simply work with dissemination without wasting time on corresponding with the groups of ten. I have not succeeded in finding a reason why women need to be connected between them apart from the men. And in addition to that, it’s very difficult to find the time for it.

Answer: This is right, but from where will a woman find words and power to convince others if she doesn’t participate in connection? The vast majority of women listen to all our classes, the program “A New Life,” participate in workshops, and read the blog regularly. I cannot imagine what would happen if a woman didn’t participate in all of these things.

If there wouldn’t be all of this, how would she go out to the public, how would she tell people what to do, and with what would she go out to them? All this needs to live in her and she needs to enter into all of it. After all, when women act, they truly do it from the heart.

Besides this, they have greater ability to convince others than men do. If the woman goes out to disseminate together with a man, then she does the main part of the work of disclosing and the explaining to the masses. Before women all the doors are opened, they are accepted better because they are softer. All this must be taken into account. After all, this is based on the works of nature.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/25/13, Question and Answers with Dr. Laitman

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Question: I am responsible for a “special unit” for dissemination in Russian. From the start, we chose a number of people for this with the ability to express themselves nicely and with characteristics required for dissemination.

Ultimately the unit reorganized. It turned out that the greatest success rates were by people who never opened their mouths. Some kind of miracle happened.

Answer: Quite right. The ability to express the material nicely doesn’t indicate anything. Sometimes it happens that quiet and humble people, who don’t even know how to enter into connection with others, go out to disseminate and are very successful. It’s really amazing that it’s specifically through them that the Upper Light passes and not through someone who knows how to speak well.

Therefore, all members of the group need to engage in dissemination, otherwise this will not be a group, because only through dissemination is it possible to reach connection between us. This is a completely new method of connection that appears as a result of the need for connection so we will have the power to persuade and correct the external world. The group is called only when an external danger forces everyone to mobilize in order to convince the public.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/25/13, Question and Answers with Dr. Laitman

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Question: After growing up, a son can understand why his father was strict with him. However, how can we understand the Creator at the moment when He sends us suffering and not wait for some time to pass?

Answer: I, myself, am not able to justify my father being strict with me. Initially, I am immersed in my “animal” life and if I feel bad, the source of this evil is automatically bad in my eyes. I don’t like it to the point of hatred.

Hence, the question is, how can I evaluate it differently? In principle, it is impossible. I am created this way. The egoistic desire forces me to run from suffering and seek pleasure. So, what do they want from me? How can I show a goal-oriented attitude toward troubles and, in essence, objectively assess the one who sends them? How can I realize that He works on my nature, desiring to grow something greater within me so that instead of an “animal,” a human being would come out of me?

To do this, I need a new mind and a new sense in addition to the old ones that measure only pleasure and suffering. Up to now, like all the egoists of this world, I have been learning only how to achieve pleasure and extract profit from it, and conversely, to run away from suffering as far as possible and to protect myself maximally. These are the egoistic norms of our world. Here, success is achieved by those who are stronger, richer, and more cunning, and those people are proud that they have succeeded in life just because they know how to avoid the bad and reach the good.

So, I have no strength to grow something greater within myself. For this, I need a spark from the degree that is called the man (Adam) so that I can develop toward a new level in the relationship with the Father. He sends me troubles and I must be aware of their focus.

In our world, my father is strict in relation to me so that on the material level I learn to get pleasure and avoid suffering. This is nothing more than “animal” coaching.

On the other hand, for spiritual progress, I need a spark from the next higher degree. This spark is called the “point in the heart.”

In addition, I need people who will convey this message to me: The environment that will help me on the path, support, and reinforce my understanding that my troubles are goal-oriented. Then, I will not fall into blind rebellion under the burden of suffering, I will not blame the Father Who sends them, and at every step, will interpret our relationship correctly. I will understand that He does this to constantly direct me at the goal and it does not matter what He sends, troubles or pleasure.

Thus, the relationship between the Creator and the created being is built at the level of the still, vegetative, and animate nature, and then, higher on the human level. For this crucial stage of development, we need:

• The initial spark – the point in the heart.
• A teacher who can explain why the Creator treats me so badly on the material level and toward what goal He directs me, like a father who takes stringent measures to prepare his son for the university.
• The environment that will constantly raise the goal in my eyes telling me how important it is to enter this university and how much my father loves me, sending troubles out of his love. In this environment, I see examples of my friends and can follow the path together with them. We are moving forward, making up a group of students of the same Father and the same teacher, one for all of us.

If all these conditions are met, a person really can understand what is happening. With the help of the group, he tries to relate correctly to everything that he gets in life, and he sees that everything is for his good. Although, with the advent of troubles, he feels disagreement at the animal level but, if he immediately rises to the level of human being (Adam) within himself, he feels gratitude, and so continues on his way.
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From a Talk on the Importance of the Gathering 5/10/13

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We advance only because of falls, crashes, disappointments, and the revelation of unpleasant states that are experienced in our desire to enjoy. First, we believe that all these troubles give us various strengths in this world, then we attribute them to the Creator.

It all depends at what degree a person is, in what disclosure. Perhaps, he has found himself in such concealment that he has completely lost sensation of the Creator and blames the world thinking that it is people who have caused him different problems, both internal and external. All problems are shown on the background of the material world, that is, affecting his needs for food, sex, family, money, power, and knowledge.

A person rises after that. If he is connected with a group, then he can rise by the path of Light, and if he is not able to become included into it, then at least he does so through mechanical participation in the studies, in all sorts of actions. He gets new blows to his ambition and starts to link them with his attitude, to blame himself. First, he accused only others and saw them as the cause of his state. But if he advances, he also begins to blame himself, attributing to himself what has happened.

He beats himself up, experiencing a lot of stress, and this state may take a very long time. Everything depends on a person’s inclusion in the environment. If he is not included in the group enough, then he can experience different conflicts in it and not learn from them. If he manages to achieve a strong connection with the group, he gets the Light that Reforms through it and begins to attribute all the actions to the Creator. The approaching Light gives him this feeling.

Then he sees that all of these misunderstandings, problems, and obstacles have been the revelation of his internal properties. The culprit was not the cruel world and not even his bad nature but just desires that need to be corrected. There is no need to apply them to oneself. They really belong to him, but they are given to him to work on them.

It is desirable to realize that the evil that is revealed to us does not apply to our personal account but is given to us just for correction, as working material. And if we do not want to accept this evil and breaking and strive to unite with Israel and the Creator that are one, then we begin to demand and ask for help to rise out of these states. So we raise all our shortcomings upwards  with the help of the screen and the Reflected Light, which can be clothed in the Direct Light.

All the way from this world to the world of infinity, we will constantly disclose the breaking and the evil. Our goal is to turn this evil into the tools for the revelation of the Light through our work. We have to add our correct attitude, our efforts, to these shortcomings, which are exposed by the Light, and then we will reveal goodness inside them.
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 9/13/13, Shamati #33 “The Lots on Yom Kippurim and Haman”

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Question: When the dissemination phase passes, will you once again start to talk about unity?

Answer: The dissemination phase cannot end. Baal HaSulam writes: “I am glad that I have been born in such a generation when it is permitted to disclose the wisdom of truth.”

The wisdom of Kabbalah is the revelation of the Creator to the created beings in our world and not revelation only to those who are now sitting in front of me. Revelation to us is the realization of the Creator’s plan in our world because we are just His guides, mediators, an artificial element. Therefore, the revelation by us is not Kabbalah, but only a prerequisite.

When we are talking about the revelation of the Creator in our world, it means His explicit revelation to the 99% of humanity. This is called Kabbalah! The desires of the entire 99 % are your soul, your Kli, your vessel. Thus, you begin to attain the Creator!

But today, when you are doing it within yourself, sitting in a closed room, you just prepare yourself for realization, but you won’t reveal the Creator this way. Our task is to take the desire of the masses, raise them to the Creator, and ask them to be fulfilled. Then the Upper Light will not pass you by, but will pass through you to the masses in order to reveal itself in the form in which they wish to do so. And then you begin to reveal the Creator.

But the Creator will not be revealed to the masses, they will just feel that they feel well due to unity and will advance further and further. Gradually, within the feeling of the usefulness of unity, they will start changing their attitude toward it: “Unity breathes life into us, helps us, and gives the opportunity to better organize ourselves and our families. Unity is great.”

They will begin to admire unity itself, to respect it and the force that is manifested in it, not the result, that is, not the fact that I have recovered but the means by which I have recovered, through unity and with the use of this force that is revealed in it. I now respect this force, I love it, I seek it.

Thus, longing for the force of unity emerges, that is, the point in the heart! After all, I felt good with it. And now I want to identify with it because it brings me good. Let it be egoistical (and in us, in the beginning it happens the same way), but I am already connected with this force and seek it further. And it’s already starting to affect me differently and transform me into an altruist. This is how it works.

But the masses are one degree below ours, so they start with a simple selfish Kli, vessel, in which later the point in the heart appears. And we start with the point in the heart and a simple egoistic Kli, vessel. The lower level, the people who are below us, are as such so that we have to process it through ourselves, and only then we will rise. This special condition is given to us!
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/25/13, Question and Answers with Dr. Laitman

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Question: Must we look at the feedback of people, for instance when disseminating on the Internet; or is it enough simply to prepare the material?

Answer: It’s necessary to look not only at the feedback of people on the Internet, but also these people in front of you, physically, and their serious reaction to your message. Only then do you begin to be integrated in their desires.

You subconsciously flee from being integrated with the rest of the world all the time, you weaken yourselves. Ultimately it follows that you will not absorb anything from the general desire, from the fear, from the desires of people; you don’t experience feedback from them. In fact, it won’t matter to you what hurts them. So nothing will happen.

In which desires do you think you will discover the Creator? It’s said, “I dwell within My people.” Where are the people? In you? In general you are detached from people. You don’t belong to this world. Those people who have an inclination and yearning for the Creator don’t belong to this world. They are physically found in our world in order to come in contact with the others. But according to their inner structure they belong to the spiritual world.

Therefore you need to go out to the people, mix with them, and feel their desires. And you raise these desires up to the Creator. These are called MAN. MAN is the elevation of the desires of the people through you to the Creator.

And so you will transfer fulfillment from the Creator to others through you, and the people will receive what they want: health, success, and all that they require. And together with this, you will get spiritual Light. For by passing through you, the Light will be realized both in your desires and in the desires of the people.

But if you don’t accept the most primitive and egoistic yearnings from the people, you won’t have anything to elevate. If you want to elevate something from yourselves, then you are still big egoists even more than the people. You won’t get anything!

Question: What is the difference between MAN for the friends and MAN for the nations of the world?

Answer: The difference is very great. MAN for the friends is the creation of the Kli, vessel, and MAN for the nations of the world is its realization, the action.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/25/13, Question and Answers with Dr. Laitman

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Question: It has become clear that dissemination is an irreplaceable element of our spiritual advancement. How can we strengthen ourselves in it?

Answer: Dissemination is not simply an element but the foundation of our spiritual advancement.

In order to strengthen ourselves in it everything should be directed toward it. It is necessary to talk, discuss, take our example, and come to conventions. In general, we have to do everything possible. Otherwise there will be no advancement.

This is the way your egoism works on you. It wishes to mislead you: “There is nothing bad, sit in your office in front of the computer, study by yourself or with your friends. Everything is nice, that’s the way it should be.” This is completely wrong! Nothing will happen. This is the way you are thrown back.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/25/13, Questions and Answers with Dr. Laitman

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Question: We know that now all of our efforts are in dissemination to the 99% of humanity. Are there some stages, levels that exist in the development of this process? What do we need to be prepared for?

Answer: Beginning from this moment in history that is revealed to us and onward, everything is determined only to the degree of our dissemination to all of humanity. The fate of the world, all the good and bad that will be with us, depends only on the formation of our link with all of humanity and the dissemination of the Creator, the Upper Light, within it. Not openly, but to the degree that we want the 99% of the public to understand. Everything depends only on this!

Therefore get rid of all the totally unnecessary things. What will go to the 99% is good. What does not go to them, this is bad. According to this you will change the structure of your groups, change your events and activities. Everything needs to be based only on the integral education of the public because in our world and in the spiritual world everything depends only on this.

Everything is leading to this, that the two worlds will be united. And this is what we need to do. The final goal is revelation of the Creator in the 99%, in the masses. If every action, every breath, is turned towards this, then you live. And if not, then you just exist. So decide what to do next.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/25/13, Question and Answers with Dr. Laitman

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