Question: Everyone needs to be able to listen. Parents should listen to their children. Children should listen to their teachers who give them assignments. A manager needs to listen to his subordinates, and so on.

Most people consider themselves very good listeners. I read research that shows only 10% of people have the ability to listen to others. What is the reason? Why do people think they can listen, but we see the opposite?

Answer: Because one plays along with his ego, wants everyone to see how friendly, attentive, and responsive he is. In fact, he wants to listen only to himself, see only himself, and justify only himself. Therefore, it is very difficult for us to communicate with each other well. We cannot hear each other.

Despite the fact that today there are all kinds of methods of video and audio connection, we should check just how connected we are to each other. We have not become any more sociable. We can sit and listen to various programs that supposedly connect us to each other, but we cannot hear or see anyone but ourselves.

Question: There is a basic rule of interpersonal relations that says that the meaning of a message cannot be clearly understood. On a physiological level, we are unable to grasp this message.

In the research I read about, it was established that our audio perception is only 25% effective. Even in informal conversations with friends only 60 to 70% of the information is absorbed.

What is the reason for this gap? There are things that egoism is receptive to.

Answer: It does not matter what the ego is receptive to or not. Since everyone is wrapped up in self-love and wants to feel only themselves, whatever reaches us is still interpreted incorrectly and therefore remains somewhere in the air.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 8/14/20

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Question: Today, children are not in any hurry to leave their parents’ home. They are not in a hurry to get married. Times are difficult, and there is no work. In Europe, this is often the case. You live with your parents, and they provide everything for you.

Is there such a rule about when a child should leave home?

Answer: I think that for males it is from the age of 13, 14 at the maximum. They should leave home, live in dormitories, and learn to live under serious supervision. Then they will be fine.

Question: What does it mean to learn to live? What does it mean to teach them to live from the age of 13 or 14?

Answer: It means to treat each other correctly, in mutual assistance! To treat life correctly, to know what we want from it.

Each should realize themselves in your their way! I must have a task in which I realize myself. It may not be the same as for my friends who are sitting next to me. Everyone has their own dream. This dream is in front of me, and I attain it. They help me realize it.

We are taught. We are taught science, we are taught to dance, we are taught how to flirt, and we are taught everything in the correct way. Everything that a person has is only in the correct form. Then we would see a different society.

Question: Why specifically dancing and flirting?

Answer: Because this is really the pinnacle of the relationship between the sexes, when I express my inner feelings in my movement. We do not teach expressing our feelings. Here we do it through motion. This is very difficult, deep philosophy. Ballet, stage play is all philosophy.

Question: Is there, in fact, as if some kind of conversation occurs when you dance with a partner?

Answer: Yes, of course.

Question: Are you not disturbed by this closeness of the partners?

Answer: No. This is how they talk to each other. This is not intimacy, but the transfer of energy, sensations, tenderness of a different kind, not a physiological one.

Question: Do you mean that when there is this kind of education, people will not be violent?

Answer: They will not be violent, no way. They will respect women.

Question: Will there be a sense of the other, without words?

Answer: Yes. They will have a sense of support.

Question: It is a big deal. Perhaps we should indeed introduce dancing at schools?

Answer: Dancing is about support, when a man supports a woman and gives her the opportunity to express herself. In general, this is so. Look how it is in ballet or dancing in general. In dancing, this already been erased a little, but in general this is exactly so.

Remark: You know, there was an interview with the ballerina Plisetskaya shortly before her death. She was asked, “What is your biggest dream? What would you most like?” She said, “I want Shchedrin [her husband] to be healthy.”

Can you imagine? That is, there was already such a connection, and they both gave each other so much. Indeed, it was as if a dance was happening between them. She understood what a partner is.

My Comment: Ballet is a very deep philosophy expressed in movements. This is everything that a person can express. Contact of the hearts through the motions of the body.

Question: Is it desirable for a boy to leave home for an independent life at the age of 13 or 14?

Answer: A  life that we provide for him!

Question: Does it mean that he is under care?

Answer: All the time.

Question: Is he directed to connection with others, to the understanding of others?

Answer: Until his very last moment in life. Society continuously accompanies everyone! This is called “the absolute mutual guarantee.”

Question: Does society provide a guarantee for him?

Answer: Of course. And he undertakes to obey society.

Question: Then there will be no abandoned, lonely people that we see here and there?

Answer: There will be nothing like that! People will be aware to such an extent in what environment they exist! It will be a different world.

Question: What about a woman, a girl, when should she leave home?

Answer: What can be more secure, pleasant, safe, and confident for her than the feeling of such a society that thinks about who she will marry, how she will treat her children, home, family, her raising children, and so on? The whole society must think together with her.

It will be a common umbrella that will cover us and serve us all until the mutual guarantee covers us all with such a common blanket. All of humanity! Then we will become one single desire in which one great upper force is revealed. That’s all.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/31/20

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Question: Any speech addressed to several listeners can be considered a public speech. It can be informative, entertaining, or promotional. Which of these can your daily lessons be related to? You do not just transmit information like at a university.

Answer: On one hand, my lessons are public performances because representatives of all nations, professions, and strata of different countries from all continents connect to them.

On the other hand, these are lectures because during a lesson we perform analysis of material with questions and answers. Usually, the lecture is held on a specific topic, which is divided into several small topics of interest to Kabbalah students.

Any information passes through a person’s desires and thus forms and changes him. My task is precisely for a person, by working on himself, to begin to change.

Question: But are you interested in him knowing the subject?

Answer: Sure. This is the most important thing. I teach not for gaining huge knowledge but quality of perception. The result depends on the person. And I must give everything I can in the form closest to correct perception.

Question: Does it make a difference whether one is listening to your lectures live or recorded?

Answer: It all depends on the perceiver. When reading books or watching recorded movies we can cry, laugh, worry. They affect us perhaps even more than scenes from real life.

Question: Indeed, a book was written a few hundred years ago and now a person reads, experiences it, and even cries. Is there some kind of energy in the book?

Answer: It is information, it is energy, it is a message!

Question: But when this happens online, does nothing really change? Let’s say we are talking now and someone will listen to our conversation in a week. Does it have the same effect?

Answer: It doesn’t matter. This information is in the air, and those who connect to it perceive it as if we are talking to them today.
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From KabTV’s “Communication Skills” 8/14/20

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Lesson on the Topic of “Work with Faith Above Reason”

Writings of Baal HaSulam, “Study of the Ten Sefirot, Histaklut Pnimit, Vol. 1, Part 1, Chapter 8, Item 29″

Lesson on the Topic of “Noah”

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From My Facebook Page Michael Laitman 10/31/20

Despite all the enmity, and despite the escalating violence in America, I believe that America’s democratic values will triumph in the end. I’m aware of the surveys showing that more Americans than ever feel that it is justified to turn to their firearms if the other side wins, but when all is said and done, I believe that on the 4th of November, America will not be engrossed in civil war.

For all its apparent frailty, the American democracy is an unprecedented success. A country of 330 million people of all races, faiths, and cultures is a challenge to any regime, much more so to a regime that aspires to give freedom of expression to all the facets of society. No other country has taken such giant strides toward equality, liberated its slaves and made them citizens with equal rights, or has practiced Lazarus’ iconic words, “Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, the wretched refuse of your teeming shore. Send these, the homeless, tempest-tost to me.” America did all that because at the end of the day, the vast majority of its citizens believe that these are the right things to do. This belief in the American values is the reason I believe America will overcome the trial of November 3, 2020.

Nevertheless, on November 4, the president, or president elect, will have to start patching up the aching and/or gloating factions of the nation. It will be a daunting task, for sure, and the sides will not agree with one another’s views. However, if they are convinced that their country matters more than their own views of how it should be run, there is a chance that they will rise above their discords and unite once more into a single nation.

The memories of the aggression, the insults of the past, all these will remain and keep on bubbling. But if people understand that they are not meant to agree, that their differences enrich one another and challenge them to polish and refine their own viewpoints, they will learn to appreciate disputes. Then, above the disagreements, it will be possible to build a sense of solidarity and mutual responsibility for all the people, whoever they are.

America has always been a role model for the free world. So far, it has been a role model of individualism and distinctiveness, but in rising above their profound rifts, Americans can become an example of the opposite. The country that has given the world the “Me! Me! Me!” culture can lead the way to love of others if it overcomes its current ruptures.

If I could advise the president, I would say that the first thing to do after the election is to assemble all the leaders in America, of every kind and from every creed, and try to bring them all to a unanimous decision regarding how to get rid of Covid so that America will be a virus free country. That will be the first test of unity, or at least the willingness to act toward it.

Next, the assembly of leaders should pick a few cities, in different parts of the country, and focus on establishing solidarity among the residents of those cities. These will be the trailblazers, the living proof of the power of unity. They will show that solidarity enables coordinated action that takes into consideration all parts of the city, all parts of the population, so that no one is left unattended and uncertain about the future.

On one hand, with the encouragement of local community leaders, residents will be obliged to contribute their part. On the other hand, the city, with the help of the state and the country, will reward that obligation with guaranteed provisions of everything from staple foods to entertainment. Community leaders and the city will not be pushing for socialism, where benefits are given unconditionally, but rather for a pro-social attitude, where one wants to give out of concern for society, but at the same time knows that one who does not give, also does not get. It is a mature and sustainable approach, and one that hasn’t been implemented since society has not been ready.

Now it seems we are approaching a phase where people are ready for change. America, precisely through its adherence to such values as equality, hard work, and freedom of expression, has the potential to lead the world to an era of reciprocity combined with personal fulfillment.

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The human body begins with a drop of semen: a single cell that multiplies and forms new cells. But all of them implement the very program that was laid in the first cell that started it all.

The drop of semen already has all the information. One day scientists will learn to decode this information so that one cell will show the entire person that will develop from it, his entire fate and abilities, whether he will be a great scientist or a musician.

It is all there, in a drop of semen, but only in potential. If these potential forces get the material to work with, they will begin to build the human body according to the program placed in the first cell where every organ and every cell of a large healthy organism is described. We only need to provide food, the material, for its construction.

It is the same with our desire. In each of us there is a point, the first drop obtained as a result of shattering. Our common body was shattered into many parts, and if we join into ten, we will restore the drop of semen, the desire. In addition, we will draw the light that reforms.

We need two things: desire and light. On one hand, there are our ten potential forces, and on the other hand comes the light that reforms, which will connect them back into one drop of semen. None of us can become a drop of semen, each of us is only a tenth of the seed from which the soul will develop.

We draw the upper light, which connects us and begins to form a larger and larger spiritual structure called the soul or Partzuf.

Therefore, we must try to unite and from this unity turn to the Creator so that He can send us the light that reforms that will develop us. These are the two areas of our work.

It seems to me that the Creator gives me foreign thoughts that throw me out. But this reveals new forces of egoistic desires inside the ten, which must be added as fuel. Thanks to this, the ten will strengthen, grow fat, and build itself.

However, when we receive this additional fuel, it has not yet been processed correctly, and therefore feels like foreign forces of separation. If in spite of this, we join together, then we swallow this force inside ourselves and expand and grow at the expense of it. This is how waste is turned into food.
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/26/20, Writings of Rabash, “What Are Torah and Work in the Way of the Creator?“

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They say that masks help not for avoiding getting infected yourself, but avoiding passing your germs to others—that is how nature unconsciously imposes the right relationships on us. Granted, they are unconscious and unaware, but this too is effective and will lead us to become aware of the reciprocity…
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Michael Laitman, On Quora: “Will there be a civil war in the US after the elections in November?“

Even though hatred, polarization and unrest accumulates from one day to the next in American society, and even though riots could emerge in relation to a range of issues, I doubt that there will be civil war in response to the elections.

American society has a deep-rooted consensus on its democratic values, and it has made breakthroughs in providing its large and diverse population with equal rights. These same values that most Americans hold will be why I think that they will hold together after the elections in November.

However, the fact that there are questions about whether there will be civil war in America after the elections shows that division in American society is definitely a major problem that needs to be treated. It seems like an impossibility to bring together people with opposing views, and it is true: we cannot solve such a problem on the same level as the problem.

The solution to the increasing division in American society lies not in bringing the opposing factions closer together, nor in tilting people on one side to another. Rather, it is in uniting above the division. In other words, every person has a right to their opinion and can fiercely reject the opinion of others, but above these opposing opinions should begin to emerge a common understanding of the need to unite above the conflicting opinions, that society’s survival and well-being depends on it.

Although it might seem far-fetched that an umbrella of unity will miraculously appear and hover over an increasingly polarizing society, there are two factors that make it possible: one is the growing awareness of how nothing positive emerges from a increasingly divided society; and the other is the need for a nationwide educational campaign, which will raise the idea of how and why uniting above the divisions is more important—for people’s survival, health, happiness and well-being—than giving into divisive drives. Moreover, since America stands on the world’s stage, when its hundreds of millions of citizens start connecting above their growing differences, they will positively influence people worldwide with a similar unifying tendency.

Therefore, after the elections, I would advise the President or President-Elect to gather America’s leaders from every vocation in order to first reach a unified decision on how to make America coronavirus-free. Afterward, I would advise the leaders to select a few cities in different parts of the country as test cases to implement programs aimed at unifying people above division. As test cases, their progress would need regular monitoring and examination in order to see what is needed, through all kinds of situations that could surface, in order to create, sustain and grow a positive unifying atmosphere. There is absolutely no harm in implementing such an experiment. Rather, it holds the potential to create a new model for far-reaching improvements in social health and happiness.

As deepening polarization gives rise to more and more outbursts and anxiety in America, then precisely this bleak landscape can act as the background needed in order to realize a new positive shift. I indeed see a lot of potential in American society, with its pioneering and innovative spirit, its values of equality and freedom of expression, and its vast influence throughout the world, to face the challenge of its social division and realize that in unity everything will become much better.

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We do not have any attainment in the world of Infinity because all our attainment is possible only in the place that has an end. The sensation comes only at the border where everything ends. Therefore, in the state of infinity, we cannot perceive or understand anything.

It is as if I were thrown into the open cosmos and there is nothing but darkness, not a single ray of light, and it is not clear where the top, bottom, right, or left are. I do not understand anything, I am spinning in zero gravity and I do not feel where I am or what is happening to me. This is called the world of infinity.

The central point in the world of infinity is the point where everything ends: both desire and light. It is like a black hole.
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From the 2^nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/25/20,  Baal HaSulam, “The Study of the Ten Sefirot”

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