Question: They say that our desires can be leveled, like it is customary in oriental techniques. What can be done to want very little? After all, the less you want, the less you suffer.
Answer: This is true, but only if I begin to evaluate my desires in terms of pleasure or suffering. Then I can come to the conclusion that I should be willing to suffer less. This is a certain volitional exercise with which I achieve a more comfortable state.
Question: So how do I control these desires?
Answer: In principle, I do not control them, but the desire to enjoy or suffer less controls and determines how much I can reduce my desires.
From KabTV’s “Basics of Kabbalah,” 12/03/18