Question: How should I live my life in order to raise a true prayer that will be answered?

Answer: You must try to take your heart and open it up. You will see what prayer is inside it and how it comes out. But it really must be done this way; otherwise, it is not a prayer.

Question: When you say “heart,” of course you do not mean the physical organ. What do you mean by it?

Answer: I mean all your deepest desires and dreams, but more precisely, your complaints about life.

Question: That is what the “heart” is?

Answer: Yes.

Question: All these unfulfilled desires, what are they?

Answer: They are what you want to come to the Creator with and ask for Him to explain to you why He did not fulfill them.

Question: Which of my unfulfilled desires will receive a response?

Answer: Only one. If you ever desired something, did you wait for that desire to be fulfilled by the Creator? It is not about what you desired, but whether you desired that it would be the Creator who would fulfill them. That is where the fulfillment lies.

That is, you did not desire money, happiness, fame, success—no matter what or how—but you waited for it to come from the Creator because you wanted Him to fill your desires and only that would satisfy you. Nothing else is needed! Only that He would do it! And even if He fills it with just a drop, that would be enough because He did it!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 7/19/25

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Question: How can we manage stress?

Answer: We need to understand that the convergence of plus and minus at all levels in all circumstances is necessary and should take place, and we need to learn how to do this.

Question: How do we do this?

Answer: It is very simple. Build love over all manifestations of hatred. It is the same principle. There must be hatred, rejection, anything negative, and above it, undoubtedly, plus.

Question: How can you attract this plus to yourself?

Answer: This is what the science of Kabbalah teaches—how to get a plus from a minus in order to let a minus and a plus remain, for them to exist complementing each other. In Kabbalah, this is explained as the correlation of darkness and light.

Question: But how can I attract love? I do hate, and my hate strongly.

Answer: This must be achieved through education; when a person realizes there is no plus without a minus or a minus without a plus, and their correct combination creates life.

When a person realizes this, he becomes calm, reasonable, follows the middle line, and builds himself and the world.

Question: Let us say I hate. What are my actions?

Answer: You should realize that everything comes from the upper force and is given to us to balance all negative qualities, properties, and circumstances with positive ones. All this can happen only in our consciousness. When we realize this, we begin to treat everything with kindness, not denying anything, but accepting everything as an absolute necessity.

Question: Is this hatred necessary?

Answer: It is necessary for us to rise above it, and to exist above it and in it. Then we will balance these two forces of creation—plus and minus.

Comment: That is the whole difficulty: above it, somehow, somewhere it may be possible, perhaps…

My Response: No, it will only be possible egoistically, but in order to exist with it, we must rise above it and balance out all negative properties by adhering to the Creator.

Question: It is not easy. Can you give me a simple formula for overcoming hatred?

Answer: The formula is that a minus equals a plus. That is all. Where there is a minus, you should see a plus.

Question: Is what I hate now a minus?

Answer: It is a minus until you realize that it is also a plus.

Question: So is it good that I hate?

Answer: Yes, but why are you given this? So that you can turn it into a plus. You have to change your attitude to the world. But how? It is very simple. Replace egoism with altruism, hatred with love. And everything will be fine.

Question: So I hate this person, but I say to myself: “This is given to me so I can love him?”

Answer: You are simply given the opposite properties. Replace them with the opposite ones and you will get a wonderful world.

Question: Is it within my power?

Answer: It is not in your power to transform, to accomplish, but it is in your power to beg the Creator to make it so. That is, to reach a state where you really crave it.

Question: Is that why hatred comes? So that I can plead that I passionately want to replace it with love?

Answer: Yes. Then you will realize this was not the reason at all, but so that you establish contact with the Creator. That is all.

Question: I see. It is He who calls us to turn to Him.

Answer: Otherwise, we would not have turned in His direction.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 7/14/25

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Question: If Baal HaSulam says that the shattering essentially did not exist, does this mean that the desire to receive for oneself also does not truly exist?

Answer: It exists, but not in a revealed form.

We need to understand that our advancement is based on the fact that we reveal our states relative to uncorrected Kelim, and we therefore feel increasingly shattered. In this way, our state depends solely on what we are searching for within our current state, what we desire to attain.

In principle, it turns out that we draw closer to the shattered Kli and then start to analyze it in parts.

From there, based on the shattering between the parts of the Kli, we raise a prayer to the Creator so that He would help us come together, recognize the separation between us, and clearly see our entire path .
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From the 4^th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 7/15/2025, “The Ruin as an Opportunity for Correction”

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Question: Are we capable of performing a clarification between holiness and Klipa? Or is our work to attract the Creator into this clarification?

Answer: We must always involve the Creator; otherwise, we will not be able to feel correctly where we are, what direction we are heading, or what is influencing us.

That is, without the Creator’s force in the midst of our forces, showing us what is better and what is worse, and how to separate one set of Kelim from another, we will not be able to clarify who we are, what we are made of, or what we truly want to attain.
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From the 3^rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 7/15/2025, “The Ruin as an Opportunity for Correction”

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“All the gates were locked except for the gates of tears.” 

It is when all the gates are locked that there is a place for the gates of tears, and then we see that they are not locked. That is, when a person comes to complete concealment, then “my soul shall weep in secret,” because he has no other counsel. And it’s called: “All that your hand and strength can do, do” (Baal HaSulam, Shamati 18).

And then you will reach the gates of tears and force them to open. This is how we enter the palace of the Creator, the upper world; it is only through the gates of tears when you are completely despaired of your own strength and know that nothing can help you, but you must reach the goal. This is the result of great work.

You are one hundred percent sure that you have nothing more to add, and then the entrance to the spiritual opens up to you. Gradually, we form this state called the “gates of tears.”

What are gates? As long as it seems to you that you can do something, you see a wall in front of you. And then you suddenly notice an opening, an opening in that wall, an entrance, and you enter.

That is how it is in spirituality: an insurmountable wall stands before you that gets stronger and higher. And yet, you still try to break through this wall, but you do not find any gates in it, or all the gates are locked.

Seeing a wall in front of you is a very advanced state. But then this wall opens, and suddenly a passage appears in it. My teacher RABASH once told me that this is how it happens in spirituality: there is either a wall or an entrance, and it is impossible to see in advance where the entrance will be in the wall.

This is the wall around your heart. You cannot make a hole in the walls of your heart so that the quality of bestowal, the quality of the Creator, can enter there. The heart is closed, sealed, and covered with an impenetrable hard crust. All that remains is prayer—prayer from the group.

It is necessary to unite together in the ten and ask, ask for everyone, and then one day ask for one person. Today we pray for one friend, tomorrow for another, in turn, for each one. This is how we will begin to get used to demanding from the Creator to take care of the friends.
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From Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/10/21, Writings of Baal HaSulam “My Soul Shall Weep in Secret – 1”

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Question: When a person is included in the intention to bring contentment to the Creator, how does he avoid turning it into reason? After all, he understands and feels that he is bestowing to the Creator, that he is connected to Him.

Answer: But he is connected to the Creator only through the intention. He does nothing else. He attributes only his intention to the Creator.

Question: And how can he avoid enjoying this, turning it into reason? What is the next stage, the continuation of this intention?

Answer: It does not matter what the Creator asks a person to do. That is irrelevant. We can stop right there.

The most important thing is that we have changed our intention, and whatever is revealed in such a state, we desire to pass everything to the Creator. At that point, we can say this particular state ends at the moment.

Question: You have said that when in the right intention, we should add actions. How is that done?

Answer: Intention alone means nothing; there must also be action. But action in spirituality is not something tangible that can be passed from hand to hand, because it is not corporeal.

Rather, I simply transfer the beginning of my thought and its end from me to the Creator.
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From the 3^rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 7/9/2025, “To be as an Ox to the Burden and as a Donkey to the Load”

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In corporeality, you can see the door just as you can see the opening. But in spirituality, you see only the opening. But you cannot see the opening unless with complete and pure faith. Then you see the door, and at that moment it turns into an opening because He is one and His name is “One” (Baal HaSulam, Letter 26).

Namely, I see before me stands a wall through which it is impossible to penetrate, go around, or leap over. But the moment I reveal the quality of faith, this quality forms an entrance in the wall, and I pass through. I wish this for all of us.

The gates of prayer are not locked. We must constantly try, together with our friends, to pray to the Creator to help us unite, to clarify what is called the force of bestowal, and to reach Him with this force of bestowal.

We are obligated to reach such a state, to give all the quantity and quality of efforts in order to arrive at the gate of tears. Only through the gate of tears does one enter the upper world, the spiritual.

We must pray for each friend in the group that he may reach the gate of tears, the spiritual world, everything! “He who prays for his friend is answered first.” This greatly advances people.

But this is not about words; prayer is called “work in the heart.”

The gate of tears is a special gate that opens only when a person understands that he has no strength whatsoever to perform even the slightest act of bestowal. Yet at the same time, he must attain these acts of bestowal  no matter what. He is ready to give up everything just to become one who bestows. Then these gates open.
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From Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/10/21, Writings of Baal HaSulam “My Soul Shall Weep in Secret – 1”

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Question: Does the dialogue between a person and his desire to receive happen when he is in Lo Lishma or in Lishma?

Answer: A person is not yet in Lishma. The dialogue between him and his desire to receive happens before that. It is the degree that allows him to rise to Lishma.

Question: So I must receive this strength from the Creator in order to ascend? Since the strength of faith in the sages comes only from the Creator?

Answer: Yes, of course.

Question: In that case, should I turn in prayer to the Creator so that I have this strength to rise and perform an act of bestowal?

Answer: That depends on the person, how he positions himself in relation to the Creator, desiring to be in adhesion with Him in all states: in descents, ascents. Yesterday, today, tomorrow, he wants to simply be connected with the Creator.

If he strives toward this state, then he begins to see how he can be connected with the Creator.
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From the 3^rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 7/9/2025, “To be as an Ox to the Burden and as a Donkey to the Load”

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The Gate of tears is a special gate leading to the Creator. There are many gates to the Creator, but only one of them opens, the gate of tears.

The Zohar explains this very simply: There is only one entrance to the Creator, there is no need for confusion.

A person comes into contact with the upper force when he truly cries from lack of strength, from the impossibility of continuing to live like this, from the fact that he really gave it all he has got.  When one bursts into tears, the Creator reveals Himself to the person.

One day I tried to cry before RABASH from the bottom of my heart. He laughed in my face. I was ready to tear him apart back then. But there is nothing you can do. That was at a relatively early stage of learning.

All the gates are really locked, except for the gate of tears. Upon revealing the full extent of one’s ego, one’s whole desire, giving and relating everything to the Creator, a person reaches the final state: “This is it! There is nothing more I can do!”

But if he does not get an answer, it means these are empty tears, like a child who cries for any reason. Then he has to keep working and, someday, everything will be revealed to him.

The right desire is not expressed in crying one’s eyes out. It is a state where, on one hand a person is in complete powerlessness, and on the other, has a great desire to give to the Creator what he has prepared for Him, but the Creator does not want to accept it.

In such a state, a person suddenly begins to reveal a material egoistic desire, which, it turns out, is deeply hidden inside his “pure” spiritual aspirations. And he begins to dig it out of himself, to purge himself of it.

Then he turns to the Creator again with a request, and suddenly sees the egoistic desire stuck in him again, although earlier it seemed to him that he was already absolutely pure and cleansed.

Now the main thing is to never give up and to realize that your attitude toward the Creator is the same as His attitude toward you. This is a full reflection. The Creator is the upper light, completely at rest, only the creation is changing.

Therefore, if it seems to you there are changes in the Creator, these changes are in you, you see yourself as if in a crooked mirror. After all, before you correct yourself, you see the Creator in relation to yourself in the opposite reflection, in the negative relative to the positive.

It is written: “The Creator is close to you in the measure you are close to the Creator.” The Baal Shem Tov explained this with the words “The Creator is your shadow.” That is, if you can observe your shadow, your reflection against the background of white light, then this is the Creator.
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From Moscow Congress 5/2/2016, Lesson 3

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Question: Ultimately who is at war with the evil inclination, us or the Creator?

Answer: The Creator, and we help Him by pushing Him to do this, by supporting Him with our constant connection. This is the only way.

Question: If during the day one discovers he is not in a real war, there is no sincere prayer for inclusion in his friends, for helping them, then you need to start mentally developing this prayer.

I noticed that the evil inclination works against this thought, devalues it by saying if this is not a sincere prayer, it is better not to even start it. It seems pointless, it is not a real war. How does thinking of friends give them the strength to fight?

Answer: Here you need to take several cases like this and sort them out one against the other, then you will understand how to discern them.

Question: When we feel the strong influence of the Creator on us, is our effort to use the power of the group to come to inner peace, to hold it, or to feel in these efforts how the Creator rejoices? After all, it is written, our heart will rejoice in Him.

Answer: What will our hearts rejoice in? Only in the point where your qualities merge with those of the Creator.

Question: What kind of help do we need from our friends?

Answer: We need support. We only need an example and support in actions, which I acquire from my friends and wish to implement.
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From the 2^nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 6/20/2025, “Winning the War”

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