Women play a very important role in correcting the world. After all, this world exists only thanks to women. A woman is a house, shopping, and the household. A woman gives birth to children and also raises, educates, and takes care of them.

Everyone understands perfectly well how a man would look if there were no woman next to him; he would look like a boy who is always unwashed, disorganized, and unfocused.

A woman is such a special creature in the world that brings order to it and maintains this order. No man can replace her in this, as this is how this world works. In Judaism, a woman is called a “house.” Therefore, it is a woman’s duty to put life in order in every house, in every village, in every city, and in every country. It is all in your hands, and every man and every woman should participate in this work.

A woman is called a “house” because her husband eventually does what she asks at home. It turns out that the world is ruled by women. Only they do not want to declare it loudly because the nature of a woman is such that she likes to remain modestly in the shadows and does not want to take responsibility.

In order to change this world for the better, women need to become more feminine, and then men will listen to them. A man loves when a woman is gentle, quiet, and listens to him more than one who is rude and demanding. But women know well when to shout at their husband and when to cry, and so with these two oars they steer the family ship in the middle line.

Women should understand that it depends only on them whether we can make this world kinder and more stable. It is said that “People of Israel came out of Egypt (from slavery) by virtue of righteous women.” A righteous woman is one who knows what justice is, what the goal is, and how to establish the correct relationship with her husband, as well as with all women and all men in the world, so that there is a spirit of mutual guarantee in the world. This is a great thing.

If women realize that the ultimate correction of the world depends on them and they take on this mission, then everyone will follow them, and we will succeed. Every man remembers that when he was a child, he was raised by women: his mother, grandmother, older sister, kindergarten teacher, school teacher, etc. So why not continue this correct, kind, and devoted care. It is necessary to connect female power to the governance of the world and in this form we will certainly come closer to a good life.

The problem is that we teach women how to become businesswomen. However, the task of a woman, as if in a family, is to take care of a man and support him. Without wise support, men will grow up like hooligans, like street kids. This is exactly what we see in the world today.

However, with the correct support of a woman who knows how to behave and continues to be an intelligent educator and teacher for a man, good men grow out of men, and become sensitive and respectful to women. It takes time and a lot of mutual work between men and women for men to realize that it is necessary to cooperate with women and also let them come to the fore.

Women should understand that they cannot hide behind men’s backs; they need to behave just like at home, where a woman takes over the whole household: cleans, cooks, and washes.

This family way of life should be extended to the entire space outside the home walls, and then we will have to join men to this work. After all, instead of simple washing, we will need a laundry factory, and instead of simple cooking in the kitchen, a food processing plant, where many men and women work. This is a completely different scale and is the future.
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From KabTV’s “Conversation with Journalists” 11/15/22

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Spiritual War for the World

Only women, once they connect, can change the situation in the world and restore order in it. But unfortunately, women are not actively declaring themselves. Every country has laws that allow women to demand access to leadership in order to properly organize life in their countries.

Usually women fight for their own rights, for equality, and it’s perceived like a family showdown in the kitchen. But I’m talking about spiritual warfare. A woman must understand that this is the most important thing now, and she needs to oblige the whole world, similar to when a mother makes her children study, clean up after themselves, go to school, and wash. This is how the role of a woman should be seen—as the mother of humanity.

The whole world is waiting for the woman to begin to fulfill her role correctly and to obligate everyone to realize and attain the spiritual goal of the world. If we unite with each other in the right form, then we allow the upper light, the upper force of nature, to enter us and begin to influence us. This is the role of a woman, the role of a mother.

It turns out that the struggle should go not for the rights of women themselves, but for their ability to influence society. Women lack knowledge, connection, and organization. If they want to advance, they will have to learn a lot and accordingly connect correctly, learn about their mission, and with due wisdom and feeling realize their destiny. There is no other solution, just like with a child who does not want to learn.

It is not easy for a woman to do this because throughout history she is used to staying in the shadows. Only the right education will help. We must start with small roles, and from them a serious organization will develop.

A woman is obliged to know the program and purpose of creation, the stages through which we are moving forward, and how to reach them. Besides women who begin to study today are preparing themselves to become leaders of society and humanity.

You must be aware that you are fulfilling a special mission and must be more persistent every day and be ready to do everything to save humanity from those difficult trials that await us if we do not correctly implement this special stage.

I am sure that you are able to do this and I am ready to help in any way I can. I wish you success!
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From KabTV’s “Women in the New World” 7/5/20, Part 1

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What is the difference between male and female leadership styles and how can we combine them both?

If a leader, whether man or woman, does not know about the purpose and program of creation and how to lead in order to progress to what nature requires of us, then nothing good will come of it. First of all, integral education is necessary and as a consequence women will occupy more important positions in society.

Such is the call of the time. Until the beginning of the last period, while humanity hasn’t yet entered the stage of final correction by connecting, studying the science of Kabbalah, organizing in tens, society was ruled by men. But as soon as we begin to spread the methodology of integral education and begin to work in tens, to restore the one common big soul of Adam HaRishon, women will come forward.

Men will be more involved in the organization of tens and the internal structures of society, and women will take on more external leadership. That’s why I keep repeating that dissemination is mostly women’s work.

The same woman who has always remained in the shadows suddenly now has to come to the forefront and engage in the reconstruction of society. And it’s interesting that men agree to this. Nature lets a woman go ahead and no one protests. This is a miracle that has never happened in history. And this process has been going on for the last hundred years.

A woman has always had a penchant for leadership, but before that it was on a small scale and did not go beyond the house. A man is not able to manage the house; he never knows where everything is. His way of thinking is not adapted for such work, and the woman has always been in charge of the house.

But over time there has been a change. And this is a consequence of the internal organization of the soul, which is gradually approaching correction. As a result, the light passed from above through the Sefirot Keter, Hochma, etc., to Malchut and began to reach the woman more and more. Therefore women felt that they understand the changes taking place in the world more and are ready to express their opinions on important issues.

This is no longer limited to knowing where the salt and pepper are in the kitchen. A woman is ready to give advice to men—to her husband, to the government, and to parliament—and offer a solution. This is no longer about how to cook soup, but how to brew politics. And all because the time has come when the upper light has approached Malchut and given her illumination.

Therefore a woman feels able to work with this. She is able to restore order in the world better than a man because she belongs to the last Sefira, and by raising the reflected light, she connects all the Sefirot located in front of her. Therefore she is able to manage them all.

The man remains with his specific role, and the woman gains the power to control everyone, as she does with children in kindergarten. She handles all the affairs.

Not everyone can be like Margaret Thatcher or Golda Meir, but nevertheless, any woman has special abilities in management. I think that in our time it is necessary to replace men with women in parliaments. We know that there will be order in any place where a woman works. The world doesn’t need a man’s explosive power, but rather a woman’s moderate, balanced leadership, free from all the petty calculations that are sometimes characteristic of women.

A woman who can weigh everything well and correctly and perceives her country as her home, important and dear to her, is able to reconcile all contradictory currents and parties and balance everything. Only a woman can do that.
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From KabTV’s “Women in the New World” 7/5/20, Part 1

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Comment: When a man and a woman start a family, it’s like a fire is burning inside them. But over time every couple begins to cool down.

My Response: Then the same fire burns them. This is a normal feeling of nature because plus and minus together gradually destroy each other. The light bulb burns out; the resistance of the tungsten filament, like any conductor connecting opposite qualities, gradually breaks down.

A man and a woman are two opposite objects of creation. Naturally over time they get tired of correctly complementing each other. The resistance, which is their desire to please each other, disappears. I do not want to please her and she does not want to please me; we become habituated, tired, and ordinary. And then everything disappears.

This means that it is necessary to make sure that there is a need for a constant correct connection between each other in their relationship—addition and annulment of oneself relative to the other.

But when can it happen? It happens if our connection leads us to something higher. And what could be higher in our world? I’d rather get divorced; it’ll be easier for me. Why would I bother with that at all? I will have other women, a different environment; I will live and everything will be fine. And her, too. People get divorced very simply.

If thanks to our common connection we reach highest level, eternal life, such a pleasure that we will not find together on earth, then it is worth for us to tolerate each other, not even tolerate, but already appreciate.

Therefore the institution of marriage, which is now being deliberately destroyed, can be restored only with the manifestation of the upper goal.

People will have to be given an explanation that we are returning to it for a reason. This is like any bad trait in a person, one must completely eradicate it and then in some way bring back a little in the correct realization.

It’s the same here. The institution of marriage will be eradicated and humanity is already heading for extinction. And then it is realized “Why do we need this?!” To achieve the upper goal, to create couples again, to live and breed!
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. How to Revive a Marriage?” 9/7/13

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Comment: Five married couples who have lived together for over 50 years shared their secrets for a happy relationship. Here is what each couple considers to be most important. Tell us what you think, please.

One 81-year-old couple, married for 57 years believe that the most important thing in a long and happy marriage is sharing responsibilities.

My Response: Of course.

Question: And what does sharing responsibilities entail? I am the breadwinner and my wife is a housewife taking care of the children?

Answer: That would be best.

Comment: Second is to know each other’s strengths and weaknesses.

My Response: Yes.

Question: Do you know your wife’s strengths and weaknesses?

Answer: I know them very well and I do not touch them. I am afraid to! In fact.

Question: Is this how it should be?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: Third is the ability to accept both sides.

My Response: Yes. You live with a person who is a whole system. It is a whole world through which you must see everything else.

Question: If this is how we live, tiptoeing around each other, then is it possible to be together for 60 or 70 years?

Answer: As long as you want.

Question: And you call this a happy marriage?

Answer: Only if we were brought up this way! Unfortunately, by the time we realize this, our life has gone by.

Question: Another couple aged 90 and 91-years-old who have been married for 66 years say it is essential to discuss their joint future and to have common interests. What do you think about discussing the future together? Is it important?

Answer: It is important because it is a joint future.

Question: Is that the key that it is not his or her future, but it is always us in it together?

Answer: Yes. We are going to have our children or grandchildren come to visit. Or we would go out, take a walk around the block, and so on.

Comment: As you said recently, when people get married, they say: “We are forever united together.”

My Response: They have to talk about it often.

Question: Is that what talking about a joint future is?

Answer: Yes. Because no matter what people do, they can live in different parts of the world, but they must share an understanding that they are united forever. Forever! Divorce is unacceptable when children are involved.

Question: And yet another couple that has been married for 61 years say that there should be a similar sense of humor. What do you think about that?

Answer: They must understand each other.

Question: Is this called understanding?

Answer: Yes. Because a sense of humor is very deep in a person. It distinguishes a person from an animal. Thus, if they have the same take on humor, it brings them much closer.

Question: A 99-year-old husband and 98-year-old wife married for 74 years say they love each other just like that and consider our union truly harmonious.

How do you feel about such views?

Answer: They have no deeper definition than “just like that.” This is a pretty high level. It is, indeed. When there is a real connection and feelings, you cannot describe it with anything.

Comment: And another couple married for 60 years say tolerance, loyalty to their vows, and being able to accept the other’s point of view are important.

Answer: This indicates they have not yet reached a real family if they believe it is necessary to be tolerant or faithful.

They still have these definitions before them and they must fulfill them. While a true connection requires none of this. You are already so glued to the other half that you cannot even tell where one ends or the other begins.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 2/17/22

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Michael Laitman, On Quora: “What are disadvantages of marrying your first love?“

Marrying our first love does not guarantee a good marriage.

We usually encounter several mistakes, breakages, arguments and perhaps also divorces, and only later, at an age closer to the end rather than the beginning, do we perhaps meet someone and start appreciating the marital connection.

People usually change since the time they had their first love. Their ideas of connection, closeness and relationships become totally different.

We need to go through hard times, ups and downs, the destruction of previous states that we lived through, and we can then cherish our relationships.

In short, after we meet, we need to learn a lot about ourselves, go through alternating positive and negative experiences and encounter states of desperation in the process, and then we understand how to build a life where we strive solely for positive relations. We need to accumulate an arsenal of various negative sensations and states, and only afterward can we avoid them. It is like storing weapons for a period, entering into a war, and then casting the weapons aside after the war.

As it is with partners, so it is with humanity in general. Humanity is now accumulating various weapons, and then it will understand they need to be cast aside. All wars take place for this purpose.

There can be no good without the recognition of evil, whether in our individual lives, between couples, or in the world in general.

Therefore, the advice for young couples is to have very long and nagging conversations with each other, where each partner spills out everything that they think about their partner, like two researchers, and gradually, little by little, they will be able to reach a state where they will mutually explore themselves and one another.

Life then becomes interesting. It turns into research of how can we can improve our relationships from one day to the next, how to change them in order to continually come closer together, and we regularly try to discover each other’s qualities, feelings and the relationship in general as vibrantly as possible.

For the time being, such relationships take a long time to build, say about fifty or sixty years, but the time will come when all people will live in such a way. Until then, we need to encourage young couples and people in general to go through a form of education that teaches and encourages them to treat relationships similarly to a research lab, where we can constantly seek how to improve our relationships, changing ourselves in order to get closer and more positively connected to each other above all forms of destruction that can emerge in our lives. It is indeed possible and doable, and the more such connection-enriching learning spreads throughout human society, the quicker and easier we will all be able to progress through all negative states with more awareness and understanding.

Based on the video “Does Marrying Your First Love Guarantee a Good Marriage?” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman and Semion Vinokur. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.

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In the News (CNBC): “Of the estimated 828 million people globally who were affected by hunger in 2021, around three-in-five (59%) were women, according to a report released earlier this month by humanitarian organization Care.

“That’s equivalent to 150 million more women facing food insecurity than men.

“And the gap is widening. …

“According to the U.N.‘s 2022 ‘The state of food security and nutrition in the world’ report, women have poorer food security than men in every region in the world. That disparity is especially pronounced in developing countries and specifically in the Global South. …

“‘Women are very heavily socialized to pull that burden on themselves. And everyone around them is socialized to assume that they will,’ Janoch said. …

“Indeed, even when both men and women are technically food insecure, women still tend to bear the bigger burden.

“In Somalia, for example, men reported eating smaller meals while women reported skipping meals altogether.”

Comment: In many places in the world “women eat last and eat least.” You keep giving the example of a woman and a child as an example of bestowal in our world.

Could you say a little about a woman in this perspective?

My Response: Responsibility. After all, a woman feels her family, her children, her husband, and all her surrounding space. For her, this is herself. Therefore the Torah says: “A woman is a house.”

Question: Are these not the greatest qualities for our world?

Answer: Of course.

Question: Why can we not give the reins of power and everything else to a woman?

Answer: No, she cannot do that. But when a man does everything for her sake, then it will be good because we have to create such conditions for a woman, with the help of which the world will actually be corrected.

Question: That is, will the world be corrected through a woman?

Answer: Yes. This is true.

Question: Why does a woman have all these qualities? Is it because she can give birth?

Answer: Because she can give birth. Because she feels nature through herself, through the heart, through the uterus. That is what is written in the Bible. Abraham was told straight away, “Listen to what Sarah tells you.” This is not simple.

Question: Can we see this as a piece of advice that you need to listen to what a woman tells you?

Answer: This was the Creator’s instruction to Abraham!

Comment: Is this mainly about the natural wisdom of a woman?

My Response: Yes, precisely about natural wisdom. Not an artificial one, like in a man.

Question: Do you perceive nature as female?

Answer: In general, yes. A man is made for correction to the extent that he can earn the quality of correction, the power of correction. A woman, however, on her own is already inside nature.

Question: Does it mean that if we listened to a woman, if we treated a woman correctly and worked for her, there would be no wars, suffering, or troubles?

Answer: In general, of course.

Question: Is it possible to lock everything on a woman?

Answer: It depends on how to turn it. But in general, yes. If we listened to a woman, then of course there would be more order in the world. This is clear to everyone.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 9/1/22

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Medium published my new article “Tomorrow’s World Relationships”

A perfect match? A loving family? Happy children? The pressures of today’s world create a grim reality where successful and lasting relationships are something of a fantasy. We cannot rely on the experience of elders since they lived in a very different world, so we have to find how to create meaningful and sustainable partnerships today. The key word in this search is connectedness, or rather, interconnectedness.

Because the world is changing at an accelerating pace, it is pointless to compare today’s relationships to those of our parents, or even to relationships of people a decade or two older than us. Each year, the world becomes increasingly connected, and a crisis in one place quickly spreads to the rest of the world.

On the personal level, too, things today are very different from what they were a decade ago. We have moved from fast food to fast relationships, and brief has become our permanent state of being.

To cope with the growing uncertainty and find direction in the emerging chaos, we need to understand where we are going. We are headed toward total connectedness and interdependence. It is an irreversible process. The more connected we become, the more dependent on each other we become, as well. Soon, we will realize that anything that hurts others hurts me, too, and there is nothing I can do to break my ties with the world.

In order to cope successfully with our interconnected future, we must change the nature of our ties from abusive and oppressive to supportive and embracing. Since we already broadcast our thoughts, words, and actions to the entire world, we might as well broadcast positive thoughts, words, and actions, and help improve the world for ourselves and others.

In a world that is connected positively, the family is the basic unit of connection. A reality where humanity is a mass of isolated individuals is unsustainable because there will be no connections between people and society will disintegrate just as any organism disintegrates into the smallest elements when it dies.

Therefore, the family will be the basic unit where people cultivate positive connections. Since people are becoming increasingly individualistic, the family will be the place where people learn to embrace diversity rather than fight against people who hold different views. People will learn that just as our body exists thanks to different cells and organs working together for the sake of the body, different people who work together for the sake of the family enable the success of the family.

From the family unit, people will take their lessons to the community, from the community to the city, from the city to the state, to the country, and finally to the entire world. The key, therefore, to successful relationships in tomorrow’s world, lies not only in connections, but in connections between different people for a common goal, where the differences between them ensure their success and make their mutual dependence imperative, and even welcome.
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Question: Our life is no pleasure, but rather an attempt to escape from suffering, which means that in every moment we are looking for an opportunity to suffer less.

We think that we get pleasure by buying a new car or a garage, but in fact we choose slightly better conditions. But this still is not pleasure is it?

Answer: Of course, these are not real pleasures: eternal and constantly growing.

Question: In our world a person sooner or later loses the taste in any pleasure. And when one reveals spiritual fulfillment, doesn’t he get used to it?

Answer: No. He doesn’t have time to get used to it. Spiritual pleasure quickly disappears. But this happens because a person has the opportunity of the next degree, the next filling, and he endlessly advances.

Even when the pleasure of the first degree disappears, new desires are released in which he can immediately advance further and fulfill them. And since these are not egoistic desires, but rather desires for bestowal, they are neither neutralized nor destroyed; they accumulate and grow all the time.

Let’s say I bought a yacht. But after a month I got used to it. I no longer have that inspiration, that song inside, that I felt when I bought it. Pleasure disappears as the egoistic fulfillment destroys itself. Since plus and minus are opposite to each other, pleasure enters desire and extinguishes itself.

But if pleasure and desire are both aimed at bestowal, then they do not extinguish each other, but instead support each other. First, when they go together, they increase each other 620 times and there is a huge surge of ecstasy, the strongest pleasure. Therefore, in our world it is called a Zivug (coupling of opposites).

Even in our world, if a man and a woman correctly understand how to delight, then they please each other not for oneself, but for other. This is where such reciprocity appears, which increases the filling. I don’t enjoy her and she doesn’t enjoy me; rather, we delight each other. Here too, an increase in pleasure is obtained.

But in the spiritual world, this increases by 620 times, meaning it manifests itself as attainment of the deepest layers of nature, the source of pleasure. Moreover, it is not extinguished, but constantly accumulates. This is an accumulating process.

Unfortunately, we do not know how to properly use even the purely bodily, egoistic pleasures of our world. We are only engaged in self-gratification, and we lose a lot when we do so.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. The Highest Pleasure” 8/12/13

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Michael Laitman, On Quora: “What advice would you give a woman whose husband of twenty years left her without saying anything?”

I received the following letter from a lady who experienced such a situation: “I’m going through some very difficult times, and I need your help. I’ve been married for 20 years, and I have three beautiful children. My husband and I had a good marriage all these years, but lately his attitude toward me really changed, and a month ago, he just got up and left home without saying why. I feel that my life is in shambles. And my question is, how can a person do something like that, to leave me and our children? We have three kids. What can I do for him to come back home?”

Indeed, men go through an age where they get driven to run away from the family, to run away from home, and to do something with themselves. This is somewhere around the ages of 40 and 50.

All I can recommend is to stay in touch with him, through the kids and his relatives, so that he feels that he has a family and a home—a place to which he can return. If you do so patiently, he will come back.
Based on the video “Advice for a Woman Whose Husband Left Her” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman and Oren Levi. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.

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