Comment: There are beauty contests like “Miss Universe.” By the way, it was once Trump’s business. It seemed to everyone that this was the most win-win business. But recently it was put up for sale due to unprofitability.

For the first time since this competition began in 1952, problems with profitability began before the “corona.” They say that this is due to a drop in the number of viewers.

But I personally have a feeling that external beauty has become less attractive in the world today.

My Response: I think it has become more internal. It has received a higher request, a need from the masses. But what is it really about today, due to such a huge farce that exists in the world? It’s just not possible.

Question: Is it possible to say something about the inner beauty of a person? How can I believe that this person is internally beautiful? What criteria should I proceed from?

Answer: Kindness, mutual assistance, compassion, and so on. Such as simple truths. The one that takes a person. This is the inner beauty of a person.

Question: You said the first word “kindness” and even stopped. It seems to be the most important thing for you. What do you put into it?

Answer: This is a person who can perceive another as close to himself. This is an amazing property! This is a gift from the Creator.

Question: So is this what you consider the greatest property—kindness?

Answer: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/10/22

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Question: Why are family workshops or workshops for people who know each other well much stronger than for random people?

Answer: Because people who are interested and mutually connected take part in them. In such circles, there is a complex structure of relationships: between friends, between girlfriends, between spouses, also between interactions of couples, and between the general relationship in a group, in a community.

There are a lot of levels and different systems of relationships and styles; that is why it is very interesting. All this jumps from level to level: personal, family, social, and spiritual relationships, and so on.

We can see amazing combinations between the five degrees that exist in nature: animal, human, emotional, and so on, according to Maslow’s pyramid. Meaning both psychological and Kabbalistic.

Question: Is it worth letting people without a partner into such events?

Answer: No, then there will be no synergy, only with similarity so that everyone experiences the same opportunities.

Moreover, if you put several friendly couples with a couple who is in a bad relationship, you will see that it will come out of there like “God’s little dandelion.” The rest will show an example of their interaction so that they will have to get closer to each other.

I have seen it, how they come out holding hands and they could not look at each other before. And this happens literally in thirty to forty minutes.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Family Happiness” 12/7/13

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In this world, a man rules over a woman, but in the future a woman will rule over a man, as it is written: “A woman will rule over a man.” (Midrash Tehilim).

Question: This is some kind of internal statement. What is “a woman will rule over a man in the future”?

Answer: Of course, we mean human desire, which is called feminine. It will be corrected and therefore it will rule.

Question: Could you explain this phrase more simply: “Today a man rules a woman, and in the future a woman will rule a man”?

Answer: I think that is where we are heading, and we understand that. We see that the world is changing gradually. Women go through all kinds of organizations and occupy various very serious posts.

It is no secret that the woman is superior in the house, and so it is written in the Torah.

Question: And you say that according to this statement, we men will concede to this?

Answer: Men will give in to this. In general, a man inside himself is ready for this. There is a lot left in him from the boy who is raised by his mother. It is in each of us. And that is why I think that all this will come out and be realized by everyone in such a prominent, correct form.

Comment: Now when we see how wars, conflicts, and so on are developing, there is a lot tied to the male part.

My Response: That is why there are wars and conflicts. If women rule the world more, there will be fewer wars, fewer conflicts, and fewer problems in general.

I do not mean the type of women who get out into the streets and scream, but rather the real women who are aware of themselves as wives and mothers. They lead families, take care of families, children, the future, and so on. It is practically not a man’s job; it is more a woman’s job.

Question: Is taking care of the country more of a woman’s job?

Answer: Female, any care is a woman. And any fulfillment of a woman’s desire is a man.

Question: Do you connect it? A woman—the house and a woman—and the head of the country?

Answer: Of course. It is the same thing.

Question: So she suddenly feels everyone as her children? Everything is like her house?

Answer: Yes. Who else can think about it?

Question: Where do you find such women? Please tell me.

Answer: They will appear, and they exist. We just need to give them a place to advance a little. And they are already moving forward today, but the men are still pushing. But it is all a matter of time.

Question: So you are in favor of this?

Answer: Yes!

Comment: There will be a lot of resistance, I think.

My Response: And I do not see a single man who could do more good for the world than women, than women’s governance.

It is not today; it is gradually when all this hubris, pressure, shouting, and so on will come down. When men will not goad women, direct them at each other, and so on. Meaning, both sides need to grow here. But in general, there is in the female character a predisposition to peace, to the convenience of everyone, to proper upbringing, and so on.

Question: How can we educate such women? Will they themselves be brought up in accordance with what is happening? How will they advance? How will they feel what you say, that the world is home?

Answer: We have to do it. This has to be done by us. We Kabbalists, who understand how to act and who are not shy or afraid, who are not ashamed, will say what is necessary.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/3/22

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The generations are redeemed only by the merit of righteous women in the generation (Midrash Zuta, Ruth 4:11).

Question: How do you perceive this?

Answer: I perceive it as perfectly normal.

Question: Then what does the key phrase “righteous women in the generation” mean?

Answer: They are the ones who understand how to conduct themselves and how to educate the generation. They look at their entire generation as their children who need to be brought to the correct understanding of life. This is called a righteous woman.

Question: What is righteousness? What is the correct understanding of life?

Answer: Righteousness lies in bestowal, love, and connection of everyone with each other, like in a proper family.

Question: Is there such an inclination in a woman?

Answer: Yes, it is precisely in a woman that it exists. She must take a man, the masculine strength, and compel, force, teach, and direct this masculine strength to creation, to the correct attitude to the world.

The direction is women. Strength is men.

Question: Do you feel that this is how it will happen in the future?

Answer: Yes. It is necessary to break the connection between men and women in such a way that a woman would control the thought, intention, direction, and so on. The corrected Malchut operates through the male part. This is when this connection will work.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/3/22

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Tips on how to build successful relationships based on the spiritual principles and understanding of our nature

Virtual relationships are the product of our own imagination.

Many people today create “virtual romantic connections” on social sites such as Facebook. They meet other people, share pictures, and even fall in love with their virtual partners!

The reason we are so drawn to our virtual partners is because the connection we make with them is non-material, detached from physical contact, and even “spiritual” in a way. Since we’re not tied down by any physical limitations, we’re let free to fantasize as much as we want to, to attribute all the best qualities to our virtual significant other, and to raise our connection with them “into the clouds,” so to speak. We convince ourselves of how special this connection is, and that it’s an opportunity to reach beautiful, perfect love.

But unfortunately, it’s all an illusion. Over the Internet, a person’s physical features are hidden and his inner aspects emphasized. One can express himself in any way he wants to, but the problem is that we lose sight of reality as we become unknowingly immersed in this game. We forget that we aren’t dealing with a real person, but with our own imagination.

When we see someone in real life, in person, then we can tell whether they really have certain traits or not, and we can see whether those traits are real. On the Internet, however, we only see a (carefully selected) picture and read a few lines that are more likely than not to be lies – and we go off imagining things that are completely unrealistic. However, the moment we meet our virtual partners in person, this sweet fantasy bubble bursts.

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Tips on how to build successful relationships based on the spiritual principles and understanding of our nature

By praising her man, a woman helps him develop and strengthens their relationship.

Today the divorce rate is astounding and most relationships are short-lived. Because of this, it is very important for people to find out how they can maintain a successful marriage.

In order for a woman to understand how to best fulfill her part of the relationship, she must understand the nature of a man. Then she will be wise and able to create a lasting and loving relationship.

But how can a woman come to understand a man’s nature? After all, men and women are so different. In fact, the right understanding can come from the right actions. A woman should express her appreciation of her man, letting him know that he is special to her, that he is great—and doing this often! Then she will realize what he needs from her, and what kind of a connection there should be between them.

She will see that a man needs motherly care, praise, and admiration. Despite being masculine, big, and “macho,” a man actually has a great need for sympathy. And if a woman gives this to him, he won’t be able to leave her.

In fact, it’s similar to how a woman acts with a child. She tells him, “You’re wonderful, you did such a great job, you’re big, you can do it, you’re special, you’re the most unique person in the entire world—you, you, you…” And this makes the man remain with her.

But most importantly, she should do this with love. A man desires to hear this all the time, because men really are like children, and they often see a woman as a mother. And even though this kind of a relationship may seem “imbalanced,” it will become balanced out because it will make the man want to “rise up,” to show how great he is. It will awaken his desire to become greater in a positive way, rather than in an overbearing, negative way.

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Comment: Victoria writes: “I see that 80% of the main questions about happiness, how not to worry, and how to organize one’s life, are asked by women. Will a woman ever be truly happy in this world”?

My Response: I don’t think so. A woman has a special intuition for what happiness means. To make the world happy means to make it perfect in general.

A woman must get out from under the authority of men. She must not obey the male mind, strength, and spirit. If she starts listening to herself, she will find the right solution.

A woman is the world. A woman is something that gives birth, develops, raises children, and does everything to soften our world.

Question: You said that until everything is perfect, a woman will not feel happy. Does it mean it must reach its ideal form after all?

Answer: Today she is playing what a man taught her: the role of a harsh woman, allegedly striving for beauty, for wealth, or something else. In fact, the depth of a woman’s nature is security and development.

Question: For others or herself?

Answer: Everyone. Otherwise, she will not provide herself with those either.

Question: Does she think in such terms—for everyone?

Answer: Yes. Although today a woman may be very egoistic, a proper upbringing will help her to see the truth that her actual realization can only be in connection, in alignment, and in rapprochement with others. Then there will be peace.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 10/13/22

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Tips on how to build successful relationships based on the spiritual principles and understanding of our nature

Relationships without a spiritual connection cannot survive.

So what does it take to create that spiritual connection between them, the only thing that can remedy their relationship? Having a spiritual connection means that both partners know the reason for their existence – to embark on the spiritual journey and attain the spiritual goal of life. Then they will have something that truly connects them, they will be in a mutual “cell” together, and the verse “Man, woman, and the Divine Presence between them” will really come true. In other words, they will feel the revelation of the Divine Presence —the Creator.

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 Kabbalah & Relationships

Tips on how to build successful relationships based on the spiritual principles and understanding of our nature

Want to strengthen your relationship? Read Kabbalistic texts together!

When husband and wife spend 15 minutes a day reading Kabbalistic texts together, this brings a unique quality into their relationship that has the power to resolve all of the problems they have between them. It’s because these texts contain great power.

Moreover, the only person to whom you can reveal all of your feelings—is your spouse. It is forbidden (impossible) to speak to anyone about your deepest feelings and your inner experiences on the spiritual path—with the exception of your spouse. In sharing their feelings, the husband and wife complement one another, and together they advance into spirituality.

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