In this world, a man rules over a woman, but in the future a woman will rule over a man, as it is written: “A woman will rule over a man.” (Midrash Tehilim).

Question: This is some kind of internal statement. What is “a woman will rule over a man in the future”?

Answer: Of course, we mean human desire, which is called feminine. It will be corrected and therefore it will rule.

Question: Could you explain this phrase more simply: “Today a man rules a woman, and in the future a woman will rule a man”?

Answer: I think that is where we are heading, and we understand that. We see that the world is changing gradually. Women go through all kinds of organizations and occupy various very serious posts.

It is no secret that the woman is superior in the house, and so it is written in the Torah.

Question: And you say that according to this statement, we men will concede to this?

Answer: Men will give in to this. In general, a man inside himself is ready for this. There is a lot left in him from the boy who is raised by his mother. It is in each of us. And that is why I think that all this will come out and be realized by everyone in such a prominent, correct form.

Comment: Now when we see how wars, conflicts, and so on are developing, there is a lot tied to the male part.

My Response: That is why there are wars and conflicts. If women rule the world more, there will be fewer wars, fewer conflicts, and fewer problems in general.

I do not mean the type of women who get out into the streets and scream, but rather the real women who are aware of themselves as wives and mothers. They lead families, take care of families, children, the future, and so on. It is practically not a man’s job; it is more a woman’s job.

Question: Is taking care of the country more of a woman’s job?

Answer: Female, any care is a woman. And any fulfillment of a woman’s desire is a man.

Question: Do you connect it? A woman—the house and a woman—and the head of the country?

Answer: Of course. It is the same thing.

Question: So she suddenly feels everyone as her children? Everything is like her house?

Answer: Yes. Who else can think about it?

Question: Where do you find such women? Please tell me.

Answer: They will appear, and they exist. We just need to give them a place to advance a little. And they are already moving forward today, but the men are still pushing. But it is all a matter of time.

Question: So you are in favor of this?

Answer: Yes!

Comment: There will be a lot of resistance, I think.

My Response: And I do not see a single man who could do more good for the world than women, than women’s governance.

It is not today; it is gradually when all this hubris, pressure, shouting, and so on will come down. When men will not goad women, direct them at each other, and so on. Meaning, both sides need to grow here. But in general, there is in the female character a predisposition to peace, to the convenience of everyone, to proper upbringing, and so on.

Question: How can we educate such women? Will they themselves be brought up in accordance with what is happening? How will they advance? How will they feel what you say, that the world is home?

Answer: We have to do it. This has to be done by us. We Kabbalists, who understand how to act and who are not shy or afraid, who are not ashamed, will say what is necessary.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/3/22

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The generations are redeemed only by the merit of righteous women in the generation (Midrash Zuta, Ruth 4:11).

Question: How do you perceive this?

Answer: I perceive it as perfectly normal.

Question: Then what does the key phrase “righteous women in the generation” mean?

Answer: They are the ones who understand how to conduct themselves and how to educate the generation. They look at their entire generation as their children who need to be brought to the correct understanding of life. This is called a righteous woman.

Question: What is righteousness? What is the correct understanding of life?

Answer: Righteousness lies in bestowal, love, and connection of everyone with each other, like in a proper family.

Question: Is there such an inclination in a woman?

Answer: Yes, it is precisely in a woman that it exists. She must take a man, the masculine strength, and compel, force, teach, and direct this masculine strength to creation, to the correct attitude to the world.

The direction is women. Strength is men.

Question: Do you feel that this is how it will happen in the future?

Answer: Yes. It is necessary to break the connection between men and women in such a way that a woman would control the thought, intention, direction, and so on. The corrected Malchut operates through the male part. This is when this connection will work.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/3/22

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Tips on how to build successful relationships based on the spiritual principles and understanding of our nature

Virtual relationships are the product of our own imagination.

Many people today create “virtual romantic connections” on social sites such as Facebook. They meet other people, share pictures, and even fall in love with their virtual partners!

The reason we are so drawn to our virtual partners is because the connection we make with them is non-material, detached from physical contact, and even “spiritual” in a way. Since we’re not tied down by any physical limitations, we’re let free to fantasize as much as we want to, to attribute all the best qualities to our virtual significant other, and to raise our connection with them “into the clouds,” so to speak. We convince ourselves of how special this connection is, and that it’s an opportunity to reach beautiful, perfect love.

But unfortunately, it’s all an illusion. Over the Internet, a person’s physical features are hidden and his inner aspects emphasized. One can express himself in any way he wants to, but the problem is that we lose sight of reality as we become unknowingly immersed in this game. We forget that we aren’t dealing with a real person, but with our own imagination.

When we see someone in real life, in person, then we can tell whether they really have certain traits or not, and we can see whether those traits are real. On the Internet, however, we only see a (carefully selected) picture and read a few lines that are more likely than not to be lies – and we go off imagining things that are completely unrealistic. However, the moment we meet our virtual partners in person, this sweet fantasy bubble bursts.

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Tips on how to build successful relationships based on the spiritual principles and understanding of our nature

By praising her man, a woman helps him develop and strengthens their relationship.

Today the divorce rate is astounding and most relationships are short-lived. Because of this, it is very important for people to find out how they can maintain a successful marriage.

In order for a woman to understand how to best fulfill her part of the relationship, she must understand the nature of a man. Then she will be wise and able to create a lasting and loving relationship.

But how can a woman come to understand a man’s nature? After all, men and women are so different. In fact, the right understanding can come from the right actions. A woman should express her appreciation of her man, letting him know that he is special to her, that he is great—and doing this often! Then she will realize what he needs from her, and what kind of a connection there should be between them.

She will see that a man needs motherly care, praise, and admiration. Despite being masculine, big, and “macho,” a man actually has a great need for sympathy. And if a woman gives this to him, he won’t be able to leave her.

In fact, it’s similar to how a woman acts with a child. She tells him, “You’re wonderful, you did such a great job, you’re big, you can do it, you’re special, you’re the most unique person in the entire world—you, you, you…” And this makes the man remain with her.

But most importantly, she should do this with love. A man desires to hear this all the time, because men really are like children, and they often see a woman as a mother. And even though this kind of a relationship may seem “imbalanced,” it will become balanced out because it will make the man want to “rise up,” to show how great he is. It will awaken his desire to become greater in a positive way, rather than in an overbearing, negative way.

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Comment: Victoria writes: “I see that 80% of the main questions about happiness, how not to worry, and how to organize one’s life, are asked by women. Will a woman ever be truly happy in this world”?

My Response: I don’t think so. A woman has a special intuition for what happiness means. To make the world happy means to make it perfect in general.

A woman must get out from under the authority of men. She must not obey the male mind, strength, and spirit. If she starts listening to herself, she will find the right solution.

A woman is the world. A woman is something that gives birth, develops, raises children, and does everything to soften our world.

Question: You said that until everything is perfect, a woman will not feel happy. Does it mean it must reach its ideal form after all?

Answer: Today she is playing what a man taught her: the role of a harsh woman, allegedly striving for beauty, for wealth, or something else. In fact, the depth of a woman’s nature is security and development.

Question: For others or herself?

Answer: Everyone. Otherwise, she will not provide herself with those either.

Question: Does she think in such terms—for everyone?

Answer: Yes. Although today a woman may be very egoistic, a proper upbringing will help her to see the truth that her actual realization can only be in connection, in alignment, and in rapprochement with others. Then there will be peace.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 10/13/22

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Kabbalah & Relationships

Tips on how to build successful relationships based on the spiritual principles and understanding of our nature

Relationships without a spiritual connection cannot survive.

So what does it take to create that spiritual connection between them, the only thing that can remedy their relationship? Having a spiritual connection means that both partners know the reason for their existence – to embark on the spiritual journey and attain the spiritual goal of life. Then they will have something that truly connects them, they will be in a mutual “cell” together, and the verse “Man, woman, and the Divine Presence between them” will really come true. In other words, they will feel the revelation of the Divine Presence —the Creator.

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 Kabbalah & Relationships

Tips on how to build successful relationships based on the spiritual principles and understanding of our nature

Want to strengthen your relationship? Read Kabbalistic texts together!

When husband and wife spend 15 minutes a day reading Kabbalistic texts together, this brings a unique quality into their relationship that has the power to resolve all of the problems they have between them. It’s because these texts contain great power.

Moreover, the only person to whom you can reveal all of your feelings—is your spouse. It is forbidden (impossible) to speak to anyone about your deepest feelings and your inner experiences on the spiritual path—with the exception of your spouse. In sharing their feelings, the husband and wife complement one another, and together they advance into spirituality.

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Comment: Your student writes: “Good afternoon, dear teacher! I appeal to you with a request: teach me to talk to the Creator. I have been studying Kabbalah for more than 12 years. My husband died two months ago. We lived together for 28 years. He wasn’t involved in our study, but he was such an angel behind me. He helped me study, work, and disseminate. He passed away and it’s very hard for me. My heart is torn! Your articles and videos help. I talk to my husband very often in my heart. I ask for his help in business and for advice. But this is not normal; he doesn’t exist. There is only the Creator. How can I learn to turn from the image of a person directly to the Creator? Please help me! Thank you very much for your reply, although I know that you don’t have time for private messages. Sincerely, Elena.”

My Response: First of all, my condolences of course. Second, the fact that your husband has physically died and is not next to you does not mean anything! Absolutely nothing! On the contrary, his connection with you is even stronger, only you don’t feel it to the extent that it exists.

Therefore please do not imagine him as missing, lost, or gone, but as if he is with you internally, mentally, and spiritually. And that is how you should treat him. Talk to him and talk to the Creator. Talk! Don’t do anything else! In precisely the way you want to talk, that is how you should talk. Both he and the Creator will understand you. And the best thing is that you speak in your simplest language.

Question: And what about the fact that Lena has doubts? “I’m talking to him, to my husband, but I should be talking to the Creator,” she says.

Answer: It doesn’t matter. You are simply talking to an upper force about your problems. Your husband, the Creator, and all of us are included in this upper force.

Question: Is it a correct conclusion that when I talk to someone from the heart, I always talk to the Creator?

Answer: With the Creator. “There is none else but Him.” This is the most terrible problem! When you look at other people, both bad and good, it’s just a representation of the Creator to you.

Question: So if we make an effort and manage to come to the conclusion that it is the law that “I talk to the Creator all the time,” then will the world change?

Answer: Yes, but people don’t want to understand it. It is hard to imagine; you have to force yourself.

Question: So is Lena doing everything right? She talks this way to her husband, whom she does not see but clearly feels. And is this the right way? Is this what prayer is called?

Answer: Yes, of course. What is prayer? The fact that the members of the great assembly (Knesset HaGdola) composed prayers is because people moved a little away from the Creator and could not address Him simply in a human way.

So they composed all sorts of prayers for them and replaced this simple heartfelt appeal to the Creator with words. The words are very correct. The people who composed these prayers were in attainment of the Creator. But this is not something that a person can say himself from the heart.

Question: But it is practically a revolution for a person that he can not read written prayers. There are a lot of written prayers, but how would one read from the heart and speak? And do you say that it will be almost the same with the same effect?

Answer: It will have an even greater effect. If a person speaks from the heart, then the effect is greater.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman 8/25/22

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Comment: They say that a person produces about 60 liters of tears during his lifetime.

My Response: But they are no longer tears of grief or joy, which are the result of some experience, but tears necessary for washing the eyes.

Question: Yes, probably all the data were mixed up during the research. Interestingly, people can cry from birth to death tens of thousands of times, including crying in childhood and all our subsequent states.

German scientists have estimated that women can cry from 60 to 70 times a year, while men do it ten times less. They determined that men cry for 2 to 4 minutes on average and women’s crying can last much longer.

What is the spiritual difference between female and male tears?

Answer: I cannot say that there is a difference in the spiritual world because a woman and a man are slightly different structures there than in the corporeal world.

It is clear why in our world women’s and men’s tears are so different. A woman is experiencing everything more emotionally externally, and a man is experiencing everything more emotionally internally. Therefore, women’s, men’s, and children’s tears differ in levels—in the threshold of experience. They all manifest themselves in different ways: more often, less often, deeper, in different forms.

However, in the spiritual world, there is no difference between male and female tears. That is, the external manifestation has a certain form, but there is no internal difference at all. There is no difference between a spiritual man and a spiritual woman in the release of tears.
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From KabTV’s “Spiritual States” 11/6/22

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