Kabbalah & Relationships

Tips on how to build successful relationships based on the spiritual principles and understanding of our nature

Virtual relationships are the product of our own imagination.

Many people today create “virtual romantic connections” on social sites such as Facebook. They meet other people, share pictures, and even fall in love with their virtual partners!

The reason we are so drawn to our virtual partners is because the connection we make with them is non-material, detached from physical contact, and even “spiritual” in a way. Since we’re not tied down by any physical limitations, we’re let free to fantasize as much as we want to, to attribute all the best qualities to our virtual significant other, and to raise our connection with them “into the clouds,” so to speak. We convince ourselves of how special this connection is, and that it’s an opportunity to reach beautiful, perfect love.

But unfortunately, it’s all an illusion. Over the Internet, a person’s physical features are hidden and his inner aspects emphasized. One can express himself in any way he wants to, but the problem is that we lose sight of reality as we become unknowingly immersed in this game. We forget that we aren’t dealing with a real person, but with our own imagination.

When we see someone in real life, in person, then we can tell whether they really have certain traits or not, and we can see whether those traits are real. On the Internet, however, we only see a (carefully selected) picture and read a few lines that are more likely than not to be lies – and we go off imagining things that are completely unrealistic. However, the moment we meet our virtual partners in person, this sweet fantasy bubble bursts.

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