In the News (NY Post): “To thine own self, say ‘I do.’

“Indian woman Kshama Bindu, 24, plans to marry herself in what she believes could be the country’s first ever example of sologamy. …

“’I never wanted to get married. But I did want to become a bride. So I decided to marry myself,’ she told Times of India in June 2 report. Her solo affair is slated to be ordained on June 11.

“And while there won’t be a groom, the solo-bration will feature many Hindu nuptial customs including pheras (rounds) around a holy fire, wedding vows, and a vermillion bridal gown. …

“Kshama believes that she’ll be setting a marital milestone with her act of self-love. ‘Maybe I am the first to set an example of self-love in our country,’ the soon-to-be self wedded spouse told TOI.

“While her solo venture may seem sacrilegious, the trailblazing bride argues that ‘self-marriage is a commitment to be there for yourself and unconditional love for one-self’ — because no one can love her better than she can.

“’It is also an act of self-acceptance,’ the sologamist added. ‘People marry someone they love. I love myself and hence this wedding.’”

Question: What is it? What is it when all maternal and feminine instincts disappear somewhere?

Answer: It happens. It is one of the pathologies of the human psyche.

Question: Can it develop as a virus?

Answer: Everything can develop. See what pathological changes are taking place in the world. This is pathology.

Question: But can we look at this pathology in-depth, based on egoism? In principle, we carry out this self-marriage all the time. We are as though, with ourselves all the time, getting married or not.

Answer: There is no doubt that egoism exists and develops from generation to generation.

The fact that we do not want to get married can be understood despite the instinct, especially in women, because it is also associated with childbirth, upbringing, and so on. But, in principle, this is all changing. Today there are a lot of not only men but also women who do not want to burden themselves with any worries. We call it bonds.

This is the growth of egoism and nothing else.

Question: Why is this happening?

Answer: For people to understand that they really need to do something about this egoism. Because it robs us of even such small joys of our life as love, children, and family.

And in a healthy environment. Look at Japan, at other countries. It is amazing, remarkable, and even incomprehensible in some ways. They stop giving birth, buy some dolls or something instead, and that is it.

Question: So does this lead to us returning to a normal natural existence?

Answer: No. It leads us to develop and understand our essence, that we need some kind of communication and some kind of love, some kind of devotion, attachment to something, to someone, but we do not have that.

Question: Which means, when egoism in us finally kills the natural healthy states, we will only then open our eyes?

Answer: I do not think we will open our eyes. I do not think it will correct us. I do not see that people, after doing any insanely negative things, turn in the other direction and come to their denial and correction.

Question: On the contrary, do they justify this act, and in fact, the opposite is happening?

Answer: It is more possible. But usually, humanity rolls on. It will get worse and worse, more egoistic, until it reaches such an accumulation of negative energy of relationships, thoughts, properties, feelings, and so on that people will already explode from within themselves like an atomic bomb and will have to just like crazy, shovel the rubble of their egoism, just to get rid of it.

It will really be like an atomic bomb, but it will start to explode from within humanity. It takes internal negative energy to tear egoism.

Question: Is this the way?

Answer: A beautiful way.

Comment: The beautiful path is not of reason, but of suffering.

My Response: Yes. I see that after this, a bright time will finally come when people will understand and realize based on the manifestation of this huge egoistic force, that the period of love has come.

Question: And will they understand what love is?

Answer: Yes, it will manifest.

Question: What will they understand then? What is love?

Answer: This is not understood, it will just be felt that they should show only such an attitude to each other.

Not that they even should. What does it mean I have to, and I show? It just manifests itself. With our suffering, we will cause this inversion, the manifestation of love instead of hate.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 6/16/22

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In the News (SciTechDaily): “University of Chicago data and social scientists have developed a new algorithm that forecasts crime by learning patterns in time and geographic locations from public data on violent and property crimes. It has demonstrated success at predicting future crimes one week in advance with approximately 90% accuracy.  …

“‘We created a digital twin of urban environments. If you feed it data from happened in the past, it will tell you what’s going to happen in future. It’s not magical, there are limitations, but we validated it and it works really well,’ Chattopadhyay said. ‘Now you can use this as a simulation tool to see what happens if crime goes up in one area of the city, or there is increased enforcement in another area. If you apply all these different variables, you can see how the systems evolves in response.’”

Question: What do you think about this algorithm?

Answer: It is very good!

Comment: It scans everything and says: “Here there will be a theft and here there will be murder.”

Answer: Yes, according to some data.

Question: You talk all the time about the development of egoism and how it developed historically within time. Knowing this, can we foresee the future of mankind?

Answer: I hope that egoism will not develop the same way. But if this continues, it will develop even more, exponentially, and we will not try to limit it in any way, or correct it, and so on, then, of course, there would be a world war.

Question: So you are saying that our egoism is a criminal and its actions are more or less comprehensible?

Answer: That is absolutely correct.

Question: Does it work for a complete breakdown of the system so that everything is directed at me?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And it only leads to one?

Answer: And if everyone is like you?

Comment: If someone is like me, maybe we will be afraid to get close to each other? We’ll build fences since we understand our nature.

Answer: That has happened already, and then you fail anyway.

Question: So the ending with this criminal is inevitable?

Answer: It is inevitable.

Question: So what is the task? To understand that egoism is a criminal?

Answer: Of course. Everyone is a criminal! All are egoists.

Question: In principle, if this crime gene develops in us, which is embedded in everyone, then basically there is no future?

Answer: Yes, nothing. But the future of the world is known, and it is revealed gradually. That is, we are taught.

It is like we are in a performance that shows us the development of humanity with its egoism on the one hand, and with the methodology of development of coming closer to the right state on the other hand. And at the junction, in some correlation of these two forces on the one hand, and the development of egoism, the need to unite, to connect egoists, on the other hand, that is where we will be shown how all this will happen.

Comment: In this teaching, it is amazing that it does not handcuff the criminal; it somehow works with him in a different way. It does not put him in prison.

My Response: We are already in jail, and we are all criminals.

Question: It comes from the fact that we are already in prison. And the task is not to be put in prison, but to get out of prison. The reverse problem is how to get the criminal out of prison. Right?

Answer: The task is to show the criminal that he is in prison, so that he would want to get out of it, would understand how to do it, and would free himself and everyone else.

Question: Is this what Kabbalah deals with?

Answer: Yes. Until our time, only a few could escape from this dungeon. But in our time, it is no longer like that; it should already be the way out for everyone, for the masses.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/4/22

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If a person lived only on his own, realized himself, and nothing more, meaning, if our egoism did not try to imitate others and invent new tasks for itself that are completely alien to it, then we would be happy and things would be simple for us. The whole problem lies in realizing others’ desires, which I adopt from them with the help of envy and the desire for fame and power, and these desires become my own.

This is our progress forward! By the fact that I want what others want (suddenly I want it too), I  develop. But these desires are given to me so that I can feel others and connect with them, satisfy their desires and enjoy it, and not adopt their desires to myself and try to fill them. In this I never enjoy and will never find fulfillment.

When we adopt others’ desires and start trying to fulfill them inside of us as “I want!” is when we start digging ourselves into the ground.

If I did the opposite, fulfilled these desires not in myself, but in others, in the form that they have, in their place, then I would be infinitely happy! I would connect to everyone. This is why the qualities of envy, jealousy, respect, honor, and all others were given to me, so I would feel the qualities of others and would fulfill those desires inside of them. Do you see how simple it all is?

But we do the opposite. This “opposite,” meaning adopting others’ qualities (envy, jealousy) inside of us, “What do others have? And what about me? Why not?” This is a real expression of egoism. It turns us around in the opposite direction from the goal of creation.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. How to Use Other People?” 12/22/12

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Question: How can you use your egoism so that you can take control and it does not control you?

Answer: It is said that the Creator created everything very simply, but man got confused and complicated everything for himself.

We all do this; it becomes incomprehensible to us because we constantly want to get out, to go the indirect way.

Desire-pleasure, desire-pleasure; everything is very simple, and there is nothing else in nature!

And we start twisting things, inventing how it is possible without it or outside of it, or instead of it, and so on, and in the end we steal from ourselves. By stealing from ourselves and constantly encountering problems, we, in general, create difficulties.

Nature is arranged according to the principle of simple selfishness. We are the same creatures as animals. But our selfishness is also connected with the fact that we learn from others what to enjoy. And therein lies the difficulty.

If I acted only according to my needs, it would be very easy for me. I would calmly work on how to get the maximum pleasure at the minimal cost. This is a simple self-filling formula. This is how all nature works. And in that way I wouldn’t have any problems.

But when I start to see instead the needs of others that are not mine and try to make them my own, then there is already a problem because I am not created to receive other fulfillments. Therefore I am confused.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call How to Use Other People” 12/30/12

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Instead of maintaining connection between us and filling each other, we, with our egoistic properties, want all the needs of others, their desires and empty spaces, to be ours. We try to fill them and as a result remain empty and unhappy.

But why should I envy because I cannot fulfill myself anyway! “Others have it, and I should have it.” I begin to work seriously, I earn, I fulfill the desires adopted from others and do not experience any pleasure because they are not mine; they should not be realized in me, but in them!

And what is the result? I worked out too much, spent my life on it, tried to fill other people’s desires in myself, and I die with nothing, even more empty, many, many times emptier.

This is our life. Instead of acting to the contrary, to be filled with the fact that you feel the desires of others and you exist in order to connect with them.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. How to Use Other People” 12/30/12

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Humanity is finally beginning to realize that it is coming to an end. People are not talking about it in full voice yet, but they are already saying that they do not know what to do. This is already a good result.

Our egoism in no way wants to act the way it should. It wants everything to be the way it wants it to be. Like a small child who closes his eyes and says: “There is no such thing!” It seems to him that if he closes his eyes and sees nothing, it means that it does not exist or nobody sees him.

It turns out that humanity acts in the same way: “There is no such thing!”. When I talked to the Nobel Prize laureates in economics many years ago and told them there was a crisis, they looked at me almost with mockery: “Well, what is wrong with you? What are you talking about?!” Of course, I kept silent. With whom should I argue?

I understand that these are just people. But today they do not say that anymore, it gave them a big whack on the nose.

Nevertheless, even if they already hear, they do not want to accept it internally yet. There are several thresholds that information must pass before a person accepts it, suppresses himself, and begins to take it in.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Conquering Space” 11/11/12

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Question: In the 60s and 70s of the last centuries, South Africa was considered one of the most heavenly places to live, and then it slipped to the level of general Africa.

My father was a marketing director of an English company and lived in South Africa for 14 years. At the end of the 80s, when he left there, he cried on the plane, because he understood that this heavenly place had come to an end: What had lasted for so long collapsed in a matter of days.

Most of the buildings built in the 70s, which were a symbol of independence, were expensive apartments that have become drug dens.
Is there anything we can learn from this?

Answer: Learn?! Humanity?! Never!

Where have you seen humanity learn anything at all? There is no more stupid creature than a human who does not learn from anything! He constantly needs to be driven forward with a stick, and he only thinks about how to dodge this stick.

If we could draw our caricature, we would depict a mischievous boy who is constantly looking around and searching for a place to run away to, and behind him, like in a Tom Sawyer story, his aunt runs after him with a big stick that she tries to smack him with, and sometimes gets him. This is us! This is us and Mother Nature.

Have we learned anything today?! Today we are more like barbarians than ever before. We take care of the body in a way that we have never taken care of it in history. We have plastic surgeries, transplants, and tattoos, we remove body parts, and whatever else we do!

Our ancestors would envy us. We have built such a cult of a body that has never existed before. Instead of rising above it and developing the spirit, look what we are doing! On television, they only show programs about food, how to cook and fry it, the Internet is filled only with sexual offers, and TV programs are about how to earn money somewhere, and so on.

If once the knowledge of literature, music, and arts was respected, today there is none of this! The degradation is complete! A person clearly shows another person that he is his enemy. This is considered right, good, and supposedly emphasizes your independence and self-sufficiency. What do we teach children at school?—To suppress the other. What are we teaching them in general?—Only to conquer, suppress, and grind down others.

Meanwhile, the means of confrontation are getting stronger. Today, we can easily “smooth out” each other and sweep them away from the surface of the Earth. Astronauts say in one voice that when they look at the Earth from afar, they have the impression of it as a fragile, very delicate balloon.

And we, who live here, are ready to tear and cut everything as if we have descended to some planet to conquer it, as if this is not our only home!
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Black and White World” 11/13/12

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Question: If you imagine the picture of the world in utter chaos, can some community that would live by completely different rules jump sharply out of these sufferings?

Answer: Yes, it could. But suffering will remain to the depth of egoism that exists.

Even if seven and a half billion of the world’s population die, the remaining half billion will go through enormous suffering because all the desires and all the qualities of those seven and a half billion will flow into them.

This remaining half billion will finish the correction, but in very severe agony because the suffering will not be distributed to eight billion. This is a terrible thing!

Imagine that there are only a thousand people around you and you have to absorb all their sores, all their negative qualities, everything that is in them, and live with it now. Your egoism will be a thousand times bigger, or even more, because it is cumulative, combined.

Imagine how many illnesses, sufferings, and blows you alone will have to feel, and your good desire will remain the same—one. These blows will eventually shake you, but not immediately because you will have to realize, feel, and decide for everyone that you cannot remain in this state.

Therefore, do not expect anything good. There will not be a better state in the future if we do not start improving it quickly ourselves. In a world where everything is interconnected, it cannot be otherwise. The interconnection is such that you cannot escape.

Question: So will even those seven and a half billion suffer and leave this state?

Answer: They will suffer within you. This is called Hitkalelut Neshamot, connection of souls. They will not go anywhere, but they will be so integrated into each of us that everyone will have a larger soul.

Therefore, at the time there was a need for the shattering of souls, for their multiplication. Where does the demography come from? On the basis of what it jumps up and down in different countries throughout history? It is precisely because egoism is growing and you need to somehow cope with it.

Adam alone could not correct it. Therefore, it had to be divided into eight billion parts.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. How Will Humanity Die Out” 10/20/12

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Question: When arctic temperatures drop down to -40 degrees and the wind speed is 40 meters per second, penguins gather into a circle and slowly move around the circle. The warmest ones in the middle of the circle switch places with the colder ones standing at the edges. And they continue this way until the storm passes. They survive thanks to each one’s care for every other one in extreme conditions.

Can we humans adopt this skill that penguins have?

Answer: No, of course not. What we see in the animal kingdom is the expression of natural laws and not freedom of will.

Question: So this is not the penguins’ freedom of will?

Answer: No, of course not. I do not switch places with someone because I think I should give up my spot to him. I switch places with him because this natural law is present inside of me and it directs me on how to act.

Question: Am I driven by instinct to switch places?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: So, the penguin is warm and comfortable, yet it goes into the cold, into the storm, and gives up its place to another penguin to warm up instead of himself. You are saying that this does not exist in man.

My Response: It cannot. We do not have such a law.

Question: Can we develop it within ourselves?

Answer: Go ahead, love your neighbor, and everything will be good.

Comment: In principle, they say that there is a core inside the Earth and the Earth rotates around it. You are describing this law in a similar way; the core is everything and the foundation of everything. And you can answer any question, in principle, with this sentence?

My Response: But this is the central law of nature.

Comment: Yet at the same time you say that it is difficult to achieve this.

My Response: To realize, agree, and accept it as the true solution to all our problems, that is not easy.

Comment: Nevertheless, sooner or later we will be obligated to achieve it.

My Response: We will achieve it.

Question: Is there a way to circumvent it?

Answer: No, of course not. However, it is written that this will happen by way of inconceivable suffering. But where can we escape?

Comment: So, we will be able to leave the warm spot and give it up to another person, for them to warm up, only if there will be love between us.

My Response: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 2/9/23

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Comment: You said that of those who do not have a Masach (screen), people with less desire, less egoism, for example, yogis, are closest to spirituality.

My Response: Naturally. But what does “closer” mean? The level of babies, who are closer to the mother because they are completely dependent on her,  have no independence.

And when they begin to develop independence, they want to somehow approach, feel, understand, and be in it, they will begin to move away, gain egoism, and only then begin to approach the spiritual. That is, their path is not close, not by a small leap.

You can enter spirituality only with huge egoism, which you have already recognized as evil, and you are sure that you need to correct yourself.

Comment: But you say that great egoism without a Masach (screen) is the most terrible evil, the furthest from the Creator.

My Response: Without a Masach (screen), it is all the evil of the world. Certainly.

In fact, this is small egoism, small desires. Real egoism is in the spiritual, when in spiritual falls you want to use the Creator (upper force) for yourself, become great, rule over Him, as in the fairy tale about the golden fish: “I want to rule!”

This is where the person stops and starts again. That’s all right, everything must be outlasted.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. The Biggest Еgoist in the World” 7/14/12

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