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The Vaccine Is Already There In Every Heart

284.01The main thing in the fight against coronavirus is to understand the disease itself. Until we understand what state we are in, we will not be able to move forward to the next stage toward healing. After all, nature is not going to give us a miracle cure that will allow us to end the virus and forget about it.

Nature’s purpose is not to guide us through the disease and cure us. Nature wants the suffering from the virus to compel us to reveal the human factor in it, that is, our disconnection and unkind relations with each other.

And then we will correct the attitude of one to another, in order to start worrying about what other people think and feel, we will understand what is in their hearts. If we do not establish such a relationship, we will continue to suffer from the coronavirus or other viruses that are behind it in a long line. The epidemic will not end because we are in a new era and are obliged to correct the peoples’ attitude toward others.

Every bad state is the result of our hatred for each other. The very realization of this already serves as the beginning of the treatment. If humanity hears this message, this is already half of the cure. We don’t need all these vaccines. Every country is now trying to be the first to release a vaccine against the coronavirus, not in order to cure humanity, but to make money on it.

This is exactly the opposite action. Every country wants to sell a vaccine. It is not proud of the fact that it can save all of humanity, it does not offer everyone: “Take our vaccine and be treated!” No, it says, “Buy this.” That is, here we are acting exactly opposite of how this blow directs us. And so the vaccine will not bring any improvement.

But we already have a cure for the coronavirus, we have a vaccine. And it is very simple: a kind attitude toward each other neutralizes all viruses. Did you want a vaccine? You have it! Everyone has a cure for the virus in their hearts. Use it! Nothing is needed other than this.

This antivirus in the heart is love, unity, closeness of the heart. It is the most reliable medicine that destroys all viruses. Let’s run clinical trials like trial vaccines are being tested now. We will organize a group in which people really start to get closer to each other, and make sure that they are not affected by the coronavirus.

And in this a woman with her mother’s heart has a special role. If women really wanted to get rid of the coronavirus, and realized that this was possible due to their joint efforts, they would do it.

Otherwise, the epidemic will grow, because the summer is over and children are returning to school. And then the time will come for holidays, festive gatherings and prayers. If we leave everything as it is, there will be no end to the blows. Nature will not yield.

We are in a new era called the “last generation,” and we must come to love our neighbor as ourselves. Only this can be a cure for all diseases that are now awaiting humanity, in all forms. We don’t even know where to expect blows from, but they will come.

We hope that women all over the world will hear us and understand that in the heart of every person, and especially women, there is a power that can save everyone. It seems that the relationship between people has no connection with the virus, with chemistry and biology, but in fact it does. Our relationship has the highest, hidden power, and therefore, only by correcting them, can we cope with viruses. Otherwise, we will all suffer, and above all, women.

Understanding that the virus appears as a result of an egoistic connection between us, and good relations destroy the virus and serve as a medicine—this very knowledge will already begin to heal us. Good relationships are the source of all good, and the lack of such connection is the source of all evil, and the coronavirus is meant to prove it to us.

A woman as a mother should direct the whole family to treat others kindly. Do you remember how our mother instructed us, sending us to school or walking in the yard: “Be a good child, do not fight, and then they will not hurt you either. Cross the street only along the proper passage. Take care of others, help them, and then they will help you too.” This is called being a “good kid.” So let’s all be good kids. And women, mothers, must tell us this. After all, we do not lose anything by it!

Why do we teach children to behave well on the street and are confident that it will do them good? Because we know that kindness evokes kindness in return. And it’s the same here, let’s become kinder to each other and see how it helps. And if it suddenly does not destroy the coronavirus, then what do we lose by limiting our selfishness a little, which brings us so many troubles?

It is worth trying the medicine that is already within us. It already exists, we don’t need to invent anything. And I am sure that if we use this medicine that is in our heart, we will defeat all viruses.
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From KabTV’s “Women in the New World” 8/30/20

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How To Get Out Of Misery

622.01Question: How not to pass suffering on to others? Should suffering be hidden?

Answer: I think that it is advisable not to convey negative feelings to people. To do so because it makes it easier for you is super-egoism. Therefore, we must try, on the contrary, to play in front of people and put on a “good face”.

Question: Is it despite the fact that you are suffering and feel bad yourself?

Answer: Yes. Then you will get out of it quickly because when you show others that you are in a good mood, you will enter it yourself.

Question: Do you kind of get out of your suffering and enter a good mood in order to convey it to others? This in fact is high aerobatics. What about a Kabbalist when he suffers?

Answer: A Kabbalist, suffering, laughs at himself. Really laughs at himself. Because there is no reason for suffering at all! Except for our petty selfishness.

Therefore, if you laugh at it, you can quickly get out of it. I saw it on my teacher. This is, of course, an excellent example of how a person can rise above suffering.

Question: But is the suffering itself felt at this moment?

Answer: Of course. This he cannot remove. He can only try to rise above it. In principle, according to Kabbalah, it is forbidden to destroy suffering, eradicate it, or erase its source, but it is necessary to rise above it.

Question: So there is both suffering and my rise above it?

Answer: Yes. Then, in the difference between them, you begin to feel the greatness of the Creator.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 5/18/20

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According To The Law Of Mutual Completion

95Question: You say that new values should include knowledge of the global laws of nature and their observance in family relationships, in particular, in cases of conflict between generations. Can you name at least one such law?

Answer: This is the law of mutual completion. For example, in a family, one exists in a certain volume on a natural level: the smallest are the most important. And the older and stronger a person is in the family, the more he owes the rest. This type of law should also exist in society.

Question: For thousands of years, there have been conflicts between women and men, between fathers and children, between nations and countries. What does nature want to show us?

Answer: Nature wants to demonstrate that we must rise above these conflicts to become one family. And in the family, there is mutual completion. Everyone makes their own feasible contribution to the common piggy bank: a small child with his participation and warmth, the adult with his greater participation, greater contribution.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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Nine Important Rules In Life

571.04Remark: People have developed several universal rules of society. Do they stem from the Kabbalistic point of view, and do we need to adjust ourselves and follow them?

The first rule is: “Try to fill your life and the lives of your loved ones with love. This way you will attract favorable circumstances and prosperity. However, displaying aggression in any form will manifest itself in a constant deterioration in the quality of life and in failure in general.”

My Reply: This is partly true. However, it is better to say: show love to others throughout your life and not just to your loved ones. Then your life will be filled with a completely new, upper meaning.

Remark: “There is absolutely nothing random in life. With your thoughts, words, actions, and deeds you shape your current reality and your future.”

My Reply: This is correct. But only if we understand how to do the right thing. Otherwise, we may think that we are doing the right thing, and life all of the sudden trips us up.

Doing the right thing means to move clearly toward the purpose of creation, not as we want or think, but in the way that it actually corresponds to the program of nature.

Remark: The next rule is related to the previous one: “Our thoughts shape the events and reality of each of us. Learn to think positively and you will create a reality that will please you. And vice versa: rage, anger, hatred, envy, and pride attract failures and bad luck.”

My Reply: I cannot create my life in my fantasies. I have to do this by properly adhering with others, in the correct connection with others: I with them and they with me. If I create my life out of this good connection, then it will really be good.

Question: Many people believe in God. Nowadays even atheists are coming to the conclusion that there is something that controls us. Can a person be connected with the upper universe? How can we connect correctly?

Answer: There is no individual who controls us. God does not exist.

There is a single law of nature, which we must obey. Then we will begin to attain it, and through good connection with it, we will really become masters of our own destiny. We will become Gods provided that we are completely similar to this upper force, the quality of bestowal and love.

Remark: Another rule: “No matter how serious your offenses are, the universe still loves each one of you. Remember, however, that it is giving us what we need at this very moment, which is known only to it.”

My Reply: Yes, that is correct. You can say so.

Remark: One of the main universal laws is the law of equivalence of form. If you do not love yourself, then others will not love you or will neglect you.

My Reply: I need to love others and only others. Only for their sake and only for them. This is the only correct rule.

Question: Where can I find an example of this?

Answer: In the fact that now you love yourself egoistically. Imagine that you have to switch over and love others in the same way.

Remark: “There is absolutely everything inside a person: power, fame, honor, money, and beauty. The task is to release all the abundance into the reality around you.”

Answer: Indeed, if a person gives everything he has to others, he will be the happiest, the wisest, the most corrected, and everything will be good for him.

Question: What does it mean “to give everything he has to others?”

Answer: He will be bringing them to the most comfortable, the best, the most perfect state, not to what they want, but to what actually exists at the top of nature. Just like a mother who wants to educate a child: she does not do everything the child wants, but does the best possible for him so that he reaches the most perfect state.

Remark: “Do not classify people around you into good and bad.” Is there a correct criterion by which people can be evaluated?

My Reply: Of course. A person who does everything for the benefit of society is good and vice versa.

Remark: “For the universe, there are no such concepts as guilt, punishment, and so on. It is important not to ask “What do I need all this for?” But, “Why do I need all this?”

My Reply: This is correct.

Question: Does the universe have such concepts as guilt or punishment?

Answer: Improvement. Correction. It is to lead a person to the need to be in complete bestowal to everyone.

Question: What is the most important rule of the universe?

Answer: Love.

Question: How can one learn to love?

Answer: You cannot learn that. You have to teach yourself. Constantly, in a group, in connection with your own kind, according to the method of Kabbalah. This is exactly the result of the correct implementation of the method of Kabbalah.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 1/7/20

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627.2Question: Do you agree with the statement that parenting is necessary for the parents themselves? After all, when I bring up children, I improve myself.

Answer: Of course, however, future parents need to be educated before they have children. And even after that, it is imperative that parents are clearly accompanied by all sorts of relevant organizations and specialists.

Question: In different cultures, relations between generations develop in different ways. There are cultures in which parents are very helpful to their children, and there are cultures that believe that children should develop themselves. How much do you think parents should help children and until when?

Answer: I think parents should help their children all their lives, but only to such an extent that would not constrain the children and would allow them to become independent parents themselves.

Nevertheless, parental care for their children should accompany them throughout their life. Likewise, children should mutually care for their parents.

Question: Do you think that at some stage children are obliged to start taking care of their parents?

Answer: Naturally. No one can replace this relationship. You can inundate the elderly with money and various types of services, but if the children do not take care of them, no one can replace them.

Comment: This is especially important today.

Answer: Unfortunately, today we have done everything to avoid taking care of either children or parents.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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The Education Of A Lifetime

567.04Question: The aspects of family are the birth of offspring, the satisfaction of sexual needs, emotional support for each other, and the upbringing of children.

Almost a third of our lives are devoted to their education. What is the reason for such a long period? After all, this is not observed in the animal world. Why is it arranged so?

Answer: Man is a very complex being. A person needs to be brought up so that he can not only maintain himself at the animalistic level, but also be a social being and get the skills to interact with his own kind.

These are not just skills in a pack that clearly dictates the rules of behavior from a young age and is understood by all. There is a different adaptation of the person to the environment. He must understand the psychological, internal, mental, and spiritual state of others in order to be in the right balance with them.

Question: The more a society develops, the more time is needed to develop communication between people. If a few thousand years ago 5 to 10 years were enough for this, then today or in the future it will be necessary to educate people for life?

Answer: Sure. Why not? We will learn and work on ourselves all our lives, and all our lives we will change ourselves and the world around us.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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The Kabbalistic Criterion Of Generation

933Question: A generation is a collection of people living in a certain historical period of time. It can be identified according to three criteria: one shared historical era, shared specific patterns of behavior, and a certain shared collective life experience in it.

In what periods would you divide generations based on the laws of nature?

Answer: Observing our history over thousands of years, it is possible to divide the eras according to some specific criterion. Since I am engaged in the science of Kabbalah, I divide everything that happens in our world, including generations, according to humanity’s aspiration to the goal of creation.

Therefore, the period starting from ancient Babylon when the method of Kabbalah was created under the leadership of the ancient Babylonian priest Abraham, who made a spiritual revolution and called people to unite on the principle of “love your neighbor as yourself,” is very important for me.

Remark: In the holy books, this generation is called the generation of the diaspora.

My Comment: Indeed, it gave impetus to the dispersion of people around the globe. The next generation is the generation of the exodus from Egypt, the realization of egoism as evil, the rise of the group of Abraham above their egoism.

Question: Ten generations passed from Adam to Noah and from Noah to Abraham. What did the sages base their judgement on dividing these generations and giving them names, for example, “the generation of the desert”?

Answer: We are talking about a group of people who lived in the urge to find the meaning of life, to reveal what governs humanity, the reason and purpose of its origin, and where it goes. Therefore, first of all, it is necessary to determine what can be called a generation. I believe that it is the aspiration that people have regarding the purpose of creation. That is how I divide all historical intervals into generations. They are very different at that. There are generations that may be a thousand years old, and there are those that change over the course of several decades or even less.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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The Essence Of Generational Conflicts

293Question: Psychologists say that the cause of generational conflicts is inequality between fathers and children. Do you think there can be friendly relations between them? After all, usually there is a certain disregard for children on the part of fathers: “What do you understand?” And the same with the children. Can they be on equal footing?

Answer: No, parents and children should not be equal. This would only harm a child. You should be his senior friend. Not just a friend, but a senior friend.

Question: Often the center of conflict between generations is the issue of freedom from the norms and values of the previous generations. Each generation changes its values, and this leads to disagreements. Do you agree with this statement?

Answer: Naturally. I belong to both societies, I know both generations well, and therefore I absolutely agree with this.

Question: Are there any universal values that could reduce the gap between generations?

Answer: The value should be above both the religious and secular society. It consists in absolute merging with integral nature, which is the upper force, the highest value, the highest quality. Therefore, we must explore this nature and be connected with it.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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Loneliness Kills

293Some time ago, there was a suicide: a young man, an Israeli, a school teacher, committed suicide. He had a steady job, students, good health, and good looks, but was lonely.

In his farewell post on Facebook he wrote, “It’s bad when a person is alone. Loneliness kills. Day after day passes, month after month, year after year, and I am alone all the time: at lunch, at work, in the evening, on weekends, on holidays, on birthdays that no one remembers. The few friends I had disappeared over time. It’s time for me to go.”

This young man was not an exceptional case. According to statistics, even before the coronavirus, almost half of Americans felt lonely all the time or from time to time. 54% said they do not have close friends—that is about 200 million people in the US alone.

Loneliness is not only an American phenomenon. According to surveys, about one-third of Britons often feel lonely. Half of Britons over the age of 65 spend time with their TV, dog, or cat. In America and Canada, single people occupy 28% of all homes, and in European countries—34% or more. Since the beginning of the coronavirus epidemic, the problem of loneliness became even more acute.

Why do people feel more alone than ever in the most sociable era in human history? This indicates that there is no connection between us, despite the fact that we seem to be connected. We invent new communication devices: radio, television, the Internet, computers with an infinite number of different programs.

Yet, all this does not give a person fulfillment. One can find company, but it does not meet his inner demand to feel an internal connection, mutual dependence, like with the people that you are close to so that we are really interested in each other’s lives and do not just ask out of politeness.

There is no heartfelt connection between us. It turns out that I do not owe anything to anyone, and no one owes me anything. I do not need anyone, and nobody needs me, so I am not really connected to anyone.

When a person feels this way internally, it cuts them off from life. After all, what else is there in it? Sky, earth, air, houses, cars, all this fuss? The life on the screen of a TV or computer does not touch me, does not require my participation and help. In other words, our connections lack heart. This is the reason that so many people suffer from loneliness and even end up taking their own lives.

It would seem that it is good not to depend on anyone. However, we see that this is not the case. We want to be bound to each other by mutual obligations so that someone is important to me, and I am important to someone, and not just a statistical unit. I want to be a person so that someone is interested in me.

No one taught us at school how to communicate with each other. At work, too, no one is interested in the person himself, rather the worker is important. We have not built a society that binds people with friendly relations, with care for each other. The means of communication are only called that, but what do they connect us to? We have lost the correct direction of our aspirations.

Even the connection between parents and children disappeared: parents go to work early in the morning and return late at night. As soon as the children have the opportunity to leave their parents’ homes, they immediately run away. If they stay, it is only because there is nowhere to go and it is more cost-effective to stay with their parents, that is, this is an attitude of a consumer.

Mother will always feed, clothe, and give shelter. Yet, I am not going to create such a family myself. I was not brought up for family relationships. I lived in a family where my mother and father went to work for the whole day, and I did not see the family. The family once existed where a woman stayed at home with children and a man went to work. In the evening, the whole family gathered together and looked at each other because there was no TV. There were many children in the families and the grandparents were also there.

Today there is no such thing, today children lock themselves in their rooms with a computer and have their own life. We grow up to be indifferent, devoid of human sympathy, and do not need each other. At least, the way we are now—we do not need each other. Loneliness is the result of all this.

However, people suffer from loneliness, they want connection. They do not want to commit themselves, but a person is a social being, and therefore cannot live without society. A person needs to rely on the society to be associated with it and to learn from it. If you do not talk to him, do not take an interest in him, then he grows up to be an animal and not a human.

Therefore, it is not surprising that it is good people, educated people, who are drawn to society, to connection with others, who see that such life is worthless.
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From KabTV’s “Global Perspectives” 8/16/20

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Children And Questions About Death

570Question: How do you advise answering children’s questions about death? At what age can you talk to children about such topics? Should I take my child to a funeral?

Answer: I would not advise talking with children about death and taking them to a cemetery until they are 15 years old.

Question: And if they themselves ask such questions? They say that at the age of 10 or 11 they already begin to take interest in this.

Answer: Naturally. But I would not recommend it. Better to distract them from it. The child should not overload his psyche with such things. Let him study.
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