Entries in the 'Children' Category

Correctly Realize Your Inclinations

600.02Question: Does it harm a person to be changed, for example, from left-handed to a right-handed?

Answer: Of course, any intrusion in the natural inclinations of a person is harmful. We must give a person the right to freely develop his or her qualities and based on them participate in the general correction of all mankind and the common soul. It is then that we will be able to realize everyone correctly and achieve harmony.

Therefore, Kabbalistic education is based on the fact that in no case do we get inside a person and say what is bad in him and what is good. We only fill him with knowledge from the inside, and he will realize this knowledge as soon as he can.

Question: So it does not matter if a child is right-handed or left-handed?

Answer: It does not matter at all with what inclinations a person was born. He may be weak, clumsy, limited, not brilliant, but if he fulfills his purpose and realizes himself, he reaches his perfection.

Then, in a spiritual state, he feels absolutely like everyone else. After all, if he was created with such qualities and this is exactly what is part of him in the common soul, then he does not need anything else. He attains the same perfection as the highest righteous souls. Absolutely the same because the system is integral.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Left-handed and Right-handed” 8/11/11

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How to Raise Confident Children

281.02Question: Should we give money to children?

Answer: Generally, yes. It depends on what it is for, but for sure, we should. On the one hand children should understand the value of money, and on the other hand what can be done with it and how.

Question: Did you give money to your children?

Answer: Of course.

Question: How do we raise confident children?

Answer: This is a problem. The most important thing is to show them that they can be confident in themselves.
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From KabTV’s “Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips” 5/18/23

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Choosing a Name for a Child

559Question: Does the choice of a person’s name play any role? Where does a name come from?

Answer: Yes and no. The fact is that the name of a person is supposedly given by accident by his parents. Why the parents had a desire to give him or her a particular name seems to be their business.

In fact, the name speaks of the inner essence of a person. There is nothing random in the world because everything is absolutely predetermined! But we do not know that.

What if your name is so-and-so and my name is so-and-so? Our parents wanted to name us that, based on the circumstances, i.e., on the advice of relatives, or a young mother read a novel and wanted to name the child by the name of its character.

Let’s say the name Madonna or Diana is popular today. At one time, the name Angela was popular, and so on. It does not matter. The popularity of names does not matter. It is predetermined anyway. Therefore, any hint of anything contains an internal source.

Do you think you can guess the qualities or fate of a person by their name? This is unavailable to us unless you are Wolf Messing. It was enough for him to look at a person, and he immediately saw both his name and his fate. It is written down in nature but not for our use.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Choosing a Name for the Child” 5/7/11

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“What do you think are the responsibilities of a school principal?” (Quora)

Dr. Michael LaitmanMichael Laitman, On Quora: What do you think are the responsibilities of a school principal?

Other than being well-educated and having experience, a school principal is a person who needs to understand children’s and teenagers’ characters.

They need to be special people in that they have patience, an understanding of human nature, and knowledge of how to modulate the school atmosphere.

School principals need to make room for everyone and try to reveal among everyone a tendency toward a positive connection, creating a peaceful school climate.

It is quite a complicated role and I am not sure that there are many such people.

Based on the video “What Is a School Principal According to a Kabbalist?” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman and Oren Levi. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.

Origin of Names

627.2Comment: It often happens that a person changes his name or surname in the hope of changing his fate.

My Response: I do not take it seriously. Perhaps he will start behaving differently, but it is purely psychologically.

Comment: However, I noticed a pattern that people with the same names behave the same way as if they have some kind of program.

My Response: Maybe. I can agree with this.

Question: Is there any connection with spirituality in the fact that you were called Michael?

Answer: I do not know. I think I was named after my grandfather. This is a very ancient name that goes back to biblical times to the angel Michael.

Most of the names of mankind are of biblical origin. In general, these are Jewish names, only slightly adapted to other languages.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Choosing a Name for a Child” 5/16/11

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Controlling Reality through One’s Attitude to Others

627.1Question: How can I control my reality?

Answer: We cannot control our reality directly but only through our actions, through our attitude to others. If we treat others correctly, we will positively change our own data, and then reality will be manifested in us clearly, correctly, and consistently.

Question: How do you understand how you can really be useful to people and do it with pleasure?

Answer: You can be useful to people only if you try to help them reach the correct goal. That is, imagine that this person is your child, and you are therefore trying to help him and support him. This is the most important thing. If we treat each other like this, we will become like a group of good children.
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From KabTV’s “Blitz of Kabbalah Tips” 5/18/23

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The Main Factor of Education

917.01Question: When I was a child from ages six to sixteen, my parents drove me to the stadium to run five kilometers. Every weekend we went to the mountains for a 24 kilometer run. After that, I developed a wild hatred for sports.

When you give a child an education that will help him in the future, how can you make sure that he does not get scared and does not run away from it?

Answer: Education should take place under the influence of the environment. Parents are, of course, good. But in principle, in any society a child is not educated by by parents. He is educated by the environment, by the community, by some great big family like a flock.

Already in the womb, the baby is being brought up there. Then he is born and is raised next to his mother, near her breast, and after that he moves away a little and his education takes place under the influence of society.

That is, first comes the internal animalistic development, then, after birth, the external, preparatory one, the period of nursing. Until the age of three, he is not a socially developed being, but from the age of three, society becomes included in his education.

Here no influence of parents as such should be traced. It is the influence of society that shows a person that it is important, that interaction with it is important, and that integration in it is important.

This is the correct education, especially in our time when we are entering the period of a global integral society, which is still being formed and will happen some way or other. Therefore, the more we teach the child the art of communication and integration with society, the better this is for him. Then the society will tell whether he should run to the stadium.

But only together with others. Then it will be simpler, easier, more interesting, and more attractive for him. He will do it with pleasure, and not under pressure from his parents.

See what impressions you have. If you did it with your peers, you might have done work ten times harder, but you would have been inspired, like with all the games in childhood.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Influence of Society” 4/30/11

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Elderly People and Children: A Protective Reaction of the Body

503.02Question: It is believed that elderly people and children have a lot in common, but they have different levels of consciousness. Elderly people start having memory problems.  Children simply do not understand somethings, and some elderly people instantly forget what is happening. Why is it like this?

Answer: In both children and adults, this is a reaction of the body that protects itself from unnecessary influences. Children’s bodies just protect them from being overloaded with unnecessary information that can harm them. For elderly people, this is how protection is expressed as their body is no longer able to implement this information. Therefore, their gradual decline occurs.

The factor of the environment is very important here; it makes people work and constantly generates new sensations, qualities, and attainments.

Therefore, studying Kabbalah can radically change a person. We are not talking about fate, not about the length of life, how long a person is given to live, but, in principle, “how to live” is of great importance because if people were engaged in spiritual development, their quality of life would be completely different.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. What Is Childhood and Old Age?” 4/16/11

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Worry For A Child

627.2Question: How should you let a child move into life independently?

Answer: This is a problem. Be that as it may, I think you should not try to let him go until he feels that he can go on his own and do something.

Question: How can you determine that a child is already independent?

Answer: He himself will determine this by his actions, by his thoughts. You will see it on him. But there is no need to rush.
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From KabTV’s “Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips” 5/18/23

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What Do Elderly People Have in Common with Children?

567.04Question: What do children and elderly people have in common? After all, at some point in their lives, they become exactly the same.

Answer: Children and the elderly feel the simplest common values of this world. The main thing is that the body is comfortable, and everything else is the meaning of a small life.

Children try to find meaning in their games, in anything. And elderly people are like that too. That is, both of them “descend” to a state where they need very little from this world.

Children are still not interested in many things because it goes beyond their desire. And for the elderly, this has already gone beyond the scope of desire. Children have not yet experienced the peak of egoism, and the elderly have survived it and are not pursuing anything anymore.

A Kabbalist is in this state almost all his life. He is not running after anything. Let’s say you offer me a huge limo instead of my car or some huge apartments instead of two small rooms. What for? What will it give me? Basically, I do not need anything from life anymore. The child does not need it either, he has his own toys and he feels good.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. What is Childhood and Old Age?” 4/24/11

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