What Is the Rubbing of Hearts?
What is the rubbing of hearts—a feeling of closeness to another? After all, I am in an egoistic desire and even perceive closeness from the point of view of my own benefit. I cannot do it any other way—I do not have another nature yet.
So, what can we do? How can we try by force to bring our heart closer to the heart of a friend to such an extent that we feel the heat between our hearts, the resistance?
We want to connect, we realize that it is necessary. And at the same time we understand that we are not able to do it, that it is impossible to come to one heart. And as we try to connect again and again and each time we are pushed away from each other, we begin to feel the friction of our hearts. And the stronger this friction and inability to penetrate into the heart of another, it just means that the heart is already ready for a genuine connection.
We know from the experience of spiritual life that if you try to get closer to someone to whom you do not feel inner rejection, it is quite easy to do. It is nice to be together, but such people usually do not get very far.
Those who advance are those who have a hard heart, are very stubborn and selfish, and do not feel or understanding others.Therefore, we are given the mind to realize this spiritual principle and understand that we are obligated, by overcoming, to grasp the end of the thread connecting us.
And since we do not allow ourselves and the other to lose this connection, and out of hopelessness we remain connected in order to feel and recreate the system of Adam HaRishon, we continue until drop by drop everything is added to the large score, and the mind begins little by little to connect to the feeling. Then we see that they can really go together and unite according to desire and feeling. This is how we achieve the rubbing of hearts.
The more space I free up in my heart for the heart of a friend, the stronger we can connect.
Rabash writes in Letter No. 40: Through the friction of the hearts, that is, when each one prepares his heart for the connection with others, even of the strongest ones, each will bring out warmth from the walls of his heart, and the warmth will ignite the sparks of love until a clothing of love will form. Then, both of them will be covered under one blanket, that is, nothing separates them anymore and vice versa, that which separated them now becomes their common blanket, one shell, meaning a single love will surround and envelop the two of them, as it is known that Dvekut [adhesion] unites two into one. And then they seem to have one heart because they are covered with one blanket that holds them together, turning them into one body.
In every human body there are billions of different, alien cells that perform different functions each with its own purpose. But all are connected into one body, surrounded by one skin, and therefore are considered one organism, one structure.
We and the entire universe are built according to this principle within which we come to the concept of a structure called the Creator beside whom there is nothing.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/21/23, “Preparation for Opening the Heart at the Congress”
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