Answer: If you are in a group, you do not need to accumulate suffering. You need to collect the friends’ aspirations and desires and elevate them to the Creator, like how parents ask for their children. This is what we all need to do.
If everyone asks for others, it will be a serious request. The Creator pays attention not to the actual desires that He awakens in us, but to the way we, through our efforts, leave our desires, take the desires of the friends, and ask for them. The most important thing is the quality of our appeal to the Creator.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 2/6/19