Question: Why after having gone through sufferings and seeing the results they led to, do you understand that it could not be any other way and you justify them, but when you are going through them, you cannot justify them?
Answer: You really cannot. If you think in advance: “Now I am ready for all kinds of sufferings, and trials, anything there is, because they will reveal the whole world to me, spiritual sensations!”—it is good. But after a minute of experiencing suffering, you are ready to drop everything and run away just not to feel it.
Later, you justify everything. This is how the person is created.
Question: Does this have a spiritual root?
Answer: Yes, these are the two lines that cannot yet be combined within us.
Question: So, I cannot justify them while suffering, and only later can I understand whether they were useful?
Answer: Correct suffering is felt only in the group. It is a lack of communication between the friends, lack of mutual guarantee, mutual obligations, mutual upliftment. Everything else is completely unnecessary suffering, and it is better to avoid it.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 11/18/18