All the changes are made by the Light that Reforms, but the desire to change comes from the environment. The Creator keeps the covenant between us, but we obligate Him to do so, as it says: “My sons have defeated me.”
We have to establish the right environment below that will become “Knesset Israel, the assembly of Israel, yearning for the Creator,” an assembly is a Minyan, a group of ten.
This happens according to the laws of spiritual induction, the equalization of frequencies and the equalization of attributes. It isn’t you who changes and it isn’t you that changes anything, but it is you who performs the actions that will bring about the change in you. This is how it happens on every step: you have to perform the actions and the Creator makes the changes. If your actions are not successful yet, it means that you haven’t succeeded in reaching an adaptation to the Light in your connections with others. You haven’t reached the right frequency range yet.
From the 2nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 5/20/13, The Zohar