Question: How can I correct my ego? What should I do with the pain it causes me?
Answer: Simple, think only about how to do good unto others and rejoice at their joy. This is the only way we can transcend ourselves.
Question: But I am a human being! If I am cut it hurts. How can I think about others if I feel pain now?
Answer: Try to be in him instead of in you despite the pain. Is there any other way?
When you reach the state that you want to be in someone else instead of yourself and to feel only him and even the group, since there everything is “spread out,” and everything is selfless, and you cannot do that, the Creator will help you.
He will come to your aid, since here you are already asking for a change that you cannot perform by yourself. Then He will come and take you to the next level.
It is an anti-egoistic action. In the meantime you are not asking for it yet. When you cry out not because you feel bad in the exile on Egypt, but because you cannot bestow since you are in your ego, you will be awarded with the exit to the upper world!
However, you shouldn’t just hope for this, but act! You should clearly understand what it means to exit the ego, what the revelation of the Creator means, and what spiritual birth means.
If you want to perform anti-egoistic actions, it means that your suffering shouldn’t interest you anymore! You should only be interested in bestowal: “No matter what I feel, I cannot bestow, and that hurts. It hurts!” Then you are allowed to enter the upper world.
From the Convention In Krasnoyarsk Day One 6/14/13, Lesson 3