Question: I want to ask you about tears, not children’s, but adults’. Undoubtedly, when an adult cries,  you immediately sense some depth of pain, tragedy, offense, or happiness. Adult tears immediately draw attention. You cannot remain indifferent to them. Today, I was walking down the street, and a woman passed by quietly crying. I shuddered. I wanted to ask what happened, but did not dare. And if you suddenly see a man crying, that is something entirely different. So what is it about tears?

Answer: There is a lot in tears, in general, in that internal small stress that those tears carry.

Question: So what is it that I am pouring out?

Answer: It is cleansing, a person cries it out.

Question: So one must cry it out to the end?

Answer: It is not easy. Especially for us men. It only happens sometimes when special emotional events occur, when you feel that you are finding something, but these are not women’s tears.

Question: Are men’s tears not women’s?

Answer: Absolutely not. That is where a clear boundary between men and women is revealed. So much so that a woman cannot cry for male reasons, and a man for feminine reasons. There is nothing to be done. That is why we are two, and not one unified being.

Question: But the reason for this is not just different tears. Or are the tears themselves different?

Answer: The tears are different, of course; they are different systems. Oh, how different they are! In men, it goes through the brain, and in women, it goes through the heart and womb.

Question: Seriously?

Answer: Yes. In men, it is a little through the heart but mostly through the brain. And in women, it is through the heart and primarily through the womb. It is very hard to express. But it is felt.

Question: So it goes through future birth?

Answer: Through those systems that are called male and female.

A man cries when he realizes something profound, and when that realization merges with his feelings for it. And a woman cries when it all passes through her system. After all, they are completely different people. They are from different worlds!

Question: Completely different worlds?

Answer: Of course.

Question: Then what does the union of these worlds mean? A union of these tears: male and female.

Answer: They do not unite. They unite only in the Creator when they rise above themselves in order to reveal their shared, common root. Only there can they unite, reveal the Creator, and truly reveal each one in the other.

And that is why there is this special attraction between us, this polarity of the sexes, and so on. It is a very complex system of relationships.

Question: So the real union arises there, in the Creator?

Answer: In heaven.

Question: It is all created in heaven. The true union is in heaven?

Answer: Of course.

Comment: You are not a sentimental person, but why is it that when we speak about your teacher, Rabash, I often see your eyes suddenly get wet, you become different? Different!

Answer: Nothing can be done, because the root of my soul is in him. That is why I am different.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 5/14/25

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Question: Was it hard for you to communicate with your teacher RABASH from the standpoint of mentality?

Answer: Absolutely not. In terms of mentality, we were very close. He was a Polish Jew from the beginning of the last century. I was a Belarusian Jew who grew up on the outskirts of Vitebsk in a town where many Jews once lived. The spirit, the way of life, the habits—it all lingered there, and I somehow picked it up.

In principle, when you study Kabbalah, all of this does not matter. But I understood RABASH as a person, with all his habits. I grew up in a town with just a few houses: my grandparents lived in one, some relatives in another,  a little farther away lived more relatives, and so on. It was all very natural for me.

From childhood, I had memories that exactly matched the stories of RABASH. So in terms of everyday life, I had no conflicts or problems with him.

Of course, he had his own habits that he picked up in Israel, after emigrating from Poland. He loved coffee very much because he had lived for many years in Jerusalem with his father Baal HaSulam, who was a great coffee lover. They would pour boiling water over a spoonful of ground black coffee and drink it. Baal HaSulam needed twenty of these glasses a day, if not more, and cigarettes.

My teacher also smoked, not ordinary cigarettes, but very strong tobacco, first without a filter, then with one.

They experienced many upheavals in life. After Baal HaSulam was forbidden to publish a newspaper, he suffered a heart attack, and shortly after, he was diagnosed with cancer.

My teacher went through the death of his daughter and her husband, who passed away just six months apart. Her husband had been the right hand of RABASH, his helper in everything. They died a year before I came to him. Yes, he had serious problems. All Kabbalists do.

That is why I think we are the first and the happiest, probably because we are weak and unworthy of serious trials. Very little is given to us. On the contrary, we receive good feedback for whatever we do. That is why we are able to spread Kabbalah, develop, hold congresses, attract hundreds, thousands, even more people.

Baal HaSulam and RABASH were not granted any of this. They lived in terrible conditions, worked a thousand times harder than we do, suffered, and in the end received a meager result compared to us if you look at it from the outside. And they died in despair: What is next?

And how did the ARI die? It is documented that when his students asked: “Where are you going from us?” He answered: “If you were worthy, I would have stayed. If you wanted to hear me and listened to what I was saying, they would not have taken me.” This was said by a great Kabbalist, who died at thirty-seven. He knew his students would not continue his work, and before dying, he forbade them to study Kabbalah.

Can you imagine a greater punishment for students than to hear: “I forbid you to study! Go back to your animal state and live.” And you do not dare disobey your teacher.

What happened to most of the students of the ARI we know almost nothing. He allowed only one to continue studying Kabbalah: Chaim Vital, who collected all his writings. The ARI ordered these writings to be buried with him. Some time later, his grave was opened, the writings were taken out, and from them his works were compiled, on which Baal HaSulam based The Study of the Ten Sefirot and other writings. So the Kabbalists of the past went through horrific states!

And Rashbi, who wrote The Book of Zohar? He lived in a cramped cave, near a tiny spring and a carob tree with sweet pods. That is what he and his son ate. In such harsh conditions, they dug into the sand, and they studied Kabbalah. Later eight more students joined them, and together they wrote The Book of Zohar, sitting in that cave, in the cold, in the north of the country! The horror!
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From KabTV’s “I Got A Call. The Links of the Kabbalist Chain from ARI to Rabash” 9/4/10

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Comment: As a rule, a person comes to the study of Kabbalah closer to the age of thirty. You do not really see eighteen-year-olds wanting to know the meaning of life.

My Response: There are both kinds. But at eighteen, the issue is that we need to develop and somehow realize ourselves on the level of ordinary life. Our hormones are active. We need to explore this world, grasp something in it, and come to understand how empty it is. All of this is given to a person.

Many people come to us after they have gone through all that. They have, so to speak, stabilized in their understanding of this world and the lack of anything truly good in it.
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From KabTV’s “I Got A Call. Who comes to Kabbalah?” 9/19/10

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Comment: There are moments when a person clearly knows what they want. Let us say they desire a red car or a three-story brick house, and they strive toward it.

Then there are times when a person feels something inside, but does not understand exactly what it is. There is some kind of abstract form.

My Response: It does not matter. They still want. They still reach for something, and that is what helps them grow.

How do we pursue something as children? Do we really know what we are striving for? We are pushed forward, back and forth, opening things, throwing them, tearing them apart, building, placing, and so on. Just watch what young children do. That is how they develop. Follow their example.

Question: But what is the right way to follow a child’s example? You can seemingly do everything, yet still go about it the wrong way.

Answer: But you are not a small child. You must analyze yourself and your goal with precision. The higher and more eternal and perfect your goal is, the more it is detached from mere animalistic existence, and the more human you become. You need to set a goal and genuinely desire it. How else? If I wake up in the morning and want nothing, then what kind of person am I? That is why I have a schedule for the day, and I must complete everything: answer questions on my blog, prepare materials, appear in a program, give a lesson, and so on. This is my duty, and I cannot escape it.

But beyond that there is another internal program I must fulfill: work on some qualities, some values, conduct clarifications, and bring myself to a certain internal state. This is a necessity! Without this, the day is wasted.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. What Should I Strive For?” 8/30/10

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Question: Can there be such a bond between a man and a woman that they move forward together without conflicts and achieve a common goal?

Answer: It is quite possible. In the future this is how it will be to the extent of aspiration, correction, similarity, and the general ascent of all humanity to a spiritual level.

But for now, we are still in states that have not yet entered the spiritual world. Therefore if a couple has not reached the upper world, they experience very problematic tensions, ascents, and descents that are not synchronous. So there are significant challenges here. It does not matter that they both are studying Kabbalah and want to succeed. In practice, it still does not work out well.

Comment: But you went into this very deeply; you must have had problems in your family.

My Response: My wife has always supported me in everything! The moment we met, I told her that we would definitely move to Israel, that I needed to find the purpose of life, and I did not see that it was possible to do it in Russia. That was 1970. She agreed even though she could have said no. Since then we have had no issues.

I make the main decisions in life. She knows it would not work otherwise. But I, on my part, never rested until I had provided for her. That is, first and foremost I always thought about how to provide for the family. This earthly duty is absolutely clear and definite to me. But everything left after I brought my salary home is mine—the rest is for the soul.

Comment: But she practically does not see you.

My Response: We have a tradition. Once a day we go for a walk in the park and talk for about an hour. I do not think that an average couple has the opportunity to talk daily in a calm setting, without staring at the TV, or a plate at dinner, or exchanging just a few words while she is in the kitchen and he is on a couch in the living room.

You might ask, “What can you talk about every day for so long?” We talk about our grandchildren, about what interests her. I tell her a bit about what I am working on.

Question: About spiritual matters?

Answer: No, about ordinary things. But she feels everything even without studying. She watches our channel and is aware of everything. She has invested a lot into this. She took care of my teacher, cooked for him and did his laundry. As a woman, she did a lot in order to begin understanding Kabbalah. And now she is aware of everything. She listens to the programs, and often criticizes my lessons or talks. So I am genuinely interested in her opinion. In this sense, I am truly satisfied with my life partner.

Question: Does it happen that after a lesson you transmit some kind of energy to your wife, suppose, during a conversation?

Answer: No, none of that is necessary. We just walk and talk. These are all everyday matters. We walk at a brisk, sporty pace, and I share a bit about my activities because our lives revolve around this, and inevitably our children’s lives too.

I hope that when our grandchildren grow up, they too will be part of this system. So even when my wife and I talk about family or other matters, we are still in one way or another discussing things that are part of our Kabbalistic community.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. The Role of Women in the Family” 9/1/10

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Question: If a student moves into the spiritual dimension, does he essentially no longer need a teacher?

Answer: One always needs a teacher!

There is practically no such thing as not having a teacher. In some way it can be a spiritual teacher that is not in a physical body that you can smell, touch, or something else, but it is the same teacher.

For example, I cannot have anyone else except Rabash. I cannot go to study with anyone, since our connection has already manifested itself as a connection between two souls. Such a hierarchy was conceived from the beginning! All this was arranged this way back in the world of infinity, in the connection between souls.

When the time comes, you find your teacher, and you come into contact. There is nothing else here! You just have to agree with this and work.

Question: So your students will not be able to become students of someone else?

Answer: No, not In Kabbalah.

They can try to study somewhere, but all this will be purely mechanical, conditional. It would not be real work.

My students must unite, and work together as equals, as a group, when I am gone. This is how they will lead all of humanity forward.

This entire group, without singling out anyone, must become the spiritual government of humanity, which humanity will feel the need for by that time.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. The Work of the Creator” 9/6/10

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Question: I look at people. Today, anyone can post a video and talk about themselves or others. People write a lot on the internet. There are personal blogs, Facebook, TikTok, YouTube, whatever you want. And in general, we all know what is happening in the world today. What kind of time are we living in now?

Answer: Our entire existence emphasizes our meaninglessness. This meaninglessness is so complete that there is absolutely nothing. That is why there is apathy.

Question: Is this the time for understanding or figuring out why I live? Has that time come now?

Answer: Yes, it is the time to realize that there is no meaning in our life. And where is it?

Question: Where is it?

Answer: It is nowhere.

Question: At the same time, everything I see is joyless, empty. So what should I do? Where is this meaning of life? Where is that something to make me come alive again?

Answer: The meaning of life lies in the fact that there is nature, vast, immense nature, and there is a thought that governs this nature, sets it in motion, and creates it.

It is this thought, this design, this great intention of nature that we must reveal. And then we will get to know the meaning of life.

Life is everything. What does “everything” mean? It is inanimate, vegetative, animate, and human nature. All of it has a certain meaning that lies above all of it. Meaning is what binds, organizes, and moves all of this. So we must rise above our life.

Question: Are you calling on a person to become a scientist?

Answer: Not a scientist, no. We must simply open our eyes.

Question: And understand the intention behind everything?

Answer: Yes, why nature created all of this.

Question: And what is that intention?

Answer: That is exactly what nature is pushing us toward. That is what we must reveal.

The intention is to rise above our world because this world is actually the worst of all worlds. And that is not a poetic expression. To rise above it means to discover this intention, this force, this thought, this design.

And when we attain this thought, we begin to perceive everything beyond time, beyond space, beyond everything. Then a person begins to feel himself on the level of the Creator.

Question: So what is this thought?

Answer: It is harmony. Absolute harmony among all parts of creation. It is something that we lack. And that is why by acting on us in this way, nature is driving us toward attaining that harmony.

This is what we must reveal. We cannot escape from it. We will not be able to just destroy ourselves completely or forget it. We will have to reveal and attain this harmony.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 6/11/25

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Question: You are not a sentimental person, so why is it that when we speak about your teacher Rabash, I often see your eyes suddenly become moist, as if you become a different person. A really different one!

Answer: There is nothing to be done because the root of my soul is in him. That is why I become different.

Question: You found your soul that way, right?

Answer: Yes, that is, somehow, millions of years before I met him, the root of my soul was there, and little by little, I was as if digging for it there until I found it. I do not know how to put it in words.

Question: So your journey through this life, all of your search was leading to this root of your soul in one way or another?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: Then you are a happy person; you found the root of your soul. Everyone needs that.

Answer: Everyone has it, and everyone must search for it.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 5/16/25

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Question: What is your opinion on the claim that there is a suicide gene? They say American scientists have identified 22 suicide-related genes. Does this gene really exist? Do you believe it has an effect?

Answer: As far as a gene, I do not know, I am not an expert in that field. But a predisposition to it certainly exists. The Japanese have it, and there are other peoples and tribes, or historical periods when it appears, and so on.

Question: And how can one supposedly overcome this predisposition or gene?

Answer: With the meaning of life.

Question: Meaning? Only the search for meaning?

Answer: Only that. What else is there? The meaning of life and its correct realization are leading you to a new life even now. You do not need to die or imagine anything. You can see your future world already in this life. It is right in front of you; it only depends on the correct realization.

Question: Can you tell us what the meaning of life is?

Answer: The meaning of life is to change one’s nature from receiving to bestowing, from hatred to love, from rejection to rapprochement with others. Then within these qualities, you will feel an entirely different form of existence. It will be an opposite world.

You will find fulfillment in the act of fulfilling others. And in that, there will be no disappointment.

Comment: It would be wonderful if a person could really live like that!

My Response: We will reach that.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 6/3/25

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Question: Are the desire to want to bestow and the desire to bestow two different Kelim, or is it the same Kli? Can the Creator also be revealed in the desire to want to bestow?

Answer: Yes, all of this will become clearer, more defined, known, and attainable for us.

Question: Outside of our circle, how can we influence what is happening with us now, in Israel? Is there any possibility?

Answer: I do not particularly see what can be corrected in those circles of the Kelim that are not yet engaged.

I think this requires further work on our part. Then we will feel precisely what we are missing.
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From the 3^rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 6/15/2025, “Everything is Obtained By the Power of Prayer”

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