Question: People used to meet and start families. There was happiness in having a child. Let me ask you a strange question. What was the parental happiness in having a child?

Answer: To see their future in the child.

Question: Is that how it should be?

Answer: Yes, of course. Children should be born and they should continue their family line.

Question: Today it seems to have disappeared. Suddenly, for many couples, a child has become a burden. Why?

Answer: Our egoism has divided us, disconnected us, placed everyone in their own corner, and that is it.

Question: But why does egoism need that?

Answer: That is how it works. Our egoism benefits when we are focused only on ourselves and care only about it.

Comment: And concerning our egoism, which is the closest and dearest to us, we say that it is a burden to us.

My Response: It is not the closest and dearest. We say that it is a burden to us because it prevents us from taking care of our true “child,” the one inside ourselves!

Question: So this “I,” my ego, is the closest and dearest?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: Look where we have gotten! I wonder what will come next.

My Response: It will get worse. We will reach a state in which everyone hides in their own corner and does not want to talk to anyone. That is it! I will only order, say, pizza and cola, or something else.

Question: And what will happen then? We are constantly leading humanity to some kind of dead end.

Answer: It is a dead end. Humanity must see its own dead end. But when it becomes clear that it really is a dead end, then an epiphany will come from this dead end—that we cannot continue like this.

Question: Do you think that there can be no awakening before that?

Answer: No, I think we must reach that recognition. In other words, there should be no wars or riots or violent outbursts, but there should be a clear awareness of hopelessness and deadlock. Then we will begin to think: “What should we do?” And then we will remember: “Wait, I once heard something from Kabbalists.”

Question: Yes, there is a book on my shelf, a clip saved, and so on. So they will look and begin moving toward correction?

Answer: I am sure of it.

Question: Do we need to keep dripping it in, putting it on shelves and into computers?

Answer: Absolutely! We have no other choice.

Question: Even if we keep coming to the same results?

Answer: It does not matter. If you have a small child who is growing and developing, you still have to tell him what to do and how to behave properly. You cannot just let it go.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 7/3/25

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Comment: Professor Tatyana Chernigovskaya, a psycholinguist and neurobiologist from St. Petersburg University states: “The future is already here. It’s a different world—not the one we lived in just five years ago. Modern children should be taught how to train their memory, sustain attention, classify information, and to know where to find trustworthy sources, as well as how to behave in a state of constant stress and time pressure.”

Answer: It would seem she is right. But here is the problem. Such a world is neither needed by us nor by our children. Why should they live in constant tension and distrust of all information? Why prepare them for negativity and bring it closer ahead of time?

No! I want to prepare children for a bright future. I want to explain to them how to make the future bright instead of submitting to the “fate of the new age.” The future should be such that it is good for all of us.

This is possible, and Kabbalah shows how to achieve it through proper connection between people in spite of egoism. That is what I would teach children today.

Connection brings forth positive forces of nature, even ones we are unaware of. It will lead humanity to happiness.

Children, and not only children, need to be taught how to build the right kind of connection in which we reveal the kind force of nature, a kind humanity, a kind life, safety, joy, and light. This must be the goal of our education. This is what children should feel. This is the environment in which they should grow.

Otherwise, we will raise gloomy, withdrawn, emotionally repressed egoists, ready for battle and misfortune.

By envisioning a proper future, a kind future between us, we awaken positive qualities in children, positive forces. And then they will call this new world to life.

After all, we are the ones who build the world. It is the result of our relationships.
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From the KabTV Program “News with Michael Laitman”

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Question: A 43-year-old father of five, Justin Smith, created his own YouTube channel. He realized that since his children were constantly glued to their smartphones, he could no longer speak with them in any other way. On this channel, he talks about himself—where he works, and how he travels around the world. He believes that from now on, he will communicate with his children in this way because the gap will be so huge that one can no longer talk to children directly. One must be where they are. What do you think about that?

Answer: I think this is absolutely right. Children have already shifted their attention solely to screens. They do not see the world, they do not see landscapes. You take them out into nature, but they still keep looking at their smartphones.

They get on a plane—they are not interested in the plane. They board a ship—they are not interested in the ship either. They are always on their screens. If you show them a plane on the screen—it is interesting; a ship—it is also interesting; a landscape—it is interesting as well. But only on the screen!

That is, they have a completely different perception now, and we have to take that into account. What else can you do?

Comment: Suppose they have been cut off from landscapes. But in the process, they were also cut off from their father and mother.

My Response: No! Their father and mother are right in front of them on the screen. For the child, it is clear. But when they see a person in real life, it is unclear.

Even when sitting in a café or elsewhere, they do not talk to each other; they communicate only through their smartphones. So how can you avoid this? What can you do? There is no going back.

Our whole world is virtual. What is the difference whether I see my mom and dad on the screen that seems real to me (even though it does not actually exist, it forms some image within me), or I see them on my smartphone? It makes no difference from the perspective of Kabbalah. It is all just a matter of perception. We have slightly changed our sensations, and children have shifted to a more “clip-like” perception of the world. We just need to adapt to that. There is no other way.

And the sooner we adapt, the sooner we will gain contact with the children. And we will suddenly discover that when we place ourselves inside this smartphone, just talking heads of mom and dad, we can demonstrate anything to them, any kind of film! And they will understand it, that is the main thing. Otherwise, they will not understand us. You talk to a child, but he is staring into his gadget.

Question: Do you not think they have simply been deprived of their childhood?

Answer: They have not been deprived of anything! For them, this is childhood. And soon childhood will become even more virtual. What do you want, to go back to caves?

Comment: I would like to go back to the courtyards.

My Response: There is no need! That is your nostalgic memory, but for them, that does not exist. For them, nostalgia is only for the smartphone. Give them an ever more advanced smartphone each time, and that is it, they need nothing more.

Question: What will this eventually lead to?

Answer: To the realization that a person can perceive the entire world through a screen, and that the world itself does not exist. It does not exist! Waterfalls? You can find waterfalls on the screen. You find this, and you find that. Everything people tell me, everything I hear, I see it in front of me.

I do not even need to travel anywhere, by the way. Why would I? Everything is in front of me. The whole universe, the entire tiny Earth, everything is there. Great! I can call any friend and have a conversation with him. There is no need to run anywhere. At most, we can get together and even then, what for? So that everyone still looks at their own screen?

I am sure humanity will create tools to replace these little phones, and we will see a great deal in front of us—whether through special glasses, without glasses, or some other way. We will feel it within.

In fact, this is an approach toward the real world, not our mechanical one, which we also perceive only inside ourselves. We do not actually know what is in front of us because this image of reality is formed within us.

Various forces draw this picture of reality inside me. So why should I break away for the sake of this “reality”? Why do I need these walls, all this stuff? Why? After all, we can live in a completely different state.

Comment: But people love to travel around the world…

My Response: We will create it, make it, and travel that way!

Question: Will the sensation be the same?

Answer: Even better! Where can I travel at my age with a cane? But this way, I can swing from vines like a monkey, swim, dive into oceans—I will do everything! It will be me.

Question: Is that a good thing?

Answer: Why not? Even now we live in an illusory world. And we are heading into the real one, the one we will create ourselves.

In the end, humanity will reach a state where it needs only a smartphone and the bare minimum to satisfy its animal body. What is wrong with that?

Robots will work to provide us with what we need to fill ourselves. And I do not care what I will be filled with when I look into my smartphone, everything else is there.

History, geography, communication, travel, flights, novels, anything you want, it is all in there. Why would I need it all outside? Why build these big towers and all that?

Wonderful! I welcome this world. I do not feel bad for my grandchildren, I am happy for them! Because, in essence, they are building a much better world than the one they received from us.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 11/1/24

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Question: Why is one’s first love not realized? Why? What a feeling!

Answer: So you would always dream about it.

Question: About this kind of love?

Answer: About the very feeling of love, about this feeling. If you were to connect, you would have ruined this feeling. The Creator places it between people and it is in this spiritual form that you strive for it, but it is unattainable.

Question: So the Creator is saying, “Always remember it?”

Answer: Yes, it is in you somewhere.

Question: This feeling when you are ready to give up everything, forget about yourself, lose yourself in another?

Answer: Right.

Question: Is that what gets stuck in a person’s heart like a splinter and remains there forever?

Answer: Yes, everyone has it.

Question: Who do I love? Do I love this person at the time of first love?

Answer: No, you do not even see a person, actually. You are looking at them with the wrong eyes. You are pointed to some spark in a person that attracts you, and that is it. And you want to see this spark all the time.

Question: Is it so I would always look for this kind of love?

Answer: You do not even have to look for it; you are already hooked on it.

Question: Does this happen so I know that love exists?

Answer: Yes, so you know what longing is.

Question: And strive for it?

Answer: Yes, but, as a rule, no one marries their first love.

Question: Is there, as you say, the upper force behind this? Is the Creator behind all this?

Answer: Of course, it all goes according to the upper program! It is well thought out; this is how we get educated.

Question: Can we say that this means that the next sentence will be: “The Creator is love,” “God is love”? Is that what He wants to tell us?

Answer: In the end after you have lived one or more than one life and have accumulated several more such impressions from your first loves. Then you will feel what it truly is, “What is true love?”

Question: Then I will feel it was not about her, but all about the Creator?

Answer: Of course not about her. You did not even see her. They just put a spark in her you have been pursuing all along. So nothing is there.

Therefore, it is very, very rare that people meet for the first time (at school or somewhere else), fall in love, get married, have children, start a family, and so live out their lives. I have seen a few cases like this… I was always interested in watching them. As a rule, they have many children. And they somehow understand each other very, very clearly.

Comment: Yes, these are happy couples.

Answer: This is very rare.

Comment: It is some kind of gift from above.

My Response:: This is given so we realize that we need to seek eternal, upper, true love. Not man to man, or man to a party, or to the motherland. Only to the Creator. Through other people.

Comment: Through love for people, to love for the Creator.

My Response: Yes. Love for the Creator.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 7/6/25

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Comment: There is an amazing way to get acquainted. Just imagine: a guy enters a room, and he is presented with a bunch of different test tubes. He has to determine which smell he likes best, which one he feels is closest to him. He picks one, and then they tell him: “This scent matches this specific girl.” It is the same for girls. She picks a scent, and they say: “Here is your guy.”

My Response: This is very important to us. The cells that respond to smell cover a huge area in our brain.

Question: So could this English method be considered advanced enough?

Answer: It is not advanced; it is old and natural.

Question: So can I actually choose a partner largely by smell?

Answer: Absolutely! There is no doubt that this is how we are drawn to or repelled from each other even unconsciously. And what about all that perfume and such? It is natural. But why am I saying this? That should not be the main criterion.

We should match not on the level of scent, although that is also very important, and not on the level of various other preferences, but on the level of understanding our proper direction toward the purpose of creation.

If we were all striving toward the true purpose of creation, it would have been much easier for us to find a partner, because in essence, we would not differ much from one another. We would not differ.

Question: So one goal, and we are already similar?

Answer: Yes, this goal would unite all of us.

Comment: But that is a very lofty idea. It is very high for young people to talk about the purpose of creation!

My Response: And in the end, what happens? It turns out very low.

Comment: Young guys talking about the purpose of creation?

My Response: They will not invent anything better. What they get is some kind of “love for an hour,” and that is the end of it.

Question: So what should they understand? The purpose of creation? What do you include in that?

Answer: Why am I getting married? Why should I tie my life to this person? In the end, married couples will not hold on to each other. People will just meet, have kids, and split up.

Question: That was exactly my question how can one find a partner for life? And are you saying that it can be done only by this criterion?

Answer: Only the final goal, that is what must hold us together.

Question: And why am I looking for a partner? Why do I get married?

Answer: To reach this ultimate goal together with my partner, in the correct connection with them. But for that, I also need friends and not just partners.

Question: But can you say what the specific goal is? What is the purpose of creation?

Answer: The purpose of creation is to reveal the upper force that governs us. To understand and attain why we exist, what is happening with us, who is leading us by the nose, and where we are being taken.

That is what we need to reveal—to open our eyes, in short, to where we really are.

Question: So that this thirst would be present in both of them, in a guy, in a girl, in people in general?

Answer: Yes, to reveal this need, and together with your partner, gradually move toward it.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 6/4/25

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Question: I want to ask you about tears, not children’s, but adults’. Undoubtedly, when an adult cries,  you immediately sense some depth of pain, tragedy, offense, or happiness. Adult tears immediately draw attention. You cannot remain indifferent to them. Today, I was walking down the street, and a woman passed by quietly crying. I shuddered. I wanted to ask what happened, but did not dare. And if you suddenly see a man crying, that is something entirely different. So what is it about tears?

Answer: There is a lot in tears, in general, in that internal small stress that those tears carry.

Question: So what is it that I am pouring out?

Answer: It is cleansing, a person cries it out.

Question: So one must cry it out to the end?

Answer: It is not easy. Especially for us men. It only happens sometimes when special emotional events occur, when you feel that you are finding something, but these are not women’s tears.

Question: Are men’s tears not women’s?

Answer: Absolutely not. That is where a clear boundary between men and women is revealed. So much so that a woman cannot cry for male reasons, and a man for feminine reasons. There is nothing to be done. That is why we are two, and not one unified being.

Question: But the reason for this is not just different tears. Or are the tears themselves different?

Answer: The tears are different, of course; they are different systems. Oh, how different they are! In men, it goes through the brain, and in women, it goes through the heart and womb.

Question: Seriously?

Answer: Yes. In men, it is a little through the heart but mostly through the brain. And in women, it is through the heart and primarily through the womb. It is very hard to express. But it is felt.

Question: So it goes through future birth?

Answer: Through those systems that are called male and female.

A man cries when he realizes something profound, and when that realization merges with his feelings for it. And a woman cries when it all passes through her system. After all, they are completely different people. They are from different worlds!

Question: Completely different worlds?

Answer: Of course.

Question: Then what does the union of these worlds mean? A union of these tears: male and female.

Answer: They do not unite. They unite only in the Creator when they rise above themselves in order to reveal their shared, common root. Only there can they unite, reveal the Creator, and truly reveal each one in the other.

And that is why there is this special attraction between us, this polarity of the sexes, and so on. It is a very complex system of relationships.

Question: So the real union arises there, in the Creator?

Answer: In heaven.

Question: It is all created in heaven. The true union is in heaven?

Answer: Of course.

Comment: You are not a sentimental person, but why is it that when we speak about your teacher, Rabash, I often see your eyes suddenly get wet, you become different? Different!

Answer: Nothing can be done, because the root of my soul is in him. That is why I am different.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 5/14/25

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Comment: I know a lot of teachers. Almost all of them agree on one thing: today’s generation of children has a grudge against adults.

My Response: It is natural for children to complain about their elders. They believe that everything is owed to them, and that as children they deserve special attention and treatment. In fact, this is true, on one hand.

On the other hand, we do not educate children. School does not make a human out of a child. It makes them into physicists, mathematicians, mechanics, and so on.

This is a problem of all education and upbringing. We give children some kind of education, maybe, but we do not give them upbringing. They come out of school, every day after school and generally after graduation, and they are animals.

Comment: You said a terrible thing: “They are animals.” Are we to blame for this?

My Response: Sure, if parents are busy at work all the time and children are at school and somewhere out there with each other doing who knows what, so what do you want to happen?

Comment: They are more in their smartphones.

My Response: And that is what they get from there until humanity comes to its senses and takes the whole matter into its own hands, under the strictest control that a person cannot see and hear everything that is given to him. He must be educated! An education that provides a very serious attitude to life. If this does not happen, then of course we can see where everything is heading.

Question: A generation has grown up that says terrible things to people. And we raised this generation?

Answer: Of course, it is just us.

Question: What would you say to children if you were a teacher?

Answer: Let us figure out our lives, our relationships, and how to make sure that… Well, okay, we are already old people, but the next generation is you. What should you be like to make life kind, good, confident, safe, and so on? What should we do? How can we raise such people? And we need to talk about it. We need to think about it, because our main task is to raise a person—not mathematics or physics, or anyone else.

Comment: It will not be easy to soften them up.

My Response: No, they should not be pitied. They should still realize a little bit that the world toward which everything is heading is an inhuman, cruel, mechanistic and very unpleasant world, unsuitable for existence.

Question: And will they understand this if you talk to them?

Answer: I think so.

Question: Can these children change?

Answer: Yes, but not with one conversation.

Question: So the change will happen through a series of conversations?

Answer: Even if takes a few years, what is the difference? But we have to push for it all the time.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 5/21/25

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Question: Can you tell us what the meaning of life is?

Answer: The meaning of life is to change one’s nature from receiving to bestowing, from hatred to love, from rejection to rapprochement with others. And then, through these qualities, you will feel a completely different kind of existence. It will be an opposite world.

You will find fulfillment in fulfilling others. And there will be no disappointment in that.

Comment: It would be great if a person could just—snap! — and it happened.

My Response: We will get there.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 6/6/25

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Question: I look at people. Today, anyone can post a video and talk about themselves or others. People write a lot on the internet. There are personal blogs, Facebook, TikTok, YouTube, whatever you want. And in general, we all know what is happening in the world today. What kind of time are we living in now?

Answer: Our entire existence emphasizes our meaninglessness. This meaninglessness is so complete that there is absolutely nothing. That is why there is apathy.

Question: Is this the time for understanding or figuring out why I live? Has that time come now?

Answer: Yes, it is the time to realize that there is no meaning in our life. And where is it?

Question: Where is it?

Answer: It is nowhere.

Question: At the same time, everything I see is joyless, empty. So what should I do? Where is this meaning of life? Where is that something to make me come alive again?

Answer: The meaning of life lies in the fact that there is nature, vast, immense nature, and there is a thought that governs this nature, sets it in motion, and creates it.

It is this thought, this design, this great intention of nature that we must reveal. And then we will get to know the meaning of life.

Life is everything. What does “everything” mean? It is inanimate, vegetative, animate, and human nature. All of it has a certain meaning that lies above all of it. Meaning is what binds, organizes, and moves all of this. So we must rise above our life.

Question: Are you calling on a person to become a scientist?

Answer: Not a scientist, no. We must simply open our eyes.

Question: And understand the intention behind everything?

Answer: Yes, why nature created all of this.

Question: And what is that intention?

Answer: That is exactly what nature is pushing us toward. That is what we must reveal.

The intention is to rise above our world because this world is actually the worst of all worlds. And that is not a poetic expression. To rise above it means to discover this intention, this force, this thought, this design.

And when we attain this thought, we begin to perceive everything beyond time, beyond space, beyond everything. Then a person begins to feel himself on the level of the Creator.

Question: So what is this thought?

Answer: It is harmony. Absolute harmony among all parts of creation. It is something that we lack. And that is why by acting on us in this way, nature is driving us toward attaining that harmony.

This is what we must reveal. We cannot escape from it. We will not be able to just destroy ourselves completely or forget it. We will have to reveal and attain this harmony.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 6/11/25

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Fulfillment that comes to a person from the Creator is incomparable. If a person turns away from it, then naturally, the Creator expresses His jealousy.

Question: So the Creator is telling us: “You have no idea how much I have prepared for you, and you are wasting your love.” Is He implying that there is no earthly love?

Answer: It is given to us only so that we reach heavenly love.

Question: And to turn us toward Him, He gives us all kinds of suffering, pain, and so on?

Answer: He does not give them. He simply shows us His love, which we reject. And we experience this rejected love as suffering. That is all.

Question: So what comes from Him is only love?

Answer: Yes, and if you reject it, you yourself turn it into suffering.

Question: What should we do? What is He calling us to? After all, we do not see Him, we do not know Him, and we do not feel Him.

Answer: That does not matter. You are given the opportunity to direct yourself properly toward Him.

Question: And this, essentially, is one’s main task, the main purpose of life?

Answer: There is nothing else in nature at all.

Question: A person must turn toward the Creator and love Him?

Answer: Yes.

Question: But do we first need to go through earthly feelings or not?

Answer: They should help us reach connection between us and organize that connection as much as possible in the qualities of bestowal and love.

Question: Is that exactly the desire of the upper force?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Will He stop being jealous then?

Answer: There is no jealousy, these are completely different levels.

Question: Yes, but we cannot express it differently. Human language calls it jealousy. Is it actually a level of love?

Answer: It is the level of absolute love.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 6/9/25

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