Happiness is when something you very, very much desired, wanted, suffered for, were in pursuit of, and created such huge aspirations in yourself suddenly begins to be fulfilled, and you begin to feel relief, as if from pain. This feeling can be called happiness.

But there are levels and gradations here: what a person suffers from and, accordingly with this, from what he can be happy. And it turns out that his highest happiness is when he feels himself approaching the Creator, clinging to the Creator like a child to its mother, something like that. Then he feels true happiness. And this is a very strong desire that has been gnawing at him all the time.

He wanted it to happen so badly, and he had already despaired. And suddenly the Creator appears and says, “Well, where are you? I am looking for you!” And a person wants to say: “It is me who is looking for You! Where have You been, not me?!” And so, they rush toward each other, simply without words and without holding back. This is happiness.

Moreover, this is not a merging as in our world, when bodies join, and each body remains with its own volume and sensation. But here it’s like sensations that mutually penetrate each other, and there are no bodies. And such a state appears, truly I do not know how to say it.

Question: This is very beautiful and poetic! It is just that you have never spoken like this before.
And does my “I” disappear? After all, it is me who wanted this. I wanted this after all.

Answer: I want it to disappear! I absolutely don’t need it! But if my “I” disappears, then the feeling of the other will disappear as well. That is why it is arranged so that the “I” does not disappear.

This is explained in Kabbalah that the Aviut (thickness of egoism) does not disappear. And precisely because it becomes greater and greater, we get the opportunity to combine it with the quality of bestowal. And it turns out that the greater the egoism, hatred, the greater the love. And the greater the hatred, and the greater the love.

We don’t understand how this can be. In our flat world, it is all…

Question: Either this or that?

Answer: Yes, we don’t understand. But in the spiritual, it is so.

Question: And to what extent will all this grow: hatred–love above it, hatred–love above it?

Answer: Until the state of infinity.

Question: Until the sensation of infinity?

Answer: Yes, that there is no limit to this.

But it must be felt, otherwise it is meaningless. But it is a very long path to achieve feeling it.
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Question: How should we work with insults? Children do not help their parents; they have practically abandoned them. Someone truly betrayed someone else, someone sold out a friend, and so on. How should we work with these offenses?

Answer: I think we need to reach a level of development at which we will understand that all the people around us are puppets controlled by the Creator so that we can properly correct ourselves in relation to these people, justify them, and wish them well.

Question: Is that possible?

Answer: Generally, yes. Not always and not immediately, but still…

Question: It is a long process, but that is the direction we should go in?

Answer: Yes! Otherwise, you are slandering the Creator. And that is a completely different matter. There the calculation is entirely different—it is a matter of how you perceive the universe: whether it exists on its own, or whether you govern it. If everything comes from above, then we have no other choice but to make ourselves absolutely submissive, agreeable, and capable of changing to resemble this upper force.

Comment: That is beautiful. I would cautiously suggest that our whole world is a world of sinners. We all exist in a state of hatred and constant offense.

My Response: Like little children in a sandbox.

Comment: And we respond, and respond; we keep responding. Look at all the diplomatic corps, how they clash: “You expelled my diplomats…”

My Response: Stop joking! Just stop. This is all…

Question: Then why are we being joked with like this?

Answer: So that we eventually become truly disappointed. Not in how the Creator made us this way, but in how foolish we were not to realize why He made us this way. And the answer is right in front of a person, but he does not want to see it. But all this is so that it accumulates, breaks through, bursts out, and explodes.

Question: If people begin to follow this direction little by little, what will our world become?

Answer: Our world will transform from today’s madhouse into a world where people are engaged in self-research, self-healing, and self-building.

Question: And through that, do they, as it were, bring the Creator into this world?

Answer: Yes, to the extent that this happens, the Creator is revealed within them.

Question: And what do you mean by “the revelation of the Creator in a person”? What does that mean?

Answer: The quality of bestowal, of love, which elevates us to an entirely different level of perceiving the world.

Question: Are you certain that there is only one path, and no other?

Answer: No, there can be no other path.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/24/25

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Comment: Researchers have found a formula for box office success of a screenplay. Films that follow a certain pattern make the most money; the pattern is a sharp fall and followed by a rise.

My Response: Of course, a “happy ending.” To do this, you need to create a drama and then gradually bring it to a happy ending. People cry and come out of the movie theater moved. Or when they finish watching TV at home, they feel content and joyful.

Question: Is it the same in Kabbalah?

Answer: It is the same in Kabbalah, of course. That is how it works: there is no rise without a fall, no love without hate, and so on.

This is the whole method of Kabbalah—ascents and descents. “And there was evening, and there was morning, one day.” It all starts with the evening, with night, with descent.

This needs to be learned, one must know how to control it so all ascents and descents are controlled, and a person enjoys descents as much as ascents. That is the thing!

Just like with scientists: achieving a result is good, applause, awards, all else. But the search, the suffering, the birth of everything new, this is pleasure, this is creativity!

Comment: An ordinary person wants to get out of misfortune as quickly as possible.

My Response: To do this, he needs to understand the general equation of nature. Everything goes exactly according to this sine wave. There is a special progression in this, and in this way, everything is created in nature.

Question: Can a person accept this?

Answer: It needs to be explained. But who is going to do it? That is the problem! There are no people to do this. Nobody has the strength to go up to people and start explaining it all to them, they just turn away.

Comment: It is easier to take antidepressants and disconnect. Or smoke something.

My Response: Smoking something is the future of humanity. But life will lead us. Nature is shaking us up; we are close to people beginning to listen because there is no other way out. Humanity will find itself in a state where, like a small child, it stands in the middle of the room, not knowing what to do, and cries.

Question: Where is that lifeline so one understands that this is a descent for the sake of a great ascent?

Answer: No, he should be really scared and cry out. He must find that he cannot calm down because no help comes from anywhere. There is no mother, no adults, no one to rely on. And all the time, a bear, a wolf, or something else keeps coming out from different corners of this room. Then humanity will begin to listen to what the Kabbalists have to say about it.

An egoist cannot listen to anything unless he is scared. This is the only thing that leads humanity to its goal. Through evil to good, through thorns to the stars, that is the only way.

Good luck to all of us in this!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 11/6/24

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Question: Don’t try to buy off your child with new sneakers, tablets, or toys. Then how do you “buy” a child?

Answer: By showing him that you are his friend, that you are supposedly on his level. And just imagine how much you have to remake yourself for that, how much you need to change.

Question: Yes, it is me who has to change. And what do you mean by the word “friend”?

Answer: You understand him, you are ready to help him, support him. The main thing is to understand him.

Question: Don’t overdo it with developmental courses, clubs, extracurricular activities. Let the child live through their childhood organically.

What is an organically lived childhood?

Answer: In general, yes. A child should do what he wants.

Question: To that extent?

Answer: In the end, he gets his desires and opinions from his friends anyway. So it is not really his own. But still, encourage him.

Comment: But you said you were surrounded by composers, by music. And little by little…

My Response: It did not really give me anything special.

Question: But it gave you an ear for music. You definitely have an ear. Do you still think a child should be given freedom of choice?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Keep your word. Say it once, do it the second time. Would it be better not to promise the child anything at all so as not to deceive them?

Answer: No, but if you want to demonstrate upbringing, then you must both promise and follow through.

Question: Let him make mistakes. Finnish researchers say: “What a wonderful mistake!” That is, I could even say for a mistake: “Well done. You made a mistake.” Can such an approach be used?

Answer: Not “well done.” But find the mistake, correct it. Here you have a mistake. And it is not an accusation, you are not blaming him.

Question: “Do not be afraid to overlove your child”—people say that. What does it mean to “overlove”?

Answer: Not to show excessive love, especially where it might get in the way.

Question: Can love get in the way?

Answer: Of course. Everything must be measured and in balance.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/1/25

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Question: What is the right approach to failure?

Answer: What must be, will be. What is meant to happen will happen. And we must be ready for everything and understand that life is like this: a white stripe, a black stripe.

Question: So after the black stripe, a white one will definitely come?

Answer: Maybe it will just lightly pass, just touch you, but it will come. And then again, a black one.

Question: Then how will I change? Will I not suffer from this, will I not beat myself up?

Answer: No, we are built in such a way that we only run away from failures. We cannot properly analyze them, understand them, correct something, and prepare for something. We cannot. We only work to escape from them. And this is a completely wrong action and philosophy in general.

If we connect these two states—failure and success—we will make ourselves sovereign over them and will not be weak-willed in times of failure or in times of success.

Question: So I kind of unite black and white?

Answer: Yes.

Question: I do not perceive it as a failure?

Answer: You rise above both states and thus go through them easily. You just need to understand what it means to rise above them.

It means to rise above your life’s striving, to stop chasing success. Understand that right now, today, you are in success already, within it.

It is like physicists say there are all sorts of black holes. So actually, we ourselves are in a black hole. In an astronomical black hole.

Question: And what is beyond it?

Answer: Nothing; and nothing is needed. Relax and understand that you are inside nature. And let it lead you. The main thing is to surrender to nature.

Question: So I throw away the oars? There is a current, I throw away the oars.

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is there a current?

Answer: Even that does not matter to me.

Question: That does not matter? To just let go of everything like that?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is that possible?

Answer: If you believe in a wise, great, eternal, all-powerful nature, then in my opinion, it is the most reasonable decision.

Comment: Yes, this sounds very timely: nothing is in my control.

My Response: And moreover, anything you come up with to go against this on your own only emphasizes the insignificance, limitation, misunderstanding, ignorance, and disagreement with this great nature in which we exist.

Resist nothing. Invent nothing. Try simply to understand what nature itself is, agree with it, cling to it, and you will find the most optimal component of your existence.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/23/25

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What would I gain if I found out what will happen to me in a week, a month, a year, ten or twenty years? I think it is much more interesting to live when you do not know anything. You just don’t know! This is much more interesting; it is exciting.

When you know everything, it is as if you have come to a movie theater to watch a movie, sat in the chair, and suddenly realized that you remember this movie very well; you have already seen it. The whole thrill disappears.

Comment: Meaning, it is better to live the way as you say: tomorrow is tomorrow, whatever will happen, will happen. Everything is in the hands of the upper one. Hence, we should move with this flow.

My Response: Yes, the best thing is not to know anything and be the boss in your life.

As much as you are the boss, you are the boss, and as much as not, you will start figuring it out; it just does not need to be. I am moving forward according to the rules that the Creator has set up for me in order to come to Him. I am approaching Him precisely within those conditions that He has presented for me. I do not want anything more. I do not want to see more than that, even a tiny bit! I do not want anything else! I want to be exactly so, a devoted follower of the Creator.

This is the most wonderful of anything that can be! This is a great award to a person when he can act this way!

And at the same time, hearing them speak about your future? No way! We must come to the state of bestowal.

Question: What if around the corner of this movement, as you say, of giving oneself to the Creator, suddenly horrible things happen?

Answer: There is no horrible or non-horrible. It all depends on how you relate to it. If you give yourself to it with an open heart and soul, then whatever happens, happens, but this is from the Creator; there is nothing horrible.

Everything in the next moment just becomes simple, clear, soft. Your attitude to the Creator is what makes Him the Creator. That is all. Here also comes the correct connection between you.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/19/25

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Comment: Chow Yun-Fat, a  Hong Kong actor and filmmaker is a millionaire; however, he lives on limited budget, uses public transportation, buys clothes only on sale, saying: “As long as it is comfortable, I do not need anything else.” He has had a small phone for 17 years and just recently replaced it with a smart phone. He says that he does not need wealth for the sake of wealth.

My Response: He was created this way. There are people who like to live precisely such a lifestyle; they feel better this way. It is not overcoming of their egoism, but rather an expression of their nature.

His egoism is balanced. Large egoism exists in a huge number of people eager for everything and ready to sacrifice their lives for the achievement of some egoistic, earthly goal. Here we must show how it is possible to balance these aspirations in order to be happy.

Question: Do you feel even closer to people who are bursting and their ego is raging?

Answer: Yes, such people are closer to me because they are the ones who are people. But he is like: “Here I have green grass, and this is good. Sun, water, and that is it!”

Question: Do you say that you are closer to those millionaires who go and make more and more money and even step over others?

Answer: Yes, they realize the enormous egoism of nature that exists in humanity. For that reason, humanity will come to recognize the evil of egoism. Precisely thanks to these millionaires. They are working correctly for the general law of nature, and we have to be grateful to them. They show all of humanity how quickly we have to burn this egoism; otherwise, nothing will happen.

We have to realize its futility, uselessness, and emptiness. Most importantly, it does not bring us to any good goal. This knowledge and this experience of accumulation of negative results are necessary for us.

Question: Meaning, it is all opposite. People admire this person. However, you are closer to someone who steps over people, makes millions and billions, and that is all. He rages! And he is closer to you?

Answer: Of course. Precisely thanks to them, humanity understands what it has to correct within.

Question: Will it come to this fast?

Answer: Certainly. It will come only through recognition of evil and the nature of egoism when it grows and is gradually more and more recognized by everyone, and through revelation of its corruption on our side.

Question: Only in this way?

Answer: If there is a possibility to do something in a good way, then this is the only choice. And if not, then it will be through suffering. Let’s hope that it will not happen this way.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 11/15/19

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Comment: Many insect species are declining, are endangered, or have disappeared altogether. Scientists say that their decline can lead to a catastrophic collapse. The loss of insects impacts plants, animals, and humans negatively. The number of cockroaches, flies, and other pests, they write will increase.

My Response: The Earth is gradually dying out.

Comment: Bees are disappearing. They say this is the basis of what will be bad.

My Response: Sure, because bees are necessary in the process of reproduction of the plant world. This is a problem!

Question: Is it possible to stop this by scientific methods, as they are trying to do now?

Answer: No, you cannot do that. There is no way. Make artificial bees?

Question: So you do not believe the “robot bees” or robotic pollinators will work?

Answer: I do not believe in any of the tricks of man in which they invest billions. I do not believe that that can help stop the moral decline of humanity, the decline of humanity in its relationship to each other, and help humanity survive. Humanity is moving toward a state where it is burying itself.

On the contrary, all these scientific tricks confuse us. If they did not exist, we would have wondered what we should do a long time ago.

Question: So they give hope?

Answer: Yes. We shift all this to science, and believe that we will put billions more dollars into them and everything will be fine. They will come up with everything for us, and we will continue to rest on our laurels. It will not work.

We must understand that only our changing toward the world, toward ourselves and between us will make the world integral and restore everything that is necessary for the proper integral development of nature. Nature is a closed system, and if we violate the integrity in this system, no one can make up for it.

Question: Even if we violate with our thoughts, not only with our actions?

Answer: Of course! But the thing is, we are still hoping and thinking: “We will build greenhouses. One greenhouse can replace a million hectares of land. And everything will be fine. We do not need anything in the greenhouse. We will pollinate them. We will do something.”

Comment: By the way, there are such proposals.

My Response: Yes, of course, I understand them. But it will not work! Nature acts very wisely. It has to bring us to a certain state so that we can change. We have changed! We did not just fix what we messed up, we have to change! And we do not want that.

We do everything. We continue to spread all over the world, we try to conquer nature, we try to fill our egoism in some way, and in the end no one is happy.

Comment: All of humanity respects scientists, Nobel laureates, and professors who conduct various studies and invent something. But when I talk to you, I always have the feeling that they are all like children. They do not understand the main thing.

My Response: I welcome science only in the form in which it allows us to see the integrality of nature, where everything is closed, everything is interdependent. A sense of the integrality and harmony of nature is very important for a person. Based on this, he himself begins to strive for harmony and for integration.

Therefore we need to talk about these achievements and these conclusions, and we need to take them from science, and thus bring them into human society. All other scientific achievements will not bring any happiness to a person in the end.

Comment: And are all the conclusions that it is possible to come to something scientifically untenable?

My Response: It will only eventually lead to a state where you will be forced to change yourself.

Question: What can be done to prevent insects from disappearing so that the ecology is normal?

Answer: Just explaining to people that each one is an integral being and must bring oneself to the right interaction with nature. And then we will see, as the Bible says, that everything, absolutely all animals, plants, and inanimate nature come into harmony, following man. “And the wolf and the lamb will live peacefully, and a little boy will shepherd them.”
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 9/30/24

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Question: If, for example, I come to the conclusion that inner beauty is much more important than everything external, do I notice this externality in a person?

Answer: You still remain a human being.

Question: So I still have an internal marker that this is a beautiful person?

Answer: Yes, even more than that, you are developing even more refined taste. You are developing an even greater need to see harmony in everything. For you, beauty already lies in harmony. And if you see harmony, you enjoy it.

Question: What is the inner beauty of a person for you? What is it?

Answer: The inner beauty of a person is when he sees the possibility of justice and even goodness, but at least justice in everything around him. When everything is balanced according to the spiritual law of buy and sell; meaning, the law of receiving and bestowing.

Question: So a person who is internally beautiful feels the absolute harmony of everything that exists around him?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: And there is no evil, and there is no…

My Response: There is nothing! He has aligned himself with the Creator! And nothing can be bad, dirty, or disgusting. Everything is in complete harmony. Because he sees not the external manifestation, but the force that governs all of creation from within.

Comment: That is beautiful, that the spiritual reflects on the material too. It is interesting. I thought that a person simply, in an instant, stops paying attention to anything. But you say it is the opposite.

My Response: No! Moreover, it is written that when approaching full correction, the taste of copulation and the understanding of beauty remain only with Kabbalists. It is very, very complex.

Question: That is, only Kabbalists can truly enjoy both materially and internally?

Answer: Yes, they see it as a creation of the Creator.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 7/22/25

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Relax and realize that you are inside nature. And let it lead. The main thing is to surrender to nature.

Question: So I drop the oars? There is a current and I drop the oars.

Answer: Yes.

Question: But is there a current?

Answer: Even that is not important to me.

Question: And that does not matter? Just let go of everything like that?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is it possible?

Answer: If you believe in a wise, great, eternal, all-powerful nature, then in my opinion, this is the most reasonable decision.

Comment: Yes, it sounds very much like nothing is in my power.

My Response: And besides, everything you come up with in order to go against it on your own only emphasizes the insignificance, limitation, lack of understanding, ignorance, and disagreement with this great nature in which we exist.

Do not resist anything, do not invent anything. Try simply to understand what nature itself means, agree with it, cling to it, and you will find the most optimal component of your existence.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 7/30/25

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