Question: Let’s say a child is guilty of something, and his parents begin to lecture him: “You are a useless, worthless child! Where was your head? How are you going to live at all?” Kids sit dejectedly and absorb it. What do you think about that?

Answer: This is a big problem for many parents who rudely pointing out that a child that he can’t do anything and is worthless. They deprive their child of the sensation of confidence, safety, and inner opportunity. It is very important to preserve a sense of confidence, safety, and inner opportunity in a child.

Many of us make this mistake. We put pressure on the child by telling him: “You are worthless, look how you are supposed to be. Why can’t you do this,” and so forth. We are making him a very insecure person. He will grow this way and will not be able to escape it for the rest of his life.

Question: How do you think it should be? Here is an action, but it is not a good action.

Answer: Live it down: “You did it incorrectly, wrong. Perhaps you could not do it in a different way. Now look how it is possible to do it in a different way.” This way he will learn from his experience, and he will still retain confidence.

Question: Meaning, we should not touch the child himself and his little “I”? The main principle is to not touch his “I”?

Answer: Yes. We have precisely such people wandering on our planet, without inner confidence, who were “assassinated” by their parents and oppressed since childhood. In order to somehow defend themselves and rise a little above everyone, they make problems for everyone. They do not know what to do in order to feel like normal people.

To achieve this, they suppress others, annihilate others, and so forth. If you take a close look at any monster who kills, tortures others, and leads a gang, you will see why this happened to him. You will look into his childhood and will see how he was damaged then the same way.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 9/3/20

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