Question: Why is cowardice so despised?

Answer: It is despised, but you have to understand that it is a human feeling, and a very strong one. By the way, it protects us from many problems that we could cause for ourselves and for others.

Question: So do you not despise a person who admits that he is a coward?

Answer: No, I do not despise him. One simply needs to know how to balance this force and protect oneself in a balanced way to the extent that is necessary.

Question: Is there courage without cowardice? Does such a thing exist at all?

Answer: No, only if it is a pathological condition.

Question: So do you call it a disease when a person is completely reckless?

Answer: Of course. Look at animals, and how they behave. They do not recklessly attack someone. They check, they circle around, and so on. And only afterward, if they decide to attack, they rush forward.

Comment: Yes, that is true. But with rabid dogs this mechanism seems to be switched off.

My Response: Yes.

Comment: So if a person is purely reckless, “brave,” as they say, it is actually a disease.

My Response: That is not courage.

Question: An important question arises: how should we raise children? They tell a child, “Do not be a coward; be brave.”

Answer: You should weigh everything.

Question: Who are you saying this to right now?

Answer: To the child. Weigh all the pros and cons. And only if you are convinced that there is no other choice, then attack.

Comment: You are now addressing the child as an adult, as someone possessing wisdom.

Answer: What can you do? It is the same with adults as well.

Question: But should such an attitude be applied to a child? That you should weigh all the pros and cons, and only after that…?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is this what is called education?

Answer: Of course.

Question: Can a child do this?

Answer: He can because precisely this caution, this cowardice, can help him.

Question: What age are you talking about when you speak of this upbringing of a child?

Answer: At a young age, from three years old.

Question: From three years old you can say, “Weigh the options”? Sit in front of a child and say in an adult way, “Weigh the options”? Can one already relate to a child as to an adult at this age?

Answer: Yes.

Question: If a parent relates to a child in this way, what does it say about the parent?

Answer: That the parent is teaching the child a balanced attitude toward the world.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 12/5/25

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Question: What is the family of the future?

Answer: It is when a husband and wife are very close companions to one another. When we feel that we are doing something pleasant, we draw closer. When we feel that there may be some problems, we distance ourselves. We behave selectively. And then everything will be fine for us.

Question: But we do not run away from each other? Is that what it means to build a family?

Answer: We do not constantly think about “building.” We simply feel where we can help our partner, and where we should not interfere.

Comment: And this, you say, is called “companionship.”

My Response: Yes.

Comment: You use this word “companionship.” It is warm and very familiar to everyone.

My Response: That is the most important thing in marriage.

Question: That is the most important thing in marriage. And then everything will happen?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And everything else, like love?

Answer: Love exists between a mother and a child. And love exists between a person and the Creator. Between people, there is no love. There is the possibility of creating a very kind, close, mutual connection, but even that is still not love.

Love appears, manifests, is created, is born where there is a natural bond, like that of a mother with her child, and like the bond that arises between a person and the Creator.

This is natural connection. That is what can be called love. But simply between a man and a woman, even if they understand each other’s importance and try in some way to complement one another, that is not love; it is still companionship.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 12/12/2025

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Question: You keep talking about good connections, about the fact that people must draw closer to one another. But what if everyone says: “Here, I have a piece of clay.” And each one says this: “So do I, and I have one too. Let’s build a little house for us.” Will it work, or will it not work?

Answer: No.

Question: It would not?

Answer: You must understand what is missing in this piece of clay. What is missing is the inner connection of all the pieces, of everyone’s, everyone’s. And then, in the merging of our hearts, we return to the state called Adam, similar to the Creator.

Question: In what was he similar?

Answer: Before his shattering, before being divided into billions of parts, this was an angel. That is, an absolutely good, absolutely righteous, correct intention, which together with the Creator carried out everything necessary for a perfect world.

Question: Was this a single intention for everyone? One single soul like that? Can one say so? All souls were merged into one single soul?

Answer: Yes.

Question: You are speaking about what existed in the beginning, and then everything shattered into fragments, and the fragments of the soul fell, as they say, into this world of ours. And we must return to that state?

Answer: Yes. We must realize that we are in a shattered state and that we must return to a unified state. This is precisely what is called assembling the pieces of clay that each one has.

Question: When you say “assemble the pieces of clay,” what do you mean?

Answer: Merging, connection, the unification of hearts.

Question: So this is the material from which we must mold happiness?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And only then will there be happiness?

Answer: And then there will be what the Creator intended.

Question: And did He intend that we would be happy?

Answer: Of course!

Question: What is happiness, in the Creator’s understanding, in your opinion?

Answer: Happiness, in the Creator’s understanding, is the connection of everyone together into one single desire, into one single action, when we feel no shattering whatsoever between us. Then what we experience is called happiness. This is the definition of happiness.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 12/14/25

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Question: What if you make a wrong choice? I checked everything, did everything, and made a wrong decision.

Answer: How do you know it is wrong?

Comment: As a result, I did not reach my goal.

My Response: But that will be evident after you make the decision.

Comment: After that, when I had already jumped.

My Response: After implementation?

Question: Yes, that is right. I realized I had made the wrong decision. What should I do about it?

Answer: Do nothing.

Question: I eat myself up on the inside after that! I double-checked everything, jumped, and everything is wrong!

Answer: You cannot do anything. There is nothing more to do, nothing to blame.

Question: Not to blame yourself?

Answer: No, absolutely not!

Question: How do I stop myself?

Answer: Relate it to the Creator.

Question: So before I was the one who measured everything? But after it happened…

Answer: The Creator did it. For sure it was the Creator.

Comment: That is, we have now come to the golden rule. I check everything.…

My Response: I decide, I act, and the Creator does the rest.

Question: No regrets, nothing?

Answer: Nothing. That is how it was intended from the beginning.

Comment: If it were possible to live like this, you would have no regrets at all.

My Response: So live like that.

Comment: “Live like that!” I wish I could learn to live like that.

My Response: You should have no regrets about anything! Everything is orchestrated from above.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 12/11/25

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Question: We constantly kill others with words. And the smarter ones kill gradually, not immediately. So as not to become an enemy, they kill gradually by starting rumors that spread through others. It is our nature to put the other down.

Why doesn’t it hurt me that I slowly humiliate another person, get them out of my way, and kill them?

Answer: I believe the other person does not let me live, that he is my enemy who sees me standing in his way and must destroy me.

Question: Why were we given such a nature to live like this?

Answer: It is all for the same reason, so that we correct our egoism, so that we can be convinced that “love your neighbor as yourself” is the main law of the world.

Comment: In that case, at some point, it should make me feel bad that I am like this.

My Response: Yes, of course.

Question: I see all these wars now, all these killings, directly, indirectly, and so on. And at what point does it come to me: “What am I doing? It is all inside me. How can I get away from this?”

Answer: At the moment of revelation.

Question: And when does this happen? Can this be accelerated, or can something be done? I understand that this is really the most important moment in my life. That everything is in me, that everything is because of me, that I am the killer. Does it come to a person at all?

Answer: When he becomes convinced that he is full of evil, then his true nature is revealed in him, and he can no longer tolerate it and turns to the Creator.

Question: Does this happen unexpectedly for a person? Or is it as if he already wants that?

Answer: No, this revelation usually comes with a serious push.

Question: So there is something before that; is there some kind of impulse after all?

Answer: Yes.

Question: When this is revealed to a person, does prayer to the Creator become natural because one understands that everything depends only on Him?

Answer: Yes, then a person turns to the Creator, judges himself, and by correcting himself, corrects the world around him.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 12/3/2025

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I am not in favor of suffering. There are many examples of people choosing suffering and believing that this elevates them. This is incorrect.

Question: What does it mean not to suffer?

Answer: If you clearly understand, and you have the conditions where your suffering alleviates someone’s difficulties and helps them progress, then yes. But if this exists only in your imagination…

Comment: You have raised the bar now by saying: “If my suffering makes someone’s life, fate, and soul easier for someone.” You did not say “for me,” but “for someone.”

My Response: For someone else, of course.

Question: So if it serves as an example for someone, and I do this in order to set an example that it is possible, try it?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: That is high!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 12/5/25

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Question: I change, and the world changes. Is that the formula?

Answer: That is the formula. But who changes me?

Question: That is the important question. Is it the Creator who changes me? In response to what? Or is it simply His will?

Answer: It is so that I can gradually determine that I am under His authority and that He governs the world that He alone created. And I am grateful to Him for having carried me through all these metamorphoses.

Comment: But until that happens…

My Response: It doesn’t matter. A person does eventually reach such a state when he dies. Then he understands and realizes.

Comment: I will ask you carefully: “Who is he?” You said: “A person dies,” and then you say, “he understands and realizes.”

My Response: The person, in his soul.

Comment: But he’s dead.

My Response: And what does “dead” mean?

Comment: That is interesting. What does “dead” mean? You said: “A person dies and then understands.”

My Response: And then he understands, realizes, that the Creator led him through all the states of this life.

Question: But who is he? Who understands?

Answer: The person.

Comment: But he is no longer here. He died.

My Response: Was he buried or burned? So what?

Question: And where is he, the person?

Answer: The spirit. That is the person.

Question: So is this spirit immortal?

Answer: Of course. What, do you think, it is just a piece of meat?

Question: So, are you saying that there is something eternal in a person, which feels everything, passes through everything, and only that exists?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And this outer shell, what is it?

Answer: That you may bury.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 12/8/25

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Question: There were many athletes like Brumel or Yuri Vlasov, for example, who after terrible injuries and illnesses would get back up and overcome their fate. When the Creator tests a person for strength? What is the purpose of this?

Answer: All of this is deposited into the common treasury of the collective soul of all humanity. Such people add a great deal to humanity through their destiny.

Question: What do they help humanity understand?

Answer: They raise humanity closer to the Creator.

Question: Even though they themselves sort of…

Answer: It does not matter how they personally relate to it. I am not saying they are some kind of saints. They simply raise the bar of the human being higher toward the Creator.

But I am not in favor of suffering. There are many similar examples where people choose suffering and think that through it, they rise. This is not correct.

Question: Then the natural question in such cases, and others too is “What does it mean not to suffer?”

Answer: If you clearly understand and you have the right conditions where your suffering makes someone else’s correction or progress easier, then yes. But if it is only in your imagination…

Comment: You have raised the bar now. You said: “If my suffering eases someone’s life, and fate, and soul.” You did not say “me,” but “someone else.”

My Response: Someone else, of course.

Question: “Of course!” That is high! So, it is if my suffering serves as an example for someone and I do it for the sake of the example, to show that it’s possible, to encourage them to try?

Answer: Yes.

Question: That is lofty!

You always speak about annulling before fate, before what the Creator decides. When you say this, what exactly do you mean?

Answer: I mean that I reasonably agree with what stands before me.

Question: Even with my illnesses and so on?

Answer: Of course.

Question: Do I say: “This is from You, and it is necessary for me.” Like that?

Answer: Yes.

Question: What happens then with my pain, with my suffering?

Answer: Agreeing with it creates tranquility within a person. He agrees with his fate, he agrees with the Creator, he agrees to accept everything that is allotted to him according to his destiny.

Question: Is it like an analgesic?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is this called “annulment”?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And one must reach this?

Answer: I believe so.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 11/22/25

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Question: A person can come to the meaning of life, reveal it, and feel it, only if he understands that he cannot do without it. That is, it should be above life and death. Does a person bring himself to such an extreme state, or is he being brought to it?

Answer: No, it is done by the soul. It is a soul that seeks to escape, to free itself from the bonds of this life.

Question: So are these special souls, and do we not know when this will happen to us?

Answer: Yes, but gradually more and more souls are approaching this state.

Question: Is that what we call a cry, a prayer?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is this a gift from above?

Answer: All this is a gift. Absolutely everything is a gift from the Creator.

Question: So are my efforts to achieve this a gift?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is there no way that it can just occur to a person?

Answer: Not to anyone, ever, in any way. It only comes from the Creator and only to those whom He ordains for it.

Question: Tell me, please, is the revelation of truth the end or the beginning of the work?

Answer: The revelation of truth is the beginning.

Question: And then again do we feel that we cannot breathe, and again it is revealed?

Answer: But this time it is different.

Question: What is the truth?

Answer: It is in attaining the Creator, in attaining the entire universe through the Creator. This is the realization of the perfection of the Creator’s actions.

Question: Is this what we must attain?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Does everyone have to attain this one way or another, sooner or later?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Will everyone be put through this—”I cannot breathe unless…”?

Answer: Not to that extent. There are special souls that have to go through it on such a large scale themselves. And there are those who go through it after them, in their footsteps, en masse.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 12/4/25

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Question: People cross oceans to find some land or discover something. This is hope. How can we not lose hope when everything has burned out, when all the candles of hope have flickered out—love, faith, peace of mind, everything?

Answer: It is by knowing that everything is in the hands of the Creator because a person realizes for sure that nothing is in his hands.

Question: Is this candle a hope? Everything is in the hands of the Creator, is this the next step?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Why does the Creator always leave us this little step, this last candle?

Answer: To catch us at the last minute, the last second, or the last moment, and to continue on together with us.

This candle is a candle of connection between a person in this world and a person in the upper world.

Question: Does it burn all the time, this candle?

Answer: It escorts the person onward.

Question: Are there states when this candle does not burn, when there is no hope? Do you think such states exist?

Answer: No, it is always lit.

Question: Is this what we call “the Creator is good who does good”?

Answer: Yes, otherwise, such a person would not have been born, for the Creator knows his whole life in advance until the end.

Question: Why do we so often not see this candle and lose hope?

Answer: We are not so attuned to our existence.

Question: What is the right attitude?

Answer: The right attitude is that the goodness of the Creator is always before us.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman”

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