The four types of human temperament correspond to the four stages of development of egoism.

The phlegmatic is slow, heavy, simple, relatively primitive egoism. A person may be a great scientist, but his external manifestation, his pace, and his internal frequency are of this type. Next come the sanguine, melancholic, and only then choleric.

When we study the four stages of egoistic development, they are arranged exactly like this: the first stage is passive, the second is searching for the opposite of the passive stage, the third stage is incomplete realization and feeling of lack in this realization, and only the last stage is the real developed desire.

However, in principle, each of these stages also includes all four. Therefore, we say that there are four stages, and if we divide them into four more, then there are sixteen.

The biggest desire is choleric. But we are talking about “net” desires and in no case about the “color” of these desires. Both an artist and a locksmith can be choleric.

Comment: If the last stage is choleric, then we can assume that we are now at a stage where this type of reaction prevails.

My Response: Yes, it really prevails. However, the fact is that the internal stress experienced by a choleric who does not see where he can apply himself forces him to lie down on the sofa. There is a huge internal imbalance within him, anxiety with absolute external apathy. This is how a choleric manifests nowadays.

Therefore, if you look at him from the outside, you can say: “Well, what kind of choleric is he? The choleric runs from corner to corner, rushes, does not know what he is looking for.” In fact, he has nowhere to run. He has an internal turmoil because he does not see any external purpose. There is a conflict between his internal and external state.

These people are the most acutely susceptible. The choleric is a creator, a carrier of a huge desire; he is not an executor but a carrier. Therefore, people of all temperaments should be brought together in a team so that something could be born as a result of their mixture. It turns out that choleric people are necessary.
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From Kab TV’s “Conversation about Integral Education” 5/24/12

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Question: How should we respond when someone attacks us, shouts at us, accuses us and makes us feel very bad?

Answer: This can be seen as an opportunity to connect with this person in a beautiful, higher, more corrected, and complete manner.

Question: Is hatred an opportunity?

Answer: Hatred is an opportunity to show the other side—love.

Question: Do we reach this through correct education or only through spiritual attainment?

Answer: Through education and many exercises.
From KabTV’s “Conversation with Journalists” 12/2/21

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Question: Some psychologists were asked the question: “How to avoid failures?” They said failures could not and should not be avoided because we learn from failures. They said further that how often we fail is not what matters, but how many times we rise and how we react to falling.

This is a good answer, but after all, failures break some people or force them to abandon the goal, some become passive or helpless, and others fall into depression. Failures always bring pain. What is the correct approach to failure?

Answer: Whatever should be will be. What should happen will happen. We must be ready for everything and understand that life is like this,  good times, bad times.

Question: Does it mean that bad times are always followed by good times?

Answer: Maybe good times will come for a little bit, touch you, but they  will come. And then bad times come again.

Question: How will I change then? Will I no longer suffer and be hurt from this?

Answer: No. We are arranged in such a way that we just run away from failures. We cannot analyze them correctly, acknowledge them, correct something, and prepare ourselves for something. We simply cannot. We only work to escape from them. This is a completely wrong action and philosophy itself.

If we link these two states, failure and good luck together, then we will turn ourselves into the ones who have control over them, and we will not be weak-willed either during failures or during successes.

Question: That is, do I sort of connect black and white?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Do I not perceive it as a failure?

Answer: You rise above both states and therefore go through them easily. We just need to understand what it means to “rise above them.”

It means rising above your life aspiration, to stop chasing luck. Understand that today, now, you are within luck itself, already inside it.

This is like when physicists say that there are all sorts of black holes. So in fact, we ourselves are in a black hole, in an astronomical black hole.

Question: What is behind it?

Answer: Nothing and we need nothing. Relax and understand that you are inside nature. Let it guide you. The main thing is to surrender to nature.

Question: Am I leaving the oars? There is a current, and I let go of the oars?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is there a current?

Answer: Even that does not matter to me.

Question: Is this even possible?

Answer: If you believe in a wise, great, eternal, almighty nature, then in my opinion, this is the most reasonable solution.

Besides, everything you come up with to go against it on your own only highlights the insignificance, limitation, misunderstanding, ignorance, and disagreement with this great nature inside which we exist.

Do not resist anything. Do not invent anything. Just try to understand what nature itself means, agree with it, cling to it, and you will find the most optimal component of your existence.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/15/21

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I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection (Sigmund Freud).

Question: Do you think this statement is correct?

Answer: It is correct. For a child the father is everything! For a boy, yes. It is biological, it is natural. This is an example!

Question: How can this be connected with the fact that we do not feel our father? Humanity does not feel the Creator, the upper governance, and this is why humanity is like it is. Can I say that?

Answer: Of course! If we felt the Creator as the upper force that generates and defines us at every moment, then naturally we would be different. But that is not possible. Otherwise, we would have no freewill.

Question: So if we felt the Creator, would we feel all this love and goodness and be overwhelmed by them? And that is why we were given freewill?

Answer: Of course.

Question: Were children who either did not have fathers or their fathers were rough given freewill?

Answer: No a child cannot be blamed for anything. He gets into a certain situation and that’s it.

Comment: That is, you adhere to the hard line that for example: if there is a divorce and there are children, especially if they are boys and the father leaves the family, then.

My Response: That is even worse. It is a lifelong trauma.

Question: And we receive questions, mostly from women, who write to us all the time: “What, is it better to have such a cruel father?”

Answer: Not if there is such an atrocity, of course. But a normal, demanding father, even if he goes a little too far is still better than being fatherless.

Question: And how can someone become a good father?

Answer: One must be educated.

Question: Fathers?

Answer: Fathers, from childhood. It is necessary to take people, I would say young men, and try to explain to them what fatherhood is, what taking care of another means, and make good fathers out of them.

Question: And also explain to them that the future of children depends on it?

Answer: Explain everything! Of course! Otherwise it will not work without defining the goal.

Question: So you think it is necessary to create such a school for fathers?

Answer: Yes, it is necessary.

Question: And then, we can correct the future of humanity?

Answer: Of course! We will determine the whole future generation by this.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/7/21

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In the News (rfi.fr): “France is launching an experiment that uses virtual reality to stop men convicted of domestic violence from reoffending.

“Already tested in Spain, the technology offers a ‘total immersion’ experience by way of a headset that allows the offender to view things from the point of view of his victims. …

“‘It’s a kind of empathy machine’ that highlights the emotions felt by victims and ‘makes men understand fear,’ explained Guillaume Clere, founder of the Reverto start-up, which collaborated on the project with the French Justice Ministry. …

“‘Studies have shown the correlation between low cognitive empathy and violence,’ Clère told AFP. …

“The headset device ‘has the ability to fool the brain’, explained Géraud de la Brosse, who is running the project for the French Directorate of Prison Administration.

“’It is a way to open a dialogue with the perpetrators,’ he told La Voix du Nord news site.”

Question:  The goal is to make criminals realize and feel that they have harmed others. Confront them with an aggressor who is like them and acts just like them. The idea is that they will find themselves in a position of weakness and understand what happened. Will they understand this?

Answer: This is, of course, an interesting idea—to put yourself in the shoes of the victim. This can be taught. I think this will help fix it.

Question: So they can suddenly realize and be horrified: “I was like this?!”?

Answer: Of course they will be horrified. If this is done correctly, then it will have a very strong impact.

Question: Do you think this is really a parenting moment?

Answer: This is the moment of education. After all through this you explain to the person and show him who he is.

Question: Can we say that this is the revelation of evil?

Answer: Of course this is the revelation of evil, the most real. I am for it. The idea is good. If the technique works, then this is very interesting. This immediately leads to repentance. And then, as a consequence of this to correction, remorse, and so on.

Question: Can we say that a person will no longer commit such a crime if this experiment passes?

Answer: No. I do not know how much this will affect a modern person who experiences constant external irritations that confuse him all the time, it depends on what they are and against what crimes it is used.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/4/21

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Comment: More and more adolescents suffer from depression, hyperactivity, and sleeping problems these days, which means that more and more children are less happy.

According to psychologists, this is because children do not have the opportunity to play anymore, it is not about computer games, but about games that we used to play in the past like hide and seek and tag, games that help kids develop important skills.

My Response: These games develop communication between children, which is a crucial phase in their development and growth. It happens through games because the whole world is a game. We always play, but different games. But when a person is at home and does not communicate with others, he will grow up to be an ugly person in the human sense. He will not be able to communicate with people.

Children will grow up to be miserable because they have no natural, normal communication with their peers. We will not be able to do anything about this because it is simply impossible to replace communication with anything else.
From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/18/21

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Question: Who is today’s teacher?

Answer: A person who teaches our children to read and write.

Question: Is this what should be expected of a teacher to teach today?

Answer: I don’t see any teacher teaching anything else.

Question: What would you like a teacher to teach?

Answer: It should be a different question. If I want a teacher to teach something else, society has to be different and parents have to be different. They should know what children lack and need to learn in life, and so, parents should also educate them. A teacher is a public representative who should educate the public, the new generation, correctly.

Question: What should a teacher’s salary be?

Answer: It should be the highest possible. No other profession is more important than teaching.

Question: And compared to a doctor?

Answer: A doctor is less. A doctor cares for the body while a teacher helps students develop their soul.

Question: How should parents relate to teachers?

Answer: With respect. A teacher is just below God because he teaches us how to relate to God. A teacher is a guide, he is the one who opens and teaches about the correct attitude to society, to life and death, to everything. A teacher is actually the representative of the upper force here in this world.
From KabTV’s “Introspect—Current Affairs in the Light of Kabbalah” 12/6/21

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Question: People in Israel have a short fuse that causes a conflict of desires and heightens anger. What is the right way to respond to anger?

Answer: This is due to lack of education. People simply have no patience and cannot control themselves. They are spoiled because we let our children do whatever they want, which is forbidden.

We need to teach and educate children how to cope with different hardships in life from a young age.

Question: We want to educate our youth to respond to anger correctly. What are we supposed to teach them?

Answer: We must teach them how to stop their anger.

Question: Is it better to run away instead of responding to the person in front of me?

Answer: Of course it is better, but we know how hard that is.

Question: Many marriage counselors say that it is important to know how to fight. How do you fight correctly?

Answer: That is correct. There is no getting closer and no peace without quarrels, but they have to go in tandem. We must learn how to set an example for one another.

I set an example by making an effort to overcome myself, and although I am angry, I relate to the other with love: “Love will cover all crimes.”

Question: Is it possible to relate to our partner with love when we quarrel?

Answer: It is a matter of practice.

Question: Where do you bring love from when someone is mad at you and hates you?

Answer: It is simple, we cover the rage and anger with love, but the love is inside so it is a matter of balance between the two.

The more I can play with either one, the more I must constantly play with them. I must not totally identify with the feeling of anger or of love but only have the two feelings operate in me so that I control these two ends together.
From KabTV’s “Conversation with Journalists” 12/12/21

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Comment: In one of the clips you said that sports should become different. Competition should be directed toward unity.

Vladimir writes: “In order to be better, and especially to be the best, it is necessary to suppress everyone and be stronger both physically and psychologically, and particularly mentally. I am talking about sports as a former athlete and an acting coach.”

My Response: This is true in the sports that exist now because it is the result of the egoistic world. However, if we are talking about a new world, then sports should be different there, only in order to improve the health of a person and create correct and kind connections between people. The competition will be in this.

Question: Then who is the strongest?

Answer: The one who can most influence the world in a good way in order to show how it is possible to change the world for good. He is the champion.

Question: Will there be envy and competition here, the way it exists in sports?

Answer: It exists everywhere. Competition is about being really the most effective in creating a good connection between everyone.

Question: Do we need to radically change the entire system of today’s sports, the Olympic Games and all the championships?

Answer: Yes. Even all the games between people that are based on competition or on one team being against another should be in the completely opposite direction; everything should be inverted.

Question: What are two teams competing with each other for?

Answer: They do not compete with each other. They compete in order to help each other clearly express themselves and their aspirations for unification.

The team that played more consistently and correctly together wins. The score is not based on points, who scored and who did not, but on how one team played together against another.

Question: Nowadays popular sports are martial arts, boxing, and fights without rules.

Answer: I do not think it is possible to explain here in a simple way what the future of these sports is. All these are Greek and Roman things that have reigned in the world for thousands of years. I think they have no future.

Although in the ancient Olympic games a friendly attitude was welcomed. At least, there was no talk of pills, injections, and other things. Not because they did not exist, but because the spirit was different.

Question: How can I win in a clean way?

Answer: Practically, it is not to win, but to demonstrate the beauty and capabilities of the human body.

Question: What will we come to?

Answer: We will come to the fact that we will be demonstrating that the actions of the Creator were kind, good, and we want to support Him in this. The way a father looks at his children and they show him that he made them externally and internally beautiful.

The beauty of sports will be in the fact that we want to demonstrate our good intentions, our kindness, and our inner beauty. It absolutely will not be about being fastest, strongest, and so on.

Question: Is this just because our father is looking at us, and he wants to see us like this?

Answer: Yes, this is the most important thing: how can we give Him pleasure from His creations with completely different thoughts, completely different intentions, and completely different results. Everything is different. Everything will exist, only in a different way.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/4/21

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Comment: Many studies show that girls are more attached to their fathers while boys are more attached to their mothers. And you say that, in principle, boys after the age of three should be raised by their father and girls by their mother.

My Response: This is not yet the practice in our time. I have in mind a corrected society where boys can be with adults, take right examples from them, watch their fathers spend their free time after work, and so on.

I am talking about a society in which a person works several hours a day because he does not produce useless, unnecessary, harmful products, and the rest of the time he engages in his spiritual elevation. And next to him are his children: boys next to boys, girls next to girls, who take correct examples from their parents.

In principle, Kabbalah talks of a time that undoubtedly must come. I think we are getting closer to it. I hope we will come to it in a good way.

By the way, we see this from ancient customs of various tribes where boys up to two years old were in their rearing period, then for another two or three years shifted to the female half, and then completely switched to the male part and took examples from their fathers. They were interested in it, they were proud of it, and so they gradually became involved in life.

And the opposite is true today; boys are raised by women both in kindergarten and at school. Almost throughout their lives they are surrounded by women. We cannot imagine how subconsciously they absorb their attitude to life, and then against their will, they enter this life like a woman. Therefore, there are few real men in our world.

Question: What is a real man according to Kabbalah?

Answer: A real man is one who assumes the responsibility to be the master, the head of the family, who can lead—lead forward. Moreover, to do this not for career reasons but from the fact that he understands the importance and the need for this.

That is, he is a man. There is very little of this personality in men today. There are careerists, there are all sorts of petty crooks in science, in art, everywhere, but there are no personalities. And it is all because they have not received the correct upbringing.

They were raised by women, and they did not receive proper education for the masculine character, the masculine way of life, sight, and perception.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up. Two-headed eagle” 1/1/10

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