“How Do I Love My Neighbor As Myself When I Don’t Love Myself?” (Quora)

Dr. Michael LaitmanMichael Laitman, On Quora: “How do I love my neighbor as myself when I don’t love myself?“

Human nature is completely self-serving and egoistic. We thus cannot but love ourselves. Even if we hate ourselves, for instance even if we wish to commit suicide, it still emerges from a self-serving calculation. Egoism is at the basis of our nature, and everything upon it is thus built out of self-love. It is the sole motive for all of our behavior.

Based on a video conference with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr Michael Laitman.

The Stronger The Connection, The Stronger The Desire

528.02Question: Where can we find the strength to create the correct Hisaron (desire) for our friends?

Answer: You should develop it among yourselves. The point is that both strength and desire do not come from somewhere, but only from above, from the Creator. But it all depends on how much we need it.

Sometimes we demand: “Give us the desire!” But we cannot handle properly what we have, and this is why all our screams, shrieks, requests, prayers give nothing. Therefore, you need to understand that only to the extent of your connection will the correct impulses for a request or a desire from above arise in you, for a desire to rise to the force that will develop and raise you.

Only the identification of a common request between us and turning it to the Creator depends on us.
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From KabTV’s “Videoconference”

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The Leaders Of The Future

20Question: The changes in the world today require the emergence of innovative leaders. Experts say that business will develop under increasingly growing uncertainty.

Leaders will have to make breakthroughs themselves, which means to drastically change their state of mind, their values, and their actions.

Scientists interviewed a large number of investors and business managers and have come with several key characteristics that such leaders need to have, which are: the ability to predict, to lead others, to encourage, to establish collaborative relations, and to trust others. These are the five attributes that a revolutionary leader should have. How can one become a leader who is both revolutionary but also establishes collaborative relations and reliable processes, who also encourages and leads others who follow him?

Answer: It is impossible to raise such a leader. He has to be born like this. We can only teach and fine tune someone’s attributes, but all these aspects must basically be innate.

Comment: But there are no such people.

My Response: Why not? There are such people, they just need some fine tuning.

Question: Is it possible to recognize them?

Answer: There are many state institutions that gradually raise such people on different levels. This means that a leader advances and reaches a position of a regional manager, or a manager of a commercial union, and thus advances until he rises and reaches the summit as a very special person.

Question: Leaders don’t dictate conditions, instead they regulate, invoke, and guide changes. Why is this important?

Answer: Because one should not give orders. Nothing works by giving orders. You should simply establish the right conditions so that your subordinates will understand the common task and create it on their own.

Comment: Leaders should listen to others. This enables them to assess the situation and to be the first where there are new opportunities.

My Response: Yes, you need to teach your subordinates to take initiative that is aimed at the goal correctly. This means that they should understand and know all that, and carry it out, but according to their vision.

You cannot take the place of your subordinates and all their deputies and everyone else. You must not. Every minister has ten deputies and each of them has ten more assistants and so on. You cannot take their job and do something.

Comment: Leaders should be enthusiastic about the goal and then they can establish a collaborative network faster than any abstract strategic plans.

My Response: Yes, this is actually what a leader should engage in.

Comment: Innovative leaders see and encourage the potential of other people.

My Response: Indeed.

Question: What is a real leader and what is the future leader?

Answer: It is a leader who teaches all his subordinates to be above him. He knows all his drawbacks and knows what his abilities are. He invests in all his subordinates in order to be in the center of a big good group for the time being. This is a true leader who creates a group and the group creates him.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 4/21/19

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Humanity Will Fulfill Its Program

962.5Question: What will happen if humanity perishes before Kabbalists fulfill their destiny?

Answer: No. We are in a system called nature. This system is absolute and universal. We are within a network of forces that control us and lead us to a pre-set goal.

This goal and all the stages that we must go through are already, as it were, realized, only we must introduce ourselves into these stages and exist in them alternately, and rise to different levels. The steps themselves and the final state (complete correction) are already prepared.

Therefore, there can be no destruction, but there can be great suffering that will make us voluntarily, with the right choice, with our freewill, go toward the goal of creation, and not prompted by the little sufferings that we are experiencing now.

So, you can be calm, nothing will happen to humanity. It will be obliged to fulfill its program.
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“But Cling To The Lord Your God”

527.03Prophets, Joshua, 23:8: But cling to the Lord your God, as you have done to this day.

Adhesion (Dvekut) means that with everything that is in your feelings and reasoning, you should cling to the Creator as tightly as possible, like a child clings to its mother. In her, he sees the source of life, security, understanding, everything!

If you are in such a connection with the Creator, when you adhere to Him with all your powers and thoughts, then you do not need anything else. You should have no other motives, desires, nothing! You give everything to Him, and the Creator, as they say, will finish it for you.

Comment: I would really love to live with this confidence.

My Response: Everyone can and should do it, this is offered to everyone.

Therefore, there are no privileges for some over others. Do you want it?—No problem.
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From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 8/30/21

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Every Stage—From Zero

237The Torah and the book of Prophets constantly repeat what was said, because at each stage you must start a correction, as it were, anew, but on a different level.

The most important thing in attaining spiritual levels is that at all stages you constantly connect the beginning with the end and the end with the beginning.

Comment: You keep saying not to look back.

My Response: But this does not mean that you are looking back. You take the entire past stage and reveal all the phases, the beginning, and the end in it. The next stage also starts from zero, as it were.

Zero is like the embryo of a new state. The more you pass, the more you reveal that initial zero.

Question: That is, at each stage, I am an embryo, right?

Answer: Of course. Otherwise, you will not attain it, you will not understand it.

This is actually a wonderful system! The one who begins to feel it sees what a divine creation it is!
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From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 8/30/21

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Daily Kabbalah Lesson – 11/2/21

Preparation to the Lesson

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Writings of Baal HaSulam, Shamati #45 “Two Discernments in the Torah and in the Work” 

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Writings of Baal HaSulam, “Preface to the Wisdom of Kabbalah,” Item 86

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“Glasgow Climate Change Conference Changes Nothing” (Linkedin)


My new article on Linkedin “Glasgow Climate Change Conference Changes Nothing”

As the world prepares for the 2021 Glasgow Climate Change Conference, more and more data indicate that human efforts, assuming there have been efforts, have been insufficient, at best. While world leaders spread declarations galore about curbing emissions of greenhouse gases, the reality is the opposite. The UN Production Gap Report tracks the discrepancy between governments’ planned fossil fuel production and actual global production levels. This year’s report reveals that “despite increased climate ambitions and net-zero commitments, governments still plan to produce more than double the amount of fossil fuels in 2030 than what would be consistent with limiting global warming to 1.5°C [2.7°F].”

However, even if governments did intend to meet their commitments, it would not reverse climate change. If we compare the amount of greenhouse gases that humanity produces to the amount emitted by volcanic eruptions, forest fires, and the accelerated thawing of the permafrost in Alaska, Greenland, Canada and Siberia, it will be clear that nature is headed for a rapid climate change with or without our “help.”

Climate change is not the only crisis that humanity is facing. There are crises in every area of human engagement: International tensions are rising; religious extremism is increasing; racial and cultural tensions are dividing countries from within; and the global economy is teetering on the brink of stagflation. If this is not enough, the tenacious coronavirus is still disrupting lives and economic recovery the world over, supply chains are breaking, leading to shortages in gas, food, and other staples, and natural disasters are intensifying in frequency and ferocity due to climate change. Clearly, we need to stop focusing on specific problems, and start thinking more systemically.

Our world is built like a pyramid. At the base of the pyramid is the mineral level, above it is the flora, above which is the fauna, and man stands at the top of the pyramid. We are not part of the animal kingdom because while our bodies are similar to that of other primates, our minds enable us to reflect on our past, our future, and make long-term plans for ourselves and for the planet.

However, despite our superior mind, we are not “above” the system; we are a part of it. As such, we affect all the levels below us. Therefore, any malfunction on the top, human level, “trickles down” to the entire pyramid and spoils the other levels, too.

Now it is easy to see that the problem lies squarely with humanity. Moreover, since the problems encompass every realm of human engagement, then clearly, curbing gas emissions will not solve anything. If we want to fix the world, we need to fix humanity.

When we examine humanity, each person has unique skills and traits. In themselves, these characteristics are not problems but advantages. The diversity of human thoughts, approaches, cultures, ideas, and beliefs creates a tapestry whose threads weave into a powerful entity that could, theoretically, achieve anything. Therefore, the problem is not in the people, but in how they connect with one another.

Currently, the threads in the tapestry of humanity are trying to tear each other up. Instead of strengthening, supporting, and emboldening each other, we are vying for supremacy and power. Instead of working to make the fabric as strong and as beautiful as possible, we are trying to be the strongest thread in the sheet. Is it any wonder that we are exhausted? Is it any wonder that we are sickened by the endless struggles and ill-will that surround us? Is it any wonder that depression is the most common illness of our time? And finally, is it any wonder that our world, our only home, is ruined? Now, I think we know what we really need to focus on when we come to save our planet.
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Special Time

167Question: What is special for you in the present time in what is happening in the world right now?

Answer: I think our time is special. We are in a state of intensified development of humanity’s awareness of its destructive egoistic nature. I hope this will give us an opportunity to understand our state and find a way to fix it.

Question: What worries you personally?

Answer: Frankly speaking, nothing bothers me deeply except for one thing. As the great Kabbalist of the beginning of the 20th century Baal HaSulam writes, we are in the last generation, which means, in the generation that must reach the recognition of the final inferiority of our egoism, the impossibility of correcting it, and being cured of the ego by rising above it.

To bring a person to this, there are a huge number of negative forces that will cause suffering in us, up to the third and fourth nuclear world wars. Therefore, I am concerned about whether we will be able to achieve recognition and correction through it, or whether we will have to go through enormous suffering.

Question: So on one hand, you feel deep calmness, and on the other hand anxiety?

Answer: Peace of mind is that we will reach the final state anyway. It can be seen, but it’s very far away. In principle, it is close, but it depends on how you look at it because it is in our hands to make a leap to it, to reject egoism, to try to move to another level of communication between us. Otherwise, we will have to do it under the influence of a terrible coercive force.

Question: Is it realistic for an individual to see this final state?

Answer: Kabbalists see it. And the rest of the people will have to feel a little bit the impossibility of continuing life in the paradigm we exist in now and agree with this.

Consent gives a person the opportunity to realize that another form of his attitude to the world, to people, to loved ones, to the connection between us is necessary. We must exchange our negative egoistic interactions for positive, altruistic ones that will fill the entire space between us.

We must come to this realization. I say “realization” because actions are actually done by nature, but in accordance with our wishes.

Question: Is there anything that particularly inspires you now?

Answer: I am inspired by the fact that our time is very saturated with all kinds of events that are altering us at a great speed. This is incomparable with what we went through in previous generations.

I really hope that we will come to a state where we really realize the evil of egoism as our mortal enemy, and we will do everything possible to get rid of it.
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From KabTV’s “Kabbalah Express” 10/19/21

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