Question: How can young people keep their family together if by nature we can only take care of ourselves, and at the same time can live happily in a marriage only if we take care of our partner? How do I make these changes?

Answer: When you get married, you must understand that it is forever, as it is said: “Until death do us part.”

It can be in any case of life. Even if some of you do not like it or like it, you continue because children appear. You get married or get married forever, once for a lifetime.

If you initially know this, then it is not difficult. Mostly, you build your life in such a way that it interferes with you less.

I know many couples who work 20 hours a day and see each other a couple of months a year. That is, it does not matter. It is not that they dilute their lives with this, but they know that they still have an obligation forever.

Question: Man’s nature is to take care of himself, and a person should understand that by taking care of another, he will thereby make this marriage happy. How do these two points touch?

Answer: You need to think more about the other, and then you will see that it fills you. It is very simple really. When you think about someone else, you think about yourself less directly, but through another.

And at the same time, the world is arranged in such a way that everything fits well. It is amazing! I would just advise this formula to be well thought out.

Comment: That is, you have now proposed two simple but serious formulas. First, I am getting married and getting married forever. We are connected forever. And the second formula is I take care of the other, all the time.

Answer: In this way, I get rid of all the problems. Strange as it may seem.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 2/14/22

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People in our world do not have freewill. We must introduce a quality into them that is the opposite of what they have so that two qualities are formed in them. To be more exact, it is not to introduce, but to excite a point in the heart. It is in everyone, and we need to awaken it.

When it manifests itself in a person, then you can work with him, but not before that.

People in whom there is only one quality are called animals, and those in whom there is a point in the heart are already called men according to the future that can develop from it.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Problems of Kabbalah” 1/23/11

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Question: What is beauty?

Answer: What we consider beauty is a completely wrong idea imposed on us by society.

Having been born, we begin to develop under the influence of the world around us, which imposes on us all sorts of concepts: this is good, this is bad, this is necessary, this is not necessary, look how beautiful, how good, and so on.

This is how we were brought up by the school, the environment, parents, the media, everything around. Therefore, we do not have our own personal, specific definition of beauty.

In principle, beauty is what suits and impresses me in accordance with my biological and inner spiritual form. That is beautiful for me.

For example, if we ask a hippopotamus what is most beautiful, he will say: “Look at this female. What a beauty. What a body, what shapes, what a small tail she has, how touchingly it sways and excites me.”

For him, this is considered the standard of beauty because this is how his hormones work. But this is his and is not imposed on him from the outside!

Therefore, there is no concept of absolute beauty in our world. We see that each era has its own standards of beauty.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Beauty” 1/9/11

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The main work of a person is only to be rewarded with feeling the Creator, that is, to feel that He exists and fills the entire reality. There is none else besides Him; there is only the Creator, and we are inside Him. The whole purpose of our studies and our entire life is to come to the feeling that we exist inside the Creator and we do not need anything else.

Eventually everyone will come to this; the difference is only in the number of cycles of life that will be required for this. But in the end, everyone will reach the purpose of creation and the purpose of their life. That is, they will discover that there is only one upper force, and we live only to reveal it.

Faith in the Creator means to feel Him. To believe is to feel. It is not like in our world where I can believe in what I do not see and do not feel in any way. In spiritual reality, believing is equivalent to feeling, revealing, and seeing.

We need nothing apart from this, and only toward this purpose are we directed throughout our lives. It seems to us that at every step something confuses us and distracts us from it. But this is done on purpose to give us the right direction to reveal the Creator from all this shattered creation.

That is why we circle and wander and encounter shattering after shattering, until we reach a state in which the Creator will finally be revealed. The Creator confuses a person, and He also leads a person out of the confusion and leads one through all these states, as if on dry land between the raging waves of the parted sea.

This is how we grow until we begin to understand and feel this system within which the Creator is concealed. Then we will see that it is precisely due to all the states we have passed through that we eventually managed to reveal the Creator and adhere to Him.

Thus, the Creator teaches us in the same way as we buy toys for our children each according to his age so that the child can play and develop, improve, strengthen their health, and gain experience that helps in life. That is how the Creator develops us.

That is why we go through so many circles of life. Despite the fact that we do not really understand what is happening to us in them, all human lives are a sequence of actions of the Creator who guides us through all these states so that we understand, feel, learn and are ready to perceive life correctly, that is, to reveal the Creator in full.

If a person wants to move toward the Creator, he needs a group of friends, ten people who aim for the same goal. He must stick to the ten and all the time check himself how he can integrate with the ten even more and help his friends so that everyone adheres to each other.

A person should make efforts not to forget that all the disturbances are given to us only in order to tie us even more to the process that we have to go through, that is, to reveal the Creator from each confused state.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/28/23, “The Whole Earth Is Full of His Glory”

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Question: Do Jews understand why there is pressure on them from all sides?

Answer: They understand perfectly, but what can you do? This is the law of nature, the forces of nature, which direct the uncorrected people in this way to hate those in whom there is a spiritual germ, the source of the upper soul.

We cannot agree with that, we hate ourselves. We, Jews, do not like ourselves for this because we are uncorrected.

Comment: But in fact, the Jews themselves do not know this.

My Response: What difference does it make if they know or not? This is the law of nature; this is how natural forces work. Anti-Semites do not know why they do not like Jews, they invent all sorts of excuses, and Jews do not know why they hate them, and they also invent all sorts of reasons. It comes from two upper opposing forces, just like everything in our world.

In the corporeal world, the representative of spiritual forces is a Jew. In order to make myself a representative of the spiritual forces instead of him, I must destroy him, not destroy completely, but to leave him as an example: “Look at the state he is in, it means I am right, I won, I am higher.”

Question: Will the Jews ever understand their destiny? Or will they realize it only when they are slaughtered?

Answer: No, this cannot happen. They will realize their mission, demonstrate it, and offer it to the whole world. Then, to the extent that everyone participated in the beating of this tribe, he will have to overcome this whole process within himself, because the recognition of evil must pass through all the Kelim (Vessels), through all the phases of egoism in the opposite direction.

The great tragedy of humanity is that for many millennia they have shown their hatred of the Jews for being representatives of God on Earth.

Now we need to roll this in reverse in all nations to the same extent that they resisted, destroyed, and burned Jews. They will have to experience all this for themselves in order to be corrected. I do not know in what form it will be, morally, spiritually, or even physically, but it is not at all easier. After all, we do not go through anything directly from end to end. We have to go through the recognition of evil.

It is said in The Book of Zohar that my inner non-Jew (Goy) strikes at my Jew inside, that is, my egoism strikes at the quality of bestowal and love. Therefore, everyone will have to accept this and go through this as the recognition of their own evil in great internal suffering, and only after that begin their correction. This is the law of nature, there is nothing we can do. So, all this is still ahead.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Laitman’s Teacher” 1/23/11

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Question: Why does Europe represent the rigid backbone of humanity? It did not choose this role itself.

Answer: Nobody chooses anything. It is just that the egoism that exists in us must go through all the stages of its development. I personally do not blame anyone. I am just stating the facts and explaining the dialectic of development.

If freewill appears in us, then from this moment onward we can talk about something. And if there is no freewill, then we must go through all these states as we did.

Question: But can something help the Europeans?

Answer: Yes, they will have to go in the opposite direction of all the suffering that they have caused to other people. Mainly because they hated them as carriers of spiritual knowledge. They hated unconsciously, without knowing why, but it does not mean anything. They will have to realize all this and go through it; otherwise, they will not begin correction.

What will they need to correct then? They must realize this evil, reveal it, and correct it. Based on what will a person move forward if not on the revelation of evil and its correction? How will one reach the highest spiritual degree? All people must achieve it, each one on the basis of the evil in which he has been during all his cycles.

The Europeans in one way, the Chinese in a different way, the Japanese in a different way, etc. Everyone has gone through history in their own way, and everyone in their own way must realize the whole path of development of their egoism to begin correcting it.

By asking this question, you treat people, so to speak, in a human way, i.e., as material objects. And I treat them as a desire created by the Creator that must undergo all these metamorphoses and achieve correction, similarity to the Creator.

But to achieve this, a person must feel himself opposite to the Creator. Look at how much he has already done in contrast to the Creator. Now he must only realize the opposite and then correct it. These stages still remain. Europe will soon begin to feel them for itself.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Saving Europe” 1/23/11

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Question: Kabbalah embraces a broad view of the world. What is the best way to convey information to make it easier to understand?

Answer: The information itself is very global, and at the same time it includes all special cases.
Let’s say I have a business. I will not be able to run it if I do not take into account all of humanity and the interconnectedness between people. But how to do it?

It means that from today or tomorrow onward I have to think: “I need to obtain something, sell it, and transport it somewhere. But it won’t work if I don’t start thinking about the whole of humanity, that at the same time it should be good for everyone else, that I take for myself only what is necessary for existence, and I give away everything else so that everyone can enjoy the results of my work.” To act in this way?! Wow!

But this is required by the governance descending on us today from above. If we do not comply with it, then it will inevitably start to break us, and it will get worse. Crises of various formats and nature will become more frequent.

All this needs to be explained at the smallest level. I care about something else, about my job, about my child, or about my family. Do I focus on the fact that without thinking about others, I will not achieve a normal life even in my home?

I inevitably have to think that all of humanity is one single whole. There is no other way! I have to get accustomed to this image and gradually instill it within myself. With more willful effort I can approach it, and the sooner I will discover that it is indeed so.

It will suddenly begin to open up to me as if emerging from a fog: “It turns out that indeed everything is interconnected! What to do?! Where to go?” Or the other way around: “How to accept it?! How to grasp it?! How to work with it?!”

It is a system you can’t run away from! It should not seem to me like something defiant, as something threatening, but on the contrary, as salvation! Not salvation from the fact that I feel bad now, but salvation from this futile life, from this emptiness, from this transient life, a transition to something bright and eternal.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. A Global Idea” 2/6/11

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Comment: Alexander writes: “Michael Laitman, when you say that the Creator is good and does only good, what do you want from an unfortunate poor person? If there is only grief around him, then the fact that the Creator is good sounds like a mockery of him.

Your house is destroyed, this is good; your loved ones have died, this is good; you are forced to leave everything you have earned, this is good. We have to convince ourselves that all this is for our good, that the Creator is kind and does good, or how should we understand you?”

My Response: It is very simple to understand me. We must try to understand the laws of nature, and try to fulfill them and disseminate them. These are the laws of the Creator.

Comment: There are thousands of questions like this, especially in our time, and you continue to say that nature is connection and good and the Creator is good and does good. These questions multiply in conjunction with what is happening in the world. How can a person renounce what is happening in front of his eyes and in his feelings?

My Response: What he sees before his eyes is done by people, not by the Creator.

The Creator set conditions, and if we had fulfilled them, we would have lived completely differently. Otherwise, what do you do?

Question: These laws of nature, as you say, the Creator, should I know and fulfill them?

Answer: Never mind fulfilling them, but at least know them.

Question: Can you name the main law?

Answer: It is very simple: “Love thy neighbor as thyself.”

Comment: We run into this formula all the time. But it’s not easy. You immediately say that this needs to be achieved.

My Response: You are talking about the law. I gave you the law. If this formula is not easy, what will you do?

Comment: So you are saying that we all need to know about this, all of humanity does.

My Response: Yes. The whole world is built on it. If you act in this way, you will be closer to the Creator and to fulfilling His law, the global law of all nature. What’s next? See for yourself.

Question: So I know that I can’t do it yet, I understand that I can’t, and you call this advancement already?

Answer: Of course!

Question: The fact that I understand that I cannot fulfill this law?

Answer: It doesn’t matter. But you understand that such a law exists, and in the end, ideally, if you followed it, you would be at the degree of the Creator.

Question: And who are you more for, for those who say and even write to us: “I am fulfilling this law” or for those who say: “It is impossible to execute it”?

Answer: Of course, it is impossible to execute.

Question: How can we fulfill it in this case? Do we have to think about it?

Answer: If we gradually connect for the sake of fulfilling this law, then we begin to acquire in ourselves within our connection qualities that begin to feel this law on ourselves, and gradually, gradually we approach it and its fulfillment. That is all.

Question: Are these qualities in us, or are they somehow given to us? You say, “They weren’t in us. There is no love in us.”

Answer: They weren’t in us, absolutely. We attract them. We attract them from above, so to say. From an upper degree.

Question: So there is our degree and there is a higher degree. It is here. Is our task just to reach out to it?

Answer: To draw it to yourself.

Question: Do I have to live with this thought that I want to draw this quality to myself?

Answer: Yes, to live for this.

Question: Is this the goal of life by and large?

Answer: Of course. It is to pull up to the love of one’s neighbor is the meaning of life.

Question: Tell me, will we ever reach a state when a mass of people…?

Answer: We can’t wait, we have to do it on ourselves. Then it will happen.

Question: Then will I stop seeing, let’s say, the way Alexander describes, that everything around is terrible?

Answer: I will see that everything is terrible, but it can all be fixed.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 3/30/23

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Comment: Hebrew is the language of Kabbalah. But why is it that you can perfectly convey the subtleties of the soul in Russian too?

My Response: The thing is, in my native language I can express the essence of spiritual feelings concisely, clearly, and correctly. I once had an excellent vocabulary everyone admired.

However, over forty years with limited use, both in volume and time, there is little left of it. But still I speak quite precisely, as far as one can express spiritual feelings in Russian.

It has a vast scope of necessary words for spiritual expressions, not precise, but sensual. On our earthly sensory level, this is an excellent language for explaining the spiritual. But a little above, it won’t work anymore.

Over time, as we delve into the upper world, we will see the roots of all languages. But the Kabbalists did not give us the key to them. After all, any language still comes from our nature, from our essence.

Therefore we can express the spiritual essence also in English, Hebrew, Russian, or almost any language because they express the inner essence of a person externally. But we don’t have the key to them.

Should we go up to look for that key? Do we need to? I do not know if this will still be in our future. We don’t have much time left to correct this world and rise above languages, above all the sounds and symbols that separate us. We just need to connect in feelings. In the spiritual world there are no differences between souls, which is called “soul to soul.” So there will be no need for languages.

Languages originated in ancient Babylon, as people stopped understanding each other. Everyone began to speak different languages. But if we speak the same language, then in the end I think it will still be Hebrew because all the symbols, sounds, and the structure of our speech organs are explained and spelled out in it. All the methodology, literature, and sources have already been prepared for us by the Kabbalists of antiquity.

Thus, except for the two related languages Hebrew and Aramaic, all other languages appeared in Babylon when egoism delivered a blow to the small humanity who lived there and began to divide it. The egoistic division between souls was the reason all other languages were created.

But the moment we begin to connect, all these languages will also connect among themselves. I do not know how to describe it, but they will combine together again into one common verbal apparatus.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Russian Language” 1/23/11

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