Remark: According to Kabbalah, there is the law of equivalence of form, which says that we should seek a partner with whom we have a common foundation and qualities.
My Comment: Yes, it is necessary. It is advisable to look for a partner who came from the same environment as you, and who is close to you.
Remark: However, Kabbalah also says that the connection of opposites gives a bigger and better effect.
My Comment: We do not need “effects.” We need peace and a normal existence. We are talking about the family.
I need my wife to understand my tastes and habits, to feel me because she herself saw something similar in the society where she developed. If I marry a woman from the other side of the Earth, it might work out, but we always will have some misunderstandings on a purely instinctive level.
Question: Do you still recommend that there should be similarity of properties?
Answer: Yes. In principle we see this from the Torah when Abraham advised the young men to bring themselves wives from the same places they came from.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 12/31/18