Answer: The fact of the matter is that there is useful suffering that directs us toward the goal of creation and there is suffering that we just experience, which brings no benefit.
Useful suffering forces us to be immersed in the group more, to be united with it, to help build ourselves. Just like when we drive somewhere and get lost, that we went the wrong way, the suffering from this helps us find the right way. Without such jolts, we cannot move correctly. We always move according to the two lines: right and left, pleasure and suffering.
Therefore, the suffering that pushes us forward and always indicates how to move correctly is the right suffering.
For example, in a tracking system, a moving rocket constantly adjusts itself. We too must always monitor our path and adjust ourselves according to the negative feedback that constantly corrects and keeps us on course. Such connection is necessary and should not be perceived as suffering but as a necessary correction. Thank the Creator for giving us this education.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 11/18/18