Answer: I am not interested in the friend’s earthly desires. I am interested in something else since his desire is the same as mine. To achieve the spiritual goal, he needs my support and I need his. I need to think about this support.
I do not have to know his taste, what he likes to eat, drink, see, or hear. Only one thing is clear—his desire is the same as mine. He wants to achieve the same goal as I do: to reveal the upper world, to reveal himself in the eternal perfect state, in the property of bestowal. That is why I understand how I can help him, what I can give him.
If you want to understand him, understand yourself. It’s very simple. There are no excuses. It’s all so natural that you should take this as a basis and begin to act.
From the Convention in Krasnoyarsk 6/14/13, Lesson 2