In the News (Exploringyourmind.com, “The Most Common Regrets of Older People”): “It’s a curious fact that, when we reach maturity, most of us experience certain regrets. What are they? …
“1. Not doing what they really wanted…
“2. Being more honest about their feelings…
“3. Not having spent more time on what really mattered…
“4. Worrying excessively and forgetting to live…
“5. Missing out on opportunities.”
Question: Most regretted was having spent most of their lives doing something they did not like, and they not having enough strength and intention to change anything.
In your opinion, is this their worst regret?
Answer: Of course. It generally makes life very difficult if a person is doing something he does not like and cannot get used to what he is doing. I cannot imagine this. And a person does not have the strength to change anything.
Question: Is it possible to turn a job you do not like into a job you love?
Answer: In order to do this, you need to go deeper into your job and dedicate yourself to it. And then it may possibly become the job you love.
Question: It means that at some point I can say: “I cannot quit, but my goal is to make it loved”?
Answer: Yes, you can do it if you enter into mastery.
Comment: But it is still unloved!
My Response: It is because you did not engage in it with dedication and from the heart.
Question: Why did not a single person respond: “Unfortunately, I did not look for the meaning of life?” What do you think?
Answer: They are looking for it very quietly, but it is in second, third, or who-knows-what place.
You should just calmly try to find the meaning of life in your circle. This is what you must do. Without this, life is meaningless. But whether you find it or not, and what kind of meaning you find, depends on you.
Question: Can everyone find their own meaning in life? Small, big, high or not so high, but it should be? This is what it is, and this is what a man’s life is?
Answer: Yes. But it does not mean to give in. This is not giving in; no. It is looking for the meaning of life.
Question: But after all, you are saying this to the fact that we have reached some meaning in life, haven’t we?
Answer: We have reached it; we will get there. And we will keep getting to it. A person cannot live without this; this is not existence. But we must understand that this is what we have been given.
Question: Do you personally regret anything in life?
Answer: No, even so, I should have regretted a lot of things.
Question: And you do not? How can you live like this, without regrets? How do you cut them off?
Answer: I cut them off very simply. “The right to forget the years, the right to choose the hours. The right to choose how to live, throwing life on the scales” (Evgeny Klyachkin, Song about Rights).
So there is nothing you can do about it. I personally take this very philosophically. And this is not what makes it easier; although, in fact, it does make it easier too. But on the other hand, this is how it should be.
Question: Is this what you came to: “This is how it should be”? This very phrase, did it begin to define everything?
Answer: This phrase began to define my attitude toward life, toward the world: “I will do what I can, and I will give what I can.”
And I hope that by giving to the world I am improving it in some way. I am not indifferent to the world, and I am not indifferent to people. I want them to open their eyes a little more.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/31/23
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Question: In one of the comments to the “Preface of The Book of Zohar” you explained: “In fact, the night is full of light, and only we are not able to see at night. We lack the light of love, the light of bestowal—Hasadim, so, to see it.” How should we understand this?
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