Question: Who do you think is more dangerous when they are endowed with unlimited power—a woman or a man?

Answer: A man is more dangerous because a woman has a lot of natural instincts that force her to act wisely, correctly, and in accordance with nature.

A woman’s behavior is very limited by nature both physiologically and mentally, which means she is always within certain boundaries.

A man, however, does not have these boundaries; therefore, he can cause more harm.
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From KabTV’s “Spiritual States” 3/22/22

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Question: Where does the phenomenon of transgender come from, when a person is outwardly born a man, but feels like a woman and undergoes sex change surgery? Or vice versa?

Answer: This comes from the fact that we are all the result of the shattering of a common soul.

The Creator created one soul, one spiritual structure, which was specially divided into many parts so that we could know the Creator through them and reach His status, His degree, and merge with Him.

It was not just shattered into different parts in terms of power, qualities, and characters, but also by gender. At the same time, one part of the soul is engaged in mastering the technique of correction and attracting an upper force, the other is developing desire and arousing the male part to development with the help of the same upper force.

Since we are broken parts of a single soul, in the process of our correction, adaptation, and return to the upper world from which we fell after being shattered, we constantly mix with each other. Together, men and women give birth to both boys and girls.

It is the same in the spiritual world. We give birth to both male and female souls, and the Creator, the third force, determines, in principle, the fate of each of them in accordance with the final goal. In general, this is not a simple system.

For tens of thousands of years of humanity’s existence there has been constant physiological animal mixing, especially in our time when on one hand egoism has risen, and on the other hand it has reached a terrible, amazing mixing between nations in our generation.

Moreover, this mixing is not so much physical as internal—in culture, in mentality, and in dependence on each other. As a result there is such an agitation in the souls when they cannot accurately associate themselves with their roots, including sexually.

And here a person gets confused with his orientation both spiritually and physically. Even in spiritual work, we sometimes observe that a man who should realize himself as a man actually tends to a more feminine version of soul correction. Conversely there are many women who would like to be in the place of men in their spiritual realization.

I think this is a necessary degree of our development. It contains a very serious plan, when by mutual penetration, rapprochement, and mixing from above, we begin to better analyze, absorb, and separate the sexes.

This will lead to the fact that men in both the spiritual and physical world will understand women better, and women will understand men better. But today there is no such understanding. For this you need to be a serious Kabbalist in order to really be able to enter into the inner world of a woman and understand her, and vice versa.

One of the goals of Kabbalistic education is to give people the opportunity to come to the right interaction with each other. Otherwise, our world will become a world of people who don’t see each other. They only occasionally meet somewhere, have intercourse, and run away. And even if you live together with someone, such cohabitation is not something in common.

In other words, our mutual mixing is necessary even in such unpleasant, unnatural forms of egoistic development because only in this way can we come to a special kind of egoism, which consists of all possible forms, and then everyone will be able to understand the other more and better.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up. Reincarnation” 5/3/10

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The soul of a man in the next reincarnation will always be male and a female soul will always be female because male and female souls are two opposite, complementary huge blocks that cannot develop one without the other. They cannot just change because in essence they are completely different.

The female soul develops in its desires and supplies them for implementation to the male soul. The male soul must realize these desires in a way of receiving the force that corrects them both, from above, from the next degree,  and as a result of their correct interaction with the help of this third force it gives offspring—the next degree.

Therefore, there is a man, a woman, and a Creator here who, together with them, participates in the conception and birth of the next common degree.
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From KabTV’s “Close-up. Reincarnation” 5/3/10

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Question: It has been said that the development of mankind can be traced through plastic surgery. At the heart of the profession of plastic surgery was helping those who were disfigured as a result of disasters and so on. Later they began to help older people look better. Then the youth came and began to correct their noses, ears, eyebrows, brow ridges, and lips.

But surgeons say that in recent years we have faced crazy desires. A woman wants her face to look like it was edited with an Instagram filter. More and more, a man does not want to be himself. Where does this lead?

Answer: It’s right that he doesn’t want to be himself. He is ugly both internally and externally.

Comment: But he does not want his inner ugliness to be somehow changed, he wants his outer ugliness to be changed so that he becomes more beautiful externally.

My Response: One cannot work without the other. In principle, we see a person from the inside. And no matter how beautiful he may be, if he is in himself internally terrible, then no beautiful appearance will correct his general ugliness, but will show all the more prominently that he is terrible.

With women it’s a different matter. There, men look at appearances. According to the nature of men, they do not look at the inner content of women. And outside, if everything is in place, then he is attracted by her appearance. But this, as we understand it, is only temporary, and passes very quickly.

Question: That is, the coincidence must be based on internal features?

Answer: According to internal signs, it is very difficult; it is not for a young age. You need special education, training, and time. And then people will begin to feel what is worth paying attention to, how to appreciate the other, and so on.

Question: Is it worth paying attention only to the internal, do you think?

Answer: But in the end, when do we come to this conclusion?

Comment: Yes. When we are gray and old.

My Response: If youth knew, if old age could.

Question: Yes, how much wisdom in all this! Do you think that when one person looks at another, considers that he or she is beautiful, and says: “This is a beautiful person,” does this reflect the inside of that person?

Answer: Of course. It should be like this. But if we are brought up in Hollywood, then of course it is hard for us because we are shown such images in advance and they want to make a standard of them: this is evil, this is kind, this is naive, this is smart, and so on. In fact, beauty is when I feel good with a person. That’s all.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/28/21

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Comment: According to Bloomberg’s Covid Resilience Ranking, Finland, Sweden, Denmark, Norway and Bangladesh are among the most pandemic resilient countries. All of these countries have in common the fact that their prime ministers are female.

Some suggest that female leaders have qualities that give them advantages, especially in crisis situations, such as knowing how to listen, mediation skills, genuine pragmatism, resistance to conflicts, as well as knowing how to be economical. It is also suggested that women leaders work better in crisis situations than their male counterparts, and in this crisis, they prioritized healthcare over economics. Lately you have been talking more and more about the fact that a woman can drive the progress of humanity.

My Response: Yes, she can drive progress.

God is also masculine; He is afraid of women, like all men. 🙂

Question: “It is better not to mess with them.” Is this what He says?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Do women really have such special qualities?

Answer: They are capable. They are in conflict all their lives with people around them, with other women, with children, with husbands. They have to handle everything—the household, work…

A man leaves everything to a woman and goes somewhere into politics, to some job that nobody needs. These jobs are falling into decay and crises. For a woman, however, everything remains the way it was—work, home, children—besides these, she bears children, gives birth, and feeds.

Therefore a woman is really capable of giving birth to a new world. This is not a man’s job.

Question: So can we say the future belongs to women? If we understand this, will we advance?

Answer: Yes. It is written in the Torah that God said to Abraham, “Listen to what Sarah tells you.”

It is because He created everything in this way. Listen to the corrected egoism.

Comment: This already is a Kabbalistic concept.

My Response: This is very serious. Listen not to yourself, but to corrected egoism. In principle, at our everyday level a woman is much more practical, much more sober, and much more balanced than men.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/20/21

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Question: There is a stir in Japan. Princess Mako of Japan has married a man of common origin whom she met at university. Marriage to him deprives the princess of the status of a member of the imperial family. According to Japanese tradition, women are deprived of this status, but men are not.

Princess Mako is the first member of the imperial family to renounce the traditional ceremony of the imperial wedding and almost one and a half million dollars dowry. The couple is about to move to New York where the husband works as a lawyer.

Opinions were divided. Some say that this cannot be done; it violates all traditions; it is terrible. Others say: “What if it’s love?”

Whose side are you on?

Answer: I am on the side of the princess. Give up your happy life for the sake of some ghostly Japanese etiquette? I think they tested each other. After all, he is a lawyer and she is a princess. These are extraordinary people who understand what they are doing. And there are also a lot of politicians, advisers, and all the others around them. So I think the choice was right.

Question: In principle, are you for love—for these feelings?

Answer: I believe in love.

Question: Don’t you think she will regret it after some time?

Answer: Today I don’t think so. Today there are no such edges or distances or anything like that. They will accept her, she will visit them, and they will visit her. After all, what does princess mean?
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 10/28/21

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Question: Anna writes: “My husband and I have been married for three years, and feelings are only growing. But I can’t let go of the thought that this is all temporary, that all this can pass. I don’t want our feelings to cool down. How can I do this?”

Answer: If you share these feelings between yourselves, then the mere fear that they will pass will somehow continue them.

And the main thing is to study your nature mutually, you and him, and thus help each other in manifesting this egoistic nature and rising above it together. You have to understand that this egoism is against you, and when together you create more and more bonds between each other, you will thus rise above it. But it will not go anywhere and it will constantly grow and force you to grow in the same way.

Question: So is the trepidation a good thing? Should there be constant fear that the relationship will suddenly change?

Answer: Yes. Trembling, fear, and anxiety that we will fall from our good attitude toward each other is the guarantee that we will hold on to it.

Question: So your advice is not to destroy this anxiety?

Answer: No. This is called “Ira” in Hebrew; it is not just fear, but anxiety, a special anxiety, the anxiety of maintaining good relations.

Question: Does this mean that they are getting closer to true love between them?

Answer: Yes. They seem to be climbing a mountain. Egoism grows all the time and becomes more sophisticated and therefore sharper. But it is the joint work that raises them and brings them even closer together.

Question: And what is there at the top?

Answer: At the top, spiritual rapprochement will begin, which will create a higher connection between them, which is in fact supra-egoistic. And they will begin to connect with each other in such a way that they will understand each other internally without words, instead only with thoughts, and will intertwine with each other.

Question: Is this the highest state of connection?

Answer: Yes. Just as snakes in a pit intertwine with each other, so they will intertwine, not selfishly, but in a mutually kind attitude toward each other.

Comment: You compared it with snakes, and immediately it became somehow uncomfortable.

My Response: Why? This is very relevant and direct.

Question: Are these snakes in us?

Answer: It is thanks to our great, insidious egoism that if we start using it correctly to draw closer and to wrap ourselves around each other, that in this way we will rise closer and closer to the Creator.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 1/3/22

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Comment: A letter from Irina: “We were together since the first grade at school, and we never quarreled. He used to carry my school bag already in the third grade, and all the boys laughed at him. But we became even better friends, and everyone envied us. After school, we studied at the Institute of Technology together, in the same department. In the third year we got married. Our parents were friends. We gave birth to two children. I do not understand where the irritation, rejection, and hatred have come from, we knew each other thoroughly!

Today we are already divorced. Until now court trials and disputes have been going on. It was a terrible break-up! I cannot hear his voice, I cannot see him! I have constant inner pain! I do not understand how this could have happened to me! I do not know what I did wrong!”

My Response: You did not work on yourself. You thought nothing would change. But a person is constantly changing, not to mention two people, and even more so those who have known each other and have been together all the time. They change a lot throughout their lifetime. And since they were used to each other, for them the slightest changes lead to very sharp internal reactions.

It turns out that I can suddenly see another person as mean, disgusting, opposite to me, constantly perceiving me and my attitude ambiguously, and so on. It is precisely because they know each other too well. Therefore, now even the slightest change causes huge disturbances between us.

Comment: According to human logic, the better we know each other, the closer we are and the greater is the love between us. And you claim that it is the other way around.

My Response: The bigger the commotion can be. Therefore, we need to constantly arouse all sorts of allegedly negative properties and relationships between us so that we can train with them and turn them into positive ones.

Question: So you say that marriage is a constant exercise?

Answer: A permanent one! As my teacher said: “Love is a beast that lives between you, an evil beast. And if you constantly feed it, then everything is fine.”

Question: What does this beast grow into if it is constantly fed?

Answer: It will be big next to you. And you will be dealing with it together until old age.

Question: And this beast is called love?

Answer: Yes. And in fact, it is very, very scary.

Question: So they must see in advance that their relationship will change sharply and oppositely?

Answer: Yes, they should foresee it. And they should even play it.

Question: What do we feed this beast with?

Answer: With concessions. That is, we can deliberately annoy it and learn to concede.

Question: Please, reveal the secret of a long married life together. What does this mean for you?

Answer: For me, it means to let the husband live his life.

Question: And what about the wife?

Answer: The same about the wife. And if they have something in common, it is, of course, children.

But neither with my studies nor with my profession do I in any way invade her respective area and she does not invade mine. In this way we give each other the possibility of life—inner life, basically, after all.

And the most important thing is taking care of children. It is our common area. In principle, after all, people couple and get married in order to give birth and raise children and grandchildren.

Question: What is love?

Answer: Love is the desire to let another person exist next to you in a way that is comfortable for him. This, I think, is the secret of love and a long, normal life together, although it is very, very difficult because we live for a very long time, twice as long as we used to. And that is why it is not easy.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/9/21

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The prayer must be a complete prayer, from the bottom of the heart. This means that one knows one hundred percent that there is no one in the world who can help him but the Creator Himself. (Baal HaSulam, Shamati 5, “Lishma Is an Awakening from Above, and Why Do We Need an Awakening from Below?”)

Prayer is considered real if it reaches the Creator. And it can reach Him only if the prayer comes from the depths of a person’s heart, from his most important inner desire, when he is one hundred percent sure that he can achieve what he wants only if the Creator helps him by practically doing all of it for him.

But there is one small “but” here and it is very important! The Creator responds only to a collective request.

You can shout to Him as much as you want, He will not be able to answer you. Because you have to go to Him through a common Kli (vessel)! Just as you were born and fell from the height of your spiritual level to the material one, egoistically breaking away from everyone, so now you must anti-egoistically rise again to the same place, to Him.

Therefore, the request must be collective. In no case will it help you to sit, cry, sob, and beg. It won’t do anything! Only if there are at least two people who, despite their egoism, somehow connect with each other to raise their request to the Creator, in this form it will help.
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From the International Convention “Rising Above Ourselves” 1/9/22, “Asking the Creator to Fill the Place Between Us” Lesson 7

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In love are two. The whole world around is the scenery (Antoine de Saint-Exupéry).

My Response: This is natural because you see nothing else. If you love, you love only one thing or one person and nothing else. Love cannot be 360 degrees. It can only be narrowly focused. We have no other choice, no other option. Even take a mother who loves her children so much. All the same, if we fully understood her condition, then, probably, she treats the smallest with the greatest love.

Question: But everything else, as it were, helps this love and only exists for it?

Answer: Only this way, yes.

Question: Is this the way to love?

Answer: Spiritual love implies such a state of a person when he sees all of humanity as one single whole, as one united person, and he loves him.

Because he discovers that with such an attitude to this common, unified image he sees the Creator in him. He builds such a communication system with Him that he begins to feel in this the whole of nature, all of humanity, all of the present and the future. Other ideas about the Creator are untenable.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 11/18/21

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