Question: Many adults in Israel, particularly parents, are distressed and sad that children these days are immersed in mobile phones, computer games, and artificial intelligence and don’t pay attention to the older generation. This generation has even been called the lost generation.

And suddenly now, that war has come to Israel, the children went to fight, and suddenly they are so concerned about their parents, about each other, about the future of the country, about the unity of the people! We read their letters; these are lofty letters addressed to us! We begin to understand that it is not them, but us that are the lost generation. Us! They are 19 years old and older and are living by the ideology of unity, while we (their parents) are still embroiled in political disputes, insisting on our own, believing we are right. It is impossible to root out this spirit of being right from us.

So, the question is: Do you think that some sort of revolution suddenly took place?

Answer: I believe this generation will take matters into their own hands regarding human relationships and nature. They will force nature to change.

Question: Will they not drown in us, in our so-called “wisdom”?

Answer: No, I think they will be able to break free from this swamp in which people have languished for millennia.

Comment: But look, in our politics, for example, it is mainly the older generation that are confident in themselves, with political and military experience, and they seem to rule.

My Response: That does not mean anything.

Question: Does the country need the experience of such a politician or the experience of a nineteen-year-old who has felt what unity is?

Answer: The country needs a person who evaluates the life of the nation by its assembly, union, bonding, and connection. There have not been many such leaders throughout the entire Jewish history. I hope that such a leader will emerge among the people like Ben-Gurion and Baal HaSulam combined in one person.

Question: So, does this war help give birth to such a leader?

Answer: Yes, I think it has to happen.

Question: Do we need to make room for this?

Answer: This space will be freed up by squeezing out everything else from people, and only this desire for unity will occupy the space.

Question: Are you now talking about a leader, regardless of age or experience?

Answer: I think it does not matter.

Question: Will this combat experience of unity be instilled in this person?

Answer: Yes, I think this is how it should be. It is a kind of revolution in each person, and we are approaching it.

Comment: So, you feel that the generation…

My Response: Is not lost.

Question: Could it be that they might be wiser than us?

Answer: Yes, we live in the generation of the true exodus from Egypt. Let’s hope that Moses will appear among us and will lead the entire nation.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 2/12/24

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Question: Once upon a time there lived a man who lived very badly and sinned. He decided to come to his senses and began doing good deeds, but he did not notice any significant changes for the better.

One day he was walking down the street and saw that a button from an old woman’s coat had fallen off. He looks at it and thinks: “Should I lift it or not? She has a lot of buttons.” He decided to pick it up anyway. He caught up with the old lady, gave her the button, moved on, and forgot about the matter.

When he passed away, he awaited judgement to hell or to heaven. There were scales: the left side of the scale, Libra, was full; it is the evil side, The right side, the side measuring good, was empty. He thinks he is on his way to hell when an angel arrives, puts a small button on the right scale pan, and it tipped the scale to the side of good.

The man was amazed: “Just one button tipped the scale!” He heard the angel say: “Because you thought that you were doing good deeds, they disappeared. But it was precisely this button that you forgot about that was enough for you to be saved.”

The question is that since it is natural to think you have done good, you find yourself constantly thinking about the good you did each day. But it turns out that this is not really good at all and what you didn’t think about at all, but just forgot about, was some kind of good deed. Why is this so? Why can’t yo count the good deeds in this world?

Answer: This is simply because you should do it based on an inner, pure desire for good. But you do it just to check off that you have done good deeds.

Question: So if I am keeping track in my mind, “I did a good deed,” it is actually not a good deed at all?

Answer: There are many people in the world who wake up in the morning and start counting how many good deeds they have done.

Comment: And by the end of the day, they come with such a righteous feeling.

My Response: Try recording good deeds in a small notebook and keep it with you, at the bus stop, at work, etc.

Comment: When you shake someone’s hand, help an old lady cross the street, and so on, and so on.

My Response: Yes-yes-yes.

Question: And in your opinion, are those not good deeds?

Answer: You are living with the fact that you are accumulating good deeds for the future.

Question: But are they still good deeds?

Answer: No, you are doing it solely for yourself. Remove your own benefit from here, and you will ignore everything and will not do anything.

Question: What is my benefit then? That I feel good, that I am doing good deeds?

Answer: No, it is that you are making the Creator obligated to somehow repay you.

Question: I see. So it is like I am earning my place in heaven, but this cannot be done. So how am I supposed to live? How do I count my steps, based on what? It turns out that my seemingly insignificant acts like picking up a button, catching up with an old lady, and giving it back…

Answer: You cannot! If you do not overcome your egoism and do not act against it; you will not perform a good deed. It will be pre-sold.

Question: So I am bribed all the time?

Answer: Yes, this is what Kabbalah is about.

Comment: That is why this science is not easy. There is always something beyond reason. Always! And I cannot live without reason.

My Response: You have to calculate if it is worth doing something or not, how much do I gain with each action, interaction.

Question: So I live like that? Is that how everyone lives?

Answer: Yes.

Question: But I shouldn’t?

Answer: No, you should not. But how do you do that? That is why it is said that everything must be done in faith above reason.

Question: Can you explain in simple terms what faith above reason means?

Answer: If a person imagines that he is doing very, very good deeds that he will benefit from later, then it is all a failure from the start.

Question: With what intention should I perform deeds then?

Answer: Absolutely selflessly.

Question: So that I get nothing, no benefit?

Answer: Unselfishly. There will be benefit to the world and people, and to me—nothing. As if no one knows about it and will never find out.

Comment: So my name is not anywhere. It is not engraved in stone, not in the credits, my name is nowhere.

My Response: No.

Question: So I do it and that’s it?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: Right, and artists, and not only artists, will faint when they hear this. The whole copyright system is built on the idea that “This is my music, my creation, if you use it, you must pay,” etc. The whole world is built on this! And we are going against the world.

My Response: Yes, you can write in your notebook just for yourself and then burn it. But all the same, even in such actions when a person thinks about what he will get for it, saving up for a rainy day, it is still good to act that way. It does not really give them any real benefit, but it is still good. There will be less evil in the world because of it. And good deeds will start from a higher threshold, from a higher level.

Comment: What about the actions when a person really tells himself: “I did a good deed”? He is not thinking: “Will I get to heaven for this or not, I am just doing a good deed.”

My Response: He elevates himself to a higher level and should start working from there.

Question: You know, we just saved the world. Because the world looked and said, “This is impossible to achieve—faith above reason.” But have you just given a step: Do these things anyway; they will not be good deeds, but they will be a step toward good deeds?

Answer: Yes, and then a person should get used to doing such actions, not for himself, but for the world. And that is when their soul begins to open up toward the world.

Question: What is this space called the soul? What kind of space is it?

Answer: It is an absolutely empty space that a person must fill with his desire.

Question: Toward the world? From him? And nothing for himself?

Answer: Nothing.

Question: Is this the stage that humanity is heading toward?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And can it reach it?

Answer: Of course!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 1/8/24

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Question: How can all the media that surround us transform into Kabbalistic media, meaning that it would carry useful and not just stupid information?

Answer: The media should educate people in such a way as to direct them toward global, integral unification. There is nothing more they can do.

Naturally this would not be Kabbalistic education, but a correct social and moral unity. Kabbalistic unity will come to people gradually.

When they begin to correctly connect with each other under the guidance of Kabbalists, then they will begin to feel that in this unity there is some kind of internal force, an internal property, that lifts and inspires them. Then they will begin to behave differently.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Kabbalistic Media” 1/18/12

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Comment: You said that in reality children never learn from their parents’ mistakes.

My Response: Of course. How could that be? You cannot convey your life experience to another even in our world, much less in the spiritual world.

I remember my teacher sat in front of me on long winter evenings in Tiberias, and I pestered him with the same questions. He looked at me with compassion, eyes full of pity. He had very expressive eyes.

I saw that he sympathized with me, but could not help in any way more than what he was trying to explain, guide, and suggest. Usually, after my questions, he would sigh and say: “Let us read something.” And that was it, nothing else.

I remember I felt very bad. We went with him for a walk in the Beit Shemen forest. This was at the very beginning of my study. I studied with him for about a year, and a year is nothing to study Kabbalah. He saw that I was completely torn to pieces. I prayed: “Help me with at least something!” Such requests are generally not typical for me, but I blurted out: “Help!”

He looked at me with such pain, like a father who is ready to give everything to his hopelessly ill child, but can do nothing to help. We sat on a bench; I can show this place even today. He took from his pocket the article “Thou Hast Hemmed Me In Behind and Before” (“Achor Ve Kedem Tzartani”) and began to read to me. This is an article from the book A Sage’s Fruit, which we were just preparing for publication at that time.

In principle, the title of this article can be translated as “I control you from all sides.” I cannot say that I understood anything in it. But what else can you give a beginner?

In this case, we are talking about those people who strive to penetrate the spiritual system; they feel bad because they do not know it and do not attain it, and this pain speaks inside of them! After all, nothing corporeal was pressing on me at that time. I was perfectly settled, healthy, and young. It was spirituality that I lacked!

Question: Can you now evaluate how he perceived you at that moment? You, in fact, were part of him.

Answer: Of course, I was incorporated in him. He perceived me as a small system that needed to be adjusted, and he sympathized with it and really wanted to help it, and it reacted naturally. What else can you do? You just have to keep working with it and wait for the results.

Of course, he was worried about me, but he was worried as a father for a child who was not in a hopeless state. The father has a medicine that he gives to the child every day and sees that in the end the child will recover and do what is needed.

One day I could not overcome myself and did not follow him to take him to the sea. Then he was taken there by another student, who on the way asked: “Why is it always only Michael who accompanies you?” Rabash replied: “I cannot do anything about it. He has a special soul.”

I learned this 20 years later from that friend during a chance meeting. I did not even think about it and, moreover, I was surprised that Rabash said that about me to another student.

Therefore, when you look at a student, you take into account his entire future, and it sets you up to treat him accordingly. You tolerate his antics and lead him forward, or you “hit” him more often, or maybe, on the contrary, you pull him out “by the forelock.”
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. You do not Learn from Past Mistakes” 1/15/12

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Comment: They say man is a wolf to man. But when I look at the structure of a  wolf pack, I envy them. A leader is the one who takes responsibility for organizing the hunt and protecting everyone in his pack. The pack intuitively obeys whoever is stronger and more responsible, regardless of age.

What does a strong and responsible leader mean to man if we were to adopt this structure?

My Response: This means such a man-wolf can unite and convince everyone that unification is their law and the way to ensure survival.

Question: So if such a leader implements unification in a group, the pack will endure?

Answer: Yes, they will recognize him as the leader.

Question: And will the pack be okay?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: That was the first rule. The second rule is that the stronger and more experienced the leader, the faster he suppresses all quarrels, the less discord and aggression in the pack, the friendlier the atmosphere, and the more cohesion in the group.

Stopping quarrels could mean using harsh methods.

My Response: Well, this is the law of any clan, even an animal one, not to mention human.

Question: So he should both be firm and soft at the same time?

Answer: I do not know about soft. But he must be very clear and confident, and impose his will.

Question: So, he puts an end to all quarrels, bad relationships, and all slander?

Answer: Of course.

Comment: Firmly? He will not be loved.

My Response: They will fear him, that is the most important thing. Therefore, they will respect and obey him. If you live among wolves, you have to act like a wolf.

Question: The third rule is that the leader leads the pack, rescues them from traps, plans out and begins the hunt, and is first to rush at the enemy or prey.

What does it mean to be the first in everything?

Answer: That is, to take on all the blows and all the problems that arise in his pack.

Question: We are talking about human society? Are you talking about that now?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So, he is the first to take on the blows? That is, he cares about all this?

Answer: It is like his personal family.

Question: So, you see the leader as a father? And society is his family?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And if, as we have now, there is a mishap, he takes responsibility for it?

Answer: If he does not take responsibility, he is instantly removed. There is no other way among animals. He has to assume responsibility.

Question: The fourth rule is that wolves walk in a line. The first three are old and sick. They are followed by the five strongest wolves. Next is the part of the pack they are protecting, and five more strong wolves. Last comes the leader, who makes sure that no one falls behind.

Being a leader does not mean being ahead of the pack, but making sure that everyone makes it.

Answer: Well that is the most important thing, making sure everyone is safe.

Question: And the elderly who are upfront?

Answer: Absolutely everyone! This is exactly how he is evaluated.

Question: Is this the power of a leader?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Is this even possible?

Answer: You see, it works among wolves. It’s harder for people.

Comment: Because you want to hold on to your post, be elected, and so on.

My Response: Humanity has damaged itself in many ways over thousands of years.

Comment: Wolves work on instinct, while we have reason.

My Response: They have a clear inner understanding of necessity.

Question: There, in the pack? So, they live according to nature?

Answer: Yes, such is their nature and the nature of the surrounding wolf society; therefore, this is the only way to live and survive.

We are nobody and nothing here at all. Everyone is looking to run away, escape responsibility, and let others fend for themselves. “It is not my concern.”

Comment: We have come to the conclusion that the chief, the leader, should watch over everyone and be the last one behind them.

My Response: Yes. We must create such a “pack” so people would come to us wanting to live by our laws. Us means our group.

Question: Will they come because they realize everyone cares about each other?

Answer: Yes, there is no other way. Save ourselves, raise children, give confidence to the elderly, women, and children—we must act this way.

Question: The fifth rule is that a wolf lives with one mate his whole life and never cheats on her. Even when a wolf or his mate die hunting, the single spouse does not look for a replacement, but remains alone for the rest of his life. Can you imagine?!

Answer: We are very far from that.

Comment: Imagine choosing for life! You see, the wolves can.

My Response: We have a lot to learn.

Question: What is it like when you make such a decision?

Answer: It is their nature. For us, it is our egoistic nature that drives us crazy.

Question: But when you decide to live like this, it means you have somehow subdued it, managed to curb your selfish nature so you choose for the rest of your life.

Answer: Yes.

Comment: But you say we should choose for life.

My Response: We should.

Question: And keep at it?

Answer: And keep at it, but you see how we are managing.

Question: The sixth rule is about the she-wolf. When the wolf-husband is in danger, the female covers his neck, which may be very dangerous for her, but she does not think about it.

What about a human clan, what does it mean for a wife to shield her husband, to protect him?

Answer: I do not know what the wolf feels. About a person this means she understands that she depends on him, and he is her most important task. As long as he is alive and strong, she and the children are protected.

A wife who loves her husband feels that if anything bad happens to her husband, she is ready to share it with him without any hesitation.

Question: The seventh is that a she-wolf, when preparing to give birth, builds a cozy home. She does not consider her comfort, but thinks about the comfort of her future generation.

What does it mean for a future mother not to think about herself?

Answer: She lives for her children, grandchildren, and so on.

Question: Are we talking about our world already?

Answer: Yes.

Question: I don’t think about myself, I think about others. What does it mean?

Answer: For their sake you do what is best for them.

Question: So I completely annul myself, totally?

Answer: Yes. You do whatever may be good for them.

Question: Can you name something that may be good for them?

Answer: You may change where you live, your place of work. Everything for them.
You could leave your favorite job for them.

Question: The eighth rule is that the whole pack with the leader takes care of the mother-wolf with her cubs. They bring her food, completely take care of her and the future offspring of the whole pack.

What does the society takes care of the mothers mean? I’m now talking about people, humanity.

Answer: It means doing everything to ensure their safety, their confidence, and their future. Then they will raise their young and the clan; the society will be provided for by the next generation.

Comment: The ninth rule is that when a mother goes hunting, sitters guard the babies and play with them. The cubs are treated most gently. Any adult is always ready to share food with them, play, and teach them the rules of hunting or subordination. That is why the wolf pack is so cohesive and efficient.

My Response: I want to be with them. 🙂

Question: So, is this all a method of rearing? When everyone, the whole society participates… Not just for your children!

How do I tear myself from my child? It says here that I take care of someone else’s child, another child, the whole pack takes care of him. How is this possible?

Answer: When you realize you are all one, a common whole. These are Kabbalistic principles.

Comment: Absolutely! To realize I won’t survive otherwise. The neighbor’s child is just as important to me as my own child.

My Response: Yes.

Question: It seems quite unrealistic for a person. But this is how it should be, right?

Answer: This is how it should be, of course!

Question: The tenth principle is that a pack takes care of the disabled, crippled, and elderly. They would feed them chewed food, like for puppies, and can even pick their fleas. But there is addition, in times of famine, a pack cannot take on the responsibility of feeding elderly animals. And the elderly accept that.

Is this also a matter of survival?

Answer: It is a matter of survival and necessity for the pack. That is why there are some animals who sacrifice themselves for the survival of the pack.

Question: Let’s summarize it, they care for the disabled, the elderly…

Answer: For everyone.

Question: And we, too, have to care for the elderly?

Answer: Yes. But if it is impossible to take care of the weak…

Question: This is a very difficult question indeed! How can we make this choice?

Answer: The one who benefits the future generation most is chosen.

Question: Meaning, young and strong?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So, the principle still holds—the survival of the pack, the survival of society?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: Clearly, we have a lot to learn from wolves. We need to do something to improve ourselves. We must think about the organization of our society, how to rebuild it to make it healthier and what kind of upbringing programs to take on for our children, our grandchildren, for the next generation.

This means looking several generations ahead of us. And we must change the order of society for their sake.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 11/30/23

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Shula writes:

Hello, Michael Laitman! My son is 15. It seems everything is fine. He and his friends are growing up in the society where we as parents are trying to teach them the values of love to others, mutual connection, and friendship. Despite our efforts, I suddenly see that they are full of disregard for one another, they humiliate and mock the weak ones.

My heart hurts to see all this, my hands give up. Where have all our efforts gone? It turns out that everything they absorb at school and on the Internet is stronger than the values we want to instill in them. Tell us, what can we do? How can we teach them mutual respect and friendship? How can we teach them to be kind to each other? After all, you are constantly talking about that. How?

Answer: Still tell them that the basic law of nature is connection, kindness, and unity where people are getting closer to one to another. Only in this case can we hope for a happy continuation.

And if not, nature will teach us, as we see it at all its levels, to bring us to this decision.

Question: So one way or another, we will be corrected toward this decision?

Answer: Yes

Question: Parents are teaching their kids these values; they tell them more and more, but the result is still the opposite.

Answer: Yes, obviously. It is this way in order not to take away the freedom of will from a person.

Question: Do you mean his freedom of will now is to humiliate another person, to exercise his egoism?

Answer: Yes

Question: And we have to patiently wait until they suffer enough or what?

Answer: Perhaps when they realize that their path is a dead-end.

Question: Should we still continue telling them about mutual guarantee, about love, about friendship?

Answer: Yes

Question: Even if our hands give up?

Answer: It does not matter. You have to tell them all of this.

Question: I am talking to a wall. They do not hear me. Do I keep talking?

Answer: It does not matter, you have to talk.

Question: How do I poke a hole in this wall?

Answer: Precisely by your consistency.

Question: It means you are for the parents’ persistence?

Answer: There is nothing else.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 1/11/24

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He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another than he whom you yourself have obliged (Bnejamin Franklin).

Answer: That is good, it is true.

Question: Is that another way of saying, “Do not expect good from someone to whom you have done good”?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: But I secretly expect good things.

My Response: Yes, as if you paid and now want it back.

Question: Yes, I did good to you, so you also do good to me. Is it wrong?

Answer: It is not that it is wrong, it is ignoble.

Question: So, it is in our nature, right? We have a sordid nature.

Answer: Certainly.

Question: So if I do good to someone, does it turn out, according to Franklin, that it is contagious, and I can do it again and again and again?

Answer: Yes, it generally happens as a habit. And a person already develops a need to do good.

Question: So, you can develop it like a muscle? Simply exercise it?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Do you advise a person to do this?

Answer: Of course, why not?

Question: When you say “good,” what does it mean? To do good to another, what is good for him?

Answer: I don’t know what is good for him! What is good for him, that is what I should do.

Question: But before I do it, do I need to find out what is good for him? Or am I deciding based on my perception?

Answer: You still need to find out. You need to know the other person and put yourself in his shoes. And you need to do such a good thing, such a good action that would fit in precisely.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/28/23

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Question: One mother asked an old sage when it is best to start raising her daughter. “How old is she?” the teacher asked. “Five,” the woman replied. “Five years old?! Hurry home, you’re already five years late.”

At what age should you start raising a child?

Answer: In general, the feeling should be there from the first day of birth, and even before that. This is mentioned in many places, it is not that I am so smart. So parents should understand that a child is like an adult. They just react a bit differently. Basically, you’re talking to an adult, even an old person.

Question: So, you’re instilling wisdom in the child?

Answer: Absolutely!

Question: What do you invest in the word “upbringing”?

Answer: Upbringing is primarily your personal example.

Question: You said, “From the first day of birth.” What does the child see? What does the child feel? What example can there be?

Answer: It is not about that. It is about how you react to the child; the Creator reacts to them.

Question: So, the Creator reacts to the child through you? If I live with this thought, is it called “upbringing”?

Answer: Yes. You are opening channels of communication between the child and the Creator.

Question: Through me, the Creator connects with the child, and I should introduce the Creator to the child?

Answer: Yes. You are introducing them to each other so to speak.

Question: When you said, “Upbringing even before birth,” should this thought come to parents before birth?

Answer: In general, yes. We have talked about this many times.

Question: We’ve talked about it, but we have a million questions after that. It is not just interesting to people, it is vitally important to them.

After such upbringing, as an example of warmth and kindness, how does the child go out into this cold world, after being brought up like this?

Answer: If they perceive the world correctly, they won’t have any problems. He will feel the world is multifaceted. So, at least, he, his parents, home, and others, he will properly link all of this together.

Question: Does this mean that parents have managed to bring the Creator to the child?

Answer: Yes
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/28/23

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Question: One day a lot of starfish came in with the tide. When the tide was low they were left to die on the sand. A boy began to throw the stars into the sea so that they would survive.

A man came up to him and said: “This is stupid. There are a million starfish here, and your attempts will not change anything.” The boy picked up the next starfish and said: “No, my attempts will change a lot for this very star.”

Today, many people are suffering, as we know. Is trying to eliminate or reduce this suffering for one person the right thing to do?

Answer: In general, yes. It depends on what calculation you make. You are dealing either with the Creator, or with the suffering of this person, or with yourself, and so on.

Question: If I am dealing with the Creator, then where is the suffering coming from?

Answer: From the Creator.

Question: And they are given to this person so that he could go through it?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And, by and large, do I not even have the right to interfere?

Answer: This is also taken into account by the Creator, so it does not matter, you can do it. You want to save others from suffering so that you can feel better. Egoism has not gone anywhere.

Question: Do you still admit the possibility that I want to save a person from suffering?

Answer: No, you cannot be in his shoes.

Question: So what is empathy for another person?

Answer: This is because you empathize; that is, you imagine that this is all happening to you, and therefore you must make him feel better.

Question: And are you still thinking about yourself?

Answer: And nothing else!

Question: How do we get out of this impasse?

Answer: There is no way out. No way!

Comment: That is, all the people who do charity work…

My Response: Of course, they are doing it only for themselves!

Question: Is the only way out to turn to the source of all suffering?

Answer: Turn to the Creator, and if the Creator puts you in a very special state where He eliminates your egoism, your desires to enjoy, then you will be able to do something for the sake of others, and not for yourself. But these are all exceptional cases.

Question: Let ‘s take such an ideal case. What does it mean to do something for the sake of another person? The Creator gave this opportunity. What does it mean?

Answer: Imagine that you have to cut yourself off from all connection with another person. Disconnect yourself from him and do good to him.

Question: Without thinking about yourself at all?

Answer: In any way! This is called that I disconnect myself from another person.

Question: Is this the help of the Creator if He gives such an opportunity to a person?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So is a person not capable of this in any other way?

Answer: No, he is not. It is not our nature.

Question: How is all this veiled and covered up so that we have the feeling that we are really doing good?

Answer: This is what we do in this life. Nothing can be done to us, we are so unusual

Question: Then the key question is, should you still do good to others or not? Should I try to do this or not?

Answer: I would tell you, do it just in case. 🙂 What an egoistic answer, isn’t it?

Question: You will get credit for that, right?

Answer: Yes. You would say that I once did something, here and there…

Comment: That is, one way or another, you claim that I gain these points for myself.

My Response: You do not gain them.

Question: So I do not gain them as a result. And yet, should I try to do to others what I consider good or not?

Answer: Do it, but at the same time, think that by doing this you are not doing anything for yourself. Then it will actually be more or less clean.

Question: That is, do I not gain anything from this, as it were?

Answer: No. I do not gain, I will not gain, and I do not want to gain.

Question: What if it hurts me so much that there is no way for me to get out of this nature?

Answer: Then you are a good egoist. A good egoist means that I would like to rise above my egoism, but I cannot. And that is why I suffer.

Question: Is this a good state by and large?

Answer: No, this is a wretched state. 🙂

Question: Can this state be called a prayer or not?

Answer: Any state can be called a prayer.

Question: Which prayer is correct, in your opinion?

Answer: A correct prayer is when I am looking at a wallet lying on the ground and I imagine that there is a bank note for a million dollars in it. 🙂

Question: And I ask that it be so? That is, after all, one way or another, it is for myself?

Answer: Yes.

Question: And if it makes me feel bad, and I want to get rid of it?

Answer: No, when you understand that this is your nature, then you will not feel bad.

Question: Coming to the conclusion that this is my nature, precisely understanding this in my heart and mind, is this practically the starting point?

Answer: Yes, from this you can start moving.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/18/23

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One of the worst blunders is to think that pedagogy is the science of the child; no! It is the science of man (Janusz Korczak, How to Love a Child).

Janusz Korczak’s ideas and practical pedagogical achievements permanently went down in the history of Polish and world pedagogy. They have become a unique source of knowledge, ideas and inspiration in the quest for new educational solutions… .

For Korczak, his social and educational work with the child firmly at the centre was a way of showing reverence for what is human in the figure of the child. It was also a way of recognising, through action, the child’s full human worth. …

The company of children can indeed be tiring, Korczak conceded. But this is not because we have to strain to lower ourselves to their level. On the contrary: the exertion lies in our having to raise ourselves to their level, to their feelings, so as not to hurt them. Once we have learned to know children we realise, Korczak claimed, that we have no reason for boasting.

“As to feelings, they outdo us with unbridled power. As to intellect, they are our equals, lacking only experience …” (Topicality and Relevance of Janusz Korczak’s Pedagogical Approach to Children and Their Upbringing).

Question: In your opinion, is pedagogy for children or for adults?

Answer: It is to understand the children.

Question: So, it turns out that it is for parents, for teachers, and not for children?

Answer: Yes, and what is there to teach a child? How can you teach him?! He will gradually learn on his own from life.

Question: So, all these institutions where they teach, teach, teach, in fact …?

Answer: They don’t teach anything. The child has his own conceptual apparatus; he is constantly in it and processes all the data received from the outside world. And it all happens very rapidly for him.

Question: Does the child process it on his own, as you say? Is he studying precisely by himself?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Then why does the whole system of upbringing, education, all this huge system, exist?

Answer: It is spinning around us on its own and that is it. There is nothing we can do with it. You cannot put anything into a child, but just the environment, friends, teachers, also partly. But all this creates the inner world of the child, who then enters into life. And then he begins to take from life.

Question: What do you think parenting is? You have pushed education back a bit now.

Answer: First, education and upbringing are not the same thing. Education is filling a child with all sorts of wisdom, and parenting is an example of an adult to a child of how to behave in certain circumstances.

Question: Is an adult a teacher, a parent, an environment, and so on?

Answer: Yes.

Question: So, it turns out that the right upbringing is to put the child in an environment that gives the right examples. What examples should be shown to a child so that this child grows up correctly and is brought up correctly?

Answer: It is impossible to say. The child selects these examples himself and assimilates them.

Question: I’m showing an example, but maybe he takes something of his own from this and only understands that?

Answer: Yes.

Question: How do you penetrate into this child’s world?

Answer: There is no need to! Let him develop on his own.

Comment: But I have to guide him somehow.

My Response: I don’t think it is necessary. Let him run down the street, communicate with his peers, and thus he will develop.

Question: Should there be an ideal environment for a child to grow up in?

Answer: Children and animals.

Question: To have children and animals around. And where is the place for an adult?

Answer: There is no place for an adult there. Adults will impose all sorts of behavioral laws on children, and this is not necessary. Gradually, the child will grow up, and he will discover these laws for himself.

Question: Should an adult get involved in the children’s battles?

Answer: No! I think there should be no teachers here.

Question: And then what grows out of a child if, as you say, he is surrounded by children, animals, nature?

Answer: In accordance with his inner world, he soaks in and absorbs everything that can be obtained from the world.

Comment: There is also drawing, dancing, and natural history. There is a place where an adult comes and says: “Let me teach the child.” Things like that.

My Response: There is no need! He will learn by himself. And all these disciplines imposed on him, on the contrary, will limit him.

Comment: I’m already talking about simple disciplines: dancing, drawing. Will he master even that?

My Response: Yes.

Question: Is there any conclusion to be drawn?

Answer: The conclusion is very simple: leave children alone with your great thoughts and instructions, pedagogy, everything-everything-everything that is in you.

Question: What about the parents then? Parents, adults, somehow still exist. How should parents raise their children properly?

Answer: I do not see in any generation, and we have lived for many, many, many hundreds of generations, that some generation took something useful and good from their parents and achieved something useful and good. Every time we just relearn.

Question: So, you learn from your mistakes, you learn from your life, you learn everything yourself. And it is necessary to leave, you say, a person with this “himself,” to leave him to go?

Answer: Yes. I hope that we will come to a state when we understand how we should treat children in general. I hope that this will be understood and realized in the near future.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/14/23

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