“In one window looked two. One saw the rain and mud.
Other—green foliage ligature, spring and the sky is blue.
In one window looked two.” (Omar Khayyám)

Question: Why today do we only see one thing by and large?

Answer: We were educated in this way; this is not our fault. We were educated in this way by kindergartens, schools, universities, and by our attitude to people. The mass media makes such a leveling of everyone that there are absolutely no personalities left in humanity.

We need to look for our personal point of view of the world. This is not easy. We need to find our own thing and not to go with the flow and not be interested in what others are interested in. We see such children here and there who somehow reveal themselves in this way. We need to support them a little, to raise special individuals who have their own view of the world. They are usually different from others, maybe they seem a little strange.

Question: Do you mean such children who have some kind of talent?

Answer: No, they may not even have any talents. They just have their own view of the world. They may sometimes even seem less developed than others. It does not matter.

Question: Do we need to single them out?

Answer: Yes. Each person should be given an opportunity to develop according to his or her features.

Remark: We need to recognize this, it is not a simple task.

My Comment: No, there is no need to recognize this. It is just that in our society everything should be prepared as follows. Let everyone develop as they want. The main thing is not to push. And not that they come, stand in one line, sit down, get up, leave—assessments, slogans.

Remark: Then school is a big problem.

My Comment: School is not a big problem. There should be no schools, that’s all! Schools destroy personality.

A real school is when a person is given an opportunity to develop himself the way he by himself sees fit. This is a very serious, long-term, and gentle approach to everyone. It is not necessary to learn by heart all the writings of the classics and read dozens of all kinds of books. We have to do everything in a very, very unique way.

I would allocate more time, as it is written in the Torah, to the arts: dancing, painting, and music. It is due to the fact that they develop the inner world of a person more, and he feels where he is drawn, how he can express himself.

In addition to this, of course, a little bit of mathematics, a little bit of physics, astronomy is a must. Most of the time, however, should be dedicated to arts, but not formal ones, rather drawing, sketching, anything the child wants. To begin with this and advance more and more. Let the child develop himself in this way.

Question: What will grow out of the child if we live in this way?

Answer: The child will grow.

Question: So, I should not think what’s going to grow out of him? Is this approach wrong?

Answer: No, we do not have the right to churn out people.

Question: Then why did we churn out all of them like that? All this system is about churning out. You and I have been through all this! Does it mean that in fact, we killed something in a person?

Answer: We simply destroyed one’s “I” in the bud, that’s all.

This was what they wanted to do anyway. What should we be for those who rule this world? Just the performers, that is all. It means that we need to perform what they want. As a result, now what they want is all going nowhere, and so are we.

Now begins the formation of real humanity!

Question: “I” will break out from the concrete. Will it work out?

Answer: There is no escape; this is the law of nature.

Question: Then will it really be my “I”?

Answer: Yes. For each and every one.

Question: What is this “I”?

Answer: This will be my personal participation in the common humanity. Everyone will have to take their place. It will be individual, personal, only mine, the only pure one. I will think about how to complete this entire picture, the entire humanity, with myself.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/17/20

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Remark: Sometimes I have a feeling that reality is much more sensual, stronger than any movie, any scenario. I will now read the letter that is addressed to you.

Dear Michael Laitman,
My name is Stanislav. I listen to your programs and don’t miss any of them. And it’s all thanks to my wife. I lived in perfect harmony with her for 28 years. We had no children, so we adopted a son. We raised him. Loved him very much, especially my wife, who adored him.

During the coronavirus, we were very careful. My wife and I were able to work from home and listened to your programs. We agreed with you. But our son took it as a challenge. He went outside, didn’t wear a mask, laughed at us. We couldn’t explain anything to him, he wouldn’t listen.

As a result, he infected us. I went through this illness easily, my wife was very ill. She died two months ago.

I can’t look at my son, I hate him! I understand that it’s impossible to bring my wife back, and I don’t want to live with this hatred for my son, especially since he feels guilty, I see it. But I can’t help myself. I look at him, avert my eyes, and try not to yell at him. There is no love inside me, no love at all! How do I get it back? What to do? How can I forgive him? I don’t know. Help me!”

I just feel what hell is inside a person.

My Comment: He must understand that all this comes only from the highest degree, from the highest decision, and therefore the son is absolutely not to blame!

Remark: I’m afraid it’s hard for a person in this state to hear.

My Comment: Never mind. He needs to hear it because it will save him from hatred after all. And hate is the worst thing.

Remark: He feels the hatred eating away at him. He wants to escape it and can’t.

My Comment: Therefore, he can be told it all comes from above, and therefore none of us are to blame for anything, except for one thing that we do not admit our mistakes. We must learn from them. Learn what the Creator reveals.

Question: What is his mistake now?

Answer: He should say to himself: “Enough!” He must raise the thought to the level of action. He can’t go on like this, it’s not right. He burns himself and everything around him.

Question: Have you ever had a state where you hated so much that everything just burns?

Answer: Yes, until realizing that this is not right.

Question: So one needs to feel it? What’s my first thought?

Answer: “There is none else besides him”! I must attribute all this to the Creator, whatever it is! There, at His level, are all the solutions. Absolutely everything! About this poor woman and her son, and the Holocaust, and murders, and all the terrible things that happen in our world.

Everything is at the highest degree. You have to go up there, and then you will see that everything is the opposite. It turns out that this is not some kind of supreme cruelty, this is the highest mercy.

Question: So this is not a punishment, but mercy?

Answer: Yes. It’s impossible to imagine all this. We should start hearing this slowly now, later we will realize it.

Question: Is this given to a person to the extent that he can endure?

Answer: Bearing is not a big deal. It’s like you give him painkillers and he endures everything. It is not necessary to bear at this level, but when he sees and understands the entire creation from beginning to end and can justify it on the part of the Creator. To the extent that he is equivalent to the Creator, he can justify everything that happens. Absolutely everything!

Otherwise, we will engage in self-criticism. How many people reproach themselves for everything they have done in life!

Remark: Look at how much hate there is in the world. The world is built on hate.

My Comment: In fact, we will see that this is not hatred, but love. The opposite is true. There is no need to continue to cultivate hatred.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 7/27/20

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New Life 1281 – The Proper Financial Support Of Children
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi

Parents need to help all their children equally. Parents can not act only according to their heart as this will create conflict and great hatred in the family. If one child has special needs, the parents should consult someone who is not part of the family and then explain to the children. The family may benefit from going to counseling together. From an educational perspective, it is a good idea for families to speak often about potential studies and professions but without pressure so that a spirit for the future will be built in the children.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 1281 – The Proper Financial Support Of Children,” 9/18/20

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Question: Now all of humanity believes that marriages entered into at mature age are stronger and more stable. Is this really the case? When does a person need to get married?

Answer: Of course, over time we become wiser. Life educates us by quite harsh methods. However, you do not have to experience them. It all depends on the education received, what kind of example the child had in the family. We see that children literally are repeating what they see with their parents.

In general, I would start educating a person for family life from kindergarten and continue at school, at university, and at work. Home circles, television, everything should be dedicated to the creation of the correct family as the unit of society.
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From KabTV’s “Kabbalah Express” 9/1/20

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Comment: Give advice for an ordinary person about how to make the right decision at every moment of his life so he will feel good.

My Response: Make sure people approve of it.

Question: And how should a manager make decisions, for them to be good for him and his subordinates?

Answer: Discuss it with subordinates.

Question: What advice would you give the president to make the right decisions?

Answer: He should look for smart people.

Question: What advice would you give parents about how to make the right decision in the family?

Answer: Understand the child and give him activities that captivate him and make him a great person.

Question: And now, give advice for people who are looking for the meaning of life. What is the meaning? Where can someone find it?

Answer: Come to our organization. I can’t see where else the meaning of life is.
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From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 6/11/20

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Michael Laitman, On Quora: “What is the most important factor in raising children to be honorable decent human beings?“

The most important factor in raising children is to prioritize their positive connection with each other, which comes from their absorbing positive examples from adults.

Since children learn from their elders, then if we succeed in improving our relations, and by doing so, embody a living example of well-oiled connections that bring about harmonious outcomes—happiness, confidence, security, love and care—then the children will follow suit, and naturally build positive relations to each other and to nature.

Positive social connections are key to realizing our full potential as human beings. If we truly care about our children growing up to be healthy, happy, confident and safe adults, then we need to be concerned that we ourselves upgrade our relationships, since that is most important factor to both our own and our children’s better lives.

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Question: Nowadays, short tips for raising children are very popular on the Internet. Can you provide top advice on parenting?

Answer: The most important thing in raising children is to organize them correctly so that they are not squeezed into the framework of today’s school and even kindergarten, so that they are brought up more in a good connection with each other, based on the right examples from adults.

Children learn everything from their elders. If we show them the correct relationship between people in all aspects of life, then they will also begin to relate correctly to each other and to nature.

Question: A somewhat strange question is often asked online: Is it necessary to raise children at all?

Answer: All raise children, even animals, moreover, people. They are obliged to do that! Without education, a person will grow worse than an animal.
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From KabTV’s “Kabbalah Express” 9/1/20

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Remark: Today respect for teachers is rapidly falling. In high school students are violent toward teachers. A high rate of threats are reported to come to teachers from students. Many of them even turn to actions. Everyone is looking for an example of a teacher who a person can respect and follow, and they do not find it.

My Comment: Children see the teacher as a scapegoat: “What are you teaching us? What kind of world are you giving us? What do you want from us?” and so on. That is, there is a lot of anger in them toward this world.

They cannot receive fulfillment, saturation, and satisfaction from the world, and therefore, it turns out that they throw it on the teachers as representatives of this world, who are in front of them every day for many hours. And teachers make them do some exercises, solve problems, and pass unnecessary exams.

Question: Do children understand that they will never use this in life?

Answer: Of course. Today, the teacher represents the most hated being in the world for the child, which forces and restricts them. This is a legal jailer.

Remark: Needless to say, this is terrible. I remember my teachers, I did not have such a feeling. It seemed that it would be useful one day. Now everything suddenly spilled out with a great force.

My Comment: People do not need anything from what happens at school, from what they learn at school. They do not need any of this, and they will use nothing.

Question: What does a person need from a teacher? What wisdom?

Answer: Connection with others. A good, correct connection with each other. Only this should be taught at school. And “two plus two is four” is added for the development of the brain. Thus, there is nothing we can do about it, we will have to redo all this.

It is necessary to teach, of course. Yet, to teach what a person needs in life in the first place. And this is only the correct connection between people.

Question: Can we continue to provide education on the basis of this connection?

Answer: Give education, give whatever you want. But the main thing is the correct education. Otherwise, education with these exact sciences will lead people to build weapons and everything else leading to the means to harm each other.

Remark: In other words, give him physics, he will make a nuclear bomb. Give him chemistry, he will create chemical weapons.

My Comment: Of course. What do you want from them? You taught them that. You did not resist the fact that nature always increases egoism in them. Taking into account the fact that egoism is constantly developing in them, you gave them knowledge so that they could use this egoism to their own detriment. Involuntarily, the teacher becomes a source of evil.

Question: If the message from the teacher is: I am teaching you to connect with people, to connect with nature, will this hatred go away?

Answer: The teacher should explain that we are all one system, that we should be connected with each other in good ways, and not in evil ones. No matter what we are connected. However, our task is to turn an evil connection into a good one. Then we will begin to feel a completely different world in this good connection between us.

Question: Will children feel this?

Answer: We need to do this so that those already in school would feel this. Then the teacher will be desired, the only one.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/3/20

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Question: What or who changes the generation: historical events, natural disasters, technologies, social values, or an internal plan?

Answer: An internal program.

Question: What should the younger generation get from the older generation?

Answer: They should get an attitude regarding the purpose of creation in order to continue it. Everything changes, except for the trend of evolution toward the goal of creation; this doesn’t change.

Question: Is it possible in the modern generation of consumption to elevate the authority and significance of parents in the eyes of the children?

Answer: If children will begin to relate correctly to the purpose of life, to the discovery of the next level of existence, to the discovery of the upper world, and the parents will support them in this, then in this way they will strengthen their authority and significance in the eyes of the children.

Question: How can you characterize in a single word or sentence our generation after the coronavirus?

Answer: It is as a generation that has been given a special task, and I hope that they will realize it.

Question: Must the same universal principles that you express in your books and lectures be adapted for each generation and in particular for our generation?

Answer: Absolutely. I am working on this.

Question: Who or what should shape the generation?

Answer: The generation is shaped by people who understand what is standing before the generation. They discover problems that are facing the generation, the methods of realization, and they try to direct humanity toward a solution.

Question: Each generation is smarter and more adapted to life. Do you agree with this statement?

Answer: No. Every generation has the potential to solve the problems that nature presents to them. But simultaneously, it requires a very strong directing hand.

Question: To what generation do you consider that you belong?

Answer: I consider myself to be between the old and new generation, a generation that has not yet taken shape, which I am helping to see the way.

Question: The generation determines the collective experience. What kind of collective experience can you recall from your life?

Answer: The collective experience in my life didn’t give me anything except a big negative sign. Whereas all that is positive, I received only from my teacher.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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Question: The conflict between fathers and children has been going on for generations. What is the main feature of the current conflict?

Answer: The current conflict is that children must rise to a very different level of existence from that of their fathers. They must, in connection with each other, reveal the next stage of development, the upper world, which the fathers did not yet attain. Their fathers were subconsciously striving for this, but they did not know exactly how to define and form this stage. And children today have this opportunity.

Question: What or who can connect fathers and children?

Answer: The goal that stands before everyone, through which we must pass and reach the absolute state.
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From KabTV’s “The Post-Coronavirus Era” 5/21/20

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