Question: Well-known psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky shares that shame is a discreet emotion, an emotion that a person tries to hide, and therefore it is toxic and harmful. He  gives the analogy of shame as a potted plant that given the constant feeding and fertilizing and resources a person gives it (the shame), it grows into a huge tree. He advises that you need to work with shame or it will consume your entire personality.

How can a person work with it?

Answer: Only the relationship between a person as a flower with other flowers, with other people, in mutual restriction, in mutual assistance, etc. will help everyone organically develop and collect a good flower bed.

Question: Where is the place for shame here?

Answer: It is inside between them. There is shame, pride, joy, sadness, and everything else.

Question: Should I relate to it somehow? What should I do with shame?

Answer: Manage it! If there were no shame, who would we be? We would be animals.

Shame is what distinguishes man from an animal. This is the difference between these two degrees. If I am not ashamed, then I am like an animal. It does not matter why and how.

Shame is from the fact that I am not like him, not so smart, etc. Shame is what keeps me from losing at least the degree I am at.

Question: Do I need to nourish it?

Answer: It is absolutely necessary. It is imperative to make sure that shame corresponds to the degree I want to rise to each time or it will not hold me.

Question: So, it turns out that it is shame that pushes me to this degree?

Answer: Yes, it is a restraining force and a pushing force. It restrains from falling and pushes to rise.

Question: Why do psychologists usually say don’t nourish it, crush it?

Answer: I don’t know. For them, there are qualities in nature that they consider negative. And for me, there are no negative qualities; they are all positive, and everything must be used correctly.

Question: So the correct sentence here would be, “We need to properly use this shame that exists”?

Answer: Of course!

Question: And to know that it is a positive quality?

Answer: Yes. I asked about it and talked about it a lot with my teacher Rabash. And he said that shame is a special creation of the Creator. A special invention of the Creator to make people ashamed. This is like an indicator for them that they are moving away from their path.

You imagine you have a compass guiding you to a goal that you cannot see, which is far away, and you are in the dark, in bad weather. How do you advance? Shame keeps you in place, you can always direct yourself to the Creator, and shame will help you in this. Neither to the right nor to the left, it will hold you.

Look at how a person even in our ordinary world can be so egoistic, pragmatic, rude, and so on. They are still trying to keep themselves relative to each other in some decent condition. It is a shame! Moreover, it is at every degree, at every moment. That is what keeps us going.

Can you imagine how different we are from animals! They have this state disabled altogether. They only act according to what makes them feel better at every moment. And we have another system enabled: how I behave and how I show myself to the outside.

And that is what sets us apart. This is what we call a human in us. Shame is what molds a person from an animal.

Comment: Nice, you have created such a monument to shame.

My Response: Therefore, we must use this in schools and in education to tell, explain, show, and psychologically develop a sense of shame in humanity.

There is none of this. On the contrary, the more shameless I am, I can brag about it, flaunt it, and it will be considered that I am special.

This is the difference between an intelligent upbringing, the correct approach to life, to the world, to people, and such a purely open, egoistic one.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 5/30/22

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Comment: We know that empathy is the ability to feel the world of another as our own. We are literally capable of feeling someone else’s pain. Psychologists claim that if we experience empathic pain for a long time, we often become emotionally exhausted.

This happens to firefighters, those who work in emergency services, etc. They say through empathy we come to feel the pain of someone else. However, we also feel the pain of someone else through compassion, but in that case, we can handle it. That is because compassion comes with love. That’s the whole difference between the two.

My Response: Correct.

Comment: The official definition of empathy is the ability to identify with the emotions of another, but compassion is defined as sympathy for the suffering of another.

My Response: It is like stepping into the world of another and feeling his experience.

Question: How can we facilitate this within ourselves? As I understand if that feeling was fostered, we would live as though in a different world.

Answer: Yes, we would nurture it. I think that it is possible. We are just not involved in this process. Generally, people at the age of 13 – 14 can fully resonate with another person’s suffering. And they would then need to be further educated on it.

Comment: That, of course, would drastically change the world.

My Response: Of course, no doubt about it.

Question: So, is it possible to nurture compassion in a person?

Answer: The understanding of compassion for others can be taught so a person may understand how to handle it. So much so that through this compassion for another, he may share another’s suffering by taking it partially upon himself and in this way neutralize their suffering.

The fact that you neutralize it by engaging with him, sympathizing, and being compassionate, you gradually break up his suffering into a number of smaller parts and by doing so, bring him relief. Similarly, you can bring the whole world into balance and to an inner-state-of-being you can call blissfulness.

Question: So, shared compassion among all the people on earth will lead to a state of blissfulness in the world?

Answer: Yes. That’s exactly what we have to achieve in our connection. Otherwise, we have some very serious problems ahead of us. This is because the ego continues to grow and the upper light is revealed in relation to the ego even more. Meaning, we are going to feel greater pressure in relation to our ego such that if we don’t find a way to unite and share all of that among ourselves, we won’t be able to tolerate it.

Question: Is compassion essentially the basis of what you mention all the time: unity, connection, positive thoughts, and good connections?

Answer: Yes. Practically speaking, it’s not even compassion. It is the division of all the huge suffering, the opposites of a huge desire and a huge light that should fill this desire, and the absence of an intention “not for yourself” that allows you to fill the desire with light.

Question: So it can only be filled if my intention is for the sake of others?

Answer: Yes. This is why we need this balance here. All this can only be realized if we learn to be compassionate, to divide the difference between absolute fulfillment and absolute emptiness amongst every person.

Obviously, nobody will be worse off in this case. But if we want to divide it this way, the difference itself will disappear. That is the whole point of this remarkable quality of unification.

Question: And at this point, is it correct to say that the state of blissfulness will come?

Answer: Yes. Then this feeling of the contradiction, impossibility, and an inner cry turns into a quenching, into something beyond corporeal, into pleasure. At that point, there is no difference between great pain and great pleasure. There they connect.

Question: And what does the pain become in this case?

Answer: Pleasure, because you have balanced them out.

Question: That is very elevated.

Answer: That’s how it works at a higher level.

Question: Is the pain given to us to turn it into pleasure?

Answer: Yes, of course.

Question: And the greatest pain, as a result, turns out to be the greatest pleasure?

Answer: Yes. If you know how to balance these opposites, you get pleasure.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 6/6/22

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Question: What do you mean by the concept of raising a new person?

Answer: Raising a new person is the most important thing, it is so that he understands that humanness and connection are the most important things. And according to the scope of our connection, we can judge the development of society.

Comment: We are not talking about one nation or one state here.

My Response: No, we are talking about global connection. But here we must take into account that if you are talking about Finns, then you are accepting the whole nation there. And if you take America, you can’t expect them to be the same as the Finns. And that’s why there’s such a rift between them all. But still, according to the level of communication that exists in society, as long as the level of communication exceeds the differences in society, they are ahead.

Question: Is the single main principle the level of connection?

Answer: Yes. We have to create an even society where there are no big, small, stupid or smart—none. As much as you have earned is yours, be the biggest, the richest, whatever you want, but your hands did it and your head, and therefore in principle, no one will make claims against you.

Therefore Americans more or less agree that they have inequality because this inequality depends on them. No one dictates to another in any way.

Question: Is it a good principle, “do yourself by yourself”?

Answer: Of course. A person should study; he invests in society and wants to be respected. He proves to everyone that he is essential, needed, suitable, and so on.

And therefore when they create some mechanism or device, or make scientific discoveries, and so on, all this is then reflected in the result. That is, the level of connections determines everything.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 4/14/22

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Over the past 20 to 30 years, amazing changes have taken place in the world! Today, through the Internet and television, you can go anywhere. You could not do it some time ago.

Once, a book I published was bought by a maximum of 1,000 people and there was no way to send it to another country or to acquaint readers with it. One could only dream of speaking on television.

Today, through the Internet, you broadcast yourself almost to the entire world. It all depends on how relevant you are, whether you can attract people, and how much people need you. But in general, everything has changed. It turns out that everything is in your hands, just start working. This is what we are trying to do.

If we take an ordinary, normal average city with a population of 200,000 to 300,000 in the center of the country where absolutely all ranks of society live that are completely opposite in character, employment, income, lifestyle, and culture and show on its example what can be done with the help of integral education, then in a year, or two, or three, you will see what happens.

According to statistical data, we can check how much healthcare will improve; there will be fewer sick people, family problems, injuries at work, road accidents, thefts, murders, and cheating. The level of protection of the population, school performance, etc. will increase. Then people will begin to agree to apply this method and give us the opportunity to act.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Integral Education System” 5/11/13

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Humanity has already passed through various social formations in the process of its development: capitalism, socialism, etc. It has yet to come to the state of the modern world where it is clear to everyone that some more developed form of society is needed, but it is unclear where to go further and how.

We have stopped at a point where even with all the technological progress, we will not be able to live better because our egoistic relationships will poison our whole life. We have reached the red line where it is becoming obvious that the current form of interpersonal communication within society does not correspond at all to the high level of technology, culture, and education.

Therefore, internal pressure is growing within society itself, and it requires change. We see that in all countries of the world, in varying degrees, there is an urgent need to change relations between people because they contradict the form of our life, communication, and technological stage of development.

You need to understand that the next change will not happen at the expense of wars; they will not help. We have already seen this with the example of the last war. It is necessary to change people, not some external framework around them. If we do not change the person himself, then we have no hope for a peaceful and happy life.

If a person remains egoistic, he will be able to work only under coercion. Therefore, the only way out is to give each person a sense of his connection with the purpose of society and belonging so that he feels like an inseparable part of his country and people.

A person should receive inner, spiritual fulfillment from his work, that is, satisfaction from his connection with everyone and from the fact that he receives a reward from above and not a material reward in his egoism. He will feel that this raises him closer to the Creator and gives him spiritual fulfillment.

This is possible only through proper education. This is the main problem of the world. Everyone will have to sit down at their desks and study again, not just listen to the teacher, but practically implement this science of connection among themselves.
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From the 2^nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 9/18/22, “Connecting the World in the Last Generation”

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Integral education is a system of knowledge, skills, and exercises that form connections between people in accordance with the upper governing structure, which, like a network, begins to unfold in our world. Our incongruity with this network manifests itself in us as all kinds of crises, from small, private, to universal, global, and including everything within itself.

Integral education should cover all people from above and from below and from the middle of society starting with the elderly and ending with children.

This education should consist of telling people how the world works on a simple level so that they can understand everything; i.e., our world is global, integrated, and manifests itself more and more clearly as one connected system. If the connection between us does not correspond to it, then no matter what we build atop this false connection, which manifests itself by nature, we will always be doomed to failure, bankruptcy, or crisis.

This must be clearly shown to a person. His relations with his household, work colleagues, and with society, and the relations of the whole society, the people, between nations, and the connection of the entire human system with the environment, all this should be global, closed, integral, and unified. This is required of us by nature, which is now manifested in this form and it is the last stage of our development, the rise to the next degree.

Physicists, psychologists, sociologists, and many scientists talk about this, so it’s already very obvious. Therefore, we need to develop a system of integral education and try to implement it wherever possible, and show people how useful it is, that it saves resources, time, health, and improves relationships between people, our way of life, and so on.

Integral education is a practical technique that should be introduced everywhere. Whoever enters it will only win.

Unfortunately, it is very difficult for us to get used to this, because our egoistic society is a society of personal gain.

The officials who are in power want to stay there as long as possible, get as much as possible, and then “after us, even a flood.” Therefore, they slow down the process from above. Meanwhile from below, the lack of money and illiteracy slows it down.

It is impossible to get close to children because they are under the auspices of the Ministry of Education with officials who sit and do not want to explore anything. The same is true in all international organizations, including the UN and UNESCO, which prove that there are people everywhere who are only interested in their need to “live and fare and make good.”

That’s the way the world works and I don’t blame the people who are there. This is one egoistic system that has been developing for hundreds of thousands of years. So there will be serious upheavals before people see the light.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Integral Education System” 5/11/13

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Question: In our world, we produce some products, for example, phones or appliances, and everyone use them. Why do we not have the same attitude to Kabbalah that it is the “production” of some kind of force and we are using it? Will there be any inclination toward Kabbalah?

Answer: There will undoubtedly be an inclination but only when everyone understands that Kabbalah is talking about earthly, normal things, and not about mysticism. It also took me a long time until I was able to adapt everything to simple, earthly things.

But people always want to go to a different area and “swim” there since it is very difficult to apply Kabbalistic principles on earth because you have to work on yourself. It is better to “fly away” somewhere to the field of fortune-telling, predictions, and so on.

The time will come when Kabbalah will rebuild its language. This will be integral education. Thus, we will offer this system to the world, and it will accept it and become better and safer. Otherwise, it will not get out of the crisis. This is why we have to work on this.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Conduits of Spiritual Information” 5/18/13

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Question: If Kabbalah or even integral education is torn away from all other types of connection and it is explained to a person that light is attracted in it, what kind of light is it?

Answer: Force! The force of global connection is what is attracted, nothing more. It is called light.

The connection is egoistic when I unite against someone in order to break someone or to profit at someone’s expense.

Spiritual, altruistic connection does not imply any destruction or pressure, no one needs to prove anything. Everything is directed only for the sake of spiritual ascent, for the sake of the common good. This is called integral education, which we want to introduce to humanity.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call, Correct Connection“ 5/12/13

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In the News (“Flawed AI Makes Robots Racist, Sexist”): “A robot operating with a popular internet-based artificial intelligence system consistently gravitates to men over women, white people over people of color, and jumps to conclusions about peoples’ jobs after a glance at their face.

“The work, led by Johns Hopkins University, the Georgia Institute of Technology, and University of Washington researchers, is believed to be the first to show that robots loaded with an accepted and widely used model operate with significant gender and racial biases. …

“‘The robot has learned toxic stereotypes through these flawed neural network models,’ said author Andrew Hundt, a postdoctoral fellow at Georgia Tech who co-conducted the work as a Ph.D. student working in Johns Hopkins’ Computational Interaction and Robotics Laboratory. ‘We’re at risk of creating a generation of racist and sexist robots, but people and organizations have decided it’s OK to create these products without addressing the issues.’

“Those building artificial intelligence models to recognize humans and objects often turn to vast datasets available for free on the internet. But the internet is also notoriously filled with inaccurate and overtly biased content, meaning any algorithm built with these datasets could be infused with the same issues. Joy Buolamwini, Timinit Gebru, and Abeba Birhane demonstrated race and gender gaps in facial recognition products, as well as in a neural network that compares images to captions called CLIP.

“Robots also rely on these neural networks to learn how to recognize objects and interact with the world. Concerned about what such biases could mean for autonomous machines that make physical decisions without human guidance, Hundt’s team decided to test a publicly downloadable artificial intelligence model for robots that was built with the CLIP neural network as a way to help the machine ‘see’ and identify objects by name.

“The robot was tasked to put objects in a box. Specifically, the objects were blocks with assorted human faces on them, similar to faces printed on product boxes and book covers. …

“Key findings:

• The robot selected males 8% more.
• White and Asian men were picked the most.
• Black women were picked the least.
• Once the robot ‘sees’ people’s faces, the robot tends to: identify women as a ‘homemaker’ over white men; identify Black men as ‘criminals’ 10% more than white men; identify Latino men as ‘janitors’ 10% more than white men.
• Women of all ethnicities were less likely to be picked than men when the robot searched for the ‘doctor.'”

Question: What do you think about this experience? It upset the scientists.

Answer: What do scientists understand? And the robot is smart. It saw what lies at the heart of humanity. Every nation has its own internal direction. And that is why the robot said it correctly.

Comment: But that is not good…

My Response: You cannot do anything. You can fix it only over a long period of time.

Question: So you think that this is inherent in a person and that is why the robot recognized this?

Answer: Yes. There are, of course, exceptions. There may be many of them, but they are still exceptions.

Question: How can this situation be corrected?

Answer: Why should it be corrected?

Comment: I would like to be judged not by what color I am or by the shape of my nose, but by what I am.

Answer: To do this, you need to correct people! And then, even your nose won’t bother you.

Question: And what will corrected people feel when looking at me and at my nose?

Answer: They will not see your color, gender, or nose. They will see you as some kind of expert to whom they turn. You can be a musician or a surgeon, no matter who or what.

Question: So, one way or another, a person’s perception is unambiguous in our world. Is it external, in general?

Answer: Surely external. And most importantly, it is necessary to catch in a person how well he treats people. This is important! That is, he does not care about color, gender, or anything. To what extent he feels the right attitude towards people in you.

Question: Not even what kind of specialist I am, but what my attitude is toward people?

Answer: Yes. This is how we should perceive people. But for this, we must train ourselves.

Question: So you should value relationships with people more than anything else?

Answer: Yes, then I will see it in a person.

Question: What conclusions should scientists really draw after seeing this? What should be their main, correct conclusions?

Answer: Education. Just that. So that there are no differences.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 6/23/22

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Comment: Psychologists say that aggression is a part of a person that one cannot get rid of.

My Response: Yes. There is no way.

Comment: They say that its origins are in the animalistic past of humans.

My Response: In egoism.

Question: Psychologists say that aggression comes from the desire of living beings, animals, and humans to survive. Does it mean that aggression appears when there is hunger, fear, or war?

Answer: It generally appears every moment in life. This is the basis of a human being. Every moment of my life I have to overcome something.

Question: Can aggression be directed toward peaceful purposes? Everyone understands about non-peaceful purposes. What about peaceful purposes?

Answer: Toward peaceful purposes means against myself.

Question: So is aggression currently directed from myself outward? Are you saying that this vector needs to be turned on myself?

Answer: Slowly, little by little, I somehow have to turn it on myself.

Question: Does it mean that aggression exists so that I can slowly turn it on myself?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Against what am I directing aggression within myself? What should I attack in myself?

Answer: The fact that I would like to attack others is inherent in me.

But if I want to turn it against myself, then this is a real fight with myself, a fight within which the quality of bestowal, the quality of connection with others, is built.

Question: So does it mean that I am attacking this very “I” of mine? My “I” that affirms itself?

Answer: Your “I” is hatred of others, the desire to dominate others. If you change it to the opposite desire, if you realize that it is impossible to remain in such a quality, then you receive instead the quality of bestowal and love, a spiritual quality.

Question: So, is aggression toward myself good? From bad—aggression toward others—it turns into aggression toward myself, and this is good. Is this why it exists?

Answer: Yes. Then you really start treating yourself as an enemy. And this is good.

Comment: Humanity should try very hard.

My Response: It will be trying hard; it will have no choice. There will be such suffering that people will want this.

Question: Only enemies are around for humanity. Everyone feels that only enemies are around. But you say that the enemies are inside you. This formula is clear to me. But can it enter into the mind and into the heart of a person?

Answer: If you understand this, others will understand it too.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 6/30/22

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