Question: Suppose a person has a tendency to steal. What action should be taken against him?

Answer: Correction. Everyone steals. Everyone! Neither you nor I can vouch for ourselves either. It depends on where, how, what, consciously, unconsciously, or perhaps he was framed somehow.

You cannot allow a person to be around such things that he can steal. We must protect him from such actions. It all depends on the level of his education.

Of course if I have a natural tendency to steal, then I cannot just be allowed to do certain things. We must learn to measure the degree of correction of a person, and for this we need to see him and include him in us. It is not simple. Nobody has been able to do this yet. That is why everyone steals.

Question: How can we do this in a Kabbalistic society?

Answer: Everything is based on completely different principles in a Kabbalistic society. As Baal HaSulam writes in the book The Writings of the Last Generation, everyone receives as much as he or she is entitled to according to the amounts that society determines in accordance with the personal and family needs of a person. Therefore, one does not need to steal. There is nowhere to steal from, and no need to do so.

A person is constantly in a state of being influenced by the correct environment, and systematically undergoes training by improving on one’s own and attending improvement courses.

If we begin to gradually curtail our economy, close enterprises not by directive, but according to our education, and send people to classes, then the crisis would calm down and there would be no overproduction. First you need to invest everything in education.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Ideal Punishment” 10/5/13

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Comment: You recently called modern education of children coercive.

My Response: Our current education is, of course, coercion.

A poor child is given a backpack or a briefcase, and that is it. He goes off to school for half a day. And what does he see there?

Suppose young children still have underdeveloped egoism. A child is placed at the desk, everyone is sitting, he is sitting, and using the herd instinct.

But, in principle, it is necessary to educate in a live manner, in nature, in motion. Children are already sitting with their computers with all sorts of cartoons before school. They sit more than they move and play.

Proper education is in movement, in games, in interaction with each other, in live interaction with the teacher, in understanding the world, animals, visiting all sorts of enterprises, in discussing everything that happens.

It is also in discussion that children find a common language with each other that develops for up to twenty years. At the same time, you are building a new society; from school to school, to enterprises, to hospitals, anywhere, they must walk together, discuss together, and thus gradually adapt to another world, feel it closer and better. For them, loaves of bread do not grow on trees.

This is what we need. In this way the whole section of the population, class by class or group by group, moves toward entering the world. They become properly interconnected by integral education, upbringing, and so on.

This should be done literally from kindergarten.

Comment: But you said that one should not put pressure on human nature.

My Response: Is this putting pressure? This is to attract the upper light in order for it to correct it. We have to do this as parents.

Why do you think that you do not put pressure on a child? Now you turn him into whatever you want, you force him. What does he understand, this little one? You take him to various activities, here and there.

Question: Does this mean that from childhood it is necessary to educate a child, but to educate him correctly?

Answer: In the integral community, of course. They, in general, are drawn to this because their egoism develops much later.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Proper Upbringing of a Child” 10/5/13

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The true state of humanity is bestowal and love. How can we get to this, and arrive gradually? By conducting all kinds of seminars, through new literature, new art, new mutual relations, and new examples from all sides.

Then a person, as it were, enters a completely different environment and begins cooking himself internally and externally. In accordance with this, people will almost immediately begin to feel changes in themselves because light acts in a huge mass of people. These are amazing changes. These are such transformations!

People start thinking differently; they themselves reduce their egoistic zeal and forget about their egoistic dreams of getting more and more. All TV channels focused on “where to buy” and “what to sell,” which are built on egoistic stimulation, are being shut down. Completely different television and public channels are being turned on that are built on absolutely different principles. And re-education, re-education!

This system is created based on the system of nature that was formed naturally from the world of infinity. When you aspire for it, you just arouse it in yourself.

Here the method of simple induction works. When you approach a magnet in a magnetic field, like in a piece of electrical wire, a current appears in you. All kinds of mechanisms, generators, dynamos, etc. are built on this principle. A metal wire moving in a magnetic field causes electrons to move in it, that is, an electric current.

It is the same with us. We have to move in this field and then a “current” will be induced inside of us. And that is it; nothing more is required because in this case we will feel a completely different nature.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Ideal Punishment” 10/5/13

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Michael Laitman, On Quora: “What advice do you have for a mother who feels like she is losing her son?“

I received the following letter from a worried mother who felt like she was losing her son.

Hello, Dr. Laitman. I’m a worried mom. I feel like I’m losing my son. I raised two children. The young one I pampered and surrounded with love. But I feel that I didn’t give enough love to my elder son, who is sixteen now. I was a young mother who was very busy in a difficult economic situation. I made many mistakes. And I especially didn’t give him the warmth and attention that he needed. Now he’s moving away from me. He can’t even pronounce the word “mom.” Sometimes I feel that he really hates me. It really hurts me. And it worries me. I’m trying to fix things, but I don’t know how to bring him back to me. I wanted to ask you, Dr. Laitman, maybe you have some wise piece of advice on how to save our relationship. And how can I regain my son?”

She needs to show him that she loves, supports, understands and is there for him, that she is truly his friend. That is the main thing. She will find a way of how to support him, and he will understand that he has a mom, which is a bit different to what he thought.

In short, he needs to feel that he has no closer person that understands, feels, and is there to help him in any situation.

Based on the video “A Kabbalist’s Advice for a Mother Who Feels Like She’s Losing Her Son” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman and Oren Levi. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.

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Question: You said that until the age of 13, a person perceives the world only in feelings. Does the mind switch on after age 13 when it can analyze everything that it felt before?

Answer: Approximately, nowadays, it may be not at 13, but at 25 because the current generation is in delayed development. This is noted by everyone: psychologists, sociologists, statistics, and polls.

Our generation is more infantile. Young people want to stay at home, do not want to start families and take responsibility; they prefer to sit in a cafe, buried in their phones.

Comment: According to our development, each person is, in principle, a child. He does not perceive the world with his mind at all.

My Response: We perceive everything through feelings, although we cannot admit it to ourselves, we do not understand it because our matter is the will to enjoy, to be filled.

Therefore, first of all, we are sensory sensors, and only later do we become aware of what we feel. Our consciousness is secondary, and matter, which is feelings, is primary.

Our feelings control us so much and dominate our consciousness that we simply do not notice this fact, we do not recognize it. We cannot get out of this, observe from the outside, and investigate. I am not even trying to explain this to people.

Only those who begin to acquire a second feeling, the quality of bestowal instead of the quality of reception, can calculate, realize, evaluate, and weigh to what extent they are in the quality of reception, and in accordance with this, how they can control and evaluate themselves, and so on.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Mind and Feelings – What Is More Important?” 10/7/13

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And they created school the way the devil had ordered. A child loves nature, yet they locked him up within four walls. A child cannot sit still without moving, yet they forced him to sit still. He loves to work with his hands, yet they started teaching him theories and ideas.

He likes to talk, yet they ordered him to keep silent. He strives to understand, yet he was told to memorize. He would like to research and seek out knowledge on his own, yet it was given to him in a ready-made form.

And then children learned what they would never have learned under other circumstances. They learned to lie and pretend (Adolphe Ferrière, a founder of the Progressive Education Movement).

My Response: It is just as accurate today.

Question: Why did they take this free bird, a child, and stuff him into a cage?

Answer: It is because for you adults, this is simpler and clearer. To pressure a child by force and make him stay in our four corners, and that is all.

Question: Then what are we taking away from him?

Answer: We take away the free development of his soul, heart, mind, and even physical development.

Question: Do you think this is the most important thing for a person?

Answer: I think a child should grow up free. That is, he should sit and listen to adults, but it has to be interesting for him.

And he should spend more time outside with his friends. Simultaneously with friends and a teacher. To go out to the field, fidget with some cars and large machines, and other things like that. Raise a child according to his own ways.

Question: Do you think this is more important than, say, to sit him down and study physics or algebra?

Answer: There is no use of it. Only a few push through it and only because they want to be better than others.

Question: So, you are least interested in knowledge?

Answer: Right. We do not need it.

Question: So, knowledge least of all. And what you just proposed, what is that? Does this set a person free? What does it give him?

Answer: What I am proposing develops a child through the natural course of his activities. In this case, he will invent all kinds of things. Not some airplanes or helicopters but spaceships! Based on completely different principles, ones that we assume are used by aliens. And so on.

So, this liberation will give freedom to ideas, and we still do not know what a child has inside. There are entire worlds in him.

Question: You speak of freedom; what are the principles of this freedom for a child?

Answer: The principles of this freedom are free contact with nature, discussions, conclusions, and debates with adults and peers. All this is very necessary for their proper development. Otherwise, you are simply placing them inside a square or a cube, and they cannot get out of it for the rest of their lives, you constrain their thinking.

Question: And you stop this whole progress by that?

Answer: Yes.

Question: What does this require of teachers?

Answer: It requires teachers to become different—not like teachers we have today. We have to redo all of it over the course of many years. But then, we will get completely different results.

Question: By realizing this, will we one day reach the fact we need to change everything? The Department of Education…

Answer: Through a great revolution.

Comment: You understand that this includes everything—the entire bureaucratic system.

My Response: All of it!

Comment: Bureaucrats will reject it.

My Response: I am not speaking of whether they would want it or not, whether we should fight for it or not. I am not calling for anything.

Question: So how will it happen?

Answer: I don’t know. I simply talk about what is true.

Question: Can our thinking be taken and changed from above?

Answer: Anything is possible from above. And by “from above,” I don’t mean the government.

Question: So, the upper force can just transform our thinking?

Answer: Yes.

Question: In what circumstances will it do so?

Answer: I cannot assert this with complete confidence, but it seems to me it is when we become completely disillusioned in what we have.
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From KabTV’s “New with Michael Laitman” 9/29/22

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Question: Let’s say a person has committed some kind of offense. How can we help him? Should we moralize? After all, there are a lot of methods.

Answer: We can help him by attracting him to us and connecting with others. We should attract him to us to be in the team and interact with everyone. We need to try to adapt him to that, and that is all.

What is not clear here? All the people who read my blog or listen to me will immediately understand this elementary truth.

What, am I supposed to trample him into the mud? By that I am not correcting him. I have to aim for correction! And what can it be, if not the return of the prodigal son back to the integral, perfect Mother Nature?
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. The Perfect Punishment” 10/10/13

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Comment: A girl sued her parents because she was born without her consent. As if she could somehow agree. And at first she even won the court.

Below I quote this young girl from her Instagram post:

“A few months ago I sued my folks for having me without my permission. And I won. So the court ordered them to pay me $5,000 a month to cover my basic expenses. Well, they went and had that appealed. So now they don’t have to give me any money. And now I have to go get a job. And I’m realizing, like I don’t have any work experience, or any higher education. Nowhere is paying me $5,000 a month. So how the hell am I supposed to afford to pay my bills? … Don’t have children if you don’t want to support them.”

My Response: She’s partly right. It only depends on how much and up to what age to help. Because if you give birth, you take responsibility.

Comment: But she is a grown-up girl. Someone who can study and work a bit. But this is the relation to the world in which a person simply does not want to be.

My Response: I understand her. If she really does not want to relate to the world and regrets that she exists, then her claims against her parents, in general, can be understood.

Question: What are these claims against parents?! They supported her as best they could. And at some point they stopped supporting her. She has to support them at some point. What kind of claims are these?!

Answer: But it depends on society, on education.

Comment: Many people have such a question: “Why was I born?” Some make claims to parents: “Why did you give birth to me?” and others ask the question: “Why was I born?” You are always advocating for this question to arise in a person.

My Response: Of course. So that a person finds out what he is born for explicitly.

Question: And to whom should one send this question?

Answer: To oneself. Whom else? What did the parents know about it? Also nothing. And I don’t know anything. They don’t have any questions, but I do. So go and find out.

Question: If I ask myself this question, can I find the answer in myself?

Answer: Yes. You can find this answer only in yourself.

Question: And what will it be like?

Answer: Whatever you will find. Look for the meaning of life.

Question: When a person asks himself this question, and, for example, an answer comes to him, at what point is he sure that this answer is correct? Does a person have such confidence?

Answer: Let him search. And he will select all possible questions and answers that he will have at the same time, and he will get to something interesting.

Comment: If a person, for example, is not looking for an answer to this question, but simply lives in this life and that’s it. He has no such ups and downs.

My Response: If not, very good, let him live quietly. A person who is looking for an answer in himself, on the other hand, really has a desire, an urgent need, to find out about himself, about his history, his fate: where I am from, where am I, what am I for, and so on.

Question: Do you welcome this?

Answer: Of course. He can become a human, that is, can understand: what he is here for, and what kind of secret is in him.

Question: A happy person for you is one who feels ups and downs, descents and ascents, in search of the meaning of life. Big ascents and big descents?

Answer: Yes. But he’s a Human.

Question: And is this a happy man?

Answer: I do not know if he is happy.

Question: And when will he be happy?

Answer: When he gets to his core: to what he exists for.

Question: Can happiness be permanent if he gets to this core?

Answer: Yes, then he will be in constant happiness. Because he will merge precisely with the question and answer that he asked himself.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 8/18/22

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Question: Why is there such a thing in nature that if a person commits some kind of offense, he must be punished?

Answer: It is not punishment, but correction. Only people punish each other just like that; nature punishes according to its program; therefore, this is called correction. In this way, it urges you to do what you have not done yet.

Comment: I am asking about the nature of a person, about his desire to punish others. If someone has done something, he must be punished, imprisoned, and lynched.

My Response: This is how the egoistic nature of a person manifests—to harm others. After all, in accordance with this, I feel good because I live by constantly comparing myself to others.

Question: How should it be?

Answer: Eventually there should be a completely different system with only mutual assistance in complementing each other up to the level of the Creator, connection, and mutual guarantee because we are all parts of one soul.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Ideal Punishment” 10/5/13

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Question: We know that birth is a very emotional, powerful event for a child. After a while, he can already see, hear, smell, and feel. But no one remembers this event.

Not only do we have no memories of birth itself but also not of the first two years of our life, the time when we learned to walk, get to know mom, dad, family, and the environment, and uttered our first words.

We more or less remember all our emotional surges in life, we feel them, but we do not remember this. It is as if this period is completely cut off from us. Why?

Answer: A person begins to feel himself at the age when he really becomes human. This is at the age of 12 to 13, maybe even a little later.

Question: What feelings are you talking about? For example, I remember myself at the age of four.

Answer: Yes, that is true, but it is not a sense of your “I.” It is a sensation that I exist, and you remember some pictures, some scenes from those times.

Question: Are you saying that the “I” grows in a person and at some point it says: “From now on, you will remember everything”? And the “I” that was there when I was little was not the “I” yet?

Answer: Yes.

Question: When my “I” is revealed, what does it mean? What does it require? Why are such bright colors suddenly starting to appear?

Answer: This is when there is a connection with other people and especially hormonal attraction (at the age of 13 to 14). Then a person begins to form completely. All his, so to say, levels are already included in the awareness of the world and of oneself.

Question: Why does this “I” manifest in a person and begin to lead further?

Answer: In order for him to correct himself and to raise himself. In order for him to understand what he exists for. From this time on, you can already start working with a person.

Question: For an ordinary person, is the “I” something completely different?

Answer: It is because we are not being taught!

I was not taught either. But I remember wondering, “What is next?” And there is nothing. That is all. Next, you will go to school, to college, and so on.

Since I did not have an answer to this question, I did not want to study, and I did not want anything at all. I was quite often in a state of apathy.

Question: Was it because there was no answer? Did the answer arise from this “I” that required growth?

Answer: Of course. What do I live for and why? It was a terrible feeling that it is pointless, useless, and you are being forced.

Question: Is, in fact, our life the formation of this “I”? What does this “I” transform into,? What does it turn into?

Answer: It turns into indifference, into apathy. It exists because you exist. There are people who do not notice it. It is good for them, they are happy to live, acquire, build, give birth, and so on. This is how life goes on for them.

Question: Is there a connection between this “I” and that upper force that you are always talking about?

Answer: Yes. In the question: “What for?” This question is transmitted from above to everyone, but in little doses. The one in whom this question arises seriously, apparently can develop it and receive answers.

Question: Can we think and fantasize about this that these “threads” exist above and come from above to the “I” of a person?

Answer: Yes.

Question: How can one determine when and which “I” will play, when and which “I” will jump out?

Answer: To do this, you need to reveal your soul, that is, your entire connection with the upper degree. Then you will know why you are being pulled this way and not in another way.

Question: Exactly at this time?

Answer: In everything.

Question: Is it programmed which “I” will jump out and which will be dulled a little bit?

Answer: Absolutely everything.

Question: Does it mean every “I” of the entire eight billion?

Answer: Of course! The beginning of creation, the end of creation, and its intermediate states—practically all of them are known in advance. Only one thing is unknown: how a person in his manifestation of freewill implements his personal participation in all this.

Here, the implementation is not prescribed in advance, but is given to a person

Question: Does it mean that, in fact, something still depends on the person?

Answer: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 8/18/22

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