The Creator planted in us a special property called “shame” as a means of growth. If I realize that I am a receiver in regard to another, I feel “ashamed” since it hurts my “self,” my status, and the perception of my character. Indeed, the Creator created us with His Light, and we descend from this very high source where feeling as a receiver is opposite to it. Hence, we feel humiliated.
Only a beast doesn’t feel shame. A dog will eat food thrown at it without feeling any embarrassment. If something is thrown to a person, then his feeling will be determined by his state of existence.
If he is dying from starvation and by eating the food is saving his life, meaning that he descended from the human to the animate level, then he won’t feel ashamed either. In this case, a person either doesn’t care for shame and pain at the moment, or he grew up in the environment where it is natural to receive. But if someone tries to “throw a bone” to a person who has pride and integrity, he will feel insulted.
The Creator intentionally made us this way so that we would feel how despicable and low it is next to the desire of the Creator to bestow, and this distinction gives us strength to ascend.
From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/7/10, “The Love of the Creator and Love of the Created Beings”