Education and Attainment in Kabbalah

219.01When we begin to study the wisdom of Kabbalah, at first, we do not understand the inner meaning of each word, nor do we reveal the upper force that stands behind it. But gradually, we begin to uncover deeper meaning.

That is, I am no longer simply reading a word, but I start to feel and reveal the spiritual object that stands behind it, gradually emerging as if from a fog.

This is how we slowly reach spiritual attainment. It turns out that there are two stages: education and attainment. Education means that we are studying, but have not yet attained, we are only approaching the meaning. And later, we begin to truly attain it.

The point is that attainment does not depend on how well a person has studied or how thoroughly they know everything written in the book. That is not important at all. What matters most is that one corrects one’s egoistic quality and transforms it from reception to bestowal, to love for others.

It may even happen that one is not very knowledgeable about the material, not particularly clever. But if they have corrected their attitude toward others, then within this corrected relationship they will sense spiritual concepts and attain them.

Question: How can I study if I cannot rely on my own mind, do not understand the meaning of what is written, and have never experienced spiritual attainment? For example, if I were learning Chinese, I would learn new words every day and gradually begin to understand what is written.

Answer: That is because, in the case of Chinese, you are dealing with a reality that you perceive. But Kabbalah speaks of a reality that you do not yet feel. Therefore, you can read these books for a thousand years and still not understand what they are talking about.

The whole question is: How can one attain the sensation of what one is reading about?

And this sensation is possible only on the condition that we acquire the quality of bestowal in addition to the quality of reception we were born with. We spend our entire lives developing these inborn receiving qualities, learning more and more about how to receive. All our thoughts in this world are only about how to obtain as much benefit as possible and avoid harm.

But now we need to unite with other people and start working for them, caring about giving them what benefits them and protecting them from harm, as if they were our own babies. However, when it comes to our own babies, we are driven by instinctive, natural love, the kind that parents in this world naturally possess. But regarding other people, we must develop such an attitude in opposition to our egoism and against its resistance. And this is not simple at all.

Yet, if we succeed in doing this, we will build a connection on a new level, above rejection. Below remains egoism, aversion to others, separation, but above all that, I build a connection with them.

Then between the minus below and the plus above, we create various forms of connection within which circulation begins and a new force emerges, a force called the upper force.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/14/16, Writings of Baal HaSulam

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The Golden Rule of Family Relationships

506.3Question: What is your advice to young people who are starting a life together with the feeling that everything will be fine for them and that they will live together for a long time, forever?

Answer: It takes a lot of long, even tedious, conversations with each other. Pour out everything you think and so should your partner, like two researchers. Gradually, you will reach a state where you both begin to examine yourselves and one another, and your partner will also examine himself and you.

Then it turns out that life becomes interesting and it becomes a study: how can we change our relationship, make it different somehow, and get closer? What if we do it this way? What if that way? And constantly try to reveal these qualities, feelings, and relationships as vividly as possible.

If people think about this and understand it, then somewhere after fifty or sixty years, this is what happens. That is all. Until then, it is: “If youth only knew, if old age only could.”

Comment: So this turns out to be the golden rule. Let’s hope some kind of change happens.

My Response: The time will come, and people will live like this. But we can already teach them! This is what must be added. We can teach these young ones how to become researchers. We can “age” them through our lessons, so to speak. They can undergo a kind of practicum.

Question: Even before they have joined together? To prepare them for this life?

Answer: Yes, of course. Then they will already know how to act—this way or that.

Question: So you are saying that young people should come to the wedding to unite together already as if they were old people?

Answer: Yes, inside. Of course. Will they discover on their own who they are? No. They must come with experience in communication, psychological communication, so to speak. This will give them confidence that they can overcome all sorts of difficulties in closeness and even turn those difficulties into greater contact.

Comment: Beautiful! We are talking about a scientific laboratory.

My Response: Yes. Oh, how much the world needs this!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 8/12/25

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Daily Kabbalah Lesson – 9/9/25

Preparation to the Lesson

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1st part of the Lesson — Writings of Baal HaSulam, Shamati #61 “Round About Him It Storms Mightily” (11.12.2021)

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2nd part of the Lesson — Writings of Baal HaSulam, “Preface to the Wisdom of Kabbalah,” Item 123 (10.24.2006)

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3rd part of the Lesson — Writings of Baal HaSulam, “Study of the Ten Sefirot,” Vol. 1, Part 1, “Inner Observation”

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4th part of the Lesson — Writings of Rabash, Article 9, “Jacob Went Out” 1985

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Become a Spiritual Embryo

583.05Question: What should I do if I can barely continue studying and feel as though I am simply being pushed out?

Answer: From above, we are sent a burdening of the heart with disappointment and egoistic complaints. One must lower one’s demands. When you are lying on the ground, there is nowhere further to fall.

If a person decides that he needs nothing except to remain in the quality of bestowal, then from this state, he cannot be thrown out. He has annulled his Malchut (egoistic desires) and adhered to Bina (to bestowal).

He is like an embryo in his mother’s womb that agrees that the upper one will continue to do with him whatever He wishes!

Then the upper one begins to develop an ever-greater quality of bestowal within him until spiritual birth.
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From the preparation for the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/7/09

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Eye Opening

928Question: It is written that the desire to receive is absent from our root. But you say that as a result of our correction we are rewarded with the opening of our eyes. What does it mean?

Answer: This means that we get the desire to give instead of the desire to receive. It develops in us, teaches us to see reality in the quality of bestowal, and thus we begin to attain a different reality than the one we were born in.

Question: I have a desire to receive, which is my nature, and there is something that gives me the study of the Torah and the commandments, and develops the desire to give. What does it mean that I can feel reality in the desire to give?

Answer: These are two properties in a person that can be replaced with one another. Therefore there is no need to stick to any one definition now. We will study all this and gradually change it in ourselves.
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From the 3rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/28/2025, “The Study of the Ten Sefirot

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Circle, Rectangle, Triangle, Line

548.01Because the light of Ein Sof was even, the restriction was also even. 

It is known in the wisdom of geometry that there is none so even an image as the image of the circle.

However, this is not the case with the image of the square, with the bulging perpendicular angle, the image of the triangle, and likewise all the other images. For this reason, the restriction of Ein Sof had to be in the form of a circle (Baal HaSulam, The Study of the Ten Sefirot, Vol. 1, Part 1, Item 5).

Explanation. If there were a difference between top and bottom, right and left, it would be expressed in the form of a rectangle with 4 sides as an expression of the 4 stages. While the triangle indicates a degree with only 3 stages, where the 4th stage is missing. That is, there are only three sides: top, right, left, but no bottom (the last 4th stage, “Dalet“).

There are no more “images”—all other shapes are already “letters.”
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From Daily Kabbalah Lesson 5/2/11, “The Study of the Ten Sefirot

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Let’s Open the Path for the Light

715The source of the upper Light created a point of desire “from nothing,” began to develop it with His pressure, until it reached the state called the world of infinity. In this state the point is no longer a point but a sphere filled with the light that created it, and it performs a restriction (Tzimtzum Aleph), and expels the light from itself. We are under this restriction.

The condition of the first restriction is very simple: above there is light, pleasure, perfection, eternity— everything, and below there is desire, darkness, emptiness—nothing! And between them lies the boundary of the first restriction (Tzimtzum Aleph), a condition that can never be revoked. If the desire (Kli) is not similar to the light, this gap remains between them.

That is, you will not feel anything except what you feel now. And this is called an unconscious spiritual state or “this world.” This is the smallest measure of life that we are today, below any awareness, in darkness, as if in an imagined reality and in the deepest sleep that could possibly exist.

Once I saw a science fiction film about how people were placed into some capsules with a special liquid to be sent into space over distances of thousands of light years. And they slept, each in his capsule, until they arrived at another planet and began to awaken there. It is in a similar state that we find ourselves in now, asleep, cut off from true reality!

The condition by which I can receive the light is the intention for the sake of bestowal. The desire to be filled, to enjoy, does not change, only the “for what,” the “why,” the “meaning” changes.

If I want to receive the light, the fulfillment, for myself with the intention for myself, egoistically, against the condition of Tzimtzum Aleph, this is called receiving “from above downward.”

If I want to receive the light (in both cases I only receive, since within me there is only the desire to receive, and only the intention, the condition of reception, changes), but with the intention to bring pleasure to the one who gives to me, then this is called receiving “from below upward.”

Only in such a case will the light, the revelation of the upper world, fill me. It is not clear to us how one can receive the upper light from below upward; what is meant is that you return pleasure to the giver. This condition opens the path for the light! Fulfill this condition and the entire world of infinity is yours!
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From the Kabbalah Lesson 12/24/09, The Book of Zohar

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Loving to the Extreme!

531.03Question: Is it true that if we didn’t do harm to others, we wouldn’t get sick?

Answer: Of course! There would be no illnesses, nothing. That is the root of everything.

Question: At the same time, you say that with our nature, it is also impossible to do good to another?

Answer: Impossible.

Question: Then please, lead us out of this dead end. What should we do?

Answer: Well, let us dream a little.

Suppose we invented a virus that would somehow “bite” all of us, and we would begin to feel that we are all the closest of relatives. Like brothers and sisters who simply feel themselves as one whole.

Comment: Meaning, we ourselves can’t do anything, but if a virus came…

My Response: Maybe we can at least want it a little. That is our main task.

For this first we must see who we are today and not deny the bad that exists, not reconcile with it. We need to try to understand that there can be an absolutely opposite quality. Because in nature, all qualities exist in pairs, opposite to one another.

If we truly desire it, then this inversion might happen to us.

Question: But it must happen?

Answer: I think yes. Because nature always manifests itself in two opposite qualities. Therefore, I think that after our current state, when we reach the breaking point, as they say, there will be a reversal, a kind of phase shift.

Comment: And we will begin to understand that everything was created by love and must lead to love.

My Response: It will happen above us, that is, outside of us. It will act upon us in such a way that we will change, become absolutely opposite, loving to the extreme.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 8/21/25

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626People understand that they cannot find the meaning of life in marriage. They cannot find the meaning of life in work either.

Comment: And, it seems, not in friendship either.

My Response: And in friendship, of course. Meaning—nowhere. So what is the point? I’m lying in bed, why should I get up? There is no reason, simply no reason to move, to think, to speak, to do anything at all. That is how a kind of world-freezing happens.

Comment: And today, more and more so.

My Response: Yes, of course.

So what is the point? It is only if we reveal the meaning of life, which is above this state. And if at least somehow, we can talk about it, show it, and shake people up, stir them. Otherwise, of course, it will all end with someone eventually starting to sell pills that put you to sleep forever.

And people will buy them. Oh yes, they will! They will happily throw them in their mouths, wash them down with a glass of water, lie down peacefully, and that is it. And what happens to them afterward, what difference does it make?

Comment: But that sounds illogical. If a person feels really bad, in theory he should be looking for how to…

My Response: But what can he do if he sees no way out? What is there to live for?!

Comment: In connection, at least in some kind of connection with someone else, some kind at all?

My Response: That exists. So they gather in some clubs. But in general, even that comes to an end.

Question: That isn’t a solution, you’re sure?

Answer: No, of course not.

Question: So not until a person breaks through to the meaning of life. Is such a breakthrough happening, and that is why this trend is here?

Answer: Yes, a person must break through such a barrier, which is absolute unwillingness toward anything at all. And only afterward does one discover a completely different life. In a certain sense it is death. After crossing this boundary, one discovers that there is life, but it is different, and now I can begin to exist in it.

Question: So you’re saying that a person really must go through death in order to start living?

Answer: He must understand, agree, and want to renounce this life, the egoistic life, the chasing after something and somehow. When he agrees to that in some form, it can be done in different forms, then he will be ready for the next life.

Question: What is your advice to a lonely person who is so lonely that his soul aches with despair?

Answer: My advice is to go to our website and read. Nothing else. Truly, I really don’t want to say this, but I have nothing else to suggest.
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