Question: An important point in the round table methodology is the obligation to listen to others. Why is this so important?
Answer: How can we come to a common opinion if we do not compare ourselves to others and others to ourselves?
It is very difficult to listen carefully to another person. But this does not mean to always take it critically and try to check what it is suitable for you and what it is not.
Listening means disconnecting from yourself, making a copy of yourself the way you are today, and starting to perceive the other within yourself, as if entering him, and then comparing. This is a very long process. One minute is not enough here.
Listening to the other, I enter into him, get used to him. I need to feel what he feels, why he thinks this way, why he solves this problem in his own way and not the way I do.
Question: It’s a lot of stress to listen to someone. There must be some motivation for this. Let’s say that if a person brings me useful information, I am ready to listen to him. But this is not always the case. What can motivate me to listen to someone else, especially if I don’t agree with him?
Answer: You want to come to the right solution to the problem. This is the most important thing for you, more important than whether you agree with him or not or who is right or wrong. You must find the right solution to the problem, regardless of its source.
From KabTV’s “Management Skills” 7/9/20