Answer: It is very simple: you should love the other person so that through the external flaws (physical, physiological) you would see his or her inner value. Then all these external flaws, on the contrary, will emphasize their inner worth.
Question: How can one see one’s shortcomings positively?
Answer: I do see everything in myself as positive. We are arranged this way. Even if sometimes, at some very bad moments of life, I curse and criticize myself, I need to think about who I am criticizing.
Nature, or you can call it “the Creator,” which is one and the same, created you this way. Why then are you cursing it? How do you know? Perhaps you need all these flaws precisely in order to reach the level of the Creator by rising above them? After all, this is our destiny.
Question: How can we use the flaws correctly in order to rise to the next level of development?
Answer: Love. Love them, that is, love them for the fact that precisely by rising above them, by turning them into merits, we reach the highest level of development. It would be impossible to rise without this.
Question: What is the background against which a person will see that everything he has a complex about can be used effectively?
Answer: He should study the wisdom of Kabbalah. He must receive correct examples and strength from this wisdom with which he can try to change himself, to demand, plead, and eventually change.
Question: Which of your qualities or properties that seemed to you not so good did you use for development, for the ascent to the next level?
Answer: I am very jealous. I am very envious, and I would like to be even more greedy. The only thing that I have a great passion for is discovering the meaning of life. This great passion is based on great egoism: “Why do I just exist? I cannot allow this, I do not want this. I must understand why I exist and how can I correctly realize every moment of my life.” This is because of great greed and a big ego!
Although this quality of mine is a very bad one, in general, it is good. Thanks to it, I develop. To this day I am very greedy—greedy to know, to understand, and attain. If I see it in someone, why can’t I do it? Not for some materialistic purposes, but for a spiritual, scientific, etc. purpose.
I am very envious. I watch someone playing a violin or a piano, conducting an orchestra, or singing, and I have none of this.
Question: So, how do you express it?
Answer: I want everything!
Question: What do you do?
Answer: Nothing. I cannot burst out; I work in my field. I decided that this is the only and the greatest treasure and that I must achieve it.
If I had copper, zinc, tin, iron, and diamond mines, which ones would I develop? The diamonds. You cannot help it; they are the most precious.
It is the same here. I have chosen for myself that the most important thing in life is to reach the root of my development, the next level of existence, and this is my only aim.
Question: Does it mean that to have a goal is the most important thing in life?
Answer: Yes. The most important thing is to “Live with the lightning.” “Shine, shine my star!”
From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 1/27/19