Answer: There is no need to relate to the physical gender! Understandably this is also connected to the manner and the attitude toward the world and perception. But in spirituality there is no importance to this, because in spirituality the main thing is the desire! Moreover, the form of the desire has no importance. The important thing is if the desire is directed toward yourself or toward others. A desire directed toward yourself is called female and a desire directed toward others is called male.
A woman who goes out in the evening to disseminate Kabbalistic material is carrying out the work of a man, this activity is considered male. A man who sits at home, watches soccer and drinks beer is considered female in this action. But if he remains at home with a child to make it possible for the woman to be engaged in dissemination, then he is considered male, because it is the intention that determines everything. In spirituality, there are no genders; our world doesn’t exist! The spiritual world is a world of intentions!
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/26/16