Question: Often, people who live together for a long time actually don’t know each other. In the Integral method there is an exercise called “acquaintanceship,” when spouses begin to get to know each other again: The woman says how she sees her husband, and he says how he sees himself, and so on. When they compare this, they understand that they don’t know each other. Can such an exercise be used with a teenager?

Answer: This is a very practical and beneficial exercise, but it should be used gradually because it is very difficult for a person to exit himself and begin to perceive the world through another, especially the opposite of him. It is even more difficult for a child to engage in this process, because he always sees the parents communicating with each other on a purely domestic basis. Therefore, it is best not to join him in integral interactions when the parents discuss some common problems.

I know this on my own. My parents were doctors: my mother a gynecologist and my father a dentist. They often talked about professional issues. My mother engaged in research in her field and told my father about it, and I overheard.

As a boy, I was interested in the sexual and gynecological problems. Later, I would ask my mother questions on these topics, and she explained everything carefully. Later, this gave me a lot.

In such a way a child is shaped under the influence of those conversations and discussions that take place between the parents. The thing is not only in that he integrates in the professions of the parents, but he also integrates in the technology of communication between them.

Question: How should the parents act if during the discussions on family problems they see that the child eavesdrops on them?

Answer: Let him eavesdrop. Afterward, you can call him and explain what you talked about. By this you teach him about proper mutual cooperation, and later he will build his family in an identical way. We know on ourselves how much the stereotypes that we got from our parents influence on us: by seeing how they communicated between them, discussed all sorts of life situations, argued, and agreed with each other. All this accumulates and becomes a part of us.

You can intentionally wait for the child to return from school and deliberately start a conversation about some topic, discussing it in a nice way without fighting, attempting to find a common solution. Suppose you are talking in the kitchen, and he walks around listening to your conversation. You can even ask his opinion, pulling him casually into the discussion. And then gradually he will begin to express his desire to participate in the family discussions.
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From KabTV’s “Conversations with Michael Laitman” 12/11/13

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According to the Wisdom of Kabbalah, each Sefira divides into ten parts; each one of them in its turn splits into another ten, and so on. We act in Hesed, Gevurah, Tifferet, Netzach, Hod, and Yesod; they symbolize six weekdays. Malchut is  the last Sefira, Saturday (Shabbat).

When the Upper Light descends, it complements us with its properties, i.e., another three highest Sefirot: Keter, Hochma and Bina. When added all together, they comprise ten Sefirot, the complete system.

The Light that comes down finishes the work that is done in the first six Sefirot: Hesed, Gevurah, Tifferet, Netzah, Hod and Yesod, and completes Malchut, thus making the vessel a whole.

The system of correction is that the Upper Light, which is called the Torah, fulfills the entire work of re-assembling the common soul after we fully exert in order to achieve the overall connection, and this is important, as stated in the Torah.

The Torah describes in which particular properties and under what conditions we should connect and what types of egoism emerge in us during this process. All these explanations comprise a huge and capacious “novel.” At the same time, things described in the Torah are very simple.

It is similar to the fact that our reality consists of electrons, protons, and neutrons; however, when they connect, they draw a vast complex picture of our world, which in itself is always the same ten Sefirot.

Therefore, when this principle becomes clear, it is easy to realize how any part of creation should work in the corrected state, what our current corrupt level is, and how we should work with the egoistic inclination in order to unite with others to trigger the Light that corrects.

During six days of gradual and steady work, we begin realizing that only the Light is able to connect us and that the order in which our unity can be reached is extremely rigid: Hesed, Gevurah, Tifferet, Netzach, Hod, Yesod. Naturally, we lack these properties because they can be obtained only by uniting with others.

All I have is my egoism; all you have is your ego. When we get closer together, new qualities emerge at the point of our contact. Altruism and egoism interlace and create a sensation of political, intellectual, and, most importantly, psychological games when we reciprocally explore each other: who and what we are especially when we concentrate not on ourselves as individuals, but on our mutual inclusion.

First, Hesed and Gevurah appear between us; later, when we enter each other further, Tifferet where diverse properties intertwine. Each one begins to reveal itself relative to another: who the other is. I can reveal myself only relative to you and you can do the same only relative to me. The common properties that manifest in us are called Hesed, Gevurah, Tifferet, Netzah, Hod, Yesod. They are a boundary, a borderline between us. The Light that descends glues them together and thus connects us together. Our ego is remains outside.

When the seventh Sefira Malchut collects all six properties together, they stick together, and thus the three upper Sefirot, which are the properties of the Light, descend and a complete spiritual object appears.

This explains why it is said that this world will last for six thousand years and that at the beginning of the seventh millennium the Light will complete its work.

The seventh millennium is the Light that fills the entire soul and begins to raise it to the next levels: the eighth, ninth, and tenth millennia. This is a complete correction because we start working on the level of the three upper Sefirot: Bina, Hochma, and Keter.

But this happens only after the common soul is corrected, when the shattered Adam corrects himself and faces the Creator; when the creation is corrected. At this time, Adam realizes that he aspires to and possesses the power to attain the Creator, and ascends to the three upper Sefirot, which are His properties, and obtains them.

That’s why Adam’s downfall and the shattering were essential for completion of the full correction cycle during the first six thousand years, whereas the seventh millennium represents an ascent to the eighth, ninth and tenth millennia.

It’s most important to finish the entire scheme, then we will enter a totally different, a new dimension. We don’t know what heights follow because it is a state that preceded our creation.
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From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 10/10/13

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Opinion (Orazaly Sabden, PhD, professor and academician, laureate of the State Prize of the Republic of Kazakhstan, President of the Union of Kazakhstan Scientists): “The planet is undergoing significant changes. All the living on earth have to survive and adapt to new conditions. The reason for change is the rapid development of civilization with its aggressive and regressive actions. The problems of globalization are increasing and can break everything that has been accumulated by humankind for centuries. Major social, political and economic problems in the world are aggravated. The world community cannot find a way out of the current situation. Now, humanity is in the first phase of a global ecological catastrophe. The vast resources of the biosphere will end by the end of this century.

“The Earth is a planetary home of civilization, which consists of spirituality, scientific and technological revolution, the environment, space, security and economy. There is a need to develop a model of global governance and regulation of global processes.

“Now we need not the divisions of countries, authorities, but vice versa – planetary cooperation of nations and ethnic groups. Appropriate institutions should be created to deal with this.”

My Comment: Exiting a dead end is possible only by recognizing the need to change not the external conditions but human nature. Although this seems impossible, one, there is no other solution, and two, if we use the method of integral unity, the problem of re-educating people can be easily solved.
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Question:  What is each friend’s work to constantly hold everyone in a collective prayer (raising MAN)?

Answer:  Each and every one must discover within himself a deficiency regarding the group and disseminate this to others, in other words, to show love to your friends. And, besides this, we need to awaken all to a general concern for correcting the world, bringing everyone to form a single family.

We need to speak about this between us, disseminate this to the entire world, and provide confidence to every one that this is precisely what the Creator wants. Toward this form of humanity, as one family, we need to go forward and raise this as a prayer.

First of all, we need to praise and give thanks, to speak about the greatness of this mission and all of its components. And then we ask for the revelation of the Creator to the creatures, i.e., that everyone will feel the importance of bestowal. This is called the revelation of the Creator to the creatures.
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/7/14, Writings of Rabash

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Question:  Why do those who follow the spiritual path experience the same problems like the rest of the world and have no answer for them?

Answer:  Why do you say that there is no answer? There is an explanation for every problem; our incongruity with the Light, which already should be revealed in us. This is where all problems stem from.

If your desire to receive is less corrected than it should be, the Light that has to appear in the desire to receive is felt as sufferings, problems, pain, and disasters.

The dissimilarity with the desire to receive on the levels of the still, vegetative, animate, and speaking nature causes ecological crises: problems with vegetation, crop failure; diseases of animals, of people, and all of humanity.

Your desire to receive is to blame for all that because it hasn’t undergone the right correction yet. It makes no difference what the problem is, they all stem only from the lack of similarity of the vessel to the Light.

Suppose the desire should be 20% corrected by now, but it is only 2% corrected. So 18% is revealed in the form of the Light pressuring the vessel as the posterior of the Light, in the form of sufferings, troubles, and misery.

The word “troubles” (“Tsarot” in Hebrew) stems from the Hebrew word “narrow” (Tsar), and it refers to a narrow place, a bottleneck, because you don’t open your vessel. You don’t have enough Light of Hassadim to expand and to open the vessel, and so the Light is before it, pressuring it. You can feel this pressure as troubles, problems, diseases, and disasters.

We have to correct the problem on the same physical level that it appears, and at the same time ask for its correction from Above, from the Creator, this is operating on both planes. Baal HaSulam says that we should go to the doctor to get medicine and follow his or her instructions, but at the same time it should be clear to a person that it is all useless and depends only on the Creator, not on the doctor.
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From the 4^th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/6/14, Writings of Rabash 

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It is impossible to attract the Light that Reforms to oneself, rather everyone needs to do this for others. This is called praying for one’s friend. My particular work is to cause the Light to bestow to the entire group and unite us more strongly.

And then according to the degree of the effort to connect, the concentration of all of us together, we discover the Light with greater and greater intensity: Nefesh, Ruach, Neshama, Chaya, Yechida. The power of concentration determines the spiritual levels: 125 levels of concentration, intensity of connection.

And if I won’t do this, who will? Then my part will remain empty. It impossible that I am not able to do this because there is a part that I must correct.
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From the 3^rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/6/14, Writings of the Ari

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Question: When I feel causeless hatred towards a friend, I cannot figure out how to get out of it.

Answer: Hatred lacks a foundation; it is a spiritual category that manifests in a person without a reason; it is simply because his ego burns in him.

Such issues can only be solved together in a discussion with other friends. The idea is that the correction is realized specifically when a strong rejection appears between us.

Unfounded hatred is a clear and accurate discovery of shattered desires. It is said that rejection became the reason for the destruction of the Second Temple, when instead of connection, solidarity, mutual assistance, and love between people, suddenly intense hatred flared up. And this is what led to and caused the shattering of the collective spiritual Kli (vessel).

So, when such situations like these appear, gather together quickly and try to discuss them in the form of a workshop. First, without any agenda, without touching anyone personally, and without intending for a mandatory solution for the question, which concerns all because manifestations of unfounded hatred exists in each one of us.

It appears all the time for some unknown, inexplicable reasons or without any reason: Well, I cannot stand him, I cannot come to an agreement with him, we don’t understand each other, or something pushes me away from him.

It is necessary to clarify whether there is some reason by gathering into groups of five or ten with friends to discuss the issue. At the same time, I cannot say that I feel dislike someone, but I want to find out why my attitude to him is revealed in this way.
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Question: What is more important in mutual guarantee, the physical obligation (to awaken the friends, telephones, etc.) or an intention about the group with thoughts and intentions?

Answer: An intention about the group with thoughts and intentions is not just important but necessary. But people who think that this is enough are sadly mistaken, because theory without practical action is dead.

So if you can also practically strengthen and increase your participation in gathering the group, then it is a full and final action. An action cannot be completed with only an intention. It is possible to check it only when you embody the intention in the action itself.
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