Families Should Stay Together
Two questions I received on love, marriage and divorce:
Question: I’ve heard someone say that a couple’s sexual relationship is an indication of their standing in the spiritual world. But surveys show that 65% of people lose their attraction for their partner after two years of living together, although some of them still maintain a wonderful relationship. It seems that 65% of families should be “broken up” in spite of the kids, but divorces cripple our children!
My Answer: Families should stay together, and the way to do this is to make compromises to one another as much as possible.
Question: My wife is 14 years younger than me. She is not Jewish and has never been interested in spirituality, but she converted to Judaism in order for us to get married. We have a two-year old son. We split up because of her stubbornness: she always thinks she is right. She is materialistic and likes anything that “shines.” I gave her everything I could, and even more because right now I am on the verge of bankruptcy.
In spite of everything, I still love her and she loves me in her own way, but our egos won’t let us make up. Plus, I am afraid of getting another divorce. Yet, despite everything, just seeing her smile makes me happy. Is this love or am I just satisfying my own ego? Maybe your advice will help me.
My Answer: It’s best to do what you did before: be together, in love, and with your son.
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I have been studying kabbalah for two years. My husband and I have been married almost twenty years. My husband refuses to have a physical relationship with me and shows very little affection or desire towards me. My husband believes that I should adapt to this, I wasn’t told prior to marriage that this would be a condition of our relationship. I have been depressed about this situation for a long time. I was hoping you could explain from a Kabbalistic perspective: What is the way a man should act towards his wife regarding a physical relationship in marriage?