Question: What will happen to family businesses tomorrow? We see in Europe that bakeries which existed for four hundred years have gone through all the crises and continued operating until now.

Answer: Family businesses will exist as long as there is a family, because the family is the foundation of human society. I don’t think it will disappear. Now we are going through a difficult stage of family disintegration, but family businesses, both major companies and small private enterprises, are the basis of the system.

On whom else can you rely? Whom can you trust? It is the relatives and close people to whom you already are willing to give and help. That is why the family business will continue to be an indicator of stability.

Women can also join it because they strengthen businesses even further. The woman is the key to its existence.
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From KabTV’s “Through Times” 3/20/13

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Question: In the workshop on the subject of integral unity for married couples, the question was asked: “What do women want from men?” And one of the women said: “I want my husband to survive through all my states.” What does that mean?

Answer: A woman expects fulfillment from a man. She relates to a man as to her source of mental, spiritual, and psychological fulfillment. In some way, she begins to grasp the world through her husband, through the man. It’s specifically what she is waiting for and wants. Without that she doesn’t feel that she is connected to the world, to life as it should be. It’s as if she has no base point, a point of support.

Psychologically, a woman wants to be next to a man who will be as a source of inner fulfillment. For this she is ready to give everything material, everything external, in order to receive from him what she is not able to create herself, meaning mental, spiritual, and psychological fulfillment.

While the man, on the contrary, doesn’t need mental, spiritual, or psychological fulfillment from the woman. He needs support on the regular corporeal level. And thus they come in contact with each other. This is the way nature created us.
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From a Talk on Integral Education 4/4/13

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In the News (from DailyMail): “It is something many women will already know – and many a man will have discovered the hard way.

“Men find it difficult to read women’s emotions.

“Scientists asked male volunteers to look at pictures of people’s eyes and guess how they were feeling.

“Perhaps unsurprisingly, they found it twice as hard to guess a woman’s mood as a man’s.

“But it’s not simply for lack of trying, the study shows.

“The men were given brain scans while they looked at the pictures. The data suggested an unusual reason for the difficulty in reading women’s feelings.

“When looking at male eyes, men related what they saw to themselves. The parts of their brains linked to past thoughts and feelings lit up.

“They understood what other men felt by remembering similar moments in their own lives – and using them to evaluate the image, the researchers said.

“But when they looked at female eyes, they found themselves mystified.

“Their brains searched for memories of when they had seen another woman who looked similar to the image.

“This less personal process meant men found it harder to empathise with women’s feelings.

“The amygdala is a part of the brain believed to be important for empathy with others.

“The scientists found it showed more activity when men looked at a man, rather than a woman.

“And there may be very good reasons why men are better at understanding their own kind.”

My Comment: If it were the only difference between us! There are still many discoveries ahead that will show how different we are because we come from different upper roots: Zeir Anpin and Malchut. But instead of exploring differences, it’s better to focus on the opportunities to complete each other. Namely this combination will bring the world to happiness.
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Question: In the life of couples, there are moments when the partners experience a feeling of unprecedented, ultimate happiness, a feeling that brightens the routine with a flare of light. When we first experience this, we are excited that something like this is possible at all. After all, previously, we didn’t think that something like this could exist.

Answer: I think that for every couple, if they build their relationship on emotion and not on cold calculation, there will be moments of complicity when it’s as if the partners live within each other, penetrate each other, are intertwined with each other, when they discover an integration, mutual inclusion into each other that cannot be escaped. Kinship, closeness to the point of unity, intoxicates them, and when this love flares up, they lose their heads.

However, this will go on for only a few minutes, in the best of circumstances, for a number of days, and in rare instances, a number of weeks. Here, much depends upon us, upon the period in our lives through which we are passing. After that, the “delusion” vanishes.

So, where does this come from? It comes from nature so that we will approach each other and can develop a particular connection between us called a family. Without these moments, like animals, we would continue to get closer to each other according to the “calendar” and then move away again according to the orders of our inner essence. Yet, since we are humans, we have to preserve our relationships for years, and hence Nature provides us with an example of how we can do this.

It shows us how to prolong this fire of unification and integration so that it will become fascinating, will intoxicate me, and will not let me leave, so that it will compel me to think about my partner all the time. On one hand, it streams life into me, and on the other, it doesn’t let me turn toward anything else. It fills my emotion and takes away my mind. The example for this we see inside and out, but one way or another, it comes from Above, glows outside, and then goes out.

We need to teach people how to capture moments like these, how to prolong the magic, to strengthen it, and to develop it through the mind. I will attain a feeling that I experienced before specifically with the help of mind, but now this feeling will be balanced: I won’t lose my head and will be able to live with it for years as I develop it and manage it. By becoming included into one another, my partner and I won’t lose our ability to speak about the multitude of emotions, but rather, we will be able to share our impressions and experiences, measure and discuss them.

We truly will share with each other the feeling that fills us more clearly as we amplify and raise it more and more above all the events of life and above habit that leaves a bland taste everywhere.

This is the reason we need to attach the mind, meaning the method and the studies, to emotions. We need to teach people how to love.

Question: Is it possible to learn how to experience love?

Answer: Let’s remember what happened when the partners saw each other for the first time. This could have happened in a first, chance meeting, or the opposite; they might have been meeting each other from time to time over an entire year, and yet one day, they suddenly felt a particular impulse, really noticed each other as if a light went on in each of them.

Why does this happen? We don’t know. Nature itself sends us moments like these. However, without the necessary attention from our side, they disappear to wherever they came, without our noticing.

Only in very rare circumstances does this feeling remain over time, such as if people have a tendency for this or if they already were used to sustaining it when they lived at home with their parents. In general, the rudiment that our previous life has left in us is very important: Did we see similar examples at home? Did we get inspiration from them? After all, as a rule, we mimic everything that we absorbed from the family in which we were raised.

In the modern world, divorce has become the norm and even the general rule. It is difficult to find a partner who doesn’t cheat, isn’t suspicious of his “other half,” or doesn’t think of separating, often enduring this shared life from a lack of choice.

Therefore, it is necessary to teach people “love courses.” It is not worthwhile to rely on spontaneous, accidental, and uncontrollable surges. On the contrary, we agree that we will engender love between us ourselves, that we will cherish and develop it. We don’t wait for any chance flashes from unknown sources. Rather, we “run the business” ourselves. Then, regardless of whatever happens throughout our long lives, we can maintain this fire of love so that it constantly provides us with support, granting us a wonderful and secure feeling at all stages of the way.

I would put this course in school already, without waiting until confused couples seek help and advice when they don’t know how to return to the feeling that once was, how not to drift apart from each other eventually, until there is a complete dissolution of the family.

As with the rest of our problems, it’s all about a lack of adequate education, a lack of understanding, knowledge, and skill, without which it is simply impossible to manage.
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From a Talk about New Life 7/30/12

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Question: A women’s community sometimes lacks mutual warmth and support, and consequently, the relations between women are not always kind. What can we do about this?

Answer: First of all, this is natural for women. There a natural competition between them unlike an artificial competition between men. With men there should be some specific reason for them to start competing with one another. While with women it isn’t this way, strife between them is dictated by nature, and therefore we constantly have to calm them down.

Within us, men, women extinguish problems associated with moving forward. Whereas within women we have to shut down problems associated with backtracking because when various squabbles arise between them, it means moving backwards. Conflicts between men usually come up because of swings caused by the influence of the Light, from the sensation of the spiritual advancement when the upper influence collides with our egoism, but not because they are against one another. Women’s conflicts stem from their interactions on the corporeal level. Thus, we, men, have to help them in this, while they have to help the men.
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From the Virtual Lesson 04/07/2013

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Question: What are the perfect relationships between men and women in the group?

Answer: The perfect relationship is the mutual yearning to unite only our desires for the Creator and not any other desires. It is best if we don’t pay attention to the bodies. It doesn’t matter who I am dealing with, whether it is a man or a woman, but if it disturbs me, I should make it so that it doesn’t disturb me. In fact, in the spiritual world the male and the female desires exist in each of us.

There is a desire to receive, AHP and a desire to bestow, GE. This means that in the spiritual world things don’t take place the way they do in our world in the corporeal bodies. There only the desires connect, the desires for the Creator and no other desires; all the other desires are egoistic, and therefore they don’t exist in spirituality.

If a person wants to eat two meals for lunch, he should go ahead, since it doesn’t stand in the way of his spiritual advancement. If he likes a certain girl, then it doesn’t interrupt his spiritual advancement either. What’s important is what his main desire is focused on. If it is focused on the Creator everything else becomes part of that.

The relationships between men and women in the group should be regulated and organized so that they don’t interrupt the spiritual advancement in any way.

Question: Suppose that I can hug my friend as a man, but I cannot picture myself doing it correctly with women.

Answer: Your relationships with women should be established so that they don’t interfere with spiritual advancement, so that the spiritual and the physical are not confused. Spiritual is spiritual and physical is physical.
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From the European Convention in Germany 3/23/13, Lesson 5

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Question: I am very excited about your statement to women and I think that it is right, especially after the experience I gained as a result of the exercise that you suggested: try to get closer to unity and if you find that you criticize your girlfriends, attribute this to the Creator.

As a result of this exercise, I discovered that my attitude not only to my friends but toward absolutely everyone (except my kids) is criticism. It is like an instinct, like breathing, which you do not notice. And the more you do it, the more it persists. Despite the fact that I continue to attribute this to the Creator, it is growing, and I just don’t have strength up to the point of nausea. Sometimes there is a desire to have someone wipe me out.

What can I do with this if it is my nature? Men do not have it; they are much purer. How can we, women, help each other find and correct this quality?

Answer: Only when a person applies efforts to unite in the group according to the method of Kabbalah does one discover in herself or himself the forces that oppose this. These forces are called egoism. And all the other desires to “grab” more for oneself exist in everyone, even in animals, and from the point of view of Kabbalah are not considered egoism.

What to do: the same as the men do, who also have this but in a different form. The revelation of egoism (Pharaoh) is the highest gift of the Creator because this brings the need to turn to Him for help! And turning to Him leads to His revelation!
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Question: When men unite, they cause a feeling of incomparable thrill in women. We, women, are looking very much forward to this.

Answer: You should not wait for this. You need to act. Otherwise, nothing will happen. You should pressure men, help them, that is, behave like a wife at home in relation to her husband. That is how the entire women’s part of the world group must affect the men’s part. In principle, the soul is composed of male and female parts, and the Creator is between them.

You should not rely on men only. On their own, they would not have built the world. They cannot give birth, raise children, and perform household duties. That is why they need support, help, direction, and pressure. This is what a woman usually does at home, helping her husband.

The entire Kli (vessel) is the women’s part, not the men’s. The men do attract the Light, but to the women’s desire, to the women’s aspiration. Thus, it is necessary to match the women’s and men’s parts correctly. However, don’t wait! On the contrary, if you do not cause an urgent need to attract the Light in men, they will not do that. This is how we are organized.
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From the European Convention in Germany 3/23/13, Lesson 4

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Question: Many women from all over Europe came to the convention. Could it be that they don’t push us, men, actively and strongly enough to act?

Answer: You shouldn’t expect others to do your work. Of course, we have to support the women and allow them to pressure the men, but you shouldn’t sit idly and wait: “When will they put pressure on me?” It isn’t the same as it is at home with your wife, where you don’t move unless she “kills” you with her nagging.

Here it’s different; here we do have to concede. They push you to fulfill the goal of life, and you should help them in that and listen to them. But don’t think that it’s only their responsibility; it’s also your concern.

The women’s concern is not only to push the men; they are also busy with their spiritual work. We don’t see, don’t feel it because they do it quietly, a bit submissively. But if we look at their level of knowledge, progress, and loyalty, women are on a level that isn’t any lower than the men’s, and many women are much closer to attainment than most men.

Don’t be misled by the fact that they are seemingly quiet and are thus not that special. They have great knowledge and great powers. If you give them a chance to be a bit more active, you will see of what they are capable.
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From the European Convention in Germany 3/22/13, Lesson 3

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Question: You have often said that a man does what a woman wants, whether he wants to or not. Do men globally influence the desire of women?

Answer: The female desire is the desire to receive, and the male desire is the desire to bestow. The male desire and the female desire exist in each of us, and we also know that according to our chromosomes.

Therefore, it is natural that the men’s groups and the women’s groups are also divided into the male and female parts. In every group the desire to receive and the desire to bestow are revealed in a different manner and we have to use them correctly.

Women are more organized, more dedicated, and committed than men. They constitute the foundation of our world. A man, however, carries out the woman’s desire. If we allow the women in the group to have a greater influence in the group, then I am sure that the groups will be more united, more serious, and more purposeful.
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From the European Convention in Germany 3/22/13, Lesson 1

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