Men Do Not Like To Feel Somebody Else’s Sadness

Dr. Michael LaitmanIn the News (from the American Psychological Association): “Men like to know when their wife or girlfriend is happy while women really want the man in their life to know when they are upset, according to a new study published by the American Psychological Association. …

“’It could be that for women, seeing that their male partner is upset reflects some degree of the man’s investment and emotional engagement in the relationship, even during difficult times. This is consistent with what is known about the dissatisfaction women often experience when their male partner becomes emotionally withdrawn and disengaged in response to conflict,’ said the study’s lead author, Shiri Cohen, PhD, of Harvard Medical School. …

“Relationship satisfaction was directly related to men’s ability to read their female partner’s positive emotions correctly. However, contrary to the researchers’ expectations, women who correctly understood that their partners were upset during the videotaped incident were much more likely to be satisfied with their relationship than if they correctly understood that their partner was happy. Also, when men understood that their female partner was angry or upset, the women reported being happier, though the men were not. The authors suggest that being empathetic to a partner’s negative emotions may feel threatening to the relationship for men but not for women.

“The findings also show that the more men and women try to be empathetic to their partner’s feelings, the happier they are. The authors suggest that this research should encourage couples to better appreciate and communicate one another’s efforts to be empathetic.”

My Comment: It is proven that the comparison between the sexes is not possible. They are not even opposite, meaning equal and opposite, but are not on comparative levels. This is still to be discovered by science. Therefore, we must treat them as incomparable entities.

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