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If A Woman Decides To Do Something, She Does It

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: Fewer women than men are involved in the current political-economic mess of the modern world. What can they do for the general health of society?

Answer: Women can obligate the men to connect, to be in mutual reciprocity, and to unite into one whole. Then life in a country and the world will work out. If women can connect, they will be able to bring the men to the same state.

On the one hand, it’s much more difficult for a woman, but on the other hand, what’s important is to start. The moment a woman decides “to go for it,” she will dive into the current and strive persistently in the right direction.

For men it is the opposite: It’s easy for them to jump into the water, but it’s very difficult for them to swim since they encounter endless obstacles on the way that need to be corrected. So let’s ask the women to set an example for us and to give us the power we need in order to connect.

On the whole, only the connection between everyone is the key to our success in every area. It isn’t by chance that we say that behind every successful man there is a woman. The women should push the men to connect and to unite. There are no other means.
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From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/7/13, ”Introduction to The Book of Zohar

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Who Smoothes Conflicts In The Group?

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: What is the most critical point in the group work when friends’ egoism breaks out in the group?

Answer: I think that here women should go to the forefront.

When there are serious problems between men, women should somehow subtly try to smooth the conflict, to indicate, as a mother to a child, that all this is temporary, that these relations are manifested between them on purpose and they should not be carried away, like children, and forget about the cause while being entangled in the consequences.

If it happens that men are not in a position to resolve a conflict themselves, then the women help them.

And on the other hand, men should restrain women if they start criticizing each other, gossiping, and using an “evil tongue.”
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From the Virtual Lesson 2/24/13

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The Reason For The Difference Between Male And Female Behavior

Dr. Michael LaitmanIn the News (from The Indian Express): “Women behave differently to men because their brains are wired completely uniquely, according to a new book.

“Neuroscientist Daniel G. Amen explained in his new book, Unleash The Power Of The Female Brain, that men and women are equally smart, but each sex uses different parts of the brain to solve problems or achieve goals.

“Women are better at packing carefully for a family holiday because they have more brain cells in the pre-frontal cortex, the area which controls judgment, planning, and conscientiousness, he said.

“Men can be more volatile and swift to anger in a crisis. It may be because the part of their brain, the amygdala, which processes fear and anger, is much larger than a woman’s, according to the book.

“The human brain is made up of grey matter (brain cells) that does the thinking, and white matter (the communication cables between brain cells), which connects different bits of the brain.

“Studies have now shown that grey and white matter are differently distributed in men and women, which has massive implications for the way they behave, G. Amen noted.

“Because men have more grey matter in the bit of the brain that governs intelligence, they are inclined to tackle a task with single-minded focus, not taking into account the peripheral issues that a woman might consider to be important.

“On the other hand women have more white matter in the part of the brain that governs intelligence, this is the reason why when women tackle a problem, they draw on many areas at the same time, he said.

“Science has also proved that women have far more cells in the part of the brain that controls empathy, which explains why they cry more often in sad movies.

“There is something unique about the structure and functioning of the female brain which gives women a distinct advantage when it comes to intuition.

“Scans show that when women are thinking, they dip into the right side of the brain, which specialises in emotional issues. This makes women much better at picking up on cues, such as body language or tone of voice that men may miss.

“Scans confirm that women have larger areas in the brain dedicated to tracking gut feelings, which is why they’re quicker at working out what others are thinking and reach conclusions based on hunches.

“Women find it easier to keep strong negative emotions in check because the area of the brain, which deals with anger and aggression, tends to be larger in women than men, the author said.

“Brain scans also showed that when a woman is feeling aggressive, she’s much more likely to launch a verbal attack – using the highly active language part of her brain – than a physical one.

“Moreover, women generally have lower levels of the brain chemical serotonin than men, and low levels are normally associated with over-activity in the brain’s worry centres, the book stated.”

My Comment: Kabbalah, explaining that men originate from ZA and women from Malchut, puts things in order and explains the perfection of the world can be achieved through fully mutual complementarity of male and female and it explains how to achieve this.
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What’s In A Name?

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: Some of the virtual groups in the US need your guidance. We, both men and women, gather in the platform TeamTalk 4, in the same folder for lessons, workshops, and other group activities. Only the names of women, not their faces, are viewed. Should it be up to the men in our groups to decide, based on their perception, whether this practice should continue? Some of them feel having the women there increases unity in our virtual group. Please provide your guidance.

Answer: There are different kinds of working together. There are those in which men, for greater efficiency, should stay separate, for example, the lessons and our workshops, which are broadcast from BB Israel. And there are those that require the collaboration of men and women: dissemination projects, discussions about life in the group, and others, which include men and women.

In the lessons and workshops, we know that even in the physical groups where men and women are present, they do not sit together, but separately. In any case, a woman’s name on the page can carry a man’s fantasy far from the topic of the lesson, not less than her photo.

That is why it is worthwhile to understand together, without hypocrisy and feigned “liberalism,” in what exactly and in what cases women’s presence can damage men’s spiritual work. I have repeatedly explained this issue. Having done this clarification, it will be easier for you to make decisions.

So, for example, then it would not be difficult to create separate “women’s” and “men’s” folders for the lessons and other occasions when it is necessary to separate the groups, but in the folders where general questions are discussed, and in general in any other case, you will not need to hide the women’s names and faces.
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How To Set Priorities

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: What can a woman do if dissemination takes 5-6 hours a day and there is no time left for group work, in particular, to participate in workshops? How can we prioritize our time?

Answer: I think that one must necessarily devote a certain amount of time to their inner work. Although dissemination to the general public is very important because without it we will not advance, but if you do not pay attention to internal spiritual advancement, it’s not good.

You will fall behind in the material; you will not be with everyone as in one team, etc. We must still prioritize so that the inner work, meaning participation in women’s workshops, in general lessons and workshops, does not suffer because of external dissemination. You should tighten the schedule and not miss our general activities, especially workshops.

But without dissemination, it’s impossible as well, not because someone calls us to it, but rather because we reveal internally those gaps that will be filled with the upper Light. If we study without passing it to others, we remain just empty smart alecks because only mechanical knowledge will enter us, but not spiritual.
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From the Virtual Lesson 2/3/13

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“Women And Girls Have Been Hit Hardest”

Dr. Michael LaitmanIn the News (from Plan and the Overseas Development Institute): “Girls are bearing the brunt of the global economic recession – being more likely to experience poverty, reduced life expectancy and drop out of school, according to a new report from Plan and the Overseas Development Institute (ODI). …

“It says family poverty hits girls hardest – with only a 1% fall in GDP increasing infant mortality by 7.4 deaths per 1,000 girls versus 1.5 for boys.

“The findings also indicate that food shortages and malnutrition are more common among girls than boys. Women also reduce their own food consumption to become ‘shock absorbers’ for household security.

“As women go out to work longer hours for less money, more girls are pushed out of school and into filling the gaps at home with domestic work, into hazardous child labour or even transactional sex.”

My Comment: Integral education leads us to building a society of equals, providing everyone with basic needs, and everyone’s duty to participate in their own correction (education and upbringing). If we stop producing more than is essential for existence, we will get rid of unnecessary and harmful work and will be able to raise ourselves to the next level dictated by nature, the level of integral humanity.
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Eternal Harmony

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: How can we come to a state of balance between the men’s and women’s groups so that men meet the interests of the women’s group and there is harmony between them?

Answer: There can only be harmony if both groups connect to the Creator together, not in measuring themselves one relative to the other. Only this way! There will be no harmony anywhere, not in the family, not anywhere else, if the Creator does not fill the gap between the two objects.
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From the Virtual Lesson 1/20/13

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Complete Openness

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: Can a woman tell her husband about her experiences and attainments? Would it be harmful for the man?

Answer: Both a husband can tell his wife, and a wife can tell her husband about all their states. They are considered one soul and don’t have to conceal anything from one another. These are the only two people who can be completely open with each other.
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From the Virtual Lesson 1/20/13

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The Women’s Group Is Beyond Hierarchies

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: Due to recent changes (from the women’s convention), a big importance of women’s unity has emerged.

There are women who are more active and less active in our group. For the active women, we organize certain activities and separate workshops, thereby creating a few circles in the women’s community. As a result, there are many unhappy women who think that we have split this community. Is it right to do this in the women’s group?

Answer: I believe it is incorrect. The mass should be as uniform as possible. I do not divide anyone. Some women participate less, no matter for what reason, some more.  I never look for reasons, especially if we are talking about women, not men. Men can be pressed, but women should not be, and in general, women should be treated as equal to men. But they must not make any divisions between themselves. Absolutely no!

Question: So, on what principle could the women’s group be formed?

Answer: According to the principle of the circle—everyone is equal. If I want to advance towards spirituality, I do not need earthly levels: What honors I would be rewarded, how many stars they attach to me? What is important for me is spiritual ascent, and I do not ask anything for myself. If it is possible to invest my efforts, I invest them, if there is no opportunity, then there is none. But a person should wait for the highest reward for his invested efforts, rather than have power and position in the group. What for? This is incorrect!

There are people who have organizational skills; it is another matter. We appoint them to be responsible for this or that because we benefit if they are engaged in these duties or something else, but in any case, we should not divide the group.

We have people who work very hard for the group. So what? Are they supposed to get more? For what reason?

As for women, they are mostly not free; they have a husband, family, children, and parents. So, we cannot demand the same things from them as from men.
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From the Virtual Lesson 1/20/13

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Is Spiritual Pleasure The Same For Everyone?

Dr. Michael LaitmanQuestion: What is the difference between the pleasure that a man experiences and a woman experiences in the state of the common integral mind, or is it the same?

Answer: Every person has his own pleasures because everyone has his own root and his bonding with others. They are strictly subjective. Therefore, it is impossible to say how men are different from women in their state of pleasure and fulfillment.

This difference can be explained in the image of what exists in our world. After all, there is a difference in how a man perceives our world and how a woman does. A man somehow is capable of feeling what another man experiences. However, he is unable to feel a woman’s experience. He cannot understand her because she has a completely different view of the world.

A man and a woman are two worlds. The same applies to spirituality. Being a male part in the spiritual world, it is impossible to imagine the experience of a woman’s part. You can attract and include her desires in yourself in order to fulfill them, however, not instead of her, but for her.

Question: However, shouldn’t it merge somewhere in the end?

Answer: In the end, it merges in complementing each other, in mutual bonding, but it is still a bonding of two opposites.
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From KabTV’s “Talks with Michael Laitman,” 3/11/12

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