A female soul needs more spirituality than a male soul. It is less satisfied in our world since subconsciously it feels that egoism doesn’t give her anything.

On the other hand, men have to perform greater corrections than women because they are incorrigible egoists. For women it is simply easier to perform corrections. They are more sensitive to the advice of Kabbalists, and this is the reason there are such gaps between us, that women yearn for the wisdom of Kabbalah more, although the men have to perform the more serious corrections.

How can they compare themselves to each other? Women need to pressure the men spiritually!
[195003]
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 5/29/16

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Question: For a year and a half my partner and I have split up many times, but still have returned to each other. Knowing each other’s shortcomings, we have continued our relationship. What should one pay attention to so as not to break up again and to cherish each other?

Answer: This is a very good situation between you two. You must learn to concede to each other and only this! Compete in making concessions to each other. It’s very simple to do, deliberately show, “See how I give in without demanding anything in return and I don’t even demand the same concessions from you!”

Love grows only through concessions because all of us are damaged egoists who love themselves. If we still want a connection with each other, such a connection is born and developed only on the basis of mutual concessions.

My teacher Rabash used to say that love is a house pet that we must constantly feed through mutual concessions.
[193969]
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 5/1/16

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Question: How does the wisdom of Kabbalah relate to marriages in which the man is younger than the woman?

Answer: The wisdom of Kabbalah doesn’t talk about that. But basically a man must be more mature than a woman because he must be greater in every way, like Zeir Anpin in relation to Malchut, which is basically a small part of it. But this is from a spiritual point of view. In regard to age differences in our world, it is entirely relative.

Question: If a woman has a strong desire to advance spiritually, does she necessarily require a man who is also connected to the wisdom of Kabbalah?

Answer: That is not necessary. A woman can advance even if she doesn’t have a man if there is a Kabbalistic group near her. A man must marry since he then becomes an absolute egoist. If a woman is found by his side, his additional egoism will help him develop spiritually.

Question: Why are some men only given one woman while others have an entire harem?

Answer: This is a natural characteristic. There are monogamous men and there are those who are not ready to live with one woman. This is natural and it is not possible to change. Everything depends on the characteristic of the soul. It is not a “beastly” characteristic because a man like this can love one particular woman and be in relationships with others.

Question: Is it possible to use envy as a positive benefit for personal growth?

Answer: Never! It is necessary to long for friendship and support but not envy; this is an incorrect feeling. Men do not look at it favorably. It limits and pressures him too much like a child; he wants to be rid of that feeling.

Question: Is it possible that after studying the wisdom of Kabbalah a person can change the “flavor” of love for children? Meaning will the same love remain but in a different form?

Answer: Studying Kabbalah changes a person very much, especially in one’s attitude toward family, children, and spouse. But the change is always positive and balanced.

Question: Who is the right woman? What must she long for?

Answer: The right woman longs to stand behind a man and push him toward connection with the friends.
[193676]
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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Question: What is the spiritual root of not being able to give birth?

Answer: There are many problems today that will grow, expand, deepen and take on different forms. This is the result of our internal spiritual and mental problems. No matter how many medications we invent, we will not be able to do anything. We are constantly chasing our own tail, doing increasingly worse things, and then we have to invent medications to deal with the outcomes of our actions.
[193618]
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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Question: How does the wisdom of Kabbalah relate to abortions that are not associated with any danger to the embryo or the mother?

Answer: Every birth is a sign that we are participating in the correction of the world. Even on the animate level, an embryo and the future human being it will grow into has an opportunity to perform certain actions of bestowal. Therefore, it is important to keep it.
[193557]
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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Question: How can it be that a woman who loves a man doesn’t want to be dependent on him, live with him, or establish a family with him?

Answer: If that is so, what is love? A woman, who loves a man, wants to be with him all the time, constantly; this is a natural emotion.

With a man it is just about the same, but not to such a degree because he has a connection with the Creator, and he must be led by this connection. Only when the right connection exists between him and the Creator and with a woman who is ready to be in connection with him, can he devote time to her.

There exist various additional situations that can be mentioned, like the harem of kings, mistresses, polygamy,etc. This is a system of mutual connection that is not very simple because this is not talking about a man and a woman in our world but about the connection between the desire to receive, which is the feminine inclination, and the intention to bestow, which is the male inclination.

Question: What is the spiritual explanation about the thousand wives of King Solomon?

Answer: The intent is that King Solomon was able to correct desires with an intention in order to receive into desires with an intention in order to bestow on the thousandth level, which is to say this was a very high art and skill on the level of Arich Anpin.

Question: So he didn’t really have a thousand wives?

Answer: No, even though there was polygamy; in those times polygamy was considered a normal phenomenon and women related to it calmly because on one hand, it was human nature and, on the other hand, it was a custom, the foundation of society.

In addition, we must understand that people were not involved with physical, sexual relationships because they were on a level of spiritual development. So they didn’t attribute much significance to physical relationships, as if they could sum everything up. Especially regarding everything that touches upon the continuation of the generation and building a family, the attitude was that it was like an obligation to the higher roots, that we must behave in our world in accord with the level of the higher roots, and nothing more than this.
[193297]
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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Question: Even gay couples can have kids today thanks to IVF and surrogate mothers. How does the Creator allow that?

Answer: There is no room for such questions since the Creator is Light, the upper force, which operates and bestows unto us to the same degree that we need Him. If we don’t need Him, His illumination unto us, unto our egoistic desires, develops us automatically until we are ready to properly and mutually cooperate with Him until we are ready for His revelation.

Therefore, there is no question at all as to whether the Creator wants or doesn’t want, allows, or doesn’t allow anything. We must understand that there is an upper force that has nothing at all to do with us, and there are our egoistic desires.

To the degree that our desires want to resemble the altruistic force, it affects us, but we must always be first. And according to our desire, our minus, we will begin to evoke the bestowal of the upper attribute, which is always second and always plus. This is how it works.

Therefore we should not curse the Creator or reprimand Him for different events in the world. The Creator is an amorphous attribute, which is absolutely serene and cannot be frightened.

We are constantly inside the Creator and by a desire that is focused on Him we can evoke His special bestowal on us. If we focus our minus properly on Him, we will automatically summon His illumination to us through our desire because the Creator doesn’t consider or judge, He doesn’t do anything and does not change.

Therefore we actually change ourselves with all our appeals to the Creator: “Come! Help us!” in order to summon unto ourselves the positive changes of the Upper Light, the upper force.
[193495]
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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Question: What does the wisdom of Kabbalah have against a woman’s natural desire to adorn herself for a man or in order to be beautiful? The Book of Zohar says that a woman has a natural desire to adorn herself.

Answer: According to the wisdom of Kabbalah to adorn refers to the intention of in order to bestow.

Comment: The Book of Zohar says that “Malchut adorns herself so that the desired groom will arrive…” which means the Creator.

Answer: The Book of Zohar refers to the preparation of our desire in order to work with the intention of in order to bestow, not in order to attract a man.

Question: So should a woman adorn herself or not?

Answer: There is no problem in adorning yourself and being beautiful.
[193236]
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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Question: Is there a difference between children who come into the world through Caesarean section and children who are born through natural childbirth?

Answer: A Caesarean section is very damaging; it is desirable to use it as little as possible and only when necessary. Birth is a serious process that a newborn goes through, a dangerous process that is accompanied by much stress, which is very necessary. In natural birth the newborn receives a kind of special immunization which he is deprived if a Caesarean section is done.

There are situations in which it is necessary to perform a Caesarean section, but in general it is certainly desirable to have a regular birth.

Comment: But now many women have Caesarean sections.

Answer: I would not recommend this. For the sake of the child it is necessary to give birth naturally, to go through the preliminary preparation, light exercise, etc. It is too bad we don’t have midwives as we once did.

It is possible to facilitate birth through massage of the birth canal, and then women would give birth without problems. In our day we rely more on drugs so this is impossible.
[193178]
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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Question: Why is there a prohibition to look at women?

Answer: It is prohibited to look at women, except for your own wife. It is a spiritual prohibition, while in our corporeal world, everything takes place on the animate level. A man feels pleasure when he looks at women, while a woman doesn’t feel any pleasure from looking at men.

A woman can feel pleasure when she sees men that behave properly and the degree to which they can ascend, correct, and perform actions in the spiritual sense. A man, on the other hand, enjoys looking at a woman’s body.

Question: What’s wrong with that?

Answer: A man engages in that on the animate level, not on the spiritual level, and it distracts him from the goal. There is nothing other than that in this prohibition.
[193140]
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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