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Search For The Woman!

laitman_602_02Question: The ancients wrote, “search for the woman!” Why were “free” women throughout history identified as the source of conflicts, separation, wars, and trouble?

Answer: That depends on the men not the woman. The woman, of course, has her own character: deceit, desire to possess a man to use him.

This is a purely egoistic desire of women that exists in all of us, including in men. Therefore, in our world the correction is placed more on the male part. In man there exists the feminine (egoism) and the masculine (the ability to correct the ego). And with women, the arrangement of the forces between the right and left lines, between the desire to receive and the intention to bestow, is different.

They are aimed more at their nature and depend on it. Men are more distracted from spiritual work because their involvement with women, since, as it is said, his biggest desire is the sexual desire toward women, especially after the destruction of the Temple, and as if with women, the distraction from the spiritual world comes from their dependence on men. Thus, the picture of their disturbances, if different, is wider and mutual.

Question: What does it mean that women are dependent on men?

Answer: A woman needs a man; she looks for and needs to be close to him, wants to be connected and is dependent on him because the desire of the woman after all, is to have a home and family.

Question: That’s if she is single, but if she is married, then what disturbances does she have?

Answer: Since a woman is focused only on family, on children, it swallows her, but nowadays many other problems exist, all kinds of side effects appear as a result of our approaching Gmar Tikkun (end of correction). In general, the disturbances on the way to spirituality are different and appear differently for women and for men.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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New Life 761 – Love Completes Me

New Life 761 – Love Complements Me
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

Naturally we only want to receive and we give only when giving brings us pleasure.  If I loved people the way I love my children, I could give to them and also enjoy my giving. When I cannot give the person I love what he needs, such love is painful.

Therefore, we are afraid of losing love since it is a source of pleasure for us, and without feeling loved a person feels that he doesn’t exist.

The human image in us is built from the sum of the impressions we have of other people, including our spouses, we are like one unit absorbing impressions from other people.

People usually cannot feel whole by themselves, meaning without a partner in life. This is the way nature made us. Our partner is supposed to complement us into an image of a whole human being, although today everything is disrupted.

In a perfect connection, a couple feels that although the world around them is in turmoil, they feel as one man in one heart. At the peak of our evolution as human beings we will feel love between us all, a perfect connection, and then we will feel the upper world.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 761 – Love Complements Me,” 8/16/16

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The Roots Of Feminism

Laitman_201_05Question: What are the roots of feminism? Why has the Creator created such a phenomenon?

Answer: Feminism is a kind of hypertrophic development of the female desire that exists in all parts of nature  that emerges if the male does not correct this desire in time. The only thing we can say is that the male desire is responsible for all the wrong and unhealthy behaviors of females because it doesn’t respond in time to the growing female desire and does not correct it.

This means that women in our world are justified when they blame men for everything.

I am not speaking about modern families but about a normal healthy balanced family where when a woman demands something of a man it means that the man did something wrong and did not fulfill his role and so it is taken by the woman.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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Everything Has A Spiritual Root

Laitman_631_2Question: Do phenomena like ectopic pregnancies or miscarriage have spiritual roots?

Answer: Everything has a spiritual root. We cannot explore these things yet, but we can heal all these phenomena on the spiritual level, and the time will come when people will be able to do so. The root of all illnesses are not in our world of course. The illnesses are a result of the wrong corrections of the soul.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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“Women On Top”

laitman_259_02In the News (Foreign Policy): “For the first time in history, the inner chambers of global leadership may go genuinely coed. …

“Pundits who dare to prognosticate over whether these leaders will each bring a distinctive, somehow more female approach to matters of war and peace, trade, policing, or public welfare do so at their peril. They risk stepping in a minefield of stereotypes and preconceptions that history’s shortlist of female heads of major states — Golda Meir, Margaret Thatcher, Indira Gandhi, and Benazir Bhutto — have already defied. But research and theory suggest that once women attain a loosely defined “critical mass” of representation — generally accepted as between 20 and 30 percent — within institutions and decisional bodies, their influence grows perceptibly. This idea originated with Harvard Business School professor Rosabeth Moss Kanter, who in her seminal 1977 article, “Some Effects of Proportions on Group Life: Skewed Sex Ratios and Responses to Token Women,” postulated that when women exceed one-third of a group they can form coalitions, provide mutual support, and reshape the group’s overall culture. The research suggests that the relatively sudden potential presence of a critical mass — a collective of women — simultaneously leading some of the West’s most powerful countries and institutions has the potential to reshape at least certain aspects of how global business gets done. …

“Amid these challenges, it is tempting to hope — and there is some evidence to indicate — that this cohort of female leaders may turn to one another as a source of solidarity, forging effective partnerships that translate into policy results. Betsy Polk and Maggie Ellis Chotas have written a book arguing that when women team up professionally they can achieve greater confidence, flexibility, and accountability than is attainable in other working relationships. Across multiple academic disciplines, research confirms that women tend to be more open to teamwork than men. A study conducted by the National Bureau of Economic Research confirmed that women are more amenable to collaboration, partly because they tend to underestimate their abilities and overrate those of peers, whereas men are more likely to conclude that they can best get ahead by working on their own. A psychological study conducted by University of Toronto scholars concluded that women favor teamwork whereas men prefer hierarchy. In the U.S. Senate, where there are more women than ever before — 20, to be exact — many legislators have noted that cooperation among women has delivered some of the few accomplishments of a largely polarized and hamstrung
Congress, including the 2013 deal that ended the third-longest government shutdown in history. In a 2013 ABC News interview, Sen. Claire McCaskill (D-Mo.) credited Senate women with surmounting an ‘us-against-them’ mentality saying: ‘I think by nature we are less confrontational and more collaborative…. We actually work together, Republicans and Democrats, and women, to try to look at solving the problem rather than just going political points.’

“Whether the impetus toward collaboration is innately stronger among women, or the ephemeral product of an empathy-driven outreach among those who identify with other members of a historically marginalized group, may not matter … If a posse of female leaders proves even marginally better at communicating, coordinating, and compromising with one another, even for a short while, the international dividends could be great. …

“Over more than 20 years, the critical mass theory of women’s leadership has been debated by scholars and analysts and served as the basis for implementing gender-based quotas and affirmative action programs. In the coming years, our front pages may tell us more than all the theories about whether and what difference having women at the top really makes.”

My Comment: Women are undoubtedly more inclined to teamwork, mutual support, and the aspiration to reach agreement instead of conflicts than men are.

But it is the “iron lady” who reaches the top, and what is typical of women who hold lower positions is totally atypical of those who reach the highest positions. They are “real men” and have all the typical characteristics of men: authoritative, tough, etc.

There may be a short matriarchal period, but then men will still have to engage in correcting their ego including the female part.
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A Man And A Woman – The Spiritual Root Of Supremacy

Laitman_066_03Question: Why do men express their supremacy so frequently by brute physical force? What is the spiritual root for it?

Answer: A man has to basically show his supremacy over a woman and a woman expects the man to behave that way but only for the right cause. On the one hand, it is a woman’s nature to obey the man. On the other hand, she has the desire to obey the right force so that it will guide her and that together they will reach the right goal, the Creator.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/14/16

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The Kabbalists Know Everything

Laitman_712_03Question: How did the Kabbalists who lived 5,000 years ago know impossible and precise details about the female body? After all, they weren’t doctors.

Answer: First, in our period they have been finding evidence in archaeological digs that thousands of years ago people even did brain surgery.

In connection to the wisdom of Kabbalah, the Kabbalists know this not from our world. The Kabbalists were not involved with physiological research of women and men. They attained the higher characteristics of nature, of which we are the result. In this respect, the Kabbalists had absolute knowledge and could talk about the male and female body from a fundamental awareness.

For those who are beginning to study the wisdom of Kabbalah, it is not easy to connect our world immediately with the upper world, with the forces that manage us. The forces that create the human body shape its external state and internal organs, arranging them in their places, connecting between them, forcing them to function correctly, and after that, coupling men and women in order to give birth, to nurse, and so on.

All this happens under the influence of higher forces. When we attain the upper system, we no longer even need to learn what is happening in our world because we know precisely what is happening in it from an understanding of how the higher system organizes everything and brings it down into our world.

So in our world, we absolutely carry out the instructions of the upper forces, we have no possibility of operating otherwise. A Kabbalist who has a connection with the upper world sees what is happening at that height and immediately also knows what is happening in our world. It is no secret to him and not at all given to doubt.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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Are There Any Men In Our World?

laitman_547_05Question: If we say that Eve is the created being and Adam is the attitude of the created being, how can it be that the created being (Eve) was created after Adam?

Answer: The fact is that the Creator first conceived to create creation, and the plan, the male part, is in order to do so. Then, through the plan—which is what the Creator wants to do with the created being, what form to shape it in and how much Light to allocate for it—He created the desire to receive, which is basically female.

Adam is the idea, the plan, or the intention, while the embodiment of the idea and the plan is the created being, Eve.

Therefore, the whole of creation is made of two parts: the female part, the desire to receive, and the male part, the intention to bestow.

In fact, there are no men in our world, but only women. Everyone has only female desires to receive, enjoy, and be filled. Thus, according to the Kabbalistic definition, they are all women.

Question: Does that mean that there is one man, which is the Creator, and all of the others are women?

Answer: If there are Kabbalists in our world, they are men. There are no other men.

Question: Don’t Kabbalists receive from the Creator?

Answer: Although a Kabbalist receives from the Creator, thus presenting the female desire in his relationship to the Creator, it isn’t female at all because the corrected state operates in him, to receive in order to bestow.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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New Life 760 – Longing For Love

New Life 760 – Longing For Love
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

In general everyone loves the sources that fill his needs and his desires.The desire to be loved is imprinted in us and is meant to eventually bring us to a loving connection with everyone.

The love between parents and children is also natural. When a child grows he begins to love different things.

When we connect with someone we acquire his desires and his thoughts; we acquire a new life and expand. We begin to feel the world through others. When someone loves me I feel that I belong equally and am special. When someone stops loving me I am furious.

A good attitude toward my self is perceived as “I am loved!” If nobody loves me, I need a substitute.

When I feel that someone cares about me my life lightens up and I feel vital. When a person receives no attention he dies.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 760 – Longing For Love,” 8/16/16

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New Life 758 – Loving Children Properly

New Life 758 – Loving Children Properly
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum ben Moshe

There are two opposing forces at the foundation of nature, the force of attraction and the force of repulsion, love and hatred. So hatred and love are the two main forces upon which all of our lives are built. Only in humans, has nature not left clear boundaries when it comes to attraction and repulsion, love and hate.

For these two forces to be in balance and for our children, we need to to us to relate to the “middle line.” Absolute love awakens repulsion and hatred in a child because he doesn’t know how to respond to it. So incessant pressure is useless and places children in an unclear situation. As people, we are not prepared to feel something that is unlimited; if love is unlimited, it is impossible to feel it.

To know how to behave correctly, one must study human nature. The wisdom of Kabbalah teaches this. The right connection includes 3 kinds of attitudes: I am greater than the other, smaller than the other, and equal to the other. Parents and children need to sit in a circle together and speak as equals.

Through such conversations, children will acquire importance and responsibility. If parents radiate a spirit of reciprocity, equality, and respect, this spirit will pass to the children and they will understand that even when parents restrict them, it comes from love. In addition to feelings and intellect, we must develop the middle line in children.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 758 – Loving Children Properly,” 8/11/16

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