Question: According to American psychologists, there is no such thing as love at first sight. They claim that love emerges at fourth sight. They also say that, in order to form an emotional memory, there should be at least three meetings that lead to the emergence of love during the fourth meeting (Deacon Chronicle).
Answer: I don’t know what psychologists mean exactly when they refer to love and whether it is an emotional attraction, hormonal attraction, an intellectual attraction, or the bringing together of two hearts.
Question: They also claim that true love grows stronger and is sustained only by pleasant, positive thoughts about one’s partner. This means that a desired impression of a certain person should be created, so they believe that it is created during the fourth meeting.
Answer: This is what they say today; tomorrow they will say differently. As far as human feelings are concerned, it is merely a chemical reaction that takes place on the deepest levels of our subconscious.
It is a game of hormones, which we call love. There are many reasons and different conditions that make a certain person suddenly attracted to another, while the person himself cannot explain that because he doesn’t understand how and what is happening to him.
Therefore, it is impossible to reach any serious scientific conclusions about this issue. There is only one thing I can say: Love is a commitment, a dependency, a feeling of gratitude. It is a mutual condition between people who understand the degree to which they are connected to each other, what they have done for one another, and how much more they can do.
Such mutual dependency and support, such great closeness, as if they both seemingly continue one another, is called love.
It has nothing to do with sex, passion, or any kind of mutual attraction. This is exactly what the wisdom of Kabbalah tells us, and we Kabbalists have educated humanity accordingly for years.
Love is a state in which a person accepts the desires of a loved one instead of his own desires, and fills them according to the desires of the loved one. In absolute love, a person even accepts and fulfills the desires of the loved one even though they may be opposite from his own desires. This is a relationship on a totally different level.
From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 8/24/16