New Life 760 – Longing For Love
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel

In general everyone loves the sources that fill his needs and his desires.The desire to be loved is imprinted in us and is meant to eventually bring us to a loving connection with everyone.

The love between parents and children is also natural. When a child grows he begins to love different things.

When we connect with someone we acquire his desires and his thoughts; we acquire a new life and expand. We begin to feel the world through others. When someone loves me I feel that I belong equally and am special. When someone stops loving me I am furious.

A good attitude toward my self is perceived as “I am loved!” If nobody loves me, I need a substitute.

When I feel that someone cares about me my life lightens up and I feel vital. When a person receives no attention he dies.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 760 – Longing For Love,” 8/16/16

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New Life 758 – Loving Children Properly
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum ben Moshe

There are two opposing forces at the foundation of nature, the force of attraction and the force of repulsion, love and hatred. So hatred and love are the two main forces upon which all of our lives are built. Only in humans, has nature not left clear boundaries when it comes to attraction and repulsion, love and hate.

For these two forces to be in balance and for our children, we need to to us to relate to the “middle line.” Absolute love awakens repulsion and hatred in a child because he doesn’t know how to respond to it. So incessant pressure is useless and places children in an unclear situation. As people, we are not prepared to feel something that is unlimited; if love is unlimited, it is impossible to feel it.

To know how to behave correctly, one must study human nature. The wisdom of Kabbalah teaches this. The right connection includes 3 kinds of attitudes: I am greater than the other, smaller than the other, and equal to the other. Parents and children need to sit in a circle together and speak as equals.

Through such conversations, children will acquire importance and responsibility. If parents radiate a spirit of reciprocity, equality, and respect, this spirit will pass to the children and they will understand that even when parents restrict them, it comes from love. In addition to feelings and intellect, we must develop the middle line in children.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 758 – Loving Children Properly,” 8/11/16

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Comment: Some men feel that women are Satan’s tool because of their bitter experiences with them.

Answer: According to what we study, a corrected woman in the spiritual world is not an actual woman but a corrected desire that is also found in men. A woman is a person’s egoistic desire, and if it is not corrected, it can really be called Satan. You can imagine that it is inside a person and then it is called a woman. There are many levels in the process of correction and each level has a name.

Question: And then the woman is the crown of creation?

Answer: Yes, the corrected female desire is the final phase, which the Creator wants to see and for which everything was created, while a man is only the mediator between the Creator and the female desire; he only fulfills his functions.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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New Life 759 – Proper Boundaries In Love
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum ben Moshe

The wisdom of Kabbalah teaches how to relate to others in a balanced way, including one’s spouse.

For this we must study human nature, add limits to instinctive sensations of love and hatred, and make connections between us correctly, with a spiritual connection.

A person begins to feel the other when he reins in his narcissism, the desire to fulfill himself. He restricts his egoism, rises above instinctive drives, and develops a relationship toward others through internal effort.

In proper love between spouses and in general, there exists a balance between feelings and intellect. On the one hand, there is love, and on the other hand, there is a limit to revealing that love, a limitation on the giving to others depending on the response of the other side.

In order to build a loving connection, we must take the desire of the other and work on fulfilling it, the result of which is aspiring to become one.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 759 – Proper Boundaries In Love,” 8/11/16

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Question: What is the spiritual meaning of Niddah (menstruation)?

Answer: Niddah is a spiritual state of impurity and is meant to get rid of all the shells, Klipot, (impure desires) that are left after the correction. They are called Gevurot (limiting forces, Dinim) or Lev HaEven (heart of stone), and they are disconnected from the desire to receive, called woman, and thus she is purified.

Here lies the whole system of the universe. After all, in the same way as our body develops, our soul evolves When I speak about concepts such as the desire to receive, the desire to bestow, the three lines, ten Sefirot, etc., they are depicted in my mind and not the physical states of our male and female bodies.

Question: Do we refer to egoistic thoughts only when we speak about a woman’s impurity, to receiving, to living for my own sake?

Answer: No, a woman who gives birth doesn’t do it for her own sake because otherwise she wouldn’t give birth. Therefore, a state of purity emerges when she is ready to join bestowal. After her monthly cycle ends,  it is necessary to wait seven days  during which Malchut ascends to Bina, and then she is ready to be fertilized.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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Question: What are the “three days of the absorbption of the sperm”?

Answer: The three days are the right, left, and middle lines. For three days the drop of semen is held in the uterus, meaning that it attains a connection, a minimal point of contact between the lower Partzuf and the upper Partzuf. The lower Partzuf is basically a point since the right, middle, and left lines ultimately create one point that is adherent to the upper Partzuf, the higher system, the mother.

This process is called the “absorption of the sperm in the mother’s womb.” It means that the lower part of the upper Partzuf, which is called AHP (Awzen, Hotem, Peh – ear, nose, mouth), is connected with the upper part of the lower Partzuf called Galgalta ve Eynaim. Likewise, it is enough that only one drop from the lower Partzuf, one point, is entrenched in the upper Partzuf, which is a complete Kli, so that it will begin to work for the benefit of the drop that is held in it.

The upper Partzuf is composed of Galgalta ve Eynaim (Keter and Hochma) and AHP (Bina, Zeir Anpin, and Malchut). The AHP is called the mother’s womb and the next lower Partzuf is only a point, since the three points, right, left, and middle, are connected together into one. This point, depending on its characteristics, is ready to nullify itself and exist within the upper Partzuf in that way. This is the drop of semen, meaning the future Ubar (embryo).

The foundations of these three points are the first three days. After that, the AHP begins to develop, meaning that the lower begins to demand from the upper part of the Partzuf, from Galgalta ve Eynaim, which is connected with the next Partzuf, called the Creator.

In other words, the feminine part, the lower, asks the masculine part to be connected with the Creator. All of the parts are working with an intention of bestowal. Even the Ubar wants to develop to bestowal, to adhere with the upper and continue to share in the development of the Tachtonim (lower ones).

Nobody works with its own desire; rather, all are working for the good of others, working with the desire of the others.

After that development begins in a Partzuf: three months, three months, and another three months, which is called the compartments within which the Ubar develops.

After the Partzuf finishes its full development, the womb begins to contract, meaning that the upper Partzuf begins to intentionally push the Tachton (lower one) that has been developing within it outside, and so the Tachton goes outside.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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New Life 707 – Power Struggles Between Women And Men
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Nitzah Mazoz

Already in childhood we see confrontations between boys and girls. We are the only species in nature in which there is no clear definition for male and female. Nature has granted us the freedom to define the right attitude, in recognition of the nature of man and woman and the state that we must reach. Ultimately it is up to us to reach mutual with which we achieve wholeness, as “A man and a woman and the Shechina between them” (Sotah 17a).

Since we don’t understand how to behave with each other, we flee from struggling with the problems in relationships between men and women and are satisfied with just a sexual connection without approaching a situation of personal mutual reconciliation through which we reach becoming one. In this way we lose the opportunity to feel the real Garden of Eden, paradise, between us. Since each one wants to control the other sex, relationships fail; the family falls apart because we don’t know how to communicate correctly with each other. A special education is required.
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From KabTV’s “New Life 707 – Power Struggles Between Women And Men,” 3/31/16

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Spiritual birth is a very complicated birth process. The lower is inside the upper and the womb is seemingly made of two doors, one of which has an axis. In the ninth month, the embryo completes its development and the doors begin to open and the mother feels an internal pressure, which is what we see in our world.

If we express this in Kabbalistic terms, the Gevurot that have developed (the limiting force, the Dinim) put pressure on the embryo who also wants to be free. On the whole, he undergoes a very serious process during his birth when these forces actually push him out, but they also shape him as a human being in the future.

This is the first drama in his life since before he was in a kind of rest house for nine months, in perfect tranquility, fully secure, fed, and all his needs provided for. But this state ends dramatically when he is born.

The attitude of his mother to him totally changes. She pushes him out as if she doesn’t want him anymore and he undergoes great pressure and is born.

The embryo develops in the mother’s womb with his head up and before he is born he turns upside down with his head downward, which means that he is detached from his previous values and doesn’t think like he did before, and this is how he is born under great pressure.

The exodus from Egypt is called spiritual birth, which in our world is symbolized by Pesach (Passover). First everything was right and good in Egypt. We developed normally in Egypt, inside our egoism.

Then Pharaoh’s attitude suddenly changed to such a degree that this Partzuf, the soul that develops, undergoes the ten plagues, called the ten Sefirot, which throw it out. The womb contracts, the birth canal opens, the water recedes (the water breaks).

The same thing happens in Egypt: the passage through the Red Sea is the passage through the water. Then the actual birth takes place.

Animals don’t undergo such a difficult process like man. For animals the birth does not involve such great pressure, while for humans the physical and the spiritual birth involve a great pressure indeed.
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Question: Birth is a very complex and complicated process and is explained in the 400 pages of the six volumes of the Talmud Eser Sefirot (The Study of the Ten Sefirot) by Baal HaSulam. At what moment does conception take place?

Answer: Conception takes place the moment that the Kli (vessel, desire) is ready for conception. When the female part (the desire to receive) is ready to unite with the male part (the intention for the sake of bestowal), by becoming like it, which means the moment that our desire becomes worthy of bonding with the intention for the sake of the Creator (bestowal), then immediately a union takes place between them and a Partzuf (a spiritual body) appears.

The left side of the Partzuf is the female part, and the right line is the male part, and between them they give birth to the assimilation to the Creator, which is called the third line or soul.

Question: Why does conception have to be carried out at night?

Answer: The entire process takes place for the sake of the attribute of bestowal. Night is darkness and the attribute of bestowal can be revealed and appears only in darkness, in the state where the soul doesn’t want any light and enlightenment, so that its action will really be with the intention for the sake of bestowal. In other words, I don’t want to see the future, I don’t want anything for myself. I only want to act in bestowal. This state is called night.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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Question: Why does a pregnancy take nine months? Is it in line with the nine Sefirot in Kabbalah?

Answer: Of course, since the embryo cannot continue to develop before he completes the nine Sefirot. The tenth Sefira is Malchut. This is also related to the lunar months because all of nature is mutually connected. An interesting historical fact is that all the women in the ancient Jewish kingdom received their monthly period at the same time and it lasted exactly a week. This phenomenon is described in books written at the time.

Question: Does this mean that they felt as one woman?

Answer: Of course, they felt as one woman whose body was renewed.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16

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