Answer: The wisdom of Kabbalah doesn’t talk about that. But basically a man must be more mature than a woman because he must be greater in every way, like Zeir Anpin in relation to Malchut, which is basically a small part of it. But this is from a spiritual point of view. In regard to age differences in our world, it is entirely relative.
Question: If a woman has a strong desire to advance spiritually, does she necessarily require a man who is also connected to the wisdom of Kabbalah?
Answer: That is not necessary. A woman can advance even if she doesn’t have a man if there is a Kabbalistic group near her. A man must marry since he then becomes an absolute egoist. If a woman is found by his side, his additional egoism will help him develop spiritually.
Question: Why are some men only given one woman while others have an entire harem?
Answer: This is a natural characteristic. There are monogamous men and there are those who are not ready to live with one woman. This is natural and it is not possible to change. Everything depends on the characteristic of the soul. It is not a “beastly” characteristic because a man like this can love one particular woman and be in relationships with others.
Question: Is it possible to use envy as a positive benefit for personal growth?
Answer: Never! It is necessary to long for friendship and support but not envy; this is an incorrect feeling. Men do not look at it favorably. It limits and pressures him too much like a child; he wants to be rid of that feeling.
Question: Is it possible that after studying the wisdom of Kabbalah a person can change the “flavor” of love for children? Meaning will the same love remain but in a different form?
Answer: Studying Kabbalah changes a person very much, especially in one’s attitude toward family, children, and spouse. But the change is always positive and balanced.
Question: Who is the right woman? What must she long for?
Answer: The right woman longs to stand behind a man and push him toward connection with the friends.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 4/24/16