Question: For a year and a half my partner and I have split up many times, but still have returned to each other. Knowing each other’s shortcomings, we have continued our relationship. What should one pay attention to so as not to break up again and to cherish each other?
Answer: This is a very good situation between you two. You must learn to concede to each other and only this! Compete in making concessions to each other. It’s very simple to do, deliberately show, “See how I give in without demanding anything in return and I don’t even demand the same concessions from you!”
Love grows only through concessions because all of us are damaged egoists who love themselves. If we still want a connection with each other, such a connection is born and developed only on the basis of mutual concessions.
My teacher Rabash used to say that love is a house pet that we must constantly feed through mutual concessions.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 5/1/16