Comment: On TV program on the topic of judicial proceedings and issues of punishment, one participant demanded even tougher sanctions. But his opponent noted that we have already exhausted all the possibilities that we have and found it does not help at all.

Obviously, we do not take into account some kind of human component, human nature, we are doing something wrong if no increase in punishment can lead to anything.

My Response: Kindness can do miracles, it is a great force. Relying on force and pressure leads only to Nazism, fascism, dictatorship, and violence, and as a result to the degeneration of society. It turns into a society of wild animals.

Not even just animals, but wild animals.

I do not imagine any other future for such a society besides its degradation, up to self-destruction.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up. Outlaw” 12/19/10

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Comment: Scientists from Brazil, Spain, and the UK observed a group of howler monkeys in the forests of Mexico and Costa Rica. These are monkeys that lead a low–activity lifestyle, and the main thing for them is not to move. They are herbivores, they feed on leaves. Yet, they actively play.

Scientists thought: “Why would they waste energy and play?” They conducted experiments and it turned out that monkeys do this to reduce tension and avoid disputes and conflicts. They avoid them with the help of a game.

My Response: This is what we need to learn.

Question: That is, they are at such a level: now we will clash, then we will hate each other—no, we better play. Do you think this is the case?

Answer: This is the way it is. It is very cool and interesting! Many animals have such a game.

Look how much they swim, do something, play all sorts of games—quite serious, dangerous, and risky ones—even in their old age. And all this is in order to replace their conflicts with it.

Question: What is it, if we extrapolate this to humanity? What should humanity decide in this case? What game should we play?

Answer: Anything you want. Just as long as it is a game that would replace all real conflicts.

Question: And still, what kind of game would you guide humanity into?

Answer: I would make it so that humanity would play that it works, earns, builds, and competes. In general, our entire life is just so that we eventually look at it as a game.

Comment: That is, I go to work, I communicate with everyone.

My Response: I compete in everything, check what my neighbor has, what I have, and so on. But it is a game.

Question: What does it give us?

Answer: So that later I could reset the account, return it to zero, and as if start over.

Question: Would that prevent us from serious arguments?

Answer: Yes. We would play our life. “What is our life? A game.” Thus, we should make a game out of it.

Comment: We were told: “You are playing life! You should live for real.” Now it turns out that everything is the other way around, we have to play life. Then I just play all these quarrels and arguments.

My Response: Of course. We would perceive them differently, we would feel everything differently, we would build this game differently.

Question: What do we want to achieve in this game? Is that something we should keep in mind?

Answer: Yes. Not the result of the game itself but what we come to as a result: to the fact that there is an understanding of the meaning of the interaction between us.

Question: What is it?

Answer: The revelation of the forces of nature that twist us like this and lead us into this game.

Question: What if I reveal that I really am inside the law of nature?

Answer: You will see how nature plays with you, and you will really say that our life is a game.

Question: If I see that I am really inside the system—as they say, the matrix—and everything that is happening to me is what this matrix wants, what will it give me?

Answer: It will give you the opportunity to understand what this mechanism you are a participant in is, and what you can do to figure it out and understand it. After all, it exists for some reason. Is it for some upper mind or for you?

Question: And the most important thing is my thoughts to be directed to this?

Answer: Yes.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 3/21/22

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Question: An 11-year-old student listed ten reasons why children do not want to go to school. I would like to hear your opinion on each of these reasons.

The first reason is the teacher. When you first come to school, immediately they try to instill fear of the teacher in the students. Should one be afraid of the teacher? Or is it necessary to replace this fear with some other word?

Answer: I had a very gentle, young, primary school teacher Iraida Konstantinovna.

Question: For some reason, we remember our first teachers. Is it like first love?

Answer: Yes. Therefore, I do not know how I can hate or fear such a person. She was just a friend, a senior buddy, an adviser. She took care of us. This is the best attitude to the child.

Question: So when a student writes that there are ten reasons why I do not want to go to school and the first reason is the teacher because we are taught to be afraid of him, is this really the first reason?

Answer: It is possible that this is today’s upbringing. We did not have that. We appreciated her and loved her like a great friend or even a mother.

Comment: Meaning that a teacher should be a friend.

My Response: Yes. Only just. We are talking about small children.

Comment: The second reason is the fear of grades. They instill the fear of grades, and then the fear of punishment of parents in front of the school principal, and so on.

My Response: The grade itself does not mean anything. But the fear of punishment, of course, means a lot.

Question: Are grades even needed?

Answer: In principle, grades are not needed. We need a school that will teach the right attitude to the world, to life, to friends, to teachers, and to parents. And it doesn’t need the grades that are given to you when you are taught, but rather what grades you give to yourself.

Question: Can you make such demands even to a small child?

Answer: We must strive for this. Explain it so that they themselves place such grades on subjects, on textbooks, on their supervisors, and so on.

Comment: A child can say: “Today I was out of shape for something. I should have read it, worked on it a little bit.”

My Response: That is good.

Question: Fear of mistakes, schools do not teach that mistakes can and should be made. This is an 11-year-old boy speaking. Do you think mistakes should be made?

Answer: I agree with him.

Question: So a mistake is an important thing? One needs to make mistakes?

Answer: It is inevitable.

Question: And what if I am wrong?

Answer: It is okay. I will fix it, I will learn even more from this than from the fact that I would have done something without a mistake.

Question: So it is even more important than if you move unmistakably?

Answer: We make mistakes and correct ourselves all the time; we make mistakes and correct ourselves.

Comment: Fourth: trolling, mockery of classmates. And it is often the fault of teachers who make children look ridiculous. This is a blow to the “I” of the child…

My Response: It is necessary to teach the child that if we are in such a society, how to properly relate to society, to the environment, to explain to him that it is possible, that it is and will be until we correct our nature, that this is the nature of man that forces him to be above others at all costs.

Question: And the fact that I am being humiliated now, is this human nature?

Answer: Yes, this is their nature, nothing can be done. And I have to understand their nature and somehow, in some form, forgive them, accept them as they are. And maybe correct them in this way.

Question: Should I feel that this is my nature as well, exactly the same, and I can be exactly like them?

Answer: Naturally, yes.

Question: In other words, do you want to introduce the terms “human nature” and “human egoism” almost into elementary classes so that a person feels?

Answer: And even earlier.

Comment: The next reason: stupid tests. Because they do not have a variant of their answers, you need to guess one of the proposed answers.

For example, there is a question and there are four answers to it, and it says: “Specify the correct one.” And the boy says: “And I want there to be another option, my personal answer.”

My Response: He is right.

Question: So these American exams that do not give the option of “Your Answer” are wrong?

Answer: Yes.

Comment: The sixth reason: the amount of homework. “I believe that homework does not affect the academic performance and education of children,” says the eleven-year-old boy.

My Response: I believe that homework causes disgust and hatred of school.

And therefore, it is not necessary. It is just necessary that a person goes there, no matter what they teach him there and no matter how they teach him, maybe worse, better, more or less appealing, but he would come back from there, and this homework would no longer be hanging on him.

Instead of homework there would be absolutely free time. It should also be somehow more or less scheduled, but it should be freely felt to choose what he would like to occupy himself with.

Question: Just himself? He should find exactly his niche?

Answer: Yes, everyone is different in something. We had a lot of clubs at that time. There was a huge House of Pioneers. And there were a huge number of societies, and all of them were free. A child went and signed up wherever he wanted. Even a few at the same time! Come and learn. And he did not pay anything. I also went to the photo club. Both photographic paper and photo developing reagents were free of charge. Absolutely everything was free! It is so amazing!

Comment: And the way the teachers treated you there, with such warmth!

My Response: Yes. People with such characters worked there.

Question: Where did it all disappear to? What was wrong with that?

Answer: The time is not the same! We got into such a streak.

Comment: The next reason is the ban on uniqueness. Schools do not like it if someone is different from others.

My Response: On the one hand, they seem to be encouraging it. But, on the other hand, they do not like it.

Question: Should a child have this right for uniqueness?

Answer: This is not only a right for uniqueness, but also encouragement for uniqueness on the part of everyone, including even friends. This needs to be brought up. Otherwise, this will be crushed and only grayness will turn out.

Comment: “School doesn’t teach you to be happy,” writes the eleven-year-old boy.

My Response: That is for sure! At school today, they simply demonstrate how dullness, obedience, and suppression of happiness is a normal state.

Question: So, in principle, the slogan of the school should be “We must teach children to be happy”?

Answer: Yes. We must raise happy people.

Comment: “School doesn’t teach you how to work with information,” he says.

My Response: This is a whole wisdom, a huge one, which should be instilled in young children.

Question: What does this skill give to a child?

Answer: It teaches one to open one’s brain and heart, mind and feelings, to incoming information, to be able to process it, sort it out, and to be ready to receive the next portion of information.

Comment: The tenth reason: “School does not prepare for adulthood,” this boy believes.

My Response: I think that nothing can prepare you for adulthood. We just rush there, as if into a whirlpool. And that is it. And there we are already swimming out, each in his own way.

Question: And what is the preparation for adulthood?

Answer: Here it is necessary to create special, absolutely clear, realistic pictures of life.

Question: At school? Directly to the children? And so that they learn to get out of them, work with them, and so on?

Answer: Yes, to discuss and so on. On the other hand, give them some stamps, but realistic. For example, “What would you do if you…” and give the story.

Comment: This boy’s conclusion is very interesting. He says: “I believe that the main subject in school could be a subject in which we would be taught to understand each other. After all, the ability to communicate is the most important thing.”

My Response: Make him the Minister of School Education. And that is it. And put all these ministers back to school.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 2/10/22

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Question: Why does the connection between mother and child during childbirth occur precisely through pain?

Answer: Pain is necessary because, during natural childbirth, a huge number of hormones, antibodies, and all that we do not even know about are released. Medicine is just beginning to touch the study of this area.

But with a cesarean section, this does not happen, and the child is missing out on it. We see in practice that with a cesarean section, the connection between the child and the mother is weaker and the child himself is a little different. After that it is somehow compensated for and made up for, so it is not so noticeable in ordinary life. But still, the difference is big.

The birth process itself is very important. According to Kabbalah, this is the process of creation, the birth from one world to another. Inside the mother is one world and outside is another. If the transition between two worlds is carried out naturally, then the child is fully prepared for the next world. If this transition is not in him, he is, as it were, not ready for the next world.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up. Unwanted Children” 11/28/10

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Comment: Today a well known word is “bullying.” This is when some unfortunate person is bullied or harassed at school, in institutions, or on the Internet.

In France, a new law will fine those guilty of bullying 45,000 euros and imprisonment for three years. Teachers or students, it doesn’t matter.

And if it is proved that the victim missed school because of harassment, the prison term will be increased to eight years. In case of attempted or committed suicide as a result of bullying, the fine will increase to 150,000 euros, and the prison term will be up to ten years.

The law has already passed the lower house of Parliament. They proceed from the fact that such a strict law could stop this bullying.

My Response: What kind of relationships can possibly be at school so that there is a need to adopt such laws! France! The source of world humanism, freedom, revolution!

Question: Do you think such harsh, sharp measures will help?

Answer: For some reason, everywhere, in all countries of the world, it is believed that detention, isolation from society for many years corrects society, corrects a person. By the end of the day, we want the criminal to improve. And society would somehow correct not only the criminal, but also the flaw that it inflicted on him.

But I don’t see it! So many are jailed, for how many years and in all countries of the world! Let’s check statistics: where they jail more and for more years is there a better society?

Conversely. According to biblical laws, there is no such thing as “sitting in prison.” This is not a punishment. By doing this, you take away a person’s opportunity to interact with society, to learn from it and somehow improve. Prison is not a system for correction, no one has come out of prison reformed.

Question: It will not teach others that you cannot humiliate and kill another? It won’t teach others and it won’t correct the person either? And money won’t help? If you pay crazy fines, it won’t help either?

Answer: Money may, somehow, sober him up, his parents (we’re talking about school). But no, it won’t help.

Question: So what’s the way out of this?

Answer: The solution is to educate people from an early age, even his parents before giving birth. You have to educate parents so that they have children whom they can raise properly.

People should get permission from society to give birth to a child and raise him.

Question: And what kind of permission should the school receive?

Answer: Accordingly everything should be aimed at ensuring that the people we give birth to, produce, and educate are brought up precisely as correct members of society. I’m already talking on a social level, not a spiritual one.

Question: You usually say: “In good relations with each other, in love with each other.” Is this precisely the path to the spiritual?

Answer: Yes. Even if they don’t know, it doesn’t matter. They should not think about the spiritual. They should think about mutual correct connection. And in it they will already reveal the spiritual.

Question: So society should look at itself and not at this criminal?

Answer: Society should look at itself. Society must cultivate the right attitude toward others. And in the right relation to others, it will suddenly begin to discover, precisely in these relations, completely different, higher relations, which it will call the upper world. And that’s it, nothing else.

Nowadays, people come to this because they want to feel the upper world, and therefore, by necessity they begin to study how we can begin to treat others well, if necessary, in order to feel the upper world, in order to understand our destiny. We would not like this, but this is the plan of nature, this is its meaning. So, I obey. I will bend my head and study these laws of kindness, proper interaction, and even the laws of love.

Therefore, those who come to Kabbalah classes are the biggest egoists.

Question: When does their shift happen?

Answer: After many years. We are preparing their external relations, the internal basis for this. But it’s hard. They do not initially want to be in love with their neighbor when they come.

Such people, with very little egoism, leave to spiritual practices, Eastern ones and so on. They are not interested in anything more.

But we are on the border of enlightenment—the real one.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/6/22

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Question: The dysfunctional social environment and troubled family lead to the fact that children from such conditions suffer a backlash from it from childhood. Most of people who became serial killers were unwanted children in a family.

How can a woman’s unwillingness to have a child affect him in such a way that later he begins to perceive the world negatively and hate his own kind?

Answer: We see that the formation of a person happens under the influence of the environment.

According to Kabbalah, the environment forms even those inclinations and qualities with which we are born, i.e., we either inherit them or have no idea where they come from. All the baggage with which a person comes into this world is formed under the influence of society.

Let us say that from birth, a person is endowed with very sharp, dangerous inclinations to violence or demonstrates some socially negative actions. But under the influence of the environment, these inclinations can be actualized in the socially correct plane, that is, for the benefit of society.

For example, if a bully becomes a security guard or a killer becomes a butcher, then their inclinations will be directed to correction. Thus, in our world, we can find the right application of any human quality, whatever it may be.

Everything depends not on the inclinations themselves, which exist in us in an unrevealed informative form, i.e., in the form of our internal informational records (in Kabbalah called Reshimot), but on how we show a person their correct application and give him or her the opportunity to implement them.

But if we begin to suppress a person’s inclinations, then we lead him to the internal problems as he explodes at a certain age and begins to apply them anyway, but in an unpredictable form. He cannot restrain himself and, naturally, finds an excuse for it.

In other words, if the mother and everyone in the household treats the child as unwanted, then in this way they form a negative attitude toward the world in him. Then he naturally implements all negative inclinations into evil.

Kabbalah says that everything depends only on education. The inclinations that a person has have been given to him only so that he can realize himself correctly.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up, Unwanted Children” 11/28/10

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Question: Today, outrageous cases where a father abuses a child and the mother helps him in this have become more frequent. Why is this happening?

Answer: This is a result of the growing egoism that outgrows all boundaries, which we do not know how to use.

Throughout the history of humanity, there were even entire cultures whose development resulted in not entirely natural processes. While our egoism was developing in moderation, there were of course all kinds of abnormalities in it, but not as much as now.

Today our egoism has outgrown the border of ordinary earthly society and is beginning to develop upward until we must necessarily correct it spiritually. We have outgrown earthly development.

The current eruptions of egoism already need spiritual correction and this is why we are at such a transitional stage. In the near future, we will have to understand that we need to do something with ourselves, society, family, science, culture, technology, and ecology. But we do not yet know what to do.

We are gradually coming to the conclusion that we have exhausted all our reasonable resources to compensate for our egoism and we cannot work with it as before. We cannot find any compensating forces, intimidation, persuasion, or education for our egoism that will continue to work.

Here, the wisdom of Kabbalah comes to our aid. It reveals to us new forces that can actually be a means of correcting our current egoism and not only correcting it, but bringing it to perfection.

I am sure that in the near future we will reveal this system. People will come to the wisdom of Kabbalah and see that everything is ready within it. Kabbalists have prepared everything for their use and for their benefit: “Please, you can make yourself, your family, and your children happy, make the world ecologically clean and see much more than you see today.”

Question: Were Kabbalists waiting for this moment to reveal their methodology to everyone? Do people now have to realize themselves at this level through all kinds of connections?

Answer: There is no escape because our egoism will force us. It will cause us such suffering with its lack of compensation that we will be forced to find this remedy, and then we will come to Kabbalah.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up, Siamese Twins” 11/7/10

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Comment: According to Kabbalah, children between the ages of 9 and 13 should be educated in terms of interaction between the sexes.

My Response: It can be done earlier. Abroad, they practice this even in kindergartens.

Question: But today why do we teach the interaction of the sexes only at the level of sex education and do not talk about the internal relationship between a man and a woman?

Answer: Because we do not know what we need it for.

We know that a male meets a female to mate and reproduce. Like in fish, birds, and animals, the same thing happens in humans as part of the animal world.

We teach children about physiology. What else can we explain? About love?

Boys under 20 have a period when they internally mature to make special, big decisions in this life. In other words, not everything is allowed to them. In this life, they are allowed everything except for owning land, that is, except for something big, global, decision-making.

It is because during these seven years from 13 to 20 they have to learn from society what it means to be an adult, but an adult animal. In our time, this is who they become. Moreover, it is in our time that Kabbalah is being revealed, and not earlier. So it all fits perfectly.

People make various guesses that we physically mature early allegedly because we eat foods with pesticides, are affected by radiation, or something else.

Kabbalah, on the other hand, says that everything is based only on growing egoism, which causes us to mature earlier.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up, Theater of the Absurd” 7/18/10

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Question: Today doctors are against cesarean sections. They advocate this due to the fact that while the child is in the uterus he stays there in an absolutely sterile state. During the natural passage through the birth canal he receives the first protective dose of microbes.

Meanwhile during a cesarean section he is left to himself and is unprotected from the possibility of receiving various kinds of infectious diseases. Scientists say that in the case of a cesarean section there is no connection between mother and child. Why is that?

Answer: There are a lot of materials on this topic in Kabbalah. The fact is that childbirth is a huge, serious, and very important process as a mother pushes her child into the world.

If initially all her efforts were aimed at preserving this foreign body developing within her body, at suppressing its rejection, and at perceiving it as her most important organ, now there is a completely different connection of the mother to the child.

She now has to push out of herself what she kept in herself. And the child has a desire to get out of the mother, which was like a small prison and to push the walls. Such a mutual occurrence of dislike for each other generates mutual feelings in the future.

At first, in the inner world when the child is within the mother there is complete harmony between them and they understand each other and both suppress themselves: the child so as not to harm the mother and the mother so as not to harm the child. They suppress their egoistic qualities and interact correctly.

Then, during childbirth these egoistic qualities are as though turned on and the mother and child repel each other, and therefore diverge; the child is born. Moreover, the child turns his head down, which signifies the changes taking place in him. What was the main thing now becomes secondary.

And when a child is born, he already has a different need for a mother and that need exists on another level—feeding. He no longer feeds through the umbilical cord, but through the breast, which is at a completely different level, and instead of blood with milk. The mother’s blood turns into milk and as the child receives it in him, the milk turns into blood and flesh.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up. Unwanted Children” 11/28/10

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Comment: Today, the trend of artificial feeding is very common. Women do not want to feed babies naturally. It is said that with artificial feeding, the mother does not have a feeling of love for the child.

Answer: It is natural. We know that love arises for someone who is dear. And since we are egoists, the one in whom we invest is dear to us. After all, you invest yourself, something of your own. And then part of what you invested in him is dear to you.

It turns out that it is not the child himself who is dear to you, but it is you who gave birth to him, raised him, and so on. Therefore, the more difficult the birth, the more the mother loves the child. And with a Cesarean section, this is not the case.

The same is true when breastfeeding. If the baby arrives as a result of a Cesarean section, then the milk may not appear, since the impulse toward it is given during childbirth. According to Kabbalah, all the hormones and everything that surrounded the baby in the uterus that created, guarded, and shaped him, rises up to the milk system, and then milk begins to be produced.

It is the system that took care of him internally that goes to the next level, and feeding begins. The milk is the same blood that has risen to a level at which a child can absorb it. Blood is the lower level, milk is the next.

Kabbalah says that a child born naturally should be nursed for up to two years, that is, 24 months. But this does not mean that the baby should be fed only milk.

In general, during the period of breastfeeding, the child should receive women’s milk, but not necessarily from his mother. There are many such examples in the Bible.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up. Unwanted Children” 11/28/10

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