“What Are Some Ways To End Child Abuse?” (Quora)

Dr. Michael LaitmanMichael Laitman, On Quora: “What are some ways to end child abuse?“

The ultimate solution to end child abuse is the same solution to end all of our problems in our time: to work on our connections so that they become positive, and that we will prioritize concern for others over self-concern.

If mothers, for instance, came together and connected in order to change society, so that a mutual concern would blossom around children and babies, then this concern would bridge all distances and boundaries. Such a concern would become expressed through these mothers connecting several times a day, and the creation and consumption of programming that they would make on the Internet, the TV, and the radio on the topic, which would raise awareness of what children go through both at schools and in their homes.

If such a concern would spread throughout society, even if only among mothers, then it would change the picture regarding child abuse, as well as several other problems children experience. However, it is currently far from the case. They feel no need to connect in such a way. Each mother cares only about her own children, which is insufficient.

Ending child abuse thus involves generating a supportive environment through sharing the same concern, that all of us together will take care of this common problem, where we will care for other children in addition to our own, and others will do the same. Until we reach such a mutual concern for each other’s children in society, then we will continue seeing more and more unfortunate cases of child abuse.

We need a special force here, a unifying force that will influence society, and unless mothers come together and unite, then this force will elude us.

Based on New Life episode 1147 with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman, Oren Levi and Tal Mandelbaum-Moshe. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.
Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash.

“No Calamity Comes To The World But For Israel” (Linkedin)


My new article on Linkedin “No Calamity Comes to the World but for Israel”

“No calamity comes to the world but for Israel.” These poignant words of our sages (Yevamot, 63a) capture the reason for all the tragedies that afflict us. Not only the Talmud warns about the reason for Israel’s blows. The Book of Zohar also states that when the people of Israel veer off from the right way, “with these actions they bring about the existence of poverty, ruin, and robbery, looting, killing, and destructions in the world” (Tikkuney Zohar, No. 30).

Our nation was formed through a vow to unite “as one man with one heart,” and unity has always been our strength. “The prime defense against calamity is love and unity. When there are love, unity, and friendship between each other in Israel, no calamity can come over them” writes the book Maor VaShemesh.

In the days following the Meron disaster, where 45 people, many of whom children, died in a stampede, the people of Israel proved once more that in crisis, the nation unites. For a short while, we’ve put aside the vociferous, spite-filled arguments, and united in mourning over the pointless loss of life. But tomorrow, when the headlines change and the heart-wrenching pictures give way to new fiascos, the malice will return more intense and venomous than ever. While the circumstances that allowed for this disaster to happen must be examined, we must also not miss out on the opportunity that this tragedy has given us to reconstruct our social relations in this country because this, in the end, is our real source of strength.

In his essay “The Nation,” Baal HaSulam laments our lack of internal unity and ephemeral coalitions. “We are like a pile of nuts,” he writes, “united into a single body from the outside by a sack that envelops and unites them. Their measure of unity does not make them a united body, and each movement applied to the sack produces in them tumult and separation. Thus, they consistently arrive at new unions and partial aggregations. The fault is that they lack the inner unity, and their whole force of unity comes through outside incidents. To us,” concludes Baal HaSulam, “this is very painful to the heart.”

Our nation was formed through a vow to unite “as one man with one heart,” and unity has always been our strength. “The prime defense against calamity is love and unity. When there are love, unity, and friendship between each other in Israel, no calamity can come over them” writes the book Maor VaShemesh.

Moreover, when Israel unite, they are “a light unto nations,” setting an example of love and unity to the world. The Book of Zohar writes that when the people of Israel unite above their hatred, they bring peace to the world. In the portion Aharei Mot, The Zohar writes, “‘Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to also sit together.’ These are the friends as they sit together and are not separated from each other. At first, they seem like people at war, wishing to kill one another … then they return to being in brotherly love. …And you, the friends who are here, as you were in fondness and love before, henceforth you will also not part from one another … and by your merit, there will be peace in the world.”

The onus of unity does not lie on one faction, but on all parts of the Israeli society. It is time we began a national reflection on our conduct as a nation. We can blame each other all we want for the disasters that land on us, but they will not stop until we realize that they reflect not our incompetence, but our division. Naturally, incompetence and recklessness are accomplices in every disaster, but these vices, too, are the results of our callousness and indifference toward each other. If we are content with finger pointing, we’d better get ready for the next blow.

Some of us openly admit their feeling that “we are not one nation.” However, if we use it to justify our alienation from each other, we will suffer more blows until we realize that we are meant to rise above our hatred, not embrace it and brag about our candor. Only when we rise above divisions are we regarded as a nation, and only then does the world welcome us. The book Sifrey Devarim details how in antiquity, people from other nations would come to Jerusalem during the pilgrimages to witness the brotherhood among Jews. They would “go up to Jerusalem and see Israel … and say, ‘It is becoming to cling only to this nation.’”

Indeed, as we embrace the grieving families, we should also embrace the message of unity. As our sages wrote, this is “our prime defense against calamity,” and the only way we can realize the vocation of our nation in this world.
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Two Levels Of Interpretation Of The Torah

209Question: Is there any reason that the word “Evel” means sometimes bestowal and sometimes vanity?

Answer: Of course! This is how our egoism breaks it. This concept has been translated incorrectly—egoistically. Any word has two meanings: one on the spiritual and one on the corporeal level.

Being at our level, we treat everything for our own sake, and therefore, all words have only corporeal meaning because we look at everything with our earthly eyes. If you look from the level of the upper light, from the level of the Creator, then all this takes on a completely different meaning.

Therefore, any word can be rotated as desired. And the Torah, the Prophets, and the Holy Scriptures, all three books are written in such a way that their understanding depends on the level of the person who reads them. For one person these are just stories describing all kinds of corporeal actions of ancient people. And for another individual, these are spiritual actions that take place in souls and not among people on earth, in the property of bestowal and love and not in struggle and wars.

When you read the Torah, it seems to you that there is a continuous struggle between the chosen people and the Creator, endless wars and disappointments, because you perceive this story in your earthly egoistic properties.

And if you change these properties, you will understand everything completely differently. And it will happen automatically! You will suddenly begin to understand what is being said about how we should unite with each other and, having been united, be filled with the knowledge of the Creator, the feeling of eternal, perfect life.
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From KabTV’s “The Power of The Book of Zohar” #12

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Understanding The Essence Of The Names Of The Creator

261Question: When we talk about the upper force, we only use one word: the Creator, which is to say the one who creates. Is it possible to understand the essence of all of His names?

Answer: I would not recommend dealing with this now because the names of the Creator are directly related to the degrees of a person’s attainment. It is because the soul, by ascending through the levels of the spiritual world, receives different names, definitions, and codes in each one of them.

It is similar to someone serving in the army and receives ranks: sergeant, lieutenant, colonel, major, general, etc., and each one of the levels indicate the advancement of the person. Here too, the person calls the Creator by different names according to the levels of his attainment. It is no more than that.

Revealing the Creator and giving Him different names—the good who does good, cruel, stubborn, helpful—you indicate His properties that you reveal.

And in Him, all of His properties are in one simple form: only in order to raise and delight the creatures. But you reveal them one by one and you call Him by different names. Thus, these are not names of the Creator but how a person feels the Creator. It is just like when a child calls his mother a bad mother because she scolded him today for some offense he committed. But is she really bad?

So, we cannot attribute these words, names, and appellations to the Creator Himself but only to what a person feels as a result of his still yet uncorrected state. When we attain the Creator completely, then He will be only the good that does good.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 2/24/19

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How Can We Support The Teacher Mentally?

281.02Question: In the meeting with the virtual ten you asked us to support you mentally. How should we correctly support our teacher mentally?

Answer: If you just remember a little during the day what we spoke about in the lesson or if you read my Twitter, you will support me through that. It is actually this way and not any other way.

On Twitter I write about relevant issues. I recommend that everyone to read my posts.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 4/18/19

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When There Is No Inner Fulfillment

926.02Question: Do you think that today many people are asking the question about the meaning of life?

Answer: Yes. Even within our organization, there are already millions of them from all over the world.

On the other hand, we can see from the level of depression, divorce, terrorism, and drug addiction that this is an escape from life, and only because a person cannot find an answer to the question about the meaning of life.

Drugs and depression are the main scourges in the world. And there is nothing we can do about it. In Northern Europe, suicide accounts for a huge percentage of all incidents.

Comment: It turns out that the more developed people are, the more prone they are to depression.

My Response: They have everything, and they have nothing. This is what our development and our relations should bring us to.

It would seem that there is nothing wrong with us. We have everything: refrigerators, washing machines, television, radio, Internet, computers, dishwashers, mixers, anything you want. What else does a person need? You can rest, and work less. Why do you have to work so hard? There are many unemployed people, right? We can divide the working day between several people and rest the second half of the day. But what will a person do then? He cannot fulfill himself, he will feel completely lost.

I remember when I was at school, the teacher told us how happy we would be when we grow up: “Today people work eight hours. You will work for four hours, and the rest of the time you will rest, play sports, walk in the forest or by the river, and so on.”

I grew up, and it turned out that it is better not to walk in the forest or by the river because they are full of nitrates and acids. Even at the sea, I swim only in certain places, and then after that, I need to wash thoroughly. And we are now working not for eight, but for twelve hours. People come home only to get enough sleep and run to work again.

So what have we come to? Where is this freedom of a person?

Comment: Today a person can no longer even be with himself without being busy with something.

My Response: Yes, he is afraid to be alone with himself. This is why he keeps himself busy with work.

Question: Do you think that the desire of a woman to make a career is also an escape from her nature, from herself?

Answer: This is an attempt to somehow fulfill what her family, husband, and children cannot give her. No more than that. In fact, a woman does not need a career, after all, it is all artificial, unnatural, and even harmful. We will see the proof for that later. The same is true about a man.

A person should not work for twelve hours a day, or for ten, or for eight. We should work not on the basis of how much I can earn in a day, but on the basis of how much I need in order to exist normally.

We should not violate nature, suck it dry, pollute it, because in the end, we find ourselves in a world where we now have to work in order to somehow correct our mistakes.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up. Common Law Marriage” 8/11/09

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Protective Shell Against False Information

959Comment: There is a tendency in the media now that goes from one extreme to another. Some media constantly cover negative events. Others try to gloss over those events and want to only show good news; the bad news does not seem to exist. It seems that humanity simply does not know what to do anymore.

My Response: The point is, that old movies and good news calm people down. Why would they want to see all the bad stuff if there is no use for it? I would rather live in my shell, in a so-called soap bubble, with all sorts of soap operas, and feel good.

Just think, life goes by, so I will spend it pleasantly. Why should I listen to bad news and watch these terrible films about murders and continuous gang fights or courtroom squabbles?

A person, in the end, begins to get tired of it, does not want to have contact with this world, and retreats into his own world. So we are constantly building some kind of protective shell around ourselves.

I believe that this is absolutely true. After all, the information we receive is imperfect and biased. Someone sensationalizes them to raise their ratings. Therefore, they twist things to look stunning, publish articles with headlines that make everything seem like it is the end of the world. You look, and there is nothing inside, and even its writing is mediocre.

Question: Where does this inner emptiness come from?

Answer: Everyone has to stand out in order to make some money on it. That is what happens. In the end of course there is emptiness.

Therefore, the people who refuse to do this are right. They are not refusing the truth, but the lies from being played by all these reporters and producers and go into what is more pleasant and better for them. I quite understand them.

But life will not let them calm down because this is not the solution to the problem.
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From KabTV’s “Close-Up. Common Law Marriage” 8/11/09

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What Does A Woman Find In Kabbalah?

294.4Question: Why do women come to study Kabbalah and why are there so many of them? What do they find in Kabbalah?

Answer: Women come to us to study because they feel that in this world they have nothing to rely on, that all their feminine, maternal care about a life partner they can rely on, about children who need to be educated, brought up, and supported, that taking care of the house, and about building the right family, they do not know how to do it. And men do not know as well.

Therefore, women see that in this way they begin to receive some answers about how everything works, how everything can be put in order, and therefore, they come to Kabbalah. First of all, because it gives them some kind of confidence, some kind of base, so that they can create the right atmosphere in the house, in the family, at work, in the city where they live, and in the world.

Question: Why is their desire for the spiritual so great?

Answer: I think that women strive, first of all, not for the spiritual. They come to Kabbalah because they see an absolutely unrequited existence in the material.

There is no answer: why and for what do we exist? What is happening here? How to arrange this world? How to do something right with children. There is no answer, and a woman is at a loss. If she has answers to the most important questions about existence, then she is already calm.

And the most important thing is the question: “What will happen to my children, to us?” This question in life, in the world, it is very, very vibrant.

The woman, first of all, comes to answer it. And when she begins to understand that what is being said here is about universal psychology, about universal development, universal correction, and so on, then despite all these enormous scales of Kabbalah that are being revealed—universal and beyond that—women still continue to study, and this is necessary.

This is not from the point of view of acquaintance and curiosity. For a woman, this is necessarily much, much deeper. She is looking for a foundation, a certainty, on which she can exist.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 3/4/21

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